Stimulus & Response

Religion and spirituality. Rituals vs. meaning. Empathy, service, family. Hierarchy of needs. What is success? Burnout. Love vs. fear. Principles, values, and pillars. Present moment awareness. What is your why? Unconditional love. Parenting. High-beam flashlights vs. soft-splayed lanterns. “Enlightenment” vs. “real world.” Jeff’s thoughts: “Small steps. Done together. With support.” Transformation. Mind + heart = real change. 10 minutes / day.

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeff Baietto, COO of Injoy Global: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffbaietto/

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

Scott Barry Kaufman, “Transcend,” on the hierarchy of needs: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/books/transcend/

Dr. Wayne Dyer, Leo Buscaglia, & Earl Nightingale: https://www.drwaynedyer.com & http://www.buscaglia.com/biography & https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Earl_Nightingale

30 Day Flow Challenge (starts July 13, 2020): https://www.collaborativecommons.com/flow-challenge

Herman Hesse quote: “Siddartha does not, in the end, learn true wisdom from any teacher, but from a river that roars a funny way and from a kindly old fool who always smiles and is secretly a saint.”

Jeff’s teacher’s quote: “All growth in spirituality is letting go.”

Cover story and secret garden. Potluck introductions. Silicon Valley TedTalk squirt gun fight. Our multiple avatars. Secret garden examples. Autotelic flow consciousness state. Persistence, curiosity, low ego, and collaboration. Exploration world vs. productivity world. “Yes and” mentality. Being present vs. being in control. “The stories we follow follow us.” Choosing or being chosen? Social media. What does it mean to be productive? Suck! Can you make your secret garden your cover story? Can your mindset be your secret garden?

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

“Suck at Something” by Karen Rinaldi: https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-great-to-suck-at-something-the-unexpected-joy-of-wiping-out-and-what-it-can-teach-us-about-patience-resilience-and-the-stuff-that-really-matte-9781508266785/9781501195761

“How to embrace the suck and develop mental toughness”: https://medium.com/superhuman-by-science/how-to-embrace-the-suck-and-develop-mental-toughness-68305776d6d1

Jason’s cover story: “I’m trying to live a low-stress lifestyle.”

Optimism vs. pessimism. Hope. “Always believe something wonderful is about to happen.” Free will. Perspective. External vs internal. Observation -> peace. Ratio of observing to doing. Thinking, judging, comparing = unhappy. Mindfulness. Subject / object split. Drop filters, get out of self, notice what is. Nervous system. Self-talk. Pre-mortem. How can we plan for the future? State management. Meditation. Protocols. Navy SEALs & Bruce Lee. Flow cycle: struggle, release, flow, recovery. What do you do in the waves? Step 1 (and maybe there is no step 2).

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

Robert Kegan on Adult Development:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoasM4cCHBc

Neuroscience and brain potential: Dr. Andrew Huberman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qksd7aHGAUQ

Stoicism:

Marcus Aurelius: https://dailystoic.com/meditations-marcus-aurelius/

Ryan Holiday: https://dailystoic.com/obstacle-is-the-way-summary/

State Management:

Brian Mackenzie: https://powerspeedendurance.com/breathing/

Quote attributed to Navy SEAL/Bruce Lee:

“We don’t rise to the level of the occasion. We fall to the level of our training.”

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi & Flow:

https://positivepsychology.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-father-of-flow/

Dr. Michael Gervais & Optimism:

https://competetocreate.net/findingyourbest/

In your head. Repetitive negative thinking. 55,000 times a day. "Space" visualization. The tendency to think you can think your way out of thinking. Negativity bias. 5,000 chances a day for productive, positive, and creative thoughts. "Stealing Fire." The $4 trillion / year distraction economy. "On Having No Head." "Toe, Hip, Elbow, Chin" question process. A habit sandwich. Treadmill vs. uneven ground. Passing the mic. To be lists. Character strengths. One word intentions. Quarantine mantra. Embodied cognition. "Powers of Ten."

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

"Stealing Fire" by Steven Kotler and Jamie Wheal: https://bookshop.org/books/stealing-fire-how-silicon-valley-the-navy-seals-and-maverick-scientists-are-revolutionizing-the-way-we-live-and-work/9780062429667

"On Having No Head" by Douglas Harding: https://bookshop.org/books/on-having-no-head/9781908774064

VIA Character Strengths Survey: https://www.viacharacter.org

Quarantine mantra: "I have kindness in my heart—for others and for myself."

Embodied cognition: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/a-brief-guide-to-embodied-cognition-why-you-are-not-your-brain/ & https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/embodied-cognition/

Quote attributed to Yeats is actually a variant of a quote by English author and playwright Eden Phillpotts. Oops! Here's the original: "The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.

"Powers of Ten" video: https://youtu.be/0fKBhvDjuy0

The Happiness Game. Marcus Aurelius and Shakespeare. Mindset as influencer and translator. Memory is unreliable. Pre-mortem. Grit—embrace the worst. Exposure therapy—immunize against. Mental models. N=1. Subject/object split. Tibetan masters on “same taste.” Pushing against homeostasis. Curiosity. Adaptability. "Move fast and break things." Inside, outside, and edges. “I love making mistakes!” Nervous -> excited. Go time vs. oh no time. Going where you look. Addiction therapy. Growth mindset. "Cool!"

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

Shakespeare quote: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” (Hamlet, Act 2, Scene 2)

VIA Character Strengths Survey: https://www.viacharacter.org

“How to be an Adult (Robert Kegan’s Theory of Adult Development)": https://medium.com/@NataliMorad/how-to-be-an-adult-kegans-theory-of-adult-development-d63f4311b553

The Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic: http://bertparlee.com/training/the-drama-triangle-and-empowerment-dynamic/

"Same Taste" from "Choosing Compassion" by Anam Thubten: https://bookshop.org/books/choosing-compassion-how-to-be-of-benefit-in-a-world-that-needs-our-love/9781611807271

The Tetris Effect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tetris_effect

Introductions. Feeling big or small. The stories we tell ourselves and the ladder of inference. Emotional granularity. Three sounds. Low, slow breathing. The driver’s seat. Human.Online. The perfect bowl of macaroni and cheese. Sidewalk chalk. John Prine.

Damon: https://www.sidestreetcoaching.com

Jeremy: http://jeremynsmith.com

Matt Mullins/Black Rooster Productions: https://vimeo.com/mattmullins

Ladder of inference: https://www.toolshero.com/decision-making/ladder-of-inference/

Emotional granularity: https://ideas.ted.com/try-these-two-smart-techniques-to-help-you-master-your-emotions/

Using breath to deal with fear: https://neurohacker.com/extinguishing-fear-when-it-really-matters-by-altering-breath-and-vision

Yoga class quote, Jack Kornfield: "Put your fears and anxieties aside, and tell them, 'Thank you for trying to protect me, but I'm okay for now.' Every day, pause, put your hand on your heart, and tell yourself: 'Let me hold all of what I'm worried about with a tender compassion. Let me hold myself, my worries, my family and my friends. May they all be safe. May we all hold ourselves with tenderness and compassion.'"

Nicole Dunn on the Driver’s Seat: https://soundcloud.com/inmindfulmotion/drivers-seat

Human.Online: https://www.human.online

John Prine, “Speed of the Sound of Loneliness”: https://open.spotify.com/track/09lYnM5tc8vDqq6trDepcz