SW & LOVE

Our relationships are either a reflection of the oppressive society we already live in, or a reflection of the liberated society we dream up. Season 3 of A Stripper's Guide Podcast is all about relationships--the romantic kind. Highlights from this season include: a two-part special on infidelity, a deep-dive into dating as a sex worker, a live recording of a Breakup Coaching session where I coach a client through the aftermath of a toxic relationship, and some incredible guests, both new and old friends of the pod. Tune in every Monday!

Get your Stripper's Guide Toolkits here:

• A la carte Toolkits -- Boundaries Like a Stripper, Confidence, and Life After Cheating
• Toolkit Trio -- get all three Toolkits and save 25%!

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Cera Byer of Intuitive Edge Coaching joins me for a thorough exploration of infidelity. We talk about why people cheat and some signs to look for, but most of this episode is focused on survivors of infidelity, like us. Cheating can be physical, sure. But it can also be emotional, and even digital. If you've been cheated on, or feel like you've been cheated on, this episode's for you. Part 2 coming next Monday, January 24!

Life After Cheating
Need some support in your infidelity recovery? I created this Life After Cheating Toolkit just for you. Included in this offering: a self-growth activity book, a ritual, and a guided meditation.

• The other Toolkits in this series include: Boundaries Like a Stripperand Confidence
• Toolkit Trio -- get all three Toolkits and save 25%!

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Click here for A Stripper's Guide Blog & Podcast homepage

Sex workers around the globe are fighting for their rights, not only to work, but to live, free from fear and stigma.In this season finale episode, my very special guest, Ariela Moscowitz of Decriminalize Sex Work, breaks down the four different legal frameworks for sex work, and explains why Full Decriminalization is the only viable option.

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Leilah
Founder of A Stripper's Guide

Resources mentioned in this sode:

• Decriminalize Sex Work Website
• Sex Work vs. Trafficking infographics

Wanna hear about the time I made an ass of myself by joining a network marketing pyramid scheme and trying to sell fitness products to all my friends?! Tune in now!
White supremacy so often takes on the chilling disguise of "wellness" and "spirituality".  My guest this week, Tatum Fjerstad, and I (both white cis women) have each had experiences in abusive, white-dominated "wellness" communities. In this episode, we break down some of the ways we both were harmed by, and caused harm, in these environments, and ponder the lessons we learned about survivorship, equity, and liberation. 

• The open letter that Tatum wrote to Elena Brower can be found here.
• This episode pairs well with last week's episode, Whorephobia in Belly Dance & Pole Dance, which explores white supremacy in BIPOC dance forms. 

 
TIME JUSTICE IS HAPPENING THIS THURSDAY!

 Time Justice, my two-part time management workshop for creatives & scatterbrains, starts Thursday, December 2!

A STRIPPER'S GUIDE BLACK FRIDAY DEAL IS ONLY HERE FOR ONE MORE DAY! Sign up for my 2022 Goal Coaching intensive and get my Time Justice workshop for free!

Goal Coaching: a small, exclusive group coaching program for visionaries ready to take real-world action on your dreams. Starts January 2022.

"I'm a belly dancer, not a stripper!" Think again, bb.
Over the past half century, both belly dance and pole dance have become wildly popular industries. Now, the popularity of dances like twerk and dancehall are on the rise. The power in these industries concentrates in the hands of white women, rather than the cultural knowledge-holders of the dances in question. In this very special episode, I am joined by Tanesha, my colleague in erotic movement, to discuss racism and anti-sex worker stigma in belly dance, pole dance, and other forms of erotic dance.

Upcoming Stripper's Guide events:
Time Justice: a time management workshop for creatives & scatterbrains (Dec 2 & 16)
Goal Coaching: a small, exclusive group coaching program for visionaries ready to take real-world action on your dreams. Starts January 2022.
Black Friday deal alert! Sign up for my exclusive 2022 Goal Coaching program and receive my Time Justice Workshop for free!

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• Penelope's Locker: my pro-hoe merch shop
• Listen to my music

Resources:

• Against White Feminism (book by Rafia Zakaria)
• Decriminalize Sex Work (Sex worker rights organization)
• Ettachfini, Leila. “The Women Fighting Sexist, Racist Stereotypes Around ‘Belly Dancing.’” Vice News. 11 July 2017.
• “Whorephobia Affects All Women” (article by sex worker & activist Thierry Schaffauser)
• “Relationship Boundaries, Abude, and Internalized Whorephobia” by Tiffany Tempest
•  “Whorephobia Is a Real Word. Here’s What It Means and Why You Should Care.” by Kayla Kibbe 
•  Whorephobia definition
• “Sex Work, Stigma, and Whorephobia” by Matt Chase-Valentine
• “Whorephobia Harms All Women" 
• Whorephobic-- Urban Dictionary 
• “Is Belly Dance for Cis Het Women?” by Jeana Jorgensen 
• “The Philosophy of the Belly Dancer” by L.L. Wynn

You ever think about your finances and feel slightly sweaty, dizzy, or nauseous? Does the word "budget" send you into a tailspin, or cause you to immediately run for the hills?

