Stay Bright Movement

This week, we continue our two week topic of the power of our thoughts. Angie shares four spiritual questions we can ask ourselves to wield this power most effectively. Learn which of these four Ezra Taft Benson says is THE most important question we could ever ask ourselves. Move into your week with a real plan to think better of yourself, step into your power and face challenges with confidence!

"The thought in your mind at this moment is contributing- however infinitesimally, almost imperceptibly to the shaping of your soul, even to the lineaments of your countenance... even passing and idle thoughts leave their impression." - David O. McKay


RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:  

1. The Power of Your Thoughts: Think on Christ by Ezra Taft Benson

2. Discerning the Will of the Lord For Me by Lanae Valentine

3. Doctrine and Covenants 58:26-28

CHAPTER MARKERS:  

2:35- Four Spiritual Questions that we can ask ourselves to harness the power of our thoughts.

2:40- What action will this thought lead me to?

3:16- As a man thinketh so is he.... 

4:33- "The thought in your mind at this moment is contributing, however infinitesimally, almost imperceptibly to the shaping of your soul, even to the lineaments of your countenance. . . . even passing and idle thoughts leave their impression." (David O. McKay). 

9:10- "Thoughts lead to acts, acts lead to habits, habits lead to character, and our character will determine our eternal destiny." - Ezra Taft Benson

11:37- Kristy traces back thoughts that impacted actions as an athlete

This week we explore the power of thought! We’ll teach you how we can reframe our thinking to realize the life we really want as we dive into the concept of manifesting. Kristy shows how we must do more than just positive or negative thinking to move closer to our dreams. How much depends on us? How much depends on God? How can we show God we’re ready to pioneer toward something wonderful? Learn two powerful tools to help us embark into our best lives!

"....positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life..... people and their thoughts are made from pure energy and that the process of like energy attracting like energy does indeed exist….and through this process, people can improve their lives- their health, wealth, and personal relationships among other things. We can use the law of attraction to manifest our dreams by putting like energy out into the universe to draw the same type of energy or realization towards us."

RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:  

1. What is Manifestation and Why Should I Care?

2. How to Journal for Manifesting Success

3. Three Laws of Attraction

4. Untamed


CHAPTER MARKERS: 

In this bonus episode, Kristy and Angie review The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly. Kelly teaches that intimacy must develop in a linear fashion, step by step. Learn how applying the different levels can support the true purpose of a relationship: to help, challenge, encourage, and inspire each other to become the best version of ourselves. We promise this resource will excite you for what’s possible for your relationship!

 “Intimacy is mutual self revelation. It is two people constantly discovering and rediscovering each other.”


RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:

1. The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly

2. Facilitating Positive Change- Reviewing The Seven Levels of Intimacy


CHAPTER MARKERS: 

1:10- Foundational Concepts of Intimacy

4:22- Angie's Story- Mutual support builds intimacy

7:18- Matthew Kelly's definition of intimacy: Intimacy is mutual self- revelation. It is two people constantly discovering and rediscovering each other. 

9:09- 1st Level of Intimacy- Cliches

13:52- 2nd Level of Intimacy- Facts

15:56- 3rd Level of Intimacy- Opinions

17:42- 4th Level of Intimacy- Hopes, Dreams, Fears, Passions

20:16- 5th Level of Intimacy- Feelings

26:53- 6th Level of Intimacy- Faults, Fears, and Failures

30:06- 7th Level of Intimacy- Legitimate Needs

33:20- The purpose of discipline in Intimacy

 “Both healthy and unhealthy couples fight. The key distinction is how they fight.” This week we share lessons from Dan Bates, a clinical mental health counselor, on the rules of love which he says must be followed to truly love your partner. Troubleshoot your relationship and determine if you might be breaking one of the six argument commandments. Learn to increase intimacy, trust, and respect through establishing ground rules for disagreements.

RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:  

1. Intimacy Has It's Rules, Psychology Today, Dan Bates

2. 3 Nephi 14:12

3. Mary Stallings, Come Follow Me Daily

4. Happy Couples Know These Two Fighting Rules, Harriet Lerner, P.h.D.

5. Dance of Anger, The: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships

6. The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling

CHAPTER MARKERS:  

0:00- Expanding On Intimacy

14:30- Intimacy, 10 Commandments Style (Rules of Love)

17:07- 1st Rule of Love: Don't Bring Up Past Mistakes 

24:08- 2nd Rule of Love: Don't Interrupt

30:28- 3rd Rule of Love: Don't Be Uncharitable

34:23- 4th Rule of Love: Don't Play the Blame Game

37:58- 5th Rule of Love: No Cheap Shots

40:57- 6th Rule of Love: Don't Change The Subject

This week we are sparking a desire to foster more intimacy! Learn the four types of intimacy that psychologists, researchers and experts agree are key in developing deep, abiding and joyful relationships. Fortify your intimacy intelligence with tips and examples from some of Kristy’s favorite books on the subject and take Angie’s double dog dare challenge to help you feel closer to those you love!

