T&A Talk Sex

It's time to take stock, and make sure our ducks are in a row, as we close out 2015 and begin a new year!  Comedians and Roast Battlers, Rena Hundert, Sarah Afkami (Comedy Central tv writer), and Robbie Kirkhuff (featured on The Todd Glass Show), join T&A to reminisce about 2015 - the good, bad, and the ugly! Robbie's Halloween takes an interesting turn with his first threesome, Rena masters the art of sexting, and Sarah gets honest about finding her focus in 2016! T&A share their personal journeys, what they gained from their lovers, and push this gaggle of comedians to consider what they really want for 2016. + You can Instagram or tweet us with the hashtag #2015sexcount or email T&A with a photo of your sex count number displayed, and the best entry wins a destiny card reading from yours truly, 'A'! Beware: this episode is a rollicking good time & may send your holiday hot toddy shooting through your nose with laughter! 

Show Notes

What is ‘spit roasting?’  (5:49)

Out with it-who had the highest ‘number’ for 2015!?  (8:22)

Listen here for the juicy details of Robby and Omid’s threesome.  (10:17)

If everyone on the show was a monkey, what kind of monkey would they be? (18:10)

Does online/smartphone sex count toward your numbers for the year? (20:03) 

Wow-what was Robbie doing when he climaxed SIX times in one night!? (27:02) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/2015s-sexy-time-in-review-happy-new-year-a-comedy-roundtable-chat-ep-74/

Giselle Jones, a sex therapist at The Center for Healthy Sex, mindfulness facilitator, yoga instructor, and licensed pyschotherapist (phew!), talks with T&A about how to clear our minds and connect with our bodies for better sex! She's left no stone unturned in all the factors that contribute to a stymied orgasm.  She shares her wisdom, common issues that come up with patients, and most importantly, how we can all solve this problem with a few practical tools.  She even guides a mini meditation at the end of this episode.  Her voice is so soothing, your tension melts when she says 'hello'! 

Show Notes

We are bombarded with sexual images that are not realistic that can affect our sexuality. (09:10)

What is the definition of mindfulness? (9:48)

What is the enemy of enjoyable, juicy sex? (11:30)

Listen here for an interesting description of the UCLA MARC Institute’s secular study program for mediation. (15:12)

On an evolutionary level, our brains have not advanced that far from prehistoric times when it comes to the ‘fight or flight’ response. (15:50)

What are two approaches we can take when looking at orgasm? (17:31)

What are some things they do at The Center for Healthy Sex?  (19:55)

It can be difficult to get people to ‘buy into’ the idea that sexual ‘problems’ are more emotional-based than they believe. (21:29)

What common problem and response do women face that keeps us in a heightened state of anxiety? (22:34)

FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/in-your-head-during-sex-try-this-w-giselle-jones-sex-therapist-mindfulness-facilitator-ep-73/

T&A talk with Mark W. Gray, the man behind 'Professor Puppet' on sex as a mature man, the choice of wether or not to have kids, and how to make the holidays special wether you're single, alone, married, or divorced.  PLUS, Professor Hans Von Puppet tells us how to spice up the romance for the holidays.

Show Notes

Why should men masturbate before a date?  (08:31)

If you see something, say something!  Speaking up about what’s bothering you in your partner is essential to your relationship. (21:43)

A lot of things can change our perspective on life, but the nice thing about having a child is that it’s another person that you are connected to for life. (27:00)

He’s found that having two children is almost easier because it takes the pressure of the single child. (29:03)

Can we make ourselves change our outlook on having children? (33:00)

We are pulled in two different directions because we’re taught to have a career at the same time as we’re being societally pressured to have children. (34:40)

Are we selling ourselves short by not aggressively pursuing parenthood? (35:35)

Can caring for a child become a crutch, giving us an excuse to stop caring for our own selves? (37:11)

There’s an illusion that we’re in complete control of where our life is going and sometimes the derailment can be as important as the path. (37:35)

FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/an-older-man-convinces-ta-to-have-kids-w-professor-hans-von-puppet-ep-72/

So many factors out there in the world affect our sexuality and ultimately, our ability to orgasm, including media, myths, education, mis-education, , on and on...  In this episode we talk with Sheri Winston, author of 'The Anatomy of Female Arousal' and founder of the Intimate Arts Center, about the myths and the realities of the female orgasm, how to orgasm with your parnter and perhaps even during penetration.  While romance novels and say we should be having mind blowing orgasms while riding a horse... in the rain... on command and with no foreplay, the reality is quite different- and it doesn't mean we're broken.

