Stack'n'Days: Sober Journeys from Black, Brown and other voices of color.

In this episode, host Ray Donovan sits down with former college basketball player and coach Anne Skriba to discuss her journey through addiction, recovery, and the healing power of therapy. Anne opens up about how the pressures of being an athlete led her to use alcohol as a coping mechanism and how the pandemic pushed her deeper into isolation. She shares the pivotal moments that led her to sobriety, including the impact of her therapist's powerful words and how she applied the 'Mamba mentality' to her recovery. Together, Ray and Anne dive into the unspoken struggles athletes face, the silence around substance abuse in sports, and the importance of mental health in personal growth.

Anne’s Toolkit:

Understanding Sobriety: Anne’s Journey and the Athletic Influence

Anne Skriba’s approach to sobriety was profoundly shaped by her background as an athlete. Her journey into recovery was not marked by rigid discipline but rather by a mindset of curiosity and self-improvement. This perspective stemmed from her athletic discipline or “Mamba Mentality,” where the focus is on continuous growth and learning.

Anne reflects on this approach: “I realized that the way I approached basketball—constantly striving for improvement, understanding my weaknesses, and learning from them—could be applied to my recovery. Instead of viewing sobriety as just a set of rules to follow, I saw it as an opportunity for self-discovery and growth.”

This mindset allowed her to view her recovery through a lens of exploration and self-betterment. Rather than imposing strict, punitive measures on herself, she embraced a more compassionate and inquisitive approach, questioning whether her behaviors, including alcohol use, truly served her well-being.

Anne's details 

Instagram:@skriba05

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

In this deeply personal and inspiring episode, Ray sits down with Lauren Anderson, a legendary prima ballerina and recovering alcoholic, to discuss her remarkable journey from hiding in plain sight to embracing her truth out loud. As one of the first African-American principal ballerinas at a major American dance company, Lauren made history when she joined the Houston Ballet in 1983 and broke barriers in 1990 as a principal dancer.

Lauren recounts her battle with addiction throughout her career—from when it started as a fun party to the moment the wheels finally came off. She shares how court-mandated meetings led her to a transformative sober community that showed her how to live fully without substances. She opens up about the challenges of living up to perceived expectations and the freedom that comes from letting go of them. Today, Lauren celebrates 15 years of sobriety!

From navigating public scrutiny to becoming a guest speaker and the subject of a choreo poem, Lauren’s story is a testament to the power of resilience, community, and the courage to recover out loud.

Lauren’s Toolkit:

Lauren's details 

Instagram: @laurenandersonofficial

Website: https://www.laurenandersonofficial.com/

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

Ray sits down with Dr. Philippe Douyon, a neurologist, speaker and author, to explore the profound effects of alcohol on the brain and how it impacts overall cognitive health. Dr. Douyon shares his expert insights on what actually happens in the brain when we consume alcohol, from the disruption of neurotransmitters to long-term changes in brain structure and function. They dive deep into the science behind neuroplasticity – the brain’s ability to change and adapt – and discuss practical steps for supporting brain health during sobriety.

Dr. Douyon also sheds light on the unique challenges faced by BIPOC communities when navigating sobriety, including the social pressures and cultural factors that can complicate the journey. Tune in to learn how you can build resilience, reclaim your cognitive function, and enhance your mental well-being by understanding the powerful connection between sobriety and brain health.

Dr. Douyon’s Toolkit:

The Brain and Alcohol: What's Really Happening?

Dr. Douyon breaks down the science behind alcohol's impact on the brain, explaining how even moderate consumption can lead to significant changes in brain function and structure. He discusses the delicate balance of neurotransmitters, the chemicals that communicate between nerve cells, and how alcohol disrupts this balance. This imbalance could lead to longer-term consequences on cognition and mental health. Dr. Douyon advises to be mindful of your drinking habits and understand the risks associated with them.

The Ripple Effect: Long-Term Consequences

Dr. Douyon delves into the long-term consequences of alcohol use, including the potential for developing chronic neurological conditions. He shares insights on the ways alcohol use can accelerate brain aging, diminish cognitive function, and increase the risk of mental health disorders. Ray and Dr. Douyon explore why these impacts are particularly significant in BIPOC communities, where access to mental health resources and education about substance use is often limited.

Dr. Douyon's details 

Instagram: @philippe.md

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRCOnf0uKNDcDODNvCKY7Ag

Website: https://www.inlebrainfitinstitute.com/

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 
⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Ray chats with J.T. Chestnut, a proud sober gay Black man, long-distance runner, and inarguably Whitney Houston’s #1 fan. A California transplant,  J.T. takes us through his deeply personal journey of breaking free from the cycle of addiction, a path that began with a brave decision to embrace his authentic self at age 16 in North Carolina. As he opens up about the struggles and triumphs of sobriety, J.T. reflects on the turning point when his mother urged him to get help and how that moment led him to an AA meeting in 2020. He shares how more than three years later sobriety has transformed his life, strengthened his bonds with loved ones, and deepened his love for running.

This episode is a testament to the power of community, self-discovery, and resilience. Tune in to hear J.T.’s inspiring story of breaking cycles, setting boundaries, and running toward a brighter, healthier future.