"Intimacy is the one thing we cannot live happily without. We can survive but cannot thrive without it. Without intimacy, all the riches in the world cannot satisfy our hungry hearts. Until we experience intimacy, our hearts remain restless, irritable, and discontented."


REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

1. Intimacy- Good Therapy

2. The 5 Types of Intimacy

3. The associations of intimacy and sexuality in daily life: Temporal dynamics and gender effects within romantic relationships.

4. Spiritual Intimacy, Marital Intimacy, and Physical/Psychological Well-Being: Spiritual Meaning as a Mediator

5. Intimacy: Into Me See

6. Couple Communication, Emotional and Sexual Intimacy, and Relationship Satisfaction

7. Seven Levels of Intimacy

8. Emotional First Aid

9. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child


CHAPTER MARKERS: 

3:45- Scenario 1- We want to be more intimate in our relationships
Scenario 2- We want our partner, kids, friends to be more intimate in our relationships

6:19- What is Intimacy? 

6:51- Matthew Kelly- Quote about Intimacy from Seven Levels of Intimacy

7:59- We are not all on the same intimacy frequency

10:36- Into Me See: Intimacy implies letting someone else get close to us

11:09- Connecting with people in a powerful way

12:48- Four types of intimacy: Experiential, Emotional, Intellectual, Physical/ Sexual 

13:24- Experiential Intimacy

23:05- Emotional Intimacy

37:11- Intellectual Intimacy

43:42- Physical/ Sexual Intimacy

Stay Bright welcomes guest Hans Rawhouser. Hans shares his perspectives on how to navigate sensitive public discourse without being disagreeable. Learn his peaceful communication beatitudes along with critical thinking tips to help us make a positive impact in any discussion. 

In this week’s episode, we examine anger though its spiritual opposite: unity. Angie shares four strategies from Henry B. Eyring’s talk, “Our Hearts Knit Together as One” to help us become more skillful peacemakers. 

This week we’re taking the shame out of admitting we need help with anger. We’ll share what author Gary Chapman (author of The 5 Love Languages) says are the origins and purposes of anger in his book, The Other Side of Love - Handling Anger in a Godly Way and reveal how anger feeds family dysfunction. Learn five tools to help us process anger with dignity and listen in on some funny and not so funny stories from Kristy and Angie that will help us all take a deep breath and do better next time!

"When we feel we've been wronged, we have suffered already. Let's choose eways to deal with anger so as to not suffer any more!"


RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:

1. The Other Side of Love: Gary Chapman

2. Anger as a Basic Emotion and Its Role in Personality Building and Pathological Growth: The Neuroscientific, Developmental and Clinical Perspectives

3. How Pixar's Inside Out Gets Anger Right

4. How to Recognize and Deal with Anger

5. Patrick Doyle- Anger (1)

6. Patrick Doyle- Anger (2)


CHAPTER MARKERS: 

1:58- You are among friends. We are learning together about anger. This is a time for self- reflection.  

2:27- The Other Side of Love 

3:26- Take the shame out of struggles with anger 

4:35- Two purposes in writing The Other Side of Love 

4:55- “Key ingredient in family dysfunction is a lack of understanding in processing anger."

5:04- “When we know how to positively process anger we create a more secure environment and also greater potential for our children to positively process anger and have better relationships. 

7:59- Identify specific situations/ triggers that exacerbate anger in us.  

9:35- What is the origin of anger?  

11:26- Patrick Doyle… Beneath anger is hurt and beneath hurt is injustice.  

11:59- Kristy’s Story about housecleaners. 

15:14- Angie’s story about mishandling anger. 

17:42- What is the purpose of anger?  

19:24- Angie's story about her response to anger and positive results 

21:24- Paramount questions: 1- is the action I’m considering positive? Does it have the potential for dealing with the wrong and healing the relationship? 2- Is the action I’m considering loving?

