T&A Talk Sex

T&A talk with Scott Barry Kaufman, cognitive psychologist, author, and speaker about his article 'The Myth of the Alpha Male" to better understand what qualities women most want in a man.  Do we ladies prefer Alpha or Beta? It turns out it's a little more complicated and nuanced.  Tune in to better understand how we can attract the perfect mate.  ...and check out Scott's article at The Art of Manliness of you want to read from where our conversation started. 

Find more info. about Scott and his other work on creativity and the mind HERE: www.ScottBarryKaufman.com

What weird sexual fantasies are you keeping to yourself? T&A share openly about their sexual fantasies with their guest, Sarah, comedian and writer for DICE, Chelsea Handler's Netflix show, Chelsea, and Comedy Central's The Legend of Chamberlain Heights, coming out this fall! We all have images and ideas that maybe surprise even ourselves.  Do you have shame or judgement around your own fantasies? What if you expressed them without judgment to understand yourself and your partner better? Join us as we explore our own fun, surprising fantasies honestly and openly, as well as our earliest fantasies that have shaped our sexual identity.  We just might activate your imagination! Write us with thoughts & questions at [email protected]

Relationships are all about communication, and texting adds a whole new level to the dating game.  How many times have you huddled around your phone with your friends at the coffee shop drafting the perfect text to a love interest's comment after finally deciphering what you think they meant?  Yep, we've been there too.  So we came up with our top six texting rules that will keep your relationship- or booty call- alive and kickin' while hopefully making your life a little bit easier.

T&A's first official advice show!  Listeners wanna know, 'How can I get better at deep throating?  Do I need to?'  'How do I get my husband to be more sensual after ten years of marriage?' and 'I'm thinking about becoming a sugar baby... what do I need to know?'  Listen in as T&A dish their perspective, and some hilarious stories on hard lessons learned in the first edition of 'Ask T&A'.  Have a question?  Send an email to [email protected]  Advice shows air the last wednsday of every month.

T&A talk with Jamal Johnson, life coach, sexuality coach and One Taste trained orgasmic meditator, on about the landmines we all carry within that can keep us from connecting more deeply with our partner.  We talk about how to find them, how to disarm them and other tips and tricks from Jamal that will help us all learn how to be more honest, and clear with ourselves, so we can be more available for a deeper, intimate connection with our partner.

Find Jamal's work HERE: http://jamaljohnsoncoaching.com/

Join Jamal's team in Costa Rica to reconnect with your body, to grow, and learn HERE: http://www.bewellbeorgasmic.com/costarica/index.php

Obi and Booda from Dude Panel are here!!! And T wants to know- how much is a guy planning the first time he has sex with you? She's had a few sessions that make her feel like they've masterminded the whole thing- is it true??Plus, we talk about touch, our cultural inhibitiions and how we can incorporate touch more into our regular friendships without it getting weird- or can we? Does touch always have something sexual to it?  And if it does, is that such a bad thing, or have we just grown up thinking about the whole thing backwards?  We love the guys at Dude Panel- where they answer girl's questions about guys day in and day out.  They're super insightful, funny and cute to boot! Check out their show at www.DudePanel.com and Dude Panel on YouTube.

Have you ever wondered how other people get themselves off?  We probably think the rest of the world opperates like us, but newslfash-they don't!  In our crazy journey of sexuality, many times the conversations at the party end up on masturbation and what fascinated us was how different each person's self-love sessions were!  In this episode we have a round table chat with comedian and podcaster of the show 'What Did I do?' Ramsey Badawi (@ramsbad) and comedian O.P. (@swankyop) about why we masturbate, why O.P. doesn't masturbate, what each of us does to get off, the role of fantasy and even a fun little hands on exercise that EVERYONE SHOULD DO if you really want to know how your lover likes to be touched.  

Show Notes

Do you masturbate? (2:30)

Yes, women can have wet dreams (6:40)

Oh the Guilt! (10:32)

How has it affected your sex life? (11:41)

What's important when you masturbate? (18:10)

vs. Fantasy (The Good Ol' Imagination) (24:11)

Sex vs. masturbation (31:10)

"A" gets curious about guys and their technique (36:35)

Closing Thoughts: "T's" vote is that it's actually good for you, in healthy amounts.  It's only addiction if you're not getting things done as a result.  

Links from Episode:

What have I