Standing Stronger

What is confidence?

A feeling of self-assurance arises from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

What can destroy confidence?

1. Surrounding yourself with negative- Misery loves company. 
2. Excessive apologizing- making it your fault
3. Letting negative self-talk control your brain
4. Believing you know what others are thinking-  creating scenarios
5. Giving into fears
6. Saying yes to everyone and everything- Others controlling your day
7. Believing Failure is the worst thing ever
8. Assuming No one likes you
9. Not accepting compliments
10. Comparing your life to someone else

Forbes Article

10 Ways To Build Confidence

1. Get Things Done.
2. Monitor Your Progress.
3. Do The Right Thing.
4. Exercise.
5. Be Fearless.
6. Stand-up For Yourself.
7. Follow Through.
8. Think Long-term.

       9. Don’t Care what others think

    10. Do more of what makes you happy

In today's episode, we talk about trying to find perspective. We take a look at how you can take a step back and evaluate what's going on I am learning to respond instead of reacting.

We go down a couple of rabbit holes, there might be mention of God (gasp).

In marriage, you have to give a little and expect a little. No one is perfect, and we can not go into a relationship thinking we will change the other person. The only person you can change is yourself, which is one thing you need to remember in a relationship. 

Today we talked about our relationship. We have been together a long time and have been through most trials that a relationship will face, and we made it through to the other side. 

We talk about everything from arguing about what food we are going to eat to infidelity. 

We are not scared to share the bumps, bruises, and skeletons, along with all of the good.

The Standing Stronger Podcast was first launched in 2014 and has since garnered over 1 million downloads and has been listened to across the world. 

The show started as we navigated through the murky waters of mental health and then began to morph into a show about success in life, marriage, and business.

Then, as it tends to happen, life got in the way, and we took a hiatus. We are beyond blessed to announce that we were able to grow our businesses, our life, and our marriage during that hiatus. 

We are excited to bring the show back and look forward to sharing the journey with you every Monday.

On our previous podcast, we talked about how you should never stop dreaming. However, a dream is just a dream until you put together a plan of action. Then that dream becomes a goal, and with the proper amount of effort, that goal becomes a reality.

You can not expect people to live up to your expectations of them, they can only live their best life, even if you think they can do better.

If you expect someone to act a certain way or respond in a certain way, you are setting yourself up for disappointment; you can only accept who they are and be ok with the decisions they make, even if you think they are wrong.

That does not mean you need to tolerate the behavior. If they are someone, you should not be around you need to cut ties. But you can not expect them to change.

As we grow up, our dreams get crushed. It may be because you realize that you are 5'2" and not really the best fit in the NBA, or because someone said you were not good enough.

We dare to dream as kids and as our hopes and dreams get crushed by life, we stop dreaming all together. It is just easier that way right? Why get our hopes up? Stay safe!

Nope, that is a big pile of steaming dog crap. If you quit dreaming you resign yourself to a life of mediocrity. Lets start dreaming again.

Don’t procrastinate. Sounds easy enough right? We all do it, the goal is to recognize it and take control over it when it rears its nasty head.

Procrastination is mostly a habit that derives from our natural
tendency to take the easy route. Today we talk about the tools we deploy to help curb our tendency to procrastinate.

We all have a vision of what our perfect workday looks like. Could we start taking steps to make that perfect day a reality? I think we can.

Most days will not be perfect. Life happens, however, most of us are nowhere near the vision of what we would consider a perfect day. So, instead of staying the same, why not take steps to make your days as close to perfect as possible.

Today that is what our talk revolves around.

SSP Podcast S2E6 Frustration, Mold and Pee

When it comes to frustration we all have a choice, we can either respond or we can react. Whenever frustration comes your way how do you handle it? Do you respond to it or do you react to it? In today's episode, we talk about a weekend that started very frustrating and how we made a choice to respond in a positive manner instead of reacting negatively.

You get to hear about how Shannon almost needed to pee in a cup. Then we asked the question have we been poisoned with mold?