Split. The After Ever After Podcast

Is my divorce going to mess up my kids? They're so young - how do I know if they're going to be okay?

In this episode we talk with Kimberly Ewertz, author of "Family Redefined: Childhood Reflections on the Impact of Divorce." Kimberly spent 5 years interviewing adult children of divorced parents, asking them about their experiences. She found many commonalities in what these adults reported. She tells us about what these adults now say affected them most negatively, and what had a positive impact.

Kimberly brings touching emotion to this interview as she openly speaks about her own experience of going through a divorce over 30 years ago with her 10 year old son.

Her book is available on Amazon.ca and booksellers everywhere. Kimberly encourages our listeners to email her directly with questions. She can be reached via her email found on her website: https://www.familyredefinedbook.com/

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

Newly single and ready to mingle? Or...not?

Some people can't wait to jump back into the dating world, while others don't even want to think about it. How do you know when you're ready to start dating again after separation and divorce?

In today's episode we talk to Dr. Kristie Overstreet. As a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, she's a pro that can give us some answers. We ask her all about how to know when the time is right to start dating, and how to judge if it's going well. We also discuss common mistakes people make when re-entering the dating scene, and ways to change unhealthy dating patterns.  

Bonus - listen for Ashley trying to ask a question about the "Hoe Phase," without using the term "Hoe Phase!" 

You don’t have to go through this alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

Connect with Dr. Kristie Overstreet: 

Website: www.drkristieoverstreet.com

Instagram: @kristie_overstreet

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

In today's episode we talk with Helen Yack and Gabbi Silverberg of Rise Up Counselling. They bring 40 years of experience in child protection, therapy, and social work. We asked them to explain the most common reasons that they see conflict among co-parents, and how it can be resolved. They explain what they see as recurring problems, and how there are better ways to address them that won't keep the drama and fighting going.

We also discuss when it may be appropriate to speak to children about what they want in a divorce, and how this can be done in an effective way.

This episode may push you to examine our own role as a co-parent, and how you communicate with your ex. Gabbi and Helen offer expert information that can give you some insight into the dynamics of your separation.

You don’t have to go through this alone, support is available. Circles is an emotional support platform that connects you with a small group of others going through divorce in a safe online space. Head to circlesup.com and use promo code SPLIT2022 to get the first month free and join your circle today.

Connect with Gabbi and Helen:

@rise.upcounselling

www.riseupcounselling.com

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

In this episode we speak with estate lawyer Shayna Beeksma, of Beeksma Law, about the importance of estate planning in a separation and divorce. When couples separate their property they often don't realize that without the proper agreements and wills in place their ex may still have legal rights to their assets, and/or power of attorney.

Estate planning isn't an easy subject to talk about. It can be uncomfortable to talk about our own mortality, and the subject is technical and sometimes difficult to understand. Shayna breaks down the important areas to think about, how the process of creating a proper will works, and what to look for in a great estate lawyer.

Learn more and connect with Shayna at www.beeksmalaw.ca

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for divorce coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

There's no way around it that going through a separation is stressful. But, we often look at only the emotional and mental stress and not the toll it takes on our physical bodies. During this time of upheaval and change we often put physical fitness last on the list and neglect our health.

Today we speak with fitness trainer Dara Bergeron about ways that we can lovingly parent ourselves to make positive choices for our health. Dara is a veteran trainer and movement educator, specializing in body-neutral movement and mindset for mothers. She is the creator of Belly Bootcamp @bellybootcamp https://bellybootcamp.ca and co-creator of Mama Reset @themamareset https://themamareset.com. We go in-depth on the topics of what "health" means, body image, our obsession with body size, and that overused word "self-care." This is our longest episode yet and we could've kept going!

Connect with Dara and learn more about her programs on Instagram @mom.bod.love 

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

Having a major impact on one’s emotional health, financial security, social status and personal relationships, divorce is far more than just a legal process, yet many still consider a lawyer the only professional required to help them get through it.