22:55- Valid anger- what is it?  

23:21- 5 part model for making anger productive 

#1- Consciously acknowledge to ourselves that we are angry 

#2- Restrain our immediate response 

#3- Locate the focus of our anger 

#4- Analyze our options

#5- Take constructive action  

This week Dr. Elia Gourgouris, a positive psychology expert certified by the American Red Cross in Disaster Mental Health joins award winning facilitator and coach, Konstantinos Apostolopoulos (Coach Kon) to reveal the four types of human responses to unexpected or rapid change (crisis). We learn the difference between danger and fear and how to choose faith over fear in dire situations. Dr. Elia and Coach Kon share how we can strategically develop more resilience by practicing the 7 Keys to Navigating a Crisis. Grab a copy of their practical guide to emotionally dealing with pandemics and other disasters and learn to improvise, adapt, and overcome in any challenge.

"This is a battle we are dealing with.... a spiritual battle, a physical battle, and a mental battle.... it requires us to think differently."

RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:

1. 7 Keys to Navigating a Crisis: A Practical Guide to Emotionally Dealing with Pandemics and Other Disasters.


CHAPTER MARKERS: 

1:14- Introduction of Dr. Elia Gourgouris and Konstantinos Apostolopoulos. 

2:52- How Dr. Elia became trained is Disaster Mental Health 

5:05- What defines a crisis? 

7:09- How can we choose to respond to crises with faith and not fear or out of threats of danger? 

4 Responses to Unexpected or Rapid Change: 
8:47- Victim Mode

9:11- Critic Mode

9:48- Bystander Mode

10:13- Navigator Mode

13:13- Resilience is the ability to flexibly adapt to challenging, adverse, or traumatic life events. It is a set of strategies that can be learned. 

7 Keys to Navigating a Crisis: 
17:48- Key #1 Self Care - Personal Health Care Assessment

22:18- Key #2- Awareness

26:29- Key #3- Flexibility 

28:35- Keys #4 and #5- Preparation and Initiative

35:02- Keys #6 and #7- Positive Attitude and Kindness

37:20- Improvise, Adapt, Overcome (3 important traits in navigating a crisis) 

40:01- Advice for operating in proactive rather than reactive mode

How does the idea of small and simple things relate to our spiritual growth? Angie leads a discussion on how focused and frequent nourishment to our spirits will help us sink deep testimony roots. We explore the nobility of ordinary, small and simple tasks, and reveal the power that little course corrections inspired by the Holy Spirit have to not only keep us on the safe road back to our Heavenly Father, but to also improve our relationships here on earth.


RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:

1. Small and Simple Things by Dallin H. Oaks

2. Small and Simple Things by M. Russell Ballard

3. D&C 64:33- "Wherefore be not weary in well doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things, proceedeth that which is great."

4. Power to Ovecome the Adversary by Peter M. Johnson



CHAPTER MARKERS:

1:06- IDEA #1 Small and Simple Grows Deep Roots

1:15- Steven Wheelwright- Through the small and simple God blesses us with small daily miracles and over time with marvelous works.

1:40- David A. Bednar- Steady drip of water likened unto our spiritual life; focused and frequent in receiving consistent drops of spiritual nourishment.

3:12- Kristy's story about hiking- Look up focused and frequent!

4:49- Story about Janice Kapp Perry

6:30- Boyd K. Packer quote: Don't miss small opportunities because we are wanting to do something monumental.

7:16- D&C 64: 33

8:30- Kristy's story- the small drip of parenthood. Listening to her daughter talk with a neighbor.

12:02- IDEA #2 There is nobility is the simple acts of kindness and goodness.

12:30- Howard W. Hunter quote- Commonplace tasks have great impact on others.

12:45- Angie's examples of quiet service and the powerful results in her life.

15:18- Angie's story of her mother helping her look up scriptures

17:03- Friends inviting her in college.

19:12- Kristy's story of her mother helping her memorize The Articles of Faith from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

21:40- Angie's story of a miracle- a friend thanking her for her example and kindness 
20 years later. 

25:35- Christ's first miracle was quiet and simple. 

26:23- IDEA #3- Keep hold of your spiritual steering wheel and adjust when necessary. 

26:35- Angie's story of first learning how to drive. 

27:44- M. Russell Ballard quote- Purposes of the Lord generally are fulfilled through small and simple things.

28:20- Examples of small nudges that we may feel or hear. 

32:28- Kristy references Power to Overcome the Adversary.