Cera Byer, life coach and anti-capitalist business coach, joins the pod to talk about what it means to develop a magical (and even pleasurable!) relationship with money, no matter what your income level.

Wanna get involved with A Stripper's Guide? 
Here's how:

• Sign up for A Stripper's Guide newsletter
• Follow A Stripper's Guide on Instagram
• Penelope's Locker: my pro-hoe merch shop
• Listen to my music

Additionally, this episode is not sponsored by Money Witch, but we both adore her work and think you'll love her Budgeting Zine. 

Til next week!
xo,
Leilah/Penelope

#FemmesAreAllowed to feel erotically empowered. We don't owe anyone anything. Our erotic energy is ours. Sometimes it's sexual, but it's so much more than that. Join me and my incredible guest, pole dancer and AIDS activist Dey Phoenix. We discuss how both stripping and practicing magic have helped us each recognize and embrace our power as femmes, creators, community members, and helped us embody our values of anti-oppression.
Tangents include crusty vampires and an in-depth analysis for why Meg Thee Stallion, Cardi B, and Issa Rae should all come hang out with us.
Find Dey Phoenix on Instagram here and check out Impulse Group here!

Wanna get involved with A Stripper's Guide? Here's how:

• Sign up for A Stripper's Guide newsletter
• Read my writing for Boston Hassle
• Listen to my music
• Shop Penelope's Locker

Wanna work with me as your coach?
I provide life, leadership, and relationship coaching for queers, creatives, and sex workers, as well as feminist coaching for cis men. If you're interested in working together 1:1, click here.

Til next week!
xo,
Leilah/Penelope

CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses gender violence, partner abuse, and sexual assault. If these are difficult subjects for you, you may want to skip this one <3

#FemmesAreAllowed to survive. When I was 29, and in an abusive relationship, I got a tattoo for my abuser. When I was 32, I got it covered up. My guest on this episode, Lina Aquino, is the artist who did the coverup. Tune in to hear the story, and to learn more about why the world needs feminist, trauma-informed tattoo artists like Lina.

Check out Lina's work here, or find her on Instagram here. To see the coverup she did for me, click here.

Wanna get involved with A Stripper's Guide? Join my free newsletter, follow me on Instagram, and visit astrippersguide.com for resources & offerings.

xo,
Leilah/Penelope

***If you or someone you love is experiencing partner abuse/domestic violence and want help, resources, or information, you can visit thehotline.org. If you want queer-specific support, visit tnlr.org. Sending you my love, and my hopes that you find your way to safety as soon as it is possible for you. You are not alone; there is an incredible global community of survivors here for you.

#FemmesAreAllowed to be slutty! This week on SGP, writer, comedian, and self-proclaimed Fat Slut, Alison Stevenson, takes us to school. Alison is the founder of ThickStrip, a strip show celebrating fat femmes. Learn all about the show, why she started it, and the what it means to be a professional slut on OnlyFans versus an unpaid slut on Tinder. Follow Alison on Instagram and Twitter, and sign up for her newsletter here. Follow ThickStrip on Instagram, too!

Use the hashtag #FemmesAreAllowed on social media to tell your own story, and tag @astrippersguide on IG and I'll re-share your posts in my stories! Listen to the Season 2 Teaser episode for more deets.

Wanna get involved with A Stripper's Guide? Join my free newsletter, follow me on Instagram, and visit astrippersguide.com for resources & offerings.

xo,
Leilah/Penelope

#FemmesAreAllowed to be queer. Let's talk about queer femme erasure. Season 2 of A Stripper's Guide Podcast kicks off with a conversation between myself and my good buddy & fellow sex worker, Deborah Fritter (@deborah_borealis on IG). We discuss what it's like to spend a lifetime defending our identities, navigating friendships with cis men, misogyny from other queer people, and the challenges and joys of embracing  queerness in our 30s after a lifetime of being presumed straight. Digressions include cat butts & juicy gossip from 2004.

Use the hashtag #FemmesAreAllowed on social media to tell your own story, and tag @astrippersguide on IG -- I'll re-share your posts in my stories! Listen to the Season 2 Teaser episode for more deets.

Wanna get involved with A Stripper's Guide? Join my free newsletter, follow me on Instagram, and visit astrippersguide.com for resources & offerings.

xo,
Leilah/Penelope