Successful Women Think Differently

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Having a vision and a goal is great, but there’s one thing that will help you get to the next level faster and you probably have never heard of it.

It’s called a personal growth action plan. 

Oftentimes, we think that the reason it's taking a long time to reach our goals is because we're not taking the right steps. 

But it's really much bigger than just knowing what steps to take. What is even more important is understanding what’s stopping you from taking those steps.

Do you know what the growth gap is that is keeping you from moving forward and keeping you stuck? (If you don’t, go check out Episode 34!)

This is often where our fears, habits, distractions, sometimes circumstances can block us from growing even when we know exactly what to do. 

Discover the personal growth action plan framework and how to use it to reach your goals in 2024. 

In This Episode:

- Why we can’t move forward even though we know what steps to take

- Identifying your growth gaps

- How to close your growth gaps

- Experimenting with new action to close your growth gaps

- How to leverage “positive peer pressure” to get better results

- Big changes for the Successful Women Think Differently Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

Explore how SWA can be your guide in creating and sustaining your personal growth action plan. Visit ValorieBurton.com for details.

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

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If you’re heading into the new year wanting to set goals but you just don’t want it to be another year of goals you didn’t complete. Another year of setting up the same goals for yourself.

Well, this is the episode for you.

Setting goals can often be easy enough. We know we need to set up SMART goals, and small goals, and even sub-goals…Everyone talks about it.

But so often, we still end up missing the mark. Why?

A sneaky little thing called growth gaps. The way YOU need to grow in order to go where you want to go.

Learn what you need to do to ensure 2024 is the year you address those gaps on this episode of the Successful Women Think Differently podcast.

In This Episode:

- What is a growth gap?

- Is fear holding you back?

- Bad habits, missing habits, inconsistent habits

- Are you distracted?

- Is this the right time?

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/

Website - https://valorieburton.com/

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In an ideal world, we’d all admit we need help and get coaching to work on improving ourselves.

But that takes two things:

1. Admitting it - which is possibly what you’ve already done by being here

2. A coach - which you may not have or be able to afford yet

So, while we wait for everything to work together for your good and for you to eventually have a coach, what else can we do to make sure we’re moving forward?

Well, we can self-coach. Self-coaching is something we should do whether we have an external coach or not, but all the more so if we don’t.

Life is hard, and we face various challenges that we don’t often know how to navigate. We can get overwhelmed by decisions or indecision and we can get stuck in our minds.

But being your own coach is like having a toolkit to navigate these challenges that come your way. It requires pausing, reflecting, and coming up with not just the answers but the process of getting to the answers.

Find out what key questions you should be asking yourself during your next self-coaching session. And for some FREE external coaching in the new year, check out: https://valorieburton.com/visionboardchallenge2024 

In This Episode:

- Self-coaching - The basic framework to find answers for yourself

- Identifying the problem

- What’s the vision? What do you want?

- Identify fears, habits and distractions

- Key coaching questions to ask yourself

- What to do when you don’t know what to do

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

Being an overachiever is dangerous.

Overachievers often feel the need to constantly prove themselves through accomplishments, and tend to burnout because they’re never satisfied with how far they’ve come.

We can tend to think that being an overachiever is a good thing but realistically, it’s unsustainable.

Instead, we should aim to be high achievers who focus on intrinsic motivation and personal growth.

This episode is going to help you distinguish several indicators of overachievement and the key attributes in high achievers that allow for sustainability in success.

Tune in to shift toward the growth mindset of a high achiever and away from the dangers of burning out from overachieving and never finding contentment.

In This Episode:

- Overachievers tend to overcompensate

- Fixed mindset vs growth mindset

- Overachievers are prone to upward social comparison

- Primary motivations of overachievers vs high achievers

- High achiever qualities

Resources Mentioned:

Happiness: Lessons from a New Science by Richard Layard https://a.co/d/ary9qvb 

Personal Growth Plan https://go.valorieburton.com/swa58441289 

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

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Today, we're talking about how to stop those unhelpful upward social comparisons that can steal your joy.

We've all been there - you see someone doing something better than you and suddenly you feel discontent because you’re not there yet, or guilty because you know you should be happy for them but you’re really just jealous.

Don’t worry, it’s natural.

But because successful women think differently, we must notice these thoughts and re-shift them to better serve us.

How?

Decrease exposure, focus on your growth, and compare yourself to your past and future self - not others. (Tune in to unpack what this looks like practically.)

You have so much to offer, and focusing on others’ highlight reels and comparing them to your reality is only going to distract you from your bigger purpose.

In This Episode:

- What are upward social comparisons?

- What’s the message in it for you?

- Why we compare

- Positively comparing upwardly for inspiration

- What to do when you over-compare

- Downward comparison - who can you help?

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

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If you’ve ever listened to this show, you’ll likely know that the topics and themes discussed here highly revolve around positive emotion.

That’s because positive emotion is a success strategy. It’s been proven to make us more creative, make better decisions, persevere more, and improve and strengthen the bonds of our relationships.

