The Leftover Pieces: Suicide Loss Conversations

The Leftover Pieces: Suicide Loss Conversations

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  • Ten Years After Losing My Son to Suicide: Life Changes Shape Again

    Ten years and two months after losing Alex, life has changed shape again.

    Ten years after Alex died, I’m beginning to recognize just how much life has grown around the devastation of suicide loss. An unexpected return to my career as a chef has me thinking about identity after grief, integration, rebuilding, and what it means to reclaim parts of ourselves without going backward. 

    Today, I share why I took a 'pause' on the podcast for a few weeks, what it has meant to unexpectedly return to my career as a chef after more than a decade, and why this transition feels less like going backward and more like reclaiming a part of myself in a completely different form.

    We talk about the long landscape of grief: surviving, finding hope, tending trauma, learning to carry loss, evolving, integrating, and eventually discovering that new growth can appear in places that once felt completely barren.

    This episode is also about the “and” of grief:

    You can still miss your child deeply and build a meaningful life.

    You can feel fulfilled by helping others and realize you need something that feeds you too.

    You can return to an old part of yourself and know that you are no longer the same person.

    You can be grateful for who you have become and still know you would trade every lesson to have your child back.

    If you are early in grief, you do not need to know who you will become.

    If you are years into this and wondering why life keeps changing, you are not doing anything wrong.

    Sometimes the roots are growing long before we can see what is coming next.

    In this episode:

    • what ten years and two months after suicide loss looks like for me
    • why this unexpected career transition feels deeply connected to grief and integration
    • returning to an old identity without going backward
    • why rebuilding does not mean recreating the life you had before
    • the importance of making room for parts of yourself outside of grief
    • the duality of growth after devastating loss
    • what it means to let life expand without leaving your child behind

    And as always, fellow grieving soul-- take what serves you and leave the rest. -

    XO - Melissa

    The Leftover Pieces: Suicide Loss Conversations
    Support, community, and resources for life after suicide loss.

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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    26 min
  • No Speeches, No Platitudes: What to Say After Suicide Loss with Shelby Forsythia

    Words matter.

    After suicide loss, the things people say—or do not say—can either soften the loneliness or deepen the pain. Grievers are often met with platitudes, awkward silence, spiritual bypassing, invasive questions, or comments that unintentionally place blame where love and compassion are needed most.

    In this episode of The Leftover Pieces: Suicide Loss Conversations, Melissa welcomes Shelby Forsythia back to the podcast for a full-circle conversation about grief, language, and what it really means to show up for someone who is grieving. What do grieving moms who have lost a child to suicide hear most frequently and how can we respond?

    Shelby is an author, grief coach, and longtime podcaster (current podcast, Grief Grower) whose work has supported thousands of grievers. Her earlier books, Permission to Grieve and Your Grief, Your Way, have been meaningful resources for many people navigating life after loss. Her newest book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now: 3 Actually Helpful Things to Say to Someone Grieving, offers practical, compassionate language for the people who want to support a grieving person but often freeze because they do not know what to say.

    Melissa also shares the personal full-circle connection between Shelby’s early podcast, Coming Back, and the beginning of The Leftover Pieces. In the early years after Alex died, when reading felt impossible and survival felt overwhelming, Shelby’s voice was one of the first grief voices that helped Melissa feel less alone. That support became part of the inspiration for creating the suicide-loss and grieving-motherhood podcast she could not find.

    Together, Melissa and Shelby explore why common grief comments often hurt, even when they are well intended, and what supporters can say instead.

    This conversation focuses especially on grieving mothers after suicide loss and the complicated, painful things they may hear, including:

    “You're so strong. I could never survive losing my child.”

    “Did you know?”

    “At least you have other children.”

    “Suicide is selfish. You must be so  (mad/ashamed, etc)?”

    “They chose this.”

    “Are you sure it was suicide. They were so loved and had so much to live for?”

    “How did it happen?”

    “Can you help me prevent suicide in someone I love?”

