PROVOCATIVE episode incoming, babes!

Neringa is a former sex worker turned intuitive healer/reiki master/starseed/multidimensional BADDIE who's been out of the industry now fully for 2 years and supports other women to exit (or not enter in the first place), know their self-worth & create financial abundance in a Conscious, Heart-Centered way.

On today's chat, we dive into:

-Reclamation of sexual power

-Dissolving sexual shame

-Shadow work to heal trauma (including lighter, playful & creative ways to do this)

-Tantric Sex & sexual healing 

-Boundaries, Conscious Communication & Deep Intimacy

-Turning pain into *soul purpose*

plus some juicy surprises, lol! 

TO CONNECT WITH NERINGA:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@neringa_shaktiessence

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Book a 1:1 Healing Session with Neringa: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/NshaktiessenceB

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Nonviolent Communication Book: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X

Vice Documentary/The Rise and Rise of Psychedelics: https://youtu.be/Lld8KpTW8RA

TO WORK WITH ME (Alison): https://www.alisonlessard.com/links/

It's so easy to demonize and write off people like Playboys or people who are very Promiscuous, but what if instead of labeling them and putting yourself on a pedestal, you extract the lessons they provided for you instead? What if we aren't meant to just put people in a box and assume they're unlovable because they're struggling with deep intimacy?

We go DEEP on this episode!

I had to ask myself:

-What was it within ME called in this kind of relationship dynamic?

-What parts of me were avoiding deeper intimacy?

-How was I still emotionally unavailable during this time of my life?

-Why was I seeking connection mostly through physical touch but ignoring my softer side?

-What did I need to learn from it?

-What kind of liberation or exploration did I want to experience (that I couldn't in a more conventional, "vanilla" relationship)?

-How did it EXPAND me?

-How did it open my heart?

Yes, there was pain...and there was also so much growth, too.

For me, experimenting with open relationships and dating some real-life Playboys actually taught me more about trauma, attachment issues, self-worth, sexual energy, power dynamics, emotional intelligence, unconditional love, shadow work and my DEEPEST heart desires than almost anything else in my life.

To embody more of your Sexual POWER, you've got to move through the energies of fear, guilt or shame around it, too. 

All Offerings & How to Work Together (including applying for 1:1 mentorship) Here: https://www.alisonlessard.com/links/

Someone sent me a question in my DMs and I wanted to respond in the pod: "I'm celibate for over 2 years now - not even horny - and curious about how and why (like is it even worth it?) to re-integrate my sexual energy?" 

I had A LOT to say on this, actually!

I spent MANY years celibate (out of relationship, self-pleasure was still in the picture though!!) and those were the years I spent learning how to cultivate and channel my sexual energy (for radiance, into my business & creative projects, etc.) through tantric intimacy practices and more.

I share on this episode how diving into this unlocked more unapologetic self-expression, helped heal money challenges & released some huge blocks to intimacy, too. This will serve you whether you're single or coupled, whether you're a Soulpreneur or not.

For FREEBIES + to work with me: https://www.alisonlessard.com/links

Breadcrumbs aren't a meal, Honey!

Today's final episode in this mini-series, Why Your Pain is Your Kink, is Part 3:

The Kink of Scarcity/Not Having Enough & patterns of scarcity (especially with love or money in your life)

How do you get to the root of always:

-feeling like you NEVER have enough (could be love, attention, nurturing or things like physical CASH in the bank, an overflow of money, limitless abundance, etc.)

-in a cycle of FEAST or FAMINE (you have a lot, but it's gone just as fast)

-barely scraping by or living off breadcrumbs (energetically or financially)

-drowning in panic or anxiety around "not having" (like how are you ever going to have a lasting, loving relationship or how will you pay your BILLS every month type-of-anxiousness)

-feeling resentment how others seem to have more so easily while you're feeling like you're constantly in a state of lack or loss? 

How are you actually *getting off on it*, you KINKY little B*tch (hence, unconsciously recreating it again and again)!?

Lastly, how can you actually integrate this part of your shadow SO THAT you can break the pattern once and for all? (Yes, it's SO possible)

This is Playful, Sexy Shadow Work

I'll guide you through some tips and a short embodiment practice in each part of this mini-series.

Credits to the book: Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott for inspiring this mini-series (I now use this book in most of my offerings as another resource, because it's so amazing)

To work together (group or 1:1), all my current offerings are here: https://www.alisonlessard.com/links

AKA: Making it WAY fvcking harder than it needs to be!