Which is why, naturally, the focus of this episode is gratitude. Because gratitude is a surefire way to cultivate these positive emotions.

Today, Valorie is talking about creating a Gratitude Letter. It’s exactly what it sounds like, but it’s so powerful that you won’t want to miss the specifics of what to include. Listen in to prepare yourself for a super thankful Thanksgiving. 

In This Episode:

- What is gratitude?

- Taking things for granted

- Writing a Gratitude Letter

- How to make a gratitude letter the most impactful

Resources Mentioned:

Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier by Robert Emmons https://a.co/d/azARwzA 

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

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Whether you have a mentor or not, this episode is going to prepare you for asking the right questions to help you avoid making big mistakes and to lead you in the right direction on your journey.

As you know, at this point in the world’s timeline, chances are whatever you want to accomplish, someone else has already done. (Or at least similarly)

So, when there are people who have created a business like the one you want to create, or people who have relationships like the one you hope to build, or people who simply have just ‘been there, done that’ on your fill-in-the-blank desires, why try to recreate the wheel?

Instead, put these 5 questions in your back pocket and be ready to use them when you do encounter those people, and you’ll find that you can even speed up your success when you tune in to the wisdom of those individuals.

In This Episode:

- What’s the best decision you've ever made?

- What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made? (And Why)

- What do you wish you knew when you started?

- What do you do in the face of setbacks?

- What advice do you have for me?

Resources Mentioned:

Successful Women Think Differently, Chapter: Don’t Go it Alone - https://a.co/d/8MM0RYY 

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

🛑 Check out Valorie’s upcoming Coach Training Intensive - December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑

We have all felt the crushing weight of the What-Ifs that tell us something negative is bound to happen. What if we fail? What if they think I’m a fraud? What if ____? Fill in the blank.

We do it as business owners, as dreamers, and we do it OFTEN.

But what if there was a way you could stop getting stuck by your what-if questions?

In this episode, Valorie discusses how "What-If" questions often get us stuck by activating our core fears of failure, success, rejection, and uncertainty.

But get ready because her simple 3 question process for answering this looming question is going to help you overcome those fears and move you into possibility.

In This Episode:

1. What are you afraid of?

2. What if that DID happen?

3. How would I overcome it?

What if it DID work out?

Resources Mentioned:

Brave Enough to Succeed - https://a.co/d/gYxXcbA 

Take this 4 Core Fears assessment to identify your core fear!

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton

Take this 4 Core Fears assessment to identify your core fear!

🛑 Check out Valorie’s upcoming Coach Training Intensive - December 2nd - 4th, 2023! https://cappinstitute.com/coaching-programs/coach-training-intensive/ 🛑

Today, we're diving deep to uncover what may be holding you back from your boldest dreams.

Without this awareness, you could seriously be limiting your own growth.

Identifying your core fears is the first step to breaking free from patterns of getting stuck.

In this episode, Valorie outlines the four most common core fears:

- Rejection - Fear of disapproval, concern about what others will say about us

- Failure - Doing what’s necessary to avoid failing includes not trying

- Success - Fear that if you succeed, it’s going to be a fluke (imposter syndrome, anyone?)

- Uncertainty - Not knowing all the details could keep you right where you are

Which one sounds most familiar? 

Is it all of them? 

To be fair, it’s not impossible to resonate with all of them at some point or another, but chances are, one of them gets you stuck most often. 

So, which one of these sticks out to you?

Can you recognize areas in your life where these fears are making you stuck?

Tune in for tips on overcoming these mental barriers.

In This Episode:

- Awareness is the first step

- Fear of disapproval

- Fear of failure

- Fear of success

- Fear of uncertainty

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here - https://valorieburton.com/books/ 

Website - https://valorieburton.com/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/  

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/  

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton 

Are you feeling stuck and unsure of your next steps? In this episode, Valorie shares some of her most powerful coaching questions that can help you get unstuck and see things in a new light.

Whether you're dealing with a challenge at work, a dilemma in your personal life, or just need a fresh perspective, these questions will help you tap into your own wisdom and see opportunities you might otherwise miss.

You'll learn:

- Why focusing on answers can sometimes keep us stuck, while questions lead to new insights

- Valorie's favorite question: "What do you want?" and how reframing around your vision pulls you out of frustration

- How to use "What's the opportunity in this challenge?" to find growth even in difficult situations

And more...

Listen in to get these impactful questions that Valorie has used to help countless people overcome obstacles. Then try them out yourself - you'll be surprised at what new perspectives and possibilities emerge when you look within for the answers.

Want more coaching like this?

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In This Episode:

Coaching questions to get unstuck

- What do you want?

- What’s the vision?

- How do you want to show up in this situation?

- What’s the opportunity?

Check out the upcoming Coach Training Intensive - https://cappinstitute.com/

Connect with Valorie Burton:

Check out all of Valorie's books here- https://valorieburton.com/books/

Website - https://valorieburton.com/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/valorieburton/

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/valorieburton/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/valorieburton/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@valorieburton