Suddenly Spiritual

Are you completely overwhelmed by the noise of the people around you trying to “sell” you healing? Have you been disappointed by false promises made by healers who said they could cure you of this ailment or that karmic pattern?  Hopefully, you will find solace and peace in these truths, and they may get you out of the latest rabbit hole you find yourself in.

Many healers will create dual relationships with their clients, a slippery slope where many boundaries tend to get crossed.If your emotional or physical boundaries are crossed, you must be clear and let the healer know as quickly as possible.In most cases, these boundary crossings are more aligned with co-dependent healers, where the healer makes you feel special and that you need to take care of them. 

Like in psychotherapy and regaining physical fitness, you feel worse before you feel better. Detoxing is real, and a die-off of old patterning is not comfortable.If your inexperienced healer is not helping you, please look for someone with more experience who can help you. If you feel consistently drained or odd after sessions with a particular healer, it may be time to step away from them.

Healing is a process, and though shifts can be very fast, issues that you’ve had for forty years will likely not be healed within the span of a single sixty-minute session. Authentic healers understand that healing is gradual and cannot always promise instantaneous miraculous outcomes. There are many healers out there who are working with some narcissistic personality dynamics. Many of these healers overshare how amazing they are and great their lives are. And after the oversharing comes the overexposing. 

The spiritual realm demands our utmost respect and caution. It's a domain where light and dark forces intermingle, requiring discernment and integrity from those who navigate its depths. Unfortunately, the healing community is not immune to deception. There are individuals who, fully aware of their alignment with darker forces, masquerade as beings of light. Conversely, some believe they serve the light but unwittingly channel darker energies due to inadequate knowledge or experience. 

Intuition is a deeper, more intrinsic form of knowledge that often comes without the backing of logical proof. It’s that sudden insight or understanding that arrives without a clear explanation of how or why. Intuition happens swiftly, bypassing the slower, more deliberate process of logical deduction. Intuition is regularly discounted because it is viewed as illogical, primarily because it lacks tangible evidence. Its presence and how it manifests can vary wildly from person to person and situation to situation. What can happen if you ignore it?

Intuition is a powerful and profound ability that goes much deeper than the stereotypical images of psychics with crystal balls and neon signs advertising palm readings. You possess intuition and have an innate capacity for intuitive insight that's just waiting to be awakened and nurtured. Forget what you've been told about intuition—or the lack thereof—by parents, teachers or colleagues. Intuition is a gift that belongs to everyone. It can be developed through dedication and practice. The key is not to look at others and measure ourselves against them but to recognize our own unique potential and embark on a personal journey of discovery and growth.  

At its core, intuition is a form of understanding, knowledge, or judgment that arrives not through the conscious mind's analytical processes but through an inner sense of knowing. It’s that sudden insight or understanding that arrives without a clear explanation of how or why. Intuition happens swiftly. 

Sometimes, being an empath can feel like it's draining the life out of you. But guess what? It doesn't have to be that way.Too often, empaths use their empathic nature as an excuse for their lack of boundaries and co-dependence in personal and professional spheres. If you find yourself using being an empath as a crutch to avoid establishing boundaries, it's time for brutal honesty.

The inability to establish boundaries often stems from childhood experiences and, in many cases, past trauma. Repeating the mantra "But I can't help it, I just feel everything!" won't serve you, and it's not truthful.

Spiritual Bypassing

The “Good Vibes Only” road will likely get you to “Despair Ahead Inevitable.” Toxic positivity is chaotic and appeals to many. Love and light all-day-every-day is not a thing. Yet, many spiritual influencers and healers have amassed a rabid following around this axiom.

Aspirational Spirituality

Despite proclamations of unity and equality in the spiritual community, a hierarchy of holiness exists. This spiritual elitism, whether through self-proclaimed shamans or those claiming exclusive divine lineages, undermines the collective journey toward enlightenment. It is more of the same old paradigm wrapped in prettier marketing paper.

Two thousand-plus years ago, we had Oracles, Seers, and Temple Priestesses. You’d be hard-pressed to find any Oracles wondering how they would make rent this month. Nor did your friendly local Temple Priestess of Athena have to wonder where her next meal would come from. These skilled healers and teachers would be financially taken care of by their community, just like the butcher and baker of the town. If you believe that those working in the spiritual realm should not be financially compensated for their services, think about this. Doctors are healers, too. Would you expect them to give you their care for free?

In the swirling vortex (or cesspool, depending on who you speak to) of spirituality and self-improvement, a new trend has emerged, one that mixes dubious ancient wisdom with modern marketing plus the lure of an unrealistic, aspirational lifestyle to create something that feels egregious to those who quietly do spiritual work to better themselves and the human collective.