SHOW NOTES:

Quick Note:  Stay tuned through this episode to hear about our special holiday discount codes.  Information at end of show notes!  

Do you feel broken because you don’t orgasm in a certain way, or even at all, with your partner? 

We get some pretty bad ideas about orgasm from media and culture and many women think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them if they’re not having the ‘Big O’ with their partners.   So, many women only achieve orgasm through masturbation and, even worse, fake orgasm with their partners, a strategy that leaves both partners at a disadvantage both now and for the future-

  LINK FOR FULL SHOW NOTES HERE : http://www.tatalksex.com/female-orgasm-myth-vs-reality-how-to-get-it-right-w-sheri-winston-ep-71/

Reid Mihalko joins T&A to answer a question that has been on the minds of our listeners: How can I get my partner to open up sexually? or at least, how can I even get my partner interested in sex, and hopefully its exploration? Reid guides us through the larger picture of why we might be having sexual roadblocks in relationships, and how we can create clear communication with those whom we desire to have great sex! From there, T and Reid role play a common scenario of how a husband can approach his wife about reengaging in active intimacy and more enriching sex for both of them.  We get nuts & bolts, along with a deeper understanding, and how to find resources from here! Find Reid at www.ReidAboutSex.com and find more about our specific discussion at www.ReidAboutSex.com/TATalkSex

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Show Notes

Our culture does not teach us to assess if someone is actually a good fit for us so we end up with someone who may be ‘nice’ but may not be on our same sexual wavelength. (09:05)

We are not given the permission to discuss sexual ‘bottom lines’ b/c our previous generations didn’t look for sexual compatibility-they looked for stability & safety.  Duration was the metric of success and the way you showed that you ‘cared’ is that you put up with more.  (10:21)

Find Resource Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/how-to-open-up-sexually-can-i-get-my-partner-to-go-there-ep-70/

Comedians, Ester Steinberg (@esterk) & Matty Goldberg (author of Brain Humor), join T&A to reflect on this Thanksgiving about past sexual regrets and what we've all learned about love, life, relationships, and how we could of handled that one night stand a little better.  We all share intimate stories, and laugh along the way - A feel good episode about those cring-worthy moments!

Show Notes

What are the top 5 things people regret on their deathbeds?  (7:09) 

“I wish I had lived truer to myself and not what other people expected of me” (7:59) 

What type of guys was Ester into?  Did that work out for her?  (9:40)

What scene from movie ‘Sideways’ makes Matty think of his biggest sexual regrets? (12:15) 

Does it really help to say that you’re sorry for being a dick after the fact?  (15:04) 

One of Ester’s pet peeves is men assuming she wants a relationship just because she’s female-can’t she just have meaningless sex too?! (15:34)   

Find Refs & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/sexual-regrets-what-have-we-learned-happy-thanksgiving-roundtable-ep-69/

In all this talk about gender equaity in the workplace, T&A tackle the deeper equality issue of approaching work and success with feminine qualities versus masculine, and how both men and women can benefit from ditching their old paradigms and finding a new way of approaching success.  The girls talk with Lisa Marie Jenkins, professional coach, speaker, & author of 'WAKE UP, BEAUTY! It's Not About the Prince' on how exactly we can go about this,  why it's so important and how this affects our male/female relationships.