This is the 2nd of a 3-Part Mini Series called: Why Your Pain is Your Kink and today's episode is Part 2: The Kink of [Self] PUNISHMENT

Why do you chronically experience the pattern of:

-punishing yourself with tons of icky feeling self-critical talk or harsh self-judgments (ie: you're your own worst critic and the voices are LOUDDD)

-always feeling like "it" (love, business, friendships, etc.) has to be HARD/CHALLENGING/EXHAUSTING to be "successful" or "efficient" or "worthwhile" and experiencing fatigue or burnout as a result

-attracting controlling, manipulative people who always seem to be criticizing, judging and punishing YOU?

How are you actually *getting off on it*, you KINKY little B*tch (hence, unconsciously recreating it again and again)!?

Lastly, how can you actually integrate this part of your shadow SO THAT you can break the pattern once and for all? (Enough already)

This is Mature Shadow Work...but make it SEXY! (lol)

I'll guide you through some tips and a short embodiment practice in each part of this mini-series.

Credits to the book: Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott for inspiring this mini-series (and I now use this book in all my offerings as a resource, because it blew my fvcking mind and totally shifting my perspective on Shadow Work by linking it to Desire and Pleasure & our Sexual Energy).

To work together (group or 1:1), all my current offerings are here: https://www.alisonlessard.com/links

Ahhh, the brutal burn of REJECTION!

This is the FIRST of a 3-Part Mini Series called: Why Your Pain is Your Kink and today's episode is Part 1: The Kink of REJECTION

Why do you chronically experience the pattern of rejection and how are you actually *getting off on it*, you KINKY little B*tch (hence, unconsciously recreating it again and again)!?

Lastly, how can you actually integrate this part of your shadow SO THAT you can break the pattern once and for all? (Enough already)

This is Mature Shadow Work...but make it SEXY! (lol) I'll guide you through some tips and a short embodiment practice in each part of this mini-series.

Credits to the book: Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott for inspiring this mini-series (and I now use this book in all my offerings as a resource, because it blew my fvcking mind and totally shifting my perspective on Shadow Work by linking it to Desire and Pleasure & our Sexual Energy).

To work together (group or 1:1), all my current offerings are here: https://www.alisonlessard.com/links

Hey FCKED Squad!

Welcome to our first official episode since the podcast got a full makeover!

In this one, I'm diving into what I'm calling (based on 10+ years as a practitioner in the coaching industry) the "3 Stages of Self-Awareness" when it comes to "Doing the Work" (which is spiritual growth community jargon, but if you know, you know ;).

I share my thoughts on how/why I feel MOST of the coaching/self-help industry is [unconsciously] lingering in Stage 2 and why shifting into the Mature Shadow Work (where you take FULL-ASS responsibility for the fact that all your patterns are your own co-creation & that your pain points are actually your KINKS) of Stage 3 is SO CRUCIAL if you wanna get Un-Fucked!

(also, go get the book, Existential Kink, by Carolyn Elliott immediately, as I'm referencing some it in this episode, it changed my life & now I use it in my offerings for shadow work, because it's so hot & incredible)

P.S. This whole process can also be WAY more goddamn fun, I promise. xx

Hey FCKED Squad!

Welcome to the new and improved, fully-rebranded, GROWN & SEXY podcast, where we're gonna be diving into ALL the juicy conversations on sex, intimacy, conscious relationships, spiritual juju & more. I'm your host, Alison Lessard, Intimacy Mentor, with a foul mouth and a dirty mind - at your service. ;) This is the place for explicit, Adults-Only chats about ALL the things. 

Send your questions for the Ask Ali segment of the podcast (every Wednesday) to [email protected] - the spicier the better - and I'll be choosing 1 or 2 per week to make a dedicated episode with my response. So excited to get started!

P.S. Come play (and follow) on Instagram, if you're not already @alison.lessard

The podcast got a makeover, fam!

I just relocated back to New England (where I was born and raised) from South Beach, Miami (after over 20 years living in big cosmopolitan cities all over the world)...and now I just feel like a spicy, provocative, out-of-place girl in a very buttoned-up New England world. So obviously I needed a new outlet to talk my shit, have fun & rant about what it's like running an online intimacy coaching business in a city with zero sex appeal.

If you want to ask me your love/sex/relationship/spiritual/entrepreneurship questions, like a Q and A column (which I love responding to in podcast format), send them to [email protected] so I can create future episodes with them!

*from IG live 12/20/31*

A little dive into ego-based desire versus letting ourselves be guided by something much more powerful & surrendering our mind's plans to the higher plan. #devotion

 All Offerings: https://alison-lessard.mykajabi.com/links