Midlife used to be framed as the beginning of the sexual slow-down. Less desire. Less energy. Less spark.

But what if that story is completely wrong?

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by globally renowned intimacy expert Susan Bratton to unpack what she calls The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance — a powerful phase where confidence deepens, communication sharpens, and pleasure expands in ways younger generations rarely expect.

Together, they explore how desire actually evolves with age, why libido isn’t meant to be constant, and how understanding arousal as a ladder (not a switch) changes everything. Susan breaks down the science behind expanding orgasmic capacity, the role of blood flow, hormones, and nervous system health, and why many people report the best sex of their lives in their 40s, 50s, and beyond.

Susan Bratton Links

Website: https://betterlover.com Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton

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From the team behind Australia’s hottest lifestyle club comes Swapping Secrets — the podcast where nothing is off the table.

Join Jess & Lawrence for raw stories, cheeky confessions, and smart conversations about s*x, relationships, and the lifestyle.

This teaser is just a taste of what’s to come.

Subscribe now and don’t miss the launch.

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From the team behind Australia’s hottest lifestyle club comes Swapping Secrets — the podcast where nothing is off the table.

Join Jess & Lawrence for raw stories, cheeky confessions, and smart conversations about s*x, relationships, and the lifestyle.

This teaser is just a taste of what’s to come.

Subscribe now and don’t miss the launch.

New to the podcast? Don’t worry — you can catch up on all 100+ spicy episodes anytime, anywhere.

Got a fantasy, story, or sexy prompt you’d love us to read on-air? DM us or drop it in our inbox

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In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable.

Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with insecurity than possession, how unmet needs amplify emotional reactions, and why clear boundaries don’t restrict freedom — they protect connection. From real-world club experiences to long-term lessons learned across 15 years of ethical non-monogamy, this episode dives into how communication, emotional awareness, and post-play check-ins can transform conflict into growth.

The conversation also tackles the crucial difference between rules and boundaries, why boundaries should never be renegotiated mid-moment, and how to communicate limits without shame, control, or killing the vibe.

Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or deeply experienced, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, consent-driven communication, and why boundaries might just be the sexiest skill you can learn.

Bradford & Angela’s links:

Website: https://www.bythebi.com

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/bythebipodcast

FB: https://www.facebook.com/bythebipodcast/

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Naughty Christmas swinger stories are the unofficial love language of the holidays — and OSS has plenty to unwrap.

In this extra-spicy Christmas special, Jess and Lawrence dive headfirst into naughty Christmas swinger stories sent in by the community, opening listener gifts, reading filthy confessions, and reliving the most outrageous festive moments of the year. From toy reveals and cheeky fan letters to edible lube taste tests and full-blown holiday chaos, this episode is equal parts heartfelt and unhinged.

They also reflect on the growth of the club, the evolution of the podcast, and the wild experiences that defined 2025 — capped off with a present swap that absolutely should’ve stayed off HR’s radar.

If you’ve ever wondered what the holidays look like inside a swingers club, these naughty Christmas swinger stories deliver everything you hoped for… and then some.

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Self-pleasure has quietly shifted from a whispered taboo to a full-blown cultural reclamation — and few people have championed that transformation more powerfully than Rosie Rees.

In this episode, Jess and Lawrence dive deep into the world of empowered intimacy, slow pleasure, mindful masturbation, and the quiet revolution happening in bedrooms everywhere. Rosie opens up about the origins of Yoni Pleasure Palace, how crystal and glass toys are reshaping internal pleasure, and why slowing down can unlock deeper, more connected, more embodied orgasms.

They explore the healing power of self-touch, why shame still lingers around solo pleasure, and how early “be quick, be quiet” conditioning shapes adult sexuality. Rosie also unpacks the creation of Splash Blanket, the booming global culture around squirting, and why having permission to “make a mess” can be the key to letting go.

From myth-busting and toy talk to navigating pleasure in relationships and reconnecting with your sensual body, this episode is equal parts grounding, expansive, and joyfully liberating.

If you’ve ever wanted to explore sensuality, pleasure, body confidence, or inner connection without shame — this is your invitation.

