T&A Talk Sex

The first FDA approved female , Flibanserin(aka Adyii), will be available for consumers this October, 2015!  BUT, before you jump on the band wagon there's a few things about the creation of this drug you might want to hear about...  T&A talk with Liz Canner, director of the documentary film 'Orgasm inc.' about the race for the pharmaceutical's holy grail, how the 'need' for this drug even came into being, and big pharma's influence on our sexuality.  Fascinating, informative and uncomfortably eye-opening.

Watch Orgasm inc. on Netflix, iTunes and everywhere else: www.orgasminc.org

And, check out A's blog, 'Female : A Cautionary Tale'  for a deeper look at Flibanserin's story

Show Notes

In clinical trials, the subjects kept a daily diary and across the board, they recorded no significant daily increase in sexual desire (03:47)

Who started the rumors of sexism and injustice at the FDA?  (05:09)

Flibanserin was originally developed as an SSRI to treat depression, but it didn’t work as an anti-depressant  (05:40)

What is ‘Conditioned Branding’?  (08:05)

What is HSDD and is it real? (08:50)

Drug companies have to have a clearly defined disease to start testing.  (09:45)

The doctors that came together to define Female Sexual Dysfunction had ties to 22 drug companies. (10:28)

Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/need-female--think-twice-before-you-pop-that-magic-pill/

'A' got a surprising diagnosis that threatens her reputation with her lovers...A bad smelling vagina can totally happen to you, but let's talk about it, so you don't feel ashamed, and you know what to do when it happens to you.  How the common medical recommendation of "have less sexual partners" just won't cut it anymore for the modern woman!  And guys, as awkward as this might sound, you want to listen up, because the more you know about vaginas, the better you'll be able to love them. 

Show Notes

Bacterial vaginosis is caused by E. coli in your vagina      (07:00)

The mouth also carries the E. coli bacteria        (07:51)

What are the popular themes and stigma surrounding female problems? (09:05)

Can you get bacterial infections without being sexually active? (09:21)

Bacterial vaginosis is NOT an STD and one of the major contributors is actually nylon underwear (11:30)

What is the “Boric acid trick”?  (16:20)

Vaginal problems can happen in times of high stress because the nervous system is tied to the lymphatic system (18:43)

How can your period and sexual intercourse change the normal pH of your vagina? (20:00)

The still ever-present overwhelming and subversive advice that less sexual partners means you won’t get vaginal problems (20:55)

Did you know that men can get a pill to kill yeast that they might be carrying to their partners? (22:10) (the pill mentioned is Diflucan)

Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/is-your-smell-down-there-normal-ep-63/

'A' reads her blog post on the film, Suffragette, starring Carrie Mulligan and Meryl Streep, directed by Sarah Gavron.  A's experience of the film screening at Telluride Film Festival provoked emotional turmoil, and brought up many of her own frustrations with the current state inequality in America.  While Suffragette follows the story of women fighting for the right to vote in the early part of the century, 'A' felt the impact from centuries of oppression for the female gender to present day - how insecurity and fear have been deeply embedded in our psyche as women, and how we might go about eradicating these hindrances slowing us down, and how we as a society, including men, can find a balance in allowing our feminine energies to exist without shame.  .

Melissa Silverstein (@melsil), writer, activist, and leading expert in gender parity in Hollywood (founder of www.womenandfilm.com and the Athena Film Festival talks with us about the facts of gender inequality in entertainment and how the disparity impacts our lives more than we think! After, T&A chat with eachother about how we, as women, grapple with erasing a history of silencing women in the public sphere. 

Show Notes

Are people aware that there is a lack of opportunity for women in film? (03:00)

How many women are really working on the Top 250 grossing films? (03.25)

Are the stats any different for TV?  (03:55)

84% of first-time TV directors are men and that affects a woman’s future in film?  (04:35)

Women don’t get the opportunities to direct $100m movies (06:32)

We all live in a world where an unconscious bias affects us  (08.28)

There is an assumption that animated movies and action movies such as Superman are geared towards males and therefore even the characters and extras are overwhelmingly male (09:00)

When women fail at something, they just fail out of the industry. When men fail, they get another chance  (11:18)

People are hungry and desperate to see things that reflect themselves (13:25)

Women are kept out of high-budgets because their competence is not trusted (14:15)

Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/melissa-silverstein-women-in-hollywood-gender-parity-ep-61/

T&A talk about T's first experience at Burning Man and how it's not all drugs and sex!  Hear her stories and what made Burning Man so unique to her, her challenging assimilation back into society, and what made it such a stress free environment- despite no showers and dust storms.

T goes to Burning Man for the first time and is here to tell you how amazing it is! 

To begin with, T was really resisting going to Burning Man, even thinking about selling her ticket at the last minute!  But, she realized that because she was resisting it so strongly, that was a sign that she needed to go andpush her boundaries. 

What an experience!  It’s so powerful and beautiful that it’s hard to express in conversation but we’re going to give you the highlights. 

Stereotypes and Rumors

The further you get from Black Rock City, NV, where the event is held every year, the less people understand it. 

Burning Man is surrounded by myths and clichés, with tales and visions of a free-for-all of drugs and sex.   

Resources & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/ts-first-experience-at-burning-man-ep-60-pushing-boundaries/

Love, can often come from a selfish place, even when it doesn't appear to be so.  But can we spot the difference between real love and false love?  T&A Talk with Dr. Richard Cookerly, relational psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Real Love False Love on the difference between the two, why learning real love can literally save our lives, and exactly how to go about changing our love practices.  A fascinating examination of the ways the American culture has learned to love and how to go about changing it.  Check out Dr. Cookerly's work at www.whatislovedrcookerly.com

Part 2! Sorry for the audio with this half everyone, still working out tech difficulties.  A bit of an echo but still AMAZING info so bear with us and keep listening!  Thanks for your patience, and if you'd like to read the transcript instead, click here: http://www.tatalksex.com/transcript-of-should-we-legalize-prostitution-with-author-dr-melinda-chateauvert-part-2-only/  

T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's term, we can't claim that one).

See Dr. Melinda Chateuvert's work at www.sexworkersunite.com and follow her @whorestorian

T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's term, we can't claim that one).

See Dr. Melinda Chateuvert's work at www.sexworkersunite.com and follow her @whorestorian

T&A talk with Melinda Penny Washington, a registered dietician, about her jourey from a successful but sick sales rep to a happy, healthy and whole person by changing her diet.  Hear Melinda talk about the importance of a healthy diet for our hormones and sexuality and her discovery of the magic, and science, of Essential Oils.  No, they arent's just natural perfumes... each has a scientific affect on the body, mind, and emotions.  Hear about how they work, how to detect quality and which ones turned Melinda into a sensual goddess.  

Young Living Essential Oils: https://www.youngliving.com/en_US

Melinda's company - Healthy Balance 3: 

http://healthybalance3.com/

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Healthy-Balance-3/178969952859?sk=info&tab=page_info

'A' gets seduced... FOR REAL.  Hear A's recent revelation about being charmed and seduced and the cultural belief that kept her from embracing it when T&A discuss modern dating and the lost importance of seduction in courtship.  What is at the core of seduction? Is it really necessary any more and please don't get tricked by fake seduction.