    Melissa and Shelby talk about the hidden messages underneath these questions and comments, the trauma responses they can activate, and why suicide loss survivors should not be expected to educate, reassure, or comfort everyone else while they are grieving.

    At the heart of this discussion are the three core fears Shelby addresses in her book: the fear that a griever is crazy, the fear that they are alone, and the fear that it will feel this way forever. Against those fears, simple grounded presence can matter more than any polished speech.

    This episode is for grieving mothers, suicide loss survivors, and the people who love them. It is also for friends, family members, coworkers, faith communities, and support people who want to do better but are afraid of saying the wrong thing.

    You do not need perfect words.

    You do need love, compassion, presence, and a little common sense.

    In This Episode

    Melissa and Shelby discuss:

    • Why words matter so much after suicide loss
    • How suicide-safe language helps reduce harm
    • Why platitudes often make grievers feel more alone
    • What grieving mothers may hear underneath well-intended comments
    • Why “I could never survive that” and “you’re so strong” can feel painful
    • The harm of asking invasive questions about how someone died
    • Why “did you know?” can activate guilt, blame, and hindsight
    • Why silence and avoidance can hurt more than imperfect words
    • How supporters can show up without fixing, minimizing, or disappearing
    • Shelby’s three actually helpful things to say to someone grieving
    • How grievers can prepare simple responses before painful comments catch them off guard
    Links + Resources

    Shelby Forsythia’s website: VISIT HERE

    Shelby’s book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now: FIND IT HERE

    Shelby’s media kit: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/media-kit

    Link to Shelby's Of Course I'm Here Right Now 10 minute talk on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YU3Yg1ON2Ik

    Shelby’s podcast / Grief Grower: LISTEN HERE

    Permission to Grieve by Shelby Forsythia: GET IT HERE

    Your Grief, Your Way by Shelby Forsythia: GET IT HERE

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    🎙 Leave me a message: Share a question, your story, or your person’s name for a future episode → theleftoverpieces.com/voicemail


    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    58 min
  • Grief in Everyday Life: When Child Loss Shows Up in Ordinary Moments

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    Long-term grief after child loss does not only show up on birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, or the obviously hard days. Sometimes grief appears in the middle of ordinary life — in a song, a smell, a number, a place, a memory, a show, a laugh, or a moment no one else would understand.

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa reflects on how child loss continues to live beside us in everyday moments. Not always as a breakdown. Sometimes as memory, connection, love, longing, nervous system activation, or an invitation to pause and notice.

    This conversation is especially for grieving mothers learning how to live with long-term grief after child loss and suicide loss — the kind of grief that becomes woven into daily life even as we continue rebuilding, loving, laughing, working, parenting, creating, and carrying our children forward.

    In this episode, Melissa talks about:

    • why ordinary life often holds unexpected grief moments
    • how long-term grief becomes woven into daily life
    • why being caught off guard by grief does not mean you are going backward
    • the difference between grief as activation and grief as connection
    • how everyday moments can become part of continuing love and legacy
    • why living forward means life grows large enough to hold grief
    • how to stay with yourself when grief shows up unexpectedly

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    Where does grief show up in your ordinary life? Is there a song, smell, phrase, number, food, place, time of day, or everyday moment that unexpectedly brings your child close?

    You can also share what helps you stay with yourself when grief appears out of nowhere.

    Your reflection may help shape a future episode.

    And if this episode resonates with you, please follow the show, share it with another grieving person who may need it, and consider leaving a rating or review. It helps The Leftover Pieces reach more people who are learning how to live after loss.

    Leave me a voicemail here: 🎙 Leave me a message

    Your reflection may help shape a future episode.


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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    37 min
  • When You Don’t Trust Yourself Anymore: Guilt and Motherhood After Child Loss

    After child loss by suicide, many grieving mothers do not only miss their child — they also stop trusting themselves.

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa explores one of the most under-talked-about parts of long-term grief after the loss of a child by suicide: the collapse of self-trust.