J.T.’s Toolkit:

J.T.’s details 

Instagram: @jtchestnut

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Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

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Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays 

YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

In this episode, Ray is joined by the remarkable Laura Cathcart Robbins, author of Stash: My Life in Hiding. Laura is an author, writer, speaker, and podcast host of “The Only One In The Room Podcast.” Together, they explore the powerful themes of vulnerability, transformation, and the courage it takes to break free from the shadows of addiction.

Welcome to Season 3 of The Stack'n'Days Podcast out August 21st!

In this new season, we continue our mission to amplify underrepresented voices in mental health, sobriety, and personal growth within communities of color. Season 3 takes you even deeper into the stories that matter—stories of resilience, healing, and empowerment. Join us as we explore the unique challenges and triumphs faced by individuals on their wellness and recovery journey, with candid conversations and expert insights that inspire and uplift.

Whether you're navigating your own path to sobriety or seeking to better understand the BIPOC experience in recovery, Season 3 is here to provide the support, perspective, and community you need.

Hit the follow button and tune in to start stacking the days of healing with us, one story at a time.

#StacknDays #SobrietyJourney #MentalHealth #BIPOCWellness #Season3

In this special solo episode marking the 50th and final episode of Season 2, host Ray Donovan takes a moment to reflect on the profound journey of the Stack'n'Days podcast. He delves into how the podcast has not only been a platform for exploring the sobriety experience but has also been instrumental in his own personal growth. Ray expresses deep gratitude towards the guests who have fearlessly shared their stories, emphasizing the transformative power of vulnerability and openness in the recovery process.

As Season 2 draws to a close, Ray Donovan extends heartfelt appreciation to the listeners who have accompanied him on this transformative journey. He reaffirms Stack'n'Days commitment to fostering a culture of healing, resilience, and inclusivity. With each episode, the podcast continues to serve as a beacon of hope, inspiring individuals to reclaim their narratives and embark on the path towards sobriety and self-discovery.

The Power of Vulnerability and Openness in Recovery

Ray talks about the impact Stack’n’Days has had on his own sobriety and wellness journey. As an introvert Ray hadn’t previously been comfortable sharing his vulnerabilities with others but through the podcast he has learned that silence is not a coping mechanism and healing as part of a community is so much more powerful than healing in a silo. 

Stacking Days as a Platform for Healing and Support

Throughout the episode, Ray emphasizes the podcast's role as a catalyst for healing and support. He invites listeners to actively participate in the ongoing dialogue, fostering a community of empathy and understanding. Through sharing stories and experiences, Stack'n'Days serves as a sanctuary for those navigating the complexities of sobriety and mental health.

The Need for Representation in BIPOC Sobriety and Wellness 

Ray acknowledges the pivotal role that BIPOC women and the LGBTQ+ community have played in leading the discourse on sobriety and recovery on and off the podcast, thanking both communities for their openness and willingness to share. 

He candidly addresses the underrepresentation of men of color in discussions surrounding sobriety and mental health. He calls for greater inclusivity, urging more voices from this demographic to step forward and share their experiences. By amplifying diverse perspectives, Stack'n'Days seeks to bridge existing gaps and cultivate a more inclusive dialogue.

Consistency and Overcoming Challenges

Reflecting on his own journey, Ray emphasizes the importance of consistency and perseverance in the face of adversity. He shares insights gleaned from his experiences, reaffirming the transformative power of showing up, day after day. Stack'n'Days stands as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, inspiring listeners to embrace their own paths towards healing and growth.

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

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In this episode of Stack'n'Days, host Ray Donovan engages in a candid conversation with Nyina Muigai, exploring her personal journey with alcohol and her decision to embrace sobriety. She talks about her reasons for going sober, how she got sober and about her non-alcoholic drinks and events business. 

Nyina’s Toolkit:

Nyina's Journey

Nyina candidly shares her experience with alcohol, rooted in the vibrant drinking culture of Kenya. From early social drinking to using alcohol as a coping mechanism for inner unrest, Nyina's narrative reflects the multifaceted relationship many BIPOC individuals have with alcohol.

Turning Point and Self-Discovery

The turning point for Nyina came with the stark realization on New Year's Day, awakening to feelings of anger and disappointment. This pivotal moment ignited her decision to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, leading her towards sobriety.

Finding Support and Noliq's Inception

Navigating her sobriety journey, Nyina found solace in online communities and non-alcoholic events. Empowered by her experience, she founded Noliq, a mobile bar and events company dedicated to offering inclusive socializing experiences through non-alcoholic alternatives.

Nyina shares the evolution of Noliq, expanding its offerings to include ready-to-drink canned cocktails and sober travel experiences. Through authentic connections and transformative journeys, Nolik aims to redefine the narrative surrounding sobriety.

Challenges and Perspectives on Sobriety

Ray and Nyina delve into the diverse reactions towards non-alcoholic drinks, spanning from surprise to skepticism. They underscore the significance of acknowledging that drinking encompasses a sensory experience beyond taste, advocating for mindfulness and respect towards non-alcoholic options.

