Starting Over Stronger Podcast

Many people don't understand the difference between therapy and coaching and whether they would most benefit from one, the other, or both. What can you expect from each type of assistance? Join us for this informative conversation with a Therapist and a Coach talking about how you can get the help you need as you divorce.

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The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. Betrayal is betrayal whether it is sexual or emotional and it becomes spiritual when it happens at church or with church leaders. Church should be one of the safest places on earth. But tragically for some, it becomes a place of great harm when charismatic leaders distort the Word of God for their personal gain.

This week on the Starting Over Stronger Show, we are going to going to approach a very difficult topic. My guest, Sandy Kirkam is a survivor of clergy sexual abuse as a teen and she is here to tell her story and share her mission to help others speak up and get the healing they deserve. 

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What questions SHOULD you be asking your attorney? 
What questions should you NOT be asking your attorney? And if not them, then who? 
You want your conversations with your attorney to be the most productive and efficient uses of yours and your attorney's time! So let's dive in to Attorney Alyssa Hodges list of the most popular questions people ask to discuss whether or not these are legal questions who you should be talking to about these top issues like "Can I date during my divorce?" Stay tuned... 

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What is Gaslighting? Where did the term originate? What is it like to be in a relationship with someone who gaslights? What is the best response to Gaslighting, and how can you set boundaries to exit and heal from this toxic dynamic?

Stay tuned today to learn all this and more.  

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Katherine Miller, Miller Law Group

Katherine Miller is our guest today because she is passionate and knowledgeable about helping couples divorce with dignity. I will be asking her a series of questions about ways that people can approach the dissolution of marriage. This is a multi-faceted subject so our conversation today will take some twists and turns as we navigate several different angles to be considered, so for those of you who just aren’t yet sure if you will be filing or how to handle things when you sense the end of your marriage is drawing near, this is going to be a very helpful guide for some very important things you may need to consider.

First, we dig into “SEPARATION v. DIVORCE.”

For some people, separation is being considered because they are on the fence or fearful about divorce. Others are viewing separation as a permanent alternative to divorce. And while separation can be a temporary solution to buy time before a permanent decision must be made, we are going to address some of the confusion around the definition of separation in its various forms: trial, in-home, legal and even permanent separation.

We also delved into the motivation for separation as an important consideration. Certainly, if reconciliation remains a possibility, separation can be the most affordable and amicable way to discover the feasibility of staying married in a healthy way. It allows you to take small steps toward your ultimate decision whether that is reconciliation or an eventual divorce. Separation will allow for the space to interact without as much constant stress or as many arguments. It should give you the chance to figure out why you haven’t been getting along and what you can do about it and to take the steps that ultimately will either revive the marriage or make it clear once and for all that it is irretrievably broken.

Others may have considered or even tried separation but have come to realize that divorce is actually a better solution. So for those who have ruled out separation, Katherine and I explored ways to approach divorce. We offered a general overview of these four legal divorce processes:

·        DIY

·        Collaboration

·        Mediation

·        Litigation

We also discussed one of the principles of the collaborative method which is the concept that a “good” divorce often requires a TEAM approach of varied professionals working well together. This is a concept that in and of itself, I believe, could change divorce as we know it, even in the worlds of mediation and litigation. We encouraged people to look into engaging a divorce coach as order #1 of business. A trained and qualified coach helps you build your team, starting with mindful attorney selection and then as needed connects you with a financial advisor, therapist, and any other professionals that your case’s unique nuances may need or benefit from.

If you are currently feeling the whole “I think want a divorce! Now what!?” feeling, tune in. You will learn so much.

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How does owning a business together during divorce affect the process? Let's chat with Attorney Ryan Kalamaya and make sure you are prepared to cover all your bases if this is your situation. 

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Join me today in hearing Jennifer's Survivor's Own Story and what she discovered through divorce.

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Author Kennedy Bell joins me on the show today to talk about his new book, "Hove with your heart, Divorce with your Brain." This book is all about understanding that what led you TO divorce must not be what leads you THROUGH divorce. Tune in now!

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Come here my crazy divorce story, narrated by the incredibly talented Tom Milligan, host of the My Crazy Divorce Podcast.

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Last week, we talked about how to pick ONE WORD to set the tone and the goal for your new year. Today, we are going to talk about some ways to give energy and enthusiasm for staying focused, not only on that ONE WORD, but on you, your life, your transition through divorce,  

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