Stay In The Sun

We are 3 episodes deep into the Insecure final season. In this episode, Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis dig into the first three episodes discussing imposter syndrome, relationships and frienships, meeting out goals a we approach our 30's, the pressure from family to settle down, and what it means to co-parent centering the new challenges Condola and Lawrence are facing. Is Lawrence trying to be a real dad or does he just not want to the reputation of an absent father? Sip some insecure tea w/ us.

GIRLLLLL. In this episode, we're discussing the  Travis Scott and the devastated aftermath and incidents of ASTROWORLD Festival, celebrating the release of The Harder They Fall and also critiquing  the colorism and fatphobia of Stagecoach Mary, Meg's Hottieween party and what are the impacts of peer pressure on you and your friendships, differences between peer pressure, coercion, and manipulation, and we also dig into wellness for the rest of the year. What does it look like for us to keep our bodies moving, to invest in our wellness and stretch our bodies, and take care of ourselves throughout the pandemic and in practice beyond?  Pull up on us and let us know what you think. 

GIRLLLLL. In this episode, we're discussing the  Travis Scott and the devastated aftermath and incidents of ASTROWORLD Festival, celebrating the release of The Harder They Fall and also critiquing  the colorism and fatphobia of Stagecoach Mary, Meg's Hottieween party and what are the impacts of peer pressure on you and your friendships, differences between peer pressure, coercion, and manipulation, and we also dig into wellness for the rest of the year. What does it look like for us to keep our bodies moving, to invest in our wellness and stretch our bodies, and take care of ourselves throughout the pandemic and in practice beyond?  Pull up on us and let us know what you think. 

Whew! We are back after a taking a much needed month off. Even though we're back, we are leaving again. In this episode Alexis and Toni share about their recent trips, catch up with each other, and share their time at Miami Carnival 2021. It was definitely a time. In our month away Alexis went to Togo, Toni planned some vacations and attended her first adult wedding, and we also take some time and dig into the new and final season of the HBO series, Insecure. They're still playing in Kelli's face, Issa is still a lowkey user, and Molly is trying to turn over a new leaf. Pull up a seat and catch up with us! We love you for listening. 

Whoever told you spiritual and sexual health don't go hand in hand, they lied! In this episode, we are sharing pieces of our healing and spiritual wellness journey, how we take care of ourselves, our journey's with God and how we prepare ourselves to walk into our predestined lives with road maps given by our ancestors. Alexis shares about her tarot readings and Toni (@FatBlackLuxury) shares about her love of Ifa readings and how divinations has strengthen her spiritual health over the past 2 years. As we take care of ourselves spiritually, we dig into and unpack our sexual wellness and talk everything from sex toys, sexual awakenings, our sexual wellness routines, and so much more. Join us and let us know who your go to sexual wellness people are, what's in your routine, and what toys do it for you!

Check out our friends at @Kimbritive for sexual wellness for Black women, girls and femmes.

Before we begin, repeat after us: I can not budget my way out of working class or poor. Whew! In this episode, Alexis and Toni (@FatBlackLuxury) tackle the topic of being working class as they reflect on their childhood and adult lives as they try to stay afloat as working class people in the middle of a pandemic. Adulthood is NO joke and we both want out. Toni and Alexis also discuss pop culture topics such as Drake's ridiculous idea of sampling R. Kelly on CLB, Nicki Minaj still being married to a registered sex offender, and so much more. Join us and let us know how are you balancing the pandemic, adulthood, and everything in between. We love you for listening. 

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Millenials are really stuck between a rock and a hard place sometimes and trust us, this global pandemic, political madness, and everything else does not make it anymore easier. In this episode, Alexis and Toni (@FatBlackLuxury) take some to just say "Hey Sis, you good?" Community care is all that's going to get us through these times. When you're feeling burnt out, stagnant, chasing a dream, or just needa moment to gather yourself, a chat with your homegirl will get the job done. Are you also feeling stuck and struggling to make sense of it all? This episode just might be for you. Check in with your people, check in with your community. We all could use it. 

The master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. In this episode of Stay In the Sun, we are unpacking it NEOW. This episode we discuss the ways free Black people often intimidate other Black people who can't begin to imagine that freedom for themselves. To dismantle where we've been and institutions, we have to first acknowledge we have colonized minds. We can not continue to help white supremacy and patriarchy do the erasing for us. As we discuss these topics of unpacking, we center faptphobia and racism impacting Lizzo in the industry as well as the remix of Essence by WizKid & Tems and what it means to gatekeep Black diasporic culture. We also honor and send thoughts and prayers to our Haitian siblings, brothers, and sisters as we share resources and unpack the history of this great Black country. Join us and please share with us what you are getting free from. What are you committing to unpack?

*Sings in key of Spice* I'M IN A ROMANTIC MOOD, I'M TALKING TO MY BABY AND ACTING RUDE! Are you romantic? How would you define romance?  Toni and Alexis get together to chat about their love languages, how they've experienced or haven't experienced romance, and what it means for Black women to be able to show and receive romance and affection. It's a lot of unpacking happening here yall. Join us and let us know your thoughts!

As we reflect on our 1 year anniversary and the proudest moments along with the challenging moments that got us here over the past 12 months, Toni and Alexis also share their appreciation and reflections on the passing of The Grapevine's, Ayesha K. Faines, actress and mogul Suzzane Douglas, and Biz Markie. The legacies of these Black legends will be missed and felt for ages. As we continue to grow and you all grow with us, we're always thinking about the marks we will leave, how we will be remembered, and how we hold our communities. What mark are you leaving? Take a listen and let us know.