Working with the right attorney is an important part of navigating divorce successfully, but you’ll need more than legal advice to make good decisions and adjust to the many life changes that come with divorce. Should you stay or should you go? Who do you need to contact first? Should you lawyer up or are there any alternatives you should be considering? What paperwork do you need to get organized? How do you communicate with a difficult spouse and how can you minimize the impact of divorce on your children? 

In this episode, we talk about what derails people from making good choices during the divorce process and what a Certified Divorce Coach can do to help you make the best possible decisions for your future.

To learn more about divorce coaching and how Ashley serves clients, click here

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

Should you "lawyer up" with the best divorce lawyer money can buy, or can you use the services of a family law mediator?

This is one of the first decisions you’ll make when facing a separation, and it’s a crucial one. The professional you choose to work with can set the tone for your entire separation, divorce, and future co-parenting. But, there’s so much misinformation out there that it can be hard to make an informed choice. In this episode we outline the important questions to ask yourself when considering whether you should use a lawyer or a mediator and discuss what to look for in each professional. If you or someone you know is going through a separation this episode could make all the difference.

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

"Loyalty Binds" create an impossible situation for children who feel that they must constantly choose between their parents. We can easily spot the really terrible behaviour that creates them, but sometimes it's hard to see how we might be unknowingly contributing to them too.

In this episode we start with the basics of defining the term "loyalty binds," look at ways they're created, and how they affect kids. This practical info can help you spot loyalty binds and root them out of your children's lives.

We also tackle many of the questions that you submitted via Instagram about this important topic and share a step by step guide for what to do when your ex is badmouthing you. 

The book referenced in this podcast is Co-Parenting With A Toxic Ex by parental alienation expert Amy J. L. Baker, Ph.D. 

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

For most separating couples their biggest joint asset is their matrimonial home. In the current housing market the value of that asset has likely risen far beyond what either person imagined when it was first purchased. This creates a big problem for many people because it’s too expensive to buy-out the other spouse and prices are too high to be able to sell and purchase two individual homes. What to do? Throw in the emotional attachment and importance of the family home and this can be one very tough issue to sort out!

In this episode we speak with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Sara McCullough, who breaks down the issue and helps sort out what things to consider in making decisions about the family home. When is selling best? Is a buy-out always the best option even if you qualify to do it? Are there some other solutions that would work? Sara gives practical financial advice about how to go about making this decision. 

Find out more about Sara here:

Instagram @wd_development

Website: www.wddevelopment.ca

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer Sanders click here

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley Wood by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.

If you’re going through a separation you’re already dealing with a boatload of personal stress, emotions, and big decisions. Trying to figure out how to talk to the kids about all of it can be a daunting task. Parents often agonize about how to inform their kids about this massive life change, and worry that they won’t do it the “right way” (hint: there are some wrong ways to do it, but no one right way).

When do you tell them?

Should you wait until you know all the answers about where you’ll live and what the new schedule will be?

Should you tell them together with their other parent, or speak to them separately?

How much detail do you share?

How do you word things so that young ones can understand?

In this episode we address all of these questions as we speak with Sara Olsher about how we can talk to kids about hard things. With her company Mighty+Bright, Sara creates picture books and resources that deal with life’s hard issues like cancer, COVID, and…divorce. We chat with Sara about her own experiences in learning to communicate openly with her daughter about all of these tough topics. We give some practical tips about what to keep in mind, why you need to go easy on yourself, and a few “what not to do’s” thrown in too.

Visit Sara's website www.mightyandbright.com to view all of her books, connection calendars and free resources.

Follow on Instagram @mightyandbrightco

To learn more about mediation and schedule a phone consultation with Jennifer click here

Book a consultation for coaching with Ashley by clicking here

Find us on Instagram: Ashley @theconsciouscoparent Jennifer @sandersmediation

The content on this podcast is provided for general information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice.