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Being a good friend is something we talk a lot about in school, but it’s not an issue we grow out of.

In this episode Liz Best and I cover topics like having different friends for different needs, boundaries, reciprocity, and how adulthood shifts the way we look at some of the most important relationships in anyone’s life.

Liz is a writer, podcaster, actor and queen of metaphors. You can listen to more of her wisdom on Ghosts of Boyfriends Past, or hear her podcast recommendations on Castology.

I’m really excited to share this with you, let me know what you think!

Keep well,

Paula

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WE ARE BACK!

Second Album Syndrome is so 2020, and I am so very excited to finally share this episode with you all.

I had the privilege of sitting down with Brent, Liam, and Nabeela from Vincents Accounting. They were kind enough to answer my many questions without a single eye-roll, and we delved into all the things people feel silly asking (like what IS a deduction?). We bust some common tax myths, have plenty of laughs, and talk about how COVID will impact our tax returns and what the Federal Budget means in practical terms.

I'd love to hear what you think of it!

Take care,

Paula

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Hello folks!

Just popping in to say that I’ve decided to make Stumble Through a monthly podcast so that it’s a more manageable commitment for me. As you know this podcast is something I love doing, and will continue to do, but I also need to be realistic with myself (and you!).

So for the next while, Stumble Through will come out on the 16th of every month.

The next episode will come out on September 16th.

Keep your eyes open on our Instagram and Facebook because I’ll be asking you for the Things You’ve Never Said about taxes, making friends as an adult, and working a 9-5 as I prepare to record those episodes.

Thank you, genuinely, if you’re reading this. I really appreciate each and every listen this not-so-little project of mine gets.

Take care,

Paula

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In this episode actor and creator Ben Warren returns to the podcast with just as much warmth and wit as before, with double the insights. He also brings EXCITING NEWS!

International, intense, inside, in-tertainment; these are just some of the “i” words which describe the first ever MonologueAthon! The MonologueAthon is a 24-hour live-stream event in support of The Actors’ and Entertainers’ Benevolent Fund, which will be hosted on May 29th AEST. Actors will be given a Shakespearean monologue and 20 minutes to prepare it before they perform it! We plug this at about the 32:00 mark, so if you want to listen while you fill out your application, you can!

This episode has a heap of laughs, and tips from someone on the inside (though I guess that’s all of us now?) on how to handle social distancing and any isolation blues we may be experiencing. It’s my first zoom recording but Ben made it a fun, relaxed and really easy experience. I hope you enjoy it, even with the odd sound wobble.

Keep well,

Paula

P.S. A garbage truck put in a cameo appearance; did it sound like a War of The Worlds monster, or sad recorder? DM me on Instagram to let me know!

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Hiking as a metaphor for life. I love hiking. Despite my lack of motivation for exercise and distaste for sweating, I really love going for a long walk outside. There are many well researched reasons why, but if you want a quick look at why hiking is good for your mind and body, have a read of this. If you have any recommendations for hikes around Brisbane and the surrounding areas, I’d love to read them!

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Quarantine vs isolation/physical distancing and what that entails. The best definition I found was:

“Self-isolation and quarantine are aimed at preventing people who are infected or are known to have had contact with people who are infected from passing on the virus. Social distancing is a wider measure aimed at stopping the kind of mixing of people that allows infections to spread through a population.”

Beall, A. “Why social distancing might last for some time,” BBC Future (online). 2020.

This is a great self-isolation how to guide from the Australian government, and here is (at time of release) an updated list of restrictions state by state from The Guardian Australia.

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Will this change the way we interact going forward? Look, the obvious answer is yes. How could it not? Here are two fascinating articles (long reads, mind) from BBC future. This one is more about the economics of it all, and this one here steps out details about the nature of the virus and how social distancing is still our best bet going forward. In terms of an Australian perspective, The Guardian has a series dedicated to this called Life After Lockdown which is worth checking out (they’re much shorter too)

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Surprisingly, MC Hammer, and how the world...

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This is not about productivity hacks! This is a fun episode where we talk less about how to do things in less time and with more attention, and more about why it’s so hard to, you know, do the thing.

Harry Wallace is a writer, journalist, theatre maker, adventurer, student, and a self-proclaimed expert procrastinator. Procrastination is a multifaceted issue, and Harry beautifully fleshes out some of the more nitty gritty issues as we discuss the psychological phenomenon of procrastination, what drives it, the ramifications, and it’s place within both the human experience and society.

This episode is a little bit longer than usual because I thought it might be nice now that a lot of folks are stuck at home, trying to occupy ourselves with nice thing instead of panic. I thoroughly enjoyed creating this, so I hope that you enjoy listening! And if you do, leaving a review would really help us reach more people (plus the nice ones make my day), and if you’re listening on spotify, sharing it to your stories would be equally excellent.

We recorded this before physical distancing became a thing, so don’t worry! Harry and I are both at home, minimising our contact with the outside world. I hope you are too.

Keep well,

Paula

P.S please, please please please, stop drinking energy drinks. Mama Paula wants you to take care of yourselves.

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Here is that Deakin University resource about procrastination, it is pretty academically oriented, but still has some useful tips and insights.

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This is the excellent Ted Talk we mention which has the procrastination monkey.

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We touch briefly on the attention economy. Here is a sort of quick read on the subject from the Nielsen Norman Group (they’re a big deal for marketers, advertisers and businesses in general). There’s also a video down the bottom about “banner blindness.” I also found this much longer read, and philosophical article about the attention economy from an ethical perspective.

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This is a great article from Vanity Fair which definitely addresses the attention economy, but has more to do with digital health.

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If you, like me, are fascinated by the brain, then have a squiz at this educational resource about the limbic system. Thelimbic system is largely responsible for our emotional life, and has a hand in forming memories.

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Here is a that scene in Mad Men with the Kodak Carousel.

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Mel Robbins talks about the science behind her 5 Second Rule here, and there’s a short video too. In that vein, I found this cool scholarly article about how distraction effects memory.

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Hello! We recorded this before physical distancing became a thing, so don’t worry! Peter and I are both at home, minimising our contact with the outside world.

In this episode I talk to performer Peter Wood about how to take a compliment, and why it’s so tricky to do. Usually I would have cut out most of the tangents and odd moments and put them in a blooper reel for later, but I figure we could all use a little more levity and a few more giggles. So, here is Peter and I at the end of a very long day, there are funny voices and Kath and Kim references, and I hope you like them.

Keep well,

Paula

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I think this is the psychology today article I mention, and here is another one which talks about what it means when you have trouble accepting compliments.

And HERE is an article on LinkedIn for all you super profesh people on how declining compliments at work may mean you’re undercutting your performance and self-sabotaging.

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Tall poppy syndrome is defined as “a perceived tendency to discredit or disparage those who have achieved notable wealth or prominence in public life,” according to Google. It’s pretty specific to Australia and New Zealand in terms of cultural practices.

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Hello! At 35:00 we discuss a submission to the Things I’ve Never Said segment which comes with a trigger warning around suicidal thoughts. To the listener who submitted it: you are cared for, you are as deserving as anyone else to be here drawing breath. No matter how logical it seems, you not being around is not easier or better for anyone. Steve and I really, truly, want you to get help.

I’ve put numbers for each state and websites you can use in the show notes; take care of yourself.

In this episode we talk about the one thing we can all be certain of: death. Which also happens to be the thing that we have the least certainty about. Hooray for the absurdities of life! While the topic is heavy and somewhat macabre, Steve and I manage to have a good laugh as we figure out this whole mortality situation. I hope you do too.

Steve Pirie is a stellar human and I am so excited to have him back on the podcast. You can discover the joy of his work by coming to the QPDA reading of his show “Return to The Dirt” on April 8th at QT here in Brisbane. Come along, it’s going to be a good time (lots of death, but also laughs).

This is an episode I really enjoyed creating, let me know what part of it you found most valuable!

Keep well,

-Paula

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Where to get help if this episode made you uneasy

Crisis lines

Support is available for anyone who may be distressed: Lifeline 13 11 14; Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800; Suicide Call Back Service - 24/7 Helpline 1300 659 467. If you or someone you know requires immediate assistance, please call Emergency Services (000) or Lifeline (13 11 14).

Other Places you can access mental health help and resources:

Australia Wide:

Lifeline 13 11 14

Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636

Kids Help Line: 1800 55 1800 (this is for anyone between 13 and 25)

MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78 (for men of any age)

QLD

MH Health: 1300 642255

NSW

Mental Health Line: 1800 011 511

VIC

Suicide Help Line: 1300 651 251

WA

Mental Health Emergency Response Line: 1800 676 822

SA

Mental Health Assessment and Crisis Intervention Service: 13 14 65

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Welcome back! This week we get to hear what it’s like to work for one of the biggest production studios in the world, and how it would be so good if ruminating wasn’t a thing.

Annaleese is a gem. She has done extremely well under pressure and become a sparkling, determined, multi-talented creative professional. As well as an excellent brunch companion. She has a lot of practical tips for anyone considering making a big move to further their career, and her observations on working in the film industry are excellent. Go find her on Instagram and tell her what a kick-ass human she is!

We recorded this episode last year, so the Charmed reboot has already aired! Have you seen it? Did you like it?

Keep well,

-Paula

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The union Annaleese mentions is IATSE Local 891

Something that we discussed was very important to do before you came over is to know the job you want to do before you book your flight, do your research and find out the skills you need for the role, and out what union you want to be part of. Do all of this BEFORE you arrive.

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Ruminating about stuff at work and how not to: look, there is no short answer or quick fix to this one. In order to stop ourselves ruminating, we kinda need to rewire our brains to a certain extent.

You can read a bit about rumination and tips on stopping in this article which sounds a lot like the info I looked up on the APA website. This one is a little more in-depth and also quite good.

As a ruminator myself, this is something which I’ve given a lot of thought to (a bad joke, yes. But it still had to be made).

Very recently, I finally downloaded the Headpsace app. I’ve tried meditation before and was a bit meh about it, but I do think that in the three weeks I’ve been using it, it has helped. The $91.99 annual payment (which isn’t an insignificant amount for me) came out of my account this morning, and it’s worth it for me. This isn’t an ad, btw. I just do find the app has been quite helpful in training me to note things and manage my thoughts in a healthier way. (Though if anyone out there has the power to get Headspace to sponsor an ep, do it!)

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Welcome back! It has been a while, and I do apologise for the delay. Life has been a bit rough and frantic on my end, and so it’s taken me a lot longer than I thought to get this baby going again. Thank you all for your patience.

This week we talk about the painful side of achieving things. We all know how glossy achievement looks on Instagram and how effortless it can appear. But what about when you’re in the midst of doing the thing and it just sucks? Why does the process not feel like achieving at all?

Zane is many things; designer, actor, podcaster, possibly Yoda’s alter ego, and a genuinely lovely human being. He is also highly accomplished, and has a way of steadily progressing which is pretty awesome. Talking to him always helps me, so if you’re feeling the pressure of the grind, I hope this helps you.

Keep well,

-Paula

P.S. There are a few background noises towards the end of this one. This was a spur-of-the moment thing, and TNC HQ is always busy.

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Zane talks about how the podcast takes up more time than a full-time job on a good day, and I wanted to chime in with a fun fact! I put about 5-6 hours into each episode before it is delivered to your ears. Hooray for useless trivia!

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There IS a not to secret feud between dentists and the rest of the doctoring world! Apparently, it may have come down to the University of Maryland giving the middle finger to two dentists wanting to add dentistry to the medical courses at the uni in 1840. Here’s a fun article from The Atlantic about it.

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The Fig Tree Quote: “I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.”

― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

(After this, the narrator eats something and feels better. Which kinda goes to show that in the midst of an existential crisis, perhaps the best thing to do is attend to our mundane basic needs.)

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It doesn’t feel like we ever have enough time. And to a certain extent, how can we? When the whole wide world and all of the treausres of existence are laid before us, how can we possibly fit all of them into one human life? We can’t. Here’s an article by Psychology Today about prioritising so...

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It’s the season finale! Here are some chuckles and extra bits that I couldn’t leave in the episodes, but wanted you to have anyway. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

We will be back with Season 2 on Wednesday January 29th, 2020!

Until then, you can get in touch by emailing [email protected] or hanging out with me on Instagram (we’re stumblethroughpod) or our Facebook page. Tell me the things you want to know about being an adult, or what you want an episode on. It would mean the world if you could leave a review; it talks to the algorithm so other people can find us, plus it puts a big silly grin on my face. Can’t wait to chat to you again in the new year!

Keep well,

Paula

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