StepDad Success

Today we’ll discuss how to create beautiful moments with your kids, even during sometimes-difficult “transition times” after they return from a visit with their other parent. We’ll talk about a strategy to relieve tension and help your children settle in while creating peace in your home.

Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of slowing down, listening and connecting with your kids after they’ve been away.

POINT #1: Transitions Can Be Tricky

* When children spend their time in different households, the rules, values and people are different.

* Children need time to adjust upon returning to your household, which can create conflict and tension. Parents sometimes need time to adjust, too.

* To navigate these transitions, you need to find a strategy that helps to peacefully ease your kids back into your household.

POINT #2: Take the Time to Listen

* If possible, avoid being the “dictatThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll discuss how getting excited about life is an important component of the “Have-It-All Lifestyle.” We’ll talk about the importance of letting your true feelings out so you can fully express who you are.

Finally, we’ll discuss how sharing your appreciation for your family members and taking stock of the “little things”—just like children do—can help you to get excited about the life you are leading.

POINT #1: Get Excited About Life

* Often, men don’t express themselves or get excited about the good things in their lives.

* By holding in feelings of love, excitement and appreciation, you will miss out on experiencing the joy of the “little things” in life, such as time with your family, beautiful weather, being outdoors, etc.

* To live the “Have-It-All Lifestyle,” you need to be excited about life.

POINT #2: Let Your Feelings Show

* You should let your feelings out by tellinThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

In this week's interview Kevin Voisin will discuss the sometimes-difficult choices you must make as a dad and stepdad—and how important it is to be involved in your children’s lives.

He’ll talk about his parenting journey, the investment he made in his relationship with his kids and how he and his wife make it all work for their blended family.

Finally, Kevin will share his thoughts on telling the truth and why men make ideal step-parents.

POINT #1: Dads Have Choices, But Kids Usually Don’t

* In a divorce, dads make the choice to be in their kids’ life. Stepdads also make a choice to make a commitment to their step-kids.

* Children are usually along for the ride when it comes to divorce or remarriage, so it is up to dads to maintain/establish and set the tone for their relationship with their children.

* Dads can choose to show up or run away.

* When dads choose to show kids their true feelThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll discuss what can be possible with your partner. We’ll talk about the importance of connecting and communicating to develop passion over time.

Finally, we’ll talk about how you can create passion with your partner by making daily deposits into your relationship.

POINT #1: Passion is Possible

* Men need to make time to connect with their partners and make daily deposits into their relationships.

* When tough circumstances arise, connected couples can communicate through their difficulties.

* Sending messages, weekly date nights and conversation are great ways to foster a connection with your partner.

POINT #2: It’s Not All About Sex—Although It Is A Nice Perk

* Although connecting with your partner will improve your sex life, conversations, activities and spending time together will become the highlights of your relationship.

* A passionate relationship is achieveThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll discuss the art and science behind improving yourself. We’ll talk about the importance of the Core 4 (Science) as a foundation in your life and how you can incorporate each daily activity into your life (Art) in a way that works for you.

Finally, we’ll talk about how hitting a single every day—instead of waiting for the home run—will help you to create momentum and improve in all Core 4 areas.

POINT #1: Art & Science Is About Improving Yourself

* When you are a stepdad, you must be a leader so you can teach your kids how to be leaders.

* We learn many things about business, physical fitness, spirituality and relationships in our lives. Art & Science is about how we piece together all these aspects of our lives.

* Often, when men are strong or improving in one area, they are falling down in another area; Art & Science allows you to improve across the Core 4.

POINT #2: ScienceThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll get down to “Business” (the fourth element of our Core 4) and learn how this area gives you power, energy and drive. We’ll talk about the difference between trying to hit home runs and trying to hit singles—and how this baseball analogy relates to your life.

Finally, we’ll look at the impact that studying, learning and implementing new ideas every day will have on your business.

POINT #1: Try to Hit Singles Every Day, Not Home Runs

* In baseball, there are two types of hitters—those who always try for home runs and those who try for singles. The Core 4 is about trying to take simple steps to “hit singles” every day.

* Hitting singles every day creates momentum; in just four days of hitting singles, you will score a run.

* If you always swing for home runs, you will have to wait months between home runs and you will lose momentum.

POINT #2: Discover and Declare Every DayThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

We’ll explore “Balance,” the third element of our Core 4. We’ll talk about how balance is the key to building and creating successful relationships and feeling fulfilled at home—and in life.

Finally, we’ll look at how “daily deposits” can help you find power in your relationships and deepen your relationship with the people you love most.

POINT #1: Balance is About Relationships

* “Balance” is about building and creating relationships as a foundation for happiness in the home.

* Without strong relationships, your life will be out of balance. You could have money, physical fitness and spirituality and you would still feel empty inside.

* You can create strong relationships and find balance by making “daily deposits” and communicating intimately with the people you love.

POINT #2: Relationships are a Source of Power

* When you demonstrate that you love, honor and appreciate your lovedThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll hear Cullen Talley, a stepdad from Baton Rouge, LA, discuss his experience as the stepdad of two girls.

We’ll cover everything from how Cullen met his daughters to navigating family transitions to his parenting role now that his girls are young adults.

We’ll also hear Cullen discuss what his commitment to his girls means to him—and how it has enriched his life.

POINT #1: Becoming a Stepdad is Rewarding, but Can Present Challenges

* Some stepdads find that younger children are more flexible and older children have a harder time accepting new family arrangements.

* Family transitions can be affected by how much stress a child carries regarding their biological parents’ relationship and their connection to their biological father.

POINT #2: Your Investment Will Pay Off

* Raising kids requires effort, time, love and strength, and you never really know if your "investmeThe six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com

Today we’ll explore "Being," the second element of our Core 4.

We’ll talk about what it means to be "spiritual" and discuss how different things, such as religion and "source", can give people guidance and power.

Finally, we’ll look at how meditation and journaling can help you to hear and understand your inner voice in less than one hour each day.

POINT #1: Being is About the Spiritual Aspects of Life

* "Spiritual" refers to whatever you believe it in that gives you guidance or power (religion, "source," etc.); you do not need to be a church-goer to be spiritual.

* Taking an hour out of your day to focus on your spirituality will help to give you energy and vitality and teach you to be a great leader (which you can pass to your kids).

POINT #2: Meditate Daily

* Performing at least 20 minutes of any type of meditation will help you learn to hear your inner voice.

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Today we’ll explore "Body"—the first element of our Core 4—and what it means to live "The Warriors Way." We’ll talk about two simple things that you can do every day to take care of your body.

Finally, we’ll discuss how you can develop a routine that helps you grab power and feel energized, no matter where you are in your physical fitness journey.

POINT #1: Living "The Warriors Way" Is About Grabbing Power Every Day

* In order to be our best, it is critical for us to be honest about our physical fitness.

* Living "The Warriors Way" is not about being super fit or comparing yourself to others; it simply means getting power from each of the Core 4 (Body, Being, Balance and Business) every day.

POINT #2: Add Two Daily Actions to Your Routine

* Action #1: Drink a green smoothie to provide nutrition and keep you regular.

Action #2: Sweat every day to energize your body and find power./The six moves that make a stepkid choose you: www.stepdadsuccess.com