Show Notes

Historically, men were protectors and providers; women were compassionate nurturers. Both sexes were playing very specific roles (11:40)

The 70’s moved women into the angry, bra burning stage which was necessary to get the ball rolling but that is NOT what feminism is about (11:51)

The year 1985 is a benchmark-that’s the year when women started earning 50% of all college degrees (12:12) 

Today, we earn 60-65% of all degrees, Bachelors and Masters’ combined and we’ve been in the work force since the mid-80’s (12:16) 

Can a woman be nice and competent in today’s workplace? (15:15) 

Despite the higher numbers for advanced degrees, women only represent 4.7% of CEO’s in Fortune 500 companies and at major tech companies women only represent 20% of employees in all roles (18:30) 

Where and how do women struggle the most in the workplace?  (21:00)

What is ‘tentative speech’ and how does it hurt women?  (21:52) 

Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/she-doesnt-want-sex-could-be-her-work-place-w-lisa-marie-jenkins-ep-68/

A woman's period is largely resented by both men and women, one of the 'downsides' to being a woman.  But can a woman's cycle be a missing key to greater sex and intimacy- for men and women?  T&A talk with author, midwife and sexuality teacher, Sheri Winston, founder of the Intimate Arts Center to learn about the cycle in a whole new way.  Hear how to shift your perspective, and your approach to you or your partner's period, and most importantly, why.  Plus, why having sex durring a period is a great thing!

Show Notes

The words moon, menstruation and lunar all come from the same root.  Before the advent of light, a woman’s cycle was literally dictated by the stage of the moon (7:45)

If we think about that lunar cycle, it makes it easy to understand why our energy also waxes and wanes in tune with the fullness of the moon.  When the moon is full, we ovulate, and our energy is at it’s highest because Mother Nature is telling us it’s time to procreate  (9:15)

Find all relevant links & FULL show notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/the-period-how-can-it-work-for-me-instead-of-against-me-wsheri-winston-ep-66/

T&A, both diagnosed with HPV at varying points in their lives, get to the bottom of why there's so much conflicting information around HPV out there.  Expert, Dr. Diane Harper, who has been heard on NPR, Katie Couric, CNN, and other sites, fills us in on the 101 of HPV to the research and why it's important to have regular checkups for healthcare and prevention.  How does HPV work? Why is it so common? How can I prevent it? Do the vaccines work? Why don't they test men?! All of your questions are answered in a clear, concise way, thanks to Dr. Harper!  We know you'll feel as relieved as we do after listening to this episode.  

Show Notes

HPV is a tiny virus that has been with us forever-literally since the time of dinosaurs! (4:15)

It literally bounces around on skin.  It does not live in blood or other bodily fluids (5:53)

What are the avenues of transmission for HPV?  Hint: it’s not only our sexual organs (06:04)

It’s definitely a survivor.  The way  it infects the skin cells allows it to hide from the immune system (06:54)

Find relevant links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/hpv-should-i-be-afraid-of-it-the-truth-behind-the-std-with-dr-diane-harper-ep-66/

T&A chat with Joe Praino, super dude, and host of both the Dirty Sports and Kooks of Komedy podcasts, about women and when the ladies cross the line at a bar or in the bedroom! Do women take liberties that men can't and is that okay?  Where do we draw the line? T&A also interviewed prominent podcasting men at the LA Podfest about their experiences with feeling violated by a woman. Interview SoundBites at LA Podfest from: Walker Uhl of The Deeper Dive Podcast , Mike Siegel of Travel Tales Podcast, and Murray Valeriano of Road Stories Podcast      

 Show Notes

For a typical guy, if a girl is coming on super strong, then he’s probably going to be into it. It has to bepretty weird and over-the-top to scare a guy away.  (2:50)

There’s a perception by some women that you can’t ever really cross a line because men stereotypically are ‘game’ for action (5:51)

The most attractive to a guy is the woman who wants him  (6:22)

But, coming on so strong that it jumps normal steps in the process can throw everything off (6:52)

Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/can-a-woman-be-too-sexually-aggressive-w-joe-praino-of-the-dirty-sports-podcast/