    This is not only about early grief guilt. This episode looks at what can happen later, when guilt becomes woven into identity, motherhood, self-worth, and the way a grieving mother sees herself.

    In this episode, Melissa talks about:

    • why suicide loss can make mothers question everything they thought they knew
    • how guilt can quietly become part of long-term grief
    • why “guilt is not the same thing as truth”
    • how suicide loss can filter a lifetime of love through the worst day
    • the difference between responsibility and control
    • why not being able to save your child does not mean you were not a good mother
    • how self-trust, self-worth, and motherhood become tangled after child loss
    • why the nervous system has to learn safety again
    • what it can look like to begin trusting yourself in small, honest ways
    • why rebuilding self-trust does not mean forgetting what happened

    This episode is part of the larger Down the Rabbit Hole conversation about what happens after survival — when grief changes shape, identity feels unfamiliar, and grieving mothers begin asking deeper “now what?” questions.

    Free Support Spaces Mentioned

    • You Are Not Alone — free monthly support space for grieving mothers navigating child loss and suicide loss: REGISTER HERE
    • The Bridge Sessions: Inside The Rebuilding Room — free monthly guided rebuilding space for mothers asking deeper questions about identity, self-trust, and living forward after loss: REGISTER HERE

    If this episode resonates with you, please follow the show, share it with another grieving mother who may need it, and consider leaving a rating or review. 

    It helps The Leftover Pieces reach more grieving people who are learning how to live after loss.


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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    35 min
  • Legacy After Child Loss by Suicide: What Alex Taught Me About Carrying Love Forward

    After child loss by suicide, legacy can become a bridge from survival into connection, meaning, and carrying love forward.

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa reads her chapter from Because They Lived: Memories & Stories of Amazing Kids Lost to Suicide - As Told by the Moms They Left Behind --Volume 7, The chapter is titled “The Seventh Thread: What Alex Taught Me About Legacy.”

    This episode is part reflection, part chapter reading, and part invitation to think differently about legacy after loss. What began as a project to help mothers preserve their children’s stories slowly became something deeper: a way to continue relationship, carry love forward, and begin rebuilding after survival.

    In this episode, Melissa reflects on:

    • why the number 7 became meaningful after Alex’s death
    • how The Legacy Project began as a way to remember children
    • why legacy is about more than preserving memories
    • how story, writing, and connection can become a bridge after child loss
    • what seven volumes and twenty-one children have taught her about love
    • why legacy does not have to look public, polished, or like anyone else’s path
    • how each grieving mother may discover her own bridge forward

    Melissa also shares why Volume 7 feels like the natural completion of this version of The Legacy Project, while still leaving room for future story, legacy, and publishing support in other forms.

    Because They Lived: Volume 7   is not only Alex’s story. It is also the story of the mothers and children who walked through this final Legacy Project volume with me — Suzanne for Skyler, Roe for Molly, Lou for Liam and Kim for Carson— each one honored with tenderness, courage, and love. In fact, across all 7 volumes, twenty-one children and twenty-one mothers have now been represented in these pages, creating a collective legacy of lives remembered fully, names spoken with love, and stories carried forward. Take a look at the Amazon link below OR if you do not wish to own the books, you can always email melissa directly for a free link to the eBook - while these books are priced very close to publishing costs, Melissa never wants anything to stand in the way of others reading these stories, saying their names... [email protected]

    Resources Mentioned

    • Read Because They Lived: Volume 7 on Amazon: AMAZON BOOK LINK
    • View all of Melissa’s books (Inc. Vol 1-6 of the Legacy project) on Amazon: AMAZON AUTHOR PAGE LINK
    • Story, legacy, and publishing support: WORK WITH ME LINK
    • You Are Not Alone Moms Support — Always FREE monthly support space for grieving mothers: REGISTER HERE
    • The Bridge Sessions: Inside The Rebuilding Room — Always FREE monthly guided rebuilding space for grieving mothers: REGISTER HERE

    If this episode resonates with you, please follow the show, share it with another grieving mother who may need it, and consider leaving a rating or review. 

