StepDad Success

Today, we’ll discuss the one selfish thing that you should be doing every week. We’ll talk about how scheduling time for yourself and doing exactly what you want to do is a great investment.

Finally, we’ll discuss how this time will help you to understand why you’re working so hard and give you the energy to move forward.

POINT #1: Take a Break

* When you’re following the Core 4, you’ve got a lot to do—and sometimes, you just need a break.

* To recharge and reenergize, it’s important to take yourself out of your normal routine for a few hours each week and spend some time by yourself.

* If you don’t take a weekly break from the chaos of life, you are more likely to perform poorly in one or more areas of the Core 4 and not see the results of all your hard work.

POINT #2: Schedule Your Break

* To make sure your break happens, it’s important that you schedule the time in advance.The six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today, we’ll discuss how to identify when our kids are saying “no” to an activity or opportunity because they are feeling scared about learning something new. We’ll talk about how a simple conversation with your kids can help you get to the bottom of their feelings and give them the confidence to try new things.

Finally, we’ll talk about how you can show your kids how to overcome “no” by modeling a love of learning and getting over your fear of asking for help when you need it.

POINT #1: Sometimes “No” Means “I’m Scared”

* If your kids are saying “no” to a new activity or opportunity that you genuinely think they would enjoy, take the time to talk to them about it and ask questions.

* When children are afraid of trying or learning something new, they sometimes say that they don’t want to do it—even if you know they would enjoy it.

* To prevent your child from missing out on fun or beneficial learning experiences,The six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

In this week's interview Jason Brangers, a stepdad of two and father of two, will discuss how he went “all-in” with his step kids when he married his wife. He’ll discuss the challenges his family faced as he adjusted to his new role as a stepdad and his thoughts on building trust with his kids.

Finally, Jason will share his thoughts on other step-parenting topics, such as coping with transition times, the importance of investing in your wife and relaxing and having fun.

POINT #1: It’s Not Possible to Marry Only Your Wife

* When your wife has children, Jason believes that it’s not possible to marry only your wife, especially if she’s a good mom; Jason said you’re marrying your wife and her kids.

* Jason said that because he decided to go “all-in” and marry his wife, he would go “all-in” with his step kids, too.

* Jason and his wife had some challenges adjusting to their new roles after their marriage; Jason said itThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today, we’ll discuss how getting better across all areas of your life takes work and repetition. We’ll talk about how repetition across your Core 4 daily activities can help you to lay a foundation for long-term success.

Finally, we’ll discuss how hitting singles every day will prepare you for hitting home runs down the road.

POINT #1: Getting Better Takes Work

* If you want to get better across all areas of your life, it is going to take some work.

* Doing the work involves repeating your Core 4 daily activities over and over again.

POINT #2: Focus on the Little Things

* By focusing on the Core 4 daily activities (the little things), you can lay the foundation for future success.

* You can hit a single every day by writing notes, connecting with your kids, meditating, sweating, journaling, implementing new business ideas and drinking a green smoothie.

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Writing Your Stories

Today, we’ll discuss the “stories” that we’ve been told about ourselves growing up and how they can affect our lives. We’ll talk about how to get rid of the stories that hold us back and weigh us down.

Finally, we’ll discuss how to write new stories that are empowering, motivating and inspiring and reflect who we are today.

POINT #1: We All Have “Stories”

* From a very young age, we are all given “stories” about ourselves that direct the paths we take in life.

* Some examples of stories include, being an athlete, being a “nerd,” being shy, being fearful, etc.

* Some of these stories are empowering and inspiring, but others can weigh us down or hold us back.

* We can get rid of stories that do not serve us and write new stories that help to motivate us and drive us forward.

POINT #2: Asking Yourself “Who Am I?” Is a Gateway

* Asking “Who am I?” caThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today, we’ll discuss the two types of lies and which one is the most destructive. We’ll talk about how lies keep us from getting the results we want in life.

Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of getting real with yourself and assessing how you’re doing in all areas of your life.

POINT #1: There Are Two Types of Lies

* There are two types of lies: The lies you tell other people and the lies you tell yourself.

* The lies you tell others include making yourself look like you’re doing better than you really are or making things up to fit in.

* The lies you tell yourself have to do with your integrity, such as promising yourself that you are going to do things and not following through.

POINT #2: You Must “Be Your Word”—Even to Yourself

* When you learn to “be your word” with others, it builds a foundation of trust in your relationships.

* When you learn to “be your word” toThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today, we’ll discuss why making choices is an important and powerful leadership skill. We’ll talk about the difference between flip-floppers and leaders.

Finally, we’ll discuss how leaders create forward movement in their lives by choosing boldly and committing to their decisions.

POINT #1: Leaders Make Decisions and Instruct Others

* Leaders make clear, confident decisions and share their choices with others.

* Flip-floppers, who never make clear, decisive, fast choices, turn up frequently in life.

* Flip-floppers are one-dimensional men who only achieve success in one area of life.

POINT #2: Decision-Making is a Skill

* Choosing first and boldly while committing to your decisions is a skill that takes practice.

* Decision-making is a valuable and powerful skill that allows you to move forward in your life.

* Being open about your feelings and knowing how to commuThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today's interview is with William Worthington, a stepdad of three, father of two and professor at Baylor University, will discuss how attitude affects everything—from parenting to work to overcoming challenges.

He’ll talk about making the adjustment to becoming a stepdad, building a blended family and how he and his wife model positive values while teaching and training their children.

Finally, William will share how his attitude and mindset helped him to overcome the hurdles in his life, including a cancer diagnosis.

POINT #1: Don’t Just Say It—Live It

* William and his wife, Sarah, believe that their relationship is the greatest gift they can give their children. By doing things like investing in “date night,” they model positive relationship behaviors for their kids.

* William built a relationship with his stepkids by telling them and showing them how much he cared for their mother. When the kids saw himThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll discuss the importance of showing your kids what’s possible in their lives. We’ll talk passing gratitude to your kids by giving them opportunities and experiences that open their eyes to new things.

Finally, we’ll discuss how you can give your kids the vision that they can live wherever and however they like and show them that there are lots of options that they can choose from.

POINT #1: Anything’s Possible

* Leading your children is about showing them what is possible for their lives.

* You can pass your values to your kids, such as living simply, doing what you love with your family and spending time outdoors.

* You can choose the lifestyle that is right for your family.

POINT #2: Let Your Kids Experience New Things

* You can teach your children that they can live wherever and however they like by providing them with new opportunities and experiences.

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In today's episode we’ll discuss young love and how, even at an early age, parents have an opportunity to teach values about relationships. We’ll talk about the importance of modeling positive behaviors in your own relationship—and in all areas of your life.

Finally, we’ll discuss how strong values learned at a young age can help your children grow up to be great adults.

POINT #1: Children Learn Relationship Values from You

* Children mimic their parents every day and behave the same way their parents behave in relationships.

* Teaching kids to show gratitude and appreciation for others at a young age will help them to continue to do so as an adult.

* Being able to show gratitude, love and appreciation will help your kids to have healthy adult relationships.

POINT #2: Be Open about Relationships

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