The Leftover Pieces: Suicide Loss Conversations

Suicide Bereavement: Future Planning Without Panic—One-Inch Plans


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You don’t need a five-year plan; one clear next action can steady the day in life after suicide loss. 

Journal prompt:  “When I picture myself exhaling tomorrow, the action that gets me there is…” 

What we mean by a “one-inch plan” (so we’re clear):
A one-inch plan is small, specific, and scheduled—just enough structure to steady tomorrow without overwhelming today. Examples:

  • Admin inch: “Print the form and put it by the door at 7:30 a.m.”
  • Body inch: “Walk to the mailbox at 3:00 p.m., phone off.”
  • Connection inch: “Text Sam at noon: ‘Thinking of you—no need to respond.’”
    Keep it to one action, one support, one time. If it takes more than 10 minutes to explain, it’s not one inch.

A Flicker (Hope) — Clarity calms
A single next action can quiet the swirl. Keep that quiet.

To Rebuild (Healing) — The 1-1-1 plan
1 task: one thing you’ll finish tomorrow.
1 support: one person/tool that helps.
1 time: a start time on your calendar (even 10 minutes).

Take a Step (Becoming) — Prep a breadcrumb
Lay out one item you’ll need (document, clothes, water bottle) where you’ll see it. Future-you will thank you.

Choose-your-energy menu:

  • Hollow (low): Hollow — Write your 1-1-1 in notes. Stop there.
  • Healing (medium): Healing — Put the start time on your calendar and set one reminder.
  • Becoming (higher): Becoming — Add 1-1-1 blocks for the next three days.

Food for Thought Today:
Panic feeds on vagueness. One clear inch is often enough to move—then you plan the next inch from a steadier place. Progress, not pressure.

Exhale. Keep what serves you; leave the rest. I’ll be here again tomorrow. 💜

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