    It helps The Leftover Pieces reach more grieving people who are learning how to live after loss. Thank you so very much -- Melissa


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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    47 min
  • I Survived, But I Don’t Know Who I Am: Identity After the Loss of a Child by Suicide

    What happens when you survive the earliest years of grief, but no longer recognize yourself?

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa explores the identity crisis many grieving mothers face after the loss of a child by suicide — especially once the earliest survival years begin to shift and the deeper “now what?” questions rise.

    This episode explores:

    • why survival takes so much emotional, physical, and nervous system energy
    • why identity may not be accessible in early grief
    • the painful realization that the old life and old self do not simply return
    • why functioning is not the same as feeling whole
    • how child loss changes the shape of motherhood
    • why suicide loss can deeply damage self-trust
    • the grief of the “before me” and the “after me”
    • why long-term grief can feel so lonely
    • why rebuilding identity is not a betrayal of your child
    • gentle reflection questions for beginning to ask, “Who am I now?”

    If you are a grieving mother in the earlier survival space, you are welcome in You Are Not Alone, my free monthly online support space for mothers navigating child loss and suicide loss.

    FREE RESOURCES for MOMS:

    If you are beginning to ask deeper questions like “Who am I now?” or “What happens after survival?” I invite you to join The Bridge Sessions: Inside The Rebuilding Room, my free monthly guided gathering for grieving mothers learning how to live forward after loss.

    Links to both free spaces are below:

     The Bridge Sessions; Inside the Rebuilding Room- Register Here 

     You Are Not Alone; Support Group - Register Here 

    If this episode resonated with you, please follow the show, share it with another grieving mother who may need it, and consider leaving a rating or review. It helps The Leftover Pieces reach more grieving people who are learning how to live after loss.

    Thank you - Talk Soon - Melissa

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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    22 min
  • Grief on Screen: What TV and Movies Reveal About Child Loss and Long-Term Grief

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    Sometimes fictional grief stories give us just enough distance to see our own grief more clearly. It can hold up a mirror of sorts.

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa reflects on several recent shows and films that portray different layers of grief, loss, family systems, unanswered questions, and what it means to live with grief over time.

    This is not a traditional review episode. Instead, it is a conversation about what grief stories can show us — especially when they touch something honest about survival, long-term grief, suicide loss, child loss, and the slow work of learning how to live forward.

    In this episode, Melissa discusses:

    • The Madison and the raw, disorienting reality of early grief
    • The Bear and the way suicide loss can ripple through a family system over time
    • Remarkably Bright Creatures and the ache of unanswered questions, long-term grief, isolation, and the complicated search for meaning
    • Why grief does not look the same in the survival years as it does years later
    • How stories can help grieving mothers feel seen without needing everything to be perfectly resolved
    • Why living forward does not mean grief disappears

    At the time of this recording, The Bear is streaming on Hulu, The Madison is streaming on Paramount+, and Remarkably Bright Creatures is streaming on Netflix. Remarkably Bright Creatures is a film based on the book of the same name.

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    I’d also love to hear from you.

    If this episode brings something up for you, you can leave me a voicemail or send me an email and share:

    • What show, movie, or book has helped you feel seen in your grief?
    • What part of long-term grief do you wish more stories showed honestly?
    • What is one thing about life after loss that nobody warned you about?

    Your reflections may help shape future Down the Rabbit Hole episodes this season.

    🎙 Leave me a message: Share a question, your story, or your person’s name for a future episode → theleftoverpieces.com/voicemail

    Email me at: [email protected]

    If this episode resonated with you, please share it with another grieving mother who may need these words too. Also, please follow, rate and review if you can -- thank you so much! 