Education and Wellness Dialogues

Nyina shares her belief of the imperative need for early education and prevention strategies concerning alcohol consumption. Wellness and health should be central themes in this. 

Navigating Industry Dynamics

Nyina and Ray dissect the implications of major corporations entering the non-alcoholic sector, highlighting the importance of nurturing smaller businesses and fostering innovation in the realm of sober experiences.

Book Mentioned: What Color Is Your Parachute by Richard N. Bolles 

Nyina’s details

NoLiQ: https://www.drinknoliq.com/ 

NoLiQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drinknoliq/?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D 

NoLiQ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551541672959 

NoLiQ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@noliqbw 

Connect with the show

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

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In this solo episode Ray looks at three issues he has experienced in his sobriety journey. He discusses the fact that very few celebrities of color speak about sobriety and applauds those who do. He highlights that the portrayal of sobriety online and in the media is different to the reality but emphasizes that despite this difference, sobriety is one of the most rewarding and beneficial things you can do for yourself. He also talks about sobriety fatigue and offers advice on how to get through it. 

Empowering Representation

Ray begins by highlighting the significance of celebrities of color sharing their journeys of sobriety. He points to Tiffany Haddish as a powerful example of representation in the media. "You don't really hear a lot of folks of color, specifically black people, celebrities, that is, talking about some of these darker aspects," Ray reflects, emphasizing the importance of diverse voices in the narrative of recovery.

The Misleading Portrayal on Social Media

Ray dives into the misleading portrayal of sobriety on social media. He critiques the trend of "influencer sobriety," where addiction seems like a distant memory, painting an overly simplistic picture. "Influencer sobriety is a world where alcohol addiction is history, but it's all too neat," Ray remarks, stressing the need for honesty and realism about the challenges of recovery.

Facing Sobriety Fatigue

Ray shares his own experiences  of sobriety fatigue. "I feel as though that there is a, oftentimes, at least for me, there was a honeymoon, right? In early sobriety, you're really trying to stack those days and maintain a degree of clarity." He discusses the exhaustion that can accompany long-term recovery and the importance of staying engaged in the journey despite the challenges.

Ray emphasizes the value of finding tools and support that work for each individual's recovery journey. Whether it's therapy, support groups, or creative outlets, he encourages listeners to explore what resonates with them personally. 

Links to media mentioned

Podcast with Tiffany Haddish: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-conversation-with-amanda-de-cadenet/id1514866495?i=1000650119199

Connect with the show

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Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays 

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠ 

Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: 

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Jeny Rodrigue is a licensed mental health professional specializing in substance abuse within the BIPOC community. She shares her journey and insights into addressing addiction and mental health within communities of color. In her discussion with Ray she highlights the importance of normalizing conversations around mental health and addiction to provide better support and understanding.

Overcoming Stigma and Apprehension in Seeking Help in BIPOC Communities

Jeny discusses the common apprehension within communities of color when it comes to seeking therapy and mental health support. She emphasizes the historical context and societal influences that contribute to the stigma surrounding mental health in communities of color. By humanizing the conversation and sharing personal experiences, Jeny aims to break down barriers and encourage individuals to seek the help they need without feeling ashamed or judged.

Connection Between Mental Health and Addiction

Jeny addresses the interconnected nature of mental health and addiction. She explains how mental health issues like depression and anxiety can often coexist with addictive behaviors. She emphasizes the importance of addressing both aspects holistically to support individuals in their recovery journey. By recognizing the link between mental health and addiction, individuals can receive more comprehensive and effective treatment.

Supporting BIPOC in Recovery and Sobriety 

Jeny shares her approach to supporting individuals who may experience setbacks or relapses in their recovery journey. She emphasizes the importance of normalizing relapse as a part of the recovery process and providing a supportive environment for individuals to restart their journey without judgment or shame. By focusing on building on past successes and offering personalized support, Jeny aims to empower individuals to continue their recovery efforts.

Educating and Empowering Communities

The discussion touches on the need for education and awareness within communities of color regarding mental health and addiction. Jeny highlights the importance of providing resources, tools, and information to empower individuals and families to address these issues openly. By promoting conversations, normalizing mental health discussions, and offering support, communities can create a more inclusive and understanding environment for individuals struggling with mental health and addiction challenges.

Resources mentioned by Jeny:

SBIRT: https://www.sbirt.umaryland.edu/about-us/what-is-sbirt/#:~:text=SBIRT%20stands%20for%20Screening%2C%20Brief%20Intervention%2C%20Referral%20to%20Treatment.  

988 

https://988lifeline.org/

SAMHSA Recovery Support 

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/recovery

Treatment Locator- 

https://findtreatment.gov/

Anxiety Screening 

https://adaa.org/sites/default/files/GAD-7_Anxiety-updated_0.pdf

Depression Screening

https://www.apa.org/depression-guideline/patient-health-questionnaire.pdf

National Institute on Drug Abuse Assessment and Screening Tools 

https://nida.nih.gov/nidamed-medical-health-professionals/screening-tools-resources/chart-screening-tools

Jeny’s details 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenyrodrigue_therapist/ 

Website: https://apathwaytolifecounseling.com/  

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Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays 

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Resources

⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