Stay In The Sun

WE'RE BACK!!! After taking some much needed time to ground ourselves in summer time, we're back to give you our insight on all the things that's been keeping the culture going 'round. In this episode, Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis dig into the movies that they believe reflects their lives (love lives) and we're their love lives are now. Later, we discuss the anti Blackness around In The Heights and the much disappointment surrounding the film. We couldn't wait to share our opinions on this w. you all! ALSO, with the world and cities opening back up slowly, Miami Carnival season is on and approaching. We FINALLY get to shell di place together! Yall know how we carrying on! Join us and take a listen and catch up on what we've been up to. 

Alexis and Toni are heading back to CARNIVAL ROAD! Miami Carnival is a GO for 2021 and yall know your girls are coming to mash it up, shell it dung, and tun it ovah! Bonnets, Ari Lennox, BET Award Nominations. Whew, what gaze are we all performing for anyway? In this episode, we discuss folks pushback against Ari Lennox and her change of aesthetics, featurism, fatphobia, and desirability politics and what does that mean or does it mean anything. The BET nominations are colorist and they need to start gatekeeping Blackness forreal forreal, but there's nothing new there. And yall know we had to get in on this "bonnet debacle" and all the misogynoir it's giving. But also, are we wearing our bonnets outside? Take a listen and let us know your thoughts on bnnets, Ari, and everything else. 

Toni's back from her birthday trip to Jamaica, Alexis is revisiting astrology with an old bae, and we're giving you insight and feedback as social workers engaging young people and coworkers through burnout and decolonizing our workspaces. We lean into discussing the healing of Black women in harmful workplaces including baring witness to Olivia Dope's story of experiencing sexual harassment from Joe Budden in her workplace, her "sister" co hosts not believing her and how we make it to the other side of when enough in the workplace is enough. And speaking on violating girl code, would you date your girl's ex??  What's it giving? Click play and join us for a convo on what girl code looks like for us. 

Why Lizzo can't just be great?! In this episode Alexis and Toni play a quick game of This or That choosing between everything Snowfall vs Power to traveling vs staycations.  Toni share her exciting bday plans as she celebrates Taurus season and in the spirit of Taurus season, we celebrate Queen Lizzo's 33rd birthday! In true Taurus and Lizzo fashion, she celebrated big and the haters are BIG mad, as always. We have an honest open conversation on Lizzo, fatphobia, how Lizzo authentically takes up space and they're mad. It's 2021, aint nobody told yall fatphobia is trash and minding your business is free? 

What's Love Got To Do With It? When yall find out, let us know. This week we discussed gender based violence, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault. With April being Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Toni and Alexis discusses the importance of Tina Turner's new documentary, Tina, Saweetie & Quavo's viral incident of IPV, as well as sharing their own survival stories and how they were able to work through those most difficult and painful moments in their life. We all deserve healing and safety. We hope this episode brings you all closure, security, and the love you all need this month and beyond. We see you and we believe you. 

If you've ever been personally victimized by gaslighting, raise your hand or blink. This is a safe place! This episode Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis (@fromalexisnicole) discusses things that just don't make sense and the gaslighting that often happens to Black women by the doings of Black men and how it can show up in all relationships whether it be romantic, platonic, work, or friendships. Our Make It Make Sense segment includes Miami Beach's new curfew, new developments on the COVID vaccine (Toni shares her experience getting her first dose), and #StopAsianHate standing in racial solidarity with our AAPI siblings while also holding the nuance of empathy and apathy. We talk about gaslighting off the heels of the Saweetie and Quavo breakup and how gaslighting is used to manipulate and abuse Black women into struggle love, awkward and unbeneficial situations, and the violence that gaslighting truly is. Alexis and Toni reminds Black women to know their worth and don't let these people play in your face!

What a beautiful liar!!! *sings in key of Beyonce and Shakira circa 2006* In this week’s episode, Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis (@fromalexianicole) share their plans for their futures in social work, how they plan to level up, and saying yes to things that are for them and no to all the things that aren't. This weeks Make It Make Sense exposes the Biden Harris administration for the liars they are, All Star weekend in Atlanta aka COVID Weekend, Meghan Markle & Harry, and more! We also share a bit about our experiences in social work and as social workers in this ever developing field. Where are we going? Where are we growing? And to wrap us up, we discussed battling seasonal depression and our excitement for daylight savings time. We are so excited for Spring into a good vibe! *wink wink* We thank you for listening, always! 

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Don't be a hard rock when you really are a gem! This episode is all about celebrating the legacy, the impact, the highs and lows, and the cultural reset that was and still is The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. This past week, it was stated that Ms. Lauryn Hill went DIAMOND, officially selling 10 million copies, of her 1998 solo debut studio album. Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis (@fromalexisnicole) discuss their loves, dislikes, and share stories on how they came to know the architect of Hip Hop and R&B that is Lauryn Hill. This is definitely a Black Girl Magic and transparent conversation on the ways we give or don't give Black girls grace that you for sure don't want to miss. Don't lose this one! 

525, 600 minutes, how do you measure a year! SEASONS OF LOVEEE! It’s romance season. In this week’s episode, Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis (@fromalexianicole) share their plans for celebrating Galentines and Valentines Day and then dive into the Make It Make Sense segment discussing the transitioning of ancestor Cicely Tyson, Tessica Brown aka Gorilla Glue Girl, and the Wendy Williams movie and documentary. This episode was then spent discussing the hypersexualization of Chloe Bailey, the attacks on her body and body autonomy, Black girls’ freedom in sexuality, pleasure, etc. We’re so over media, communities, family, friends, etc telling Black girls what to dow ith their bodies. CAN WE LIVE?!? We close out the episode with Black History MOnth and what we’re manifesting and building for Black Futures. Join us and let us know how you’re celebrating, what you’re building, and how you’re getting free. We thank you for listening, always! 

Toni (@fatblackluxury) and Alexis (@fromalexianicole) dives into what exactly is desirability politics, how does this play a role in their lives especially dating, and how celebrities and public figures enact desirability politics to harm those who live on the margins (ie. dark skinned people, fat people, disabled people.) After giving updates on their lives from eye surgery to facials, Alexis and Toni discuss Dani Leigh’s colorist song, her remarks, and her boyfriend DaBaby gatekeeping Blackness for her. We also discuss Reginae and her relationship with YFN Lucci and society’s need for Black women to accept struggle love. They unpack the ways desirability has played a role in their dating lives and later talk through the Salt N Pepa biopic, whether or not they watched their thoughts on Spinderalla being excluded from the movie, the group, and the Hollywood Star on the Walk of Fame. Why in 2021 are some Black women operating from a scarcity mindset? What will it take for us to free ourselves and each other. Pull up a seat, this is promised to be a good one!