    Related Past Episodes

    If you’re looking for more grief-related shows, movies, books, or resources I’ve talked about in past episodes, you may also want to listen to:

    • Season 5 Ep 15 May 2024 -- Movies, Shows & Books, Oh My; What to Watch ...Or No 
    • Season 4 Ep 8 Sept. 2022 --Movies, Series & Documentaries; About Suicide Loss & Grief
    • Season 4 Ep 28 May 2023 --What to Watch (or Not); When Grief Insomnia Hits
    • Season 2 Ep 17 Oct. 2021 -- To Watch or Not to Watch; Suicide as Subject Matter on Screen
    • Season 1 Ep 17 Jan. 2021 -- What Am I Watching (aka "Binging"); My Thoughts & Recommendations

    Talk Soon! - Melissa 

    P.S....  A gentle note: these reflections are my personal opinions only, not therapeutic recommendations or formal endorsements, so please use your own emotional awareness and care when choosing whether or when to watch anything discussed in this episode. 

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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    36 min
  • Identifying a Potential New Risk Factor for Youth Suicide | A Conversation with Paul D. Tieger

    In this brief but so important Bonus "Mini-sode", Melissa sits down with internationally recognized personality expert and author Paul D. Tieger to discuss groundbreaking new research exploring a possible connection between inborn personality type and increased suicide risk in young people.

    Take the Survey: CLICK HERE TO TAKE SURVEY

    This first-of-its-kind study is seeking participation specifically from parents who have lost a child to suicide. The goal is to better understand whether certain personality patterns may correlate with increased vulnerability — information that could help shape future suicide prevention efforts, education, and intervention strategies.

    Melissa also shares why she chose to support this research, how she helped review the survey language to ensure it was suicide-safe and sensitive for grieving families, and why compassionate, prevention-focused conversations matter.

    The survey:
    💜 Takes less than 5 minutes
    💜 Is completely anonymous
    💜 Was created with sensitivity toward suicide loss survivors in mind

    If you are a parent who has lost a child to suicide and your child was at least 10 years old at the time of death and had not been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, your participation could help contribute to future prevention efforts and deeper understanding. If you are not a parent, please forward the survey to any suicide loss parents you know.

    Please note:
    While every effort has been made to keep the survey minimally activating, grief is deeply personal. If participation feels emotionally overwhelming, please prioritize your own wellbeing first.

    Take the Survey: CLICK HERE TO TAKE SURVEY

    Everyone should own this book in my humble opinion. 

    Find the book by Clicking: ReConnect by Paul D. Tieger, MS & Michael Shelby, LPC

    Questions About the Research?

    Contact Paul D. Tieger directly:
    [email protected]

    About Paul D. Tieger

    Paul D. Tieger, MS, is an internationally recognized expert in personality psychology and co-author of several groundbreaking books, including Nurture by Nature and the bestselling Do What You Are. His newest work, Reconnect: A Personalized Plan to Protect Your Child from Anxiety and Depression Fueled by Digital Addiction, explores how personality differences impact emotional wellbeing, relationships, and vulnerability in young people.

    Additional Support & Resources

    Melissa also has created a FREE Suicide-Safe Language Guide — created to help media professionals, researchers, advocates, and supporters speak about suicide more responsibly and compassionately.

    You can find and download that free resource (& others) here:
    Work With Melissa | Grief Coaching & Suicide Loss Speaker


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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    24 min
  • 20 Years After Suicide Loss: Tracy Oeser on Grief, Healing & Survival to Service

    In this deeply honest conversation about suicide loss and long-term grief, Melissa sits down with Tracy Oeser, MSPsy — suicide loss survivor, grief educator, bereavement coach, and founder of Journey Thru Grief.

    Nearly 20 years after the suicide loss of her daughter Chelsie, Tracy shares the reality of grieving a child to suicide, what healing actually looks like over time, and how survivors can learn to carry grief while rebuilding life after devastating loss.