Rosie’s Links:
FREE 7-Day Self Pleasure Course: https://yoni-pleasure-palace.teachable.com/p/7-day-self-pleasure-training
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosie.rees
Yoni Pleasure Palace: https://yonipleasurepalace.com
Splash Blanket: https://splashblanket.com (use promo code: secretspot)
Women’s Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yonipalace

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“Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15) 

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Consent is easy when it’s a bright, enthusiastic “yes.” But what about the murky moments — the mixed signals, the non-verbal cues, the awkward pauses, or the moments you only realise after the fact that something felt… off?

In this episode, Lawrence, and our guest Prue, dive into the real-world grey areas of consent — the ones that don’t show up in manuals but absolutely show up in bedrooms, clubs, and parties. Drawing from lived experiences and stories from the community, they explore how misunderstandings happen, how to slow things down without killing the vibe, and how to handle “oops, that didn’t feel right” with accountability and compassion.

They unpack why consent is more than “no means no,” how power dynamics and group situations complicate things, and why emotional readiness is just as important as physical willingness. This is an honest, nuanced conversation about communication, boundaries, repair, and self-awareness — because great s*x isn’t just about enthusiasm, it’s about empathy.

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Jess and Lawrence pull back the curtain on one of the most real, raw challenges in the lifestyle: how to balance parenting with swinging, non-monogamy, and staying sexy.

From babysitters to bedtime, stigma to scheduling — this episode is a candid look at the juggling act of raising toddlers while still embracing fun, intimacy, and freedom. With real stories from parents in the community (and a few cheeky confessions of their own), they unpack how families make it work without letting love or lust take a back seat.

Inside this episode:

How parents in the lifestyle juggle childcare, sex lives, and relationship time.

Why scheduling and planning ahead is the secret weapon for sexy parents.

Dealing with stigma at daycare, the school gate, and in the wider community.

Why keeping connection alive as partners makes you better parents.

PLUS — in this week’s Just the Tip segment, Jess & Lawrence play a hilarious game of Parenting or Sex Toy? with items from their very own survival kit. Spoiler: not everything is as innocent as it looks…

Whether you’re a parent curious about the lifestyle or a listener who just loves real talk about sex, stigma, and balance — this episode proves that with creativity (and the right babysitter), you really can have it all.

Sponsors:

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Get your Safer Sex Checklist

Jess and Lawrence are diving into the practical side of love, lust, and lifestyle — how to stay safe, healthy, and confident in open and non-monogamous relationships.

From STI checks to mental health, condoms to communication, this episode busts myths and flips stigma on its head with real talk and real tools. Because it’s not about being “dirty swingers” — it’s about being sexy, safe swingers.

Inside this episode:

Why “flying the lifestyle plane” is safer than most people think.

How to normalize the safe sex talk — and why it can actually turn you on.

The must-have health check routine that keeps you and your community safe.

Why mental health is just as important as physical health in the lifestyle.

The ultimate “go bag” essentials every sexy adventurer should pack.

PLUS — Jess & Lawrence build their very own Safer Sex Checklist (with a cheeky demo of dental dams you won’t want to miss).

Whether you’re a newbie, a seasoned swinger, or just curious, this episode shows why communication, safety, and self-care are the hottest turn-ons of all.

Sponsors:

“Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15) 

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Jess and Lawrence are back with Part 2 of the New Relationship Revolution, joined by special guest Lucy Banks — PR powerhouse, CEO of the Australian Adult Industry Choice Awards, and marketing lead for Sxhibition.

This episode goes deeper into how people are rewriting the rulebook of love and intimacy in 2025, balancing personal choice, communication, and freedom in their relationships.

From relationship anarchy to ethical non-monogamy, from spicy industry trends to raising kids with open conversations — this episode is packed with real stories, fresh insights, and a candid look at how conscious choices are reshaping love today.

Why every relationship is unique — and why that’s a good thing.
How the adult industry is reflecting (and shaping) new-age love.
Talking to kids about sex, love, and relationship choices without shame.
Behind the scenes of the rebranded Adult Industry Choice Awards & Sxhibition.

PLUS — our “Just the Tip” segment with Lucy explores how boundaries, conscious decisions, and communication aren’t just buzzwords — they’re the foundations of happy, sexy, sustainable relationships.

Sponsors:

“Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15) 

“Stigma Health” https://www.stigmahealth.com (use promo code: playsafe10)

“Sxhibition” https://sxhibition.com (use promo code: SECRETS10)

“Adult Choice Awards” https://adultchoiceawards.com.au (use promo code: SECRETS10)

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