    Together, Melissa and Tracy talk about:
    • The reality of long-term suicide grief
    • What changes — and what doesn’t — over decades of loss
    • The emotional phases survivors often experience
    • Why validation matters so deeply in grief
    • The difference between surviving and eventually integrating grief into life
    • Building support spaces rooted in lived experience
    • The importance of postvention work and honest conversations around suicide loss
    • Tracy’s upcoming Journey Thru Grief Conference and her vision for bringing survivors and professionals together in community

    This episode is a reminder that healing is not linear, grief does not have an expiration date, and no one should have to carry suicide loss alone.

    About Tracy:

    Tracy Oeser is the CEO of Postvention Collective, LLC and the CEO and Bereavement Coach of Journey Thru Grief, LLC. She is a passionate advocate for mental health support and by using her breakthrough concept of “The 4 Phases of Suicide Loss,” she fiercely tries to speak for those who have lost family and friends to suicide. Tracy hosts the podcast, “Journey Through Your Suicide Loss” and has been a guest speaker on many different platforms discussing how the suicidal loss of her child affected her. She holds both a BA and MS in Psychology concentrated in life coaching. Tracy is an award-winning author and has received leadership and innovation awards for her work in the postvention field. She serves as a current member of various suicide prevention organizations throughout the United States and is a past board member of the American Association of Suicidology.

    Connect with Tracy:
    Tracy's Website: - Journey Thru Grief

    Tracy's Podcast: Journey Through Your Suicide Loss Journey Through Your Suicide Loss | Podcast on Spotify

    Conference Info: Conference - Journey Thru Grief (Coupon Code: Melissa for $50 off thru June 15, 2026)

    Social Media: Tracy Oeser (@tracyoeser) • Instagram photos and videos

    If this episode resonated with you:
    Please share it with someone who may need it, leave a review, or simply say your loved one’s name today. You are not broken. You are grieving.

    Disclaimer:
    This podcast is intended for informational and peer-support purposes only and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

    or Join Melissa’s email list: https://theleftoverpieces.com/join

    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    1 hr 11 min
  • Survival, Hope, Healing… Then What?: Why Grief Changes Years After Child Loss by Suicide

    What (actually) happens after survival?

    In this episode of Down the Rabbit Hole, Melissa speaks honestly about the part of grief few people prepare grieving mothers for — the “now what?” space that often emerges years after child loss and suicide loss.

    After the shock fades, the anniversaries pass, and the world seems to move forward, many mothers quietly find themselves facing something deeper:
    identity loss,
    self-trust collapse,
    nervous system exhaustion,
    and the complicated reality of learning how to live with grief long term.

    This episode explores:
    💜 why grief changes shape over time
    💜 the difference between trauma and grief
    💜 the hidden collapse of self-trust after suicide loss
    💜 the later grief years no one talks about
    💜 rebuilding identity after child loss
    💜 nervous system healing and emotional survival
    💜 why “moving forward” does not mean leaving our children behind

    Melissa also shares part of her own story, including the wake-up call that came several years after Alex’s death when her body finally forced her to slow down and confront the deeper rebuilding work grief was asking of her.

    If you’ve ever found yourself wondering:
    “Why do I still feel lost?”
    “Why is this showing up differently now?”
    “Why does healing still feel unfinished?”

    …this episode is for you.

    Looking for support?

    Melissa now offers two FREE monthly spaces for grieving mothers:

    💜 You Are Not Alone
    A softer monthly (FREE) online support gathering for moms navigating child loss and suicide loss.

    🌉 The Bridge Sessions inside The Rebuilding Room
    A (FREE) 1 x per month guided rebuilding space for grieving mothers learning how to live forward after survival.

    ✨ Click Links Above to both spaces.

    Click to Send a Text or Voicemail to Melissa

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    Support After Suicide Loss

    If you are grieving after suicide loss, you do not have to carry this alone.

    Visit The Leftover Pieces for podcast episodes, grief support, resources, and ways to connect with Melissa’s work: https://theleftoverpieces.com 

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    If you someone you love is in immediate crisis or may be in danger, please call or text 988 in the United States. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line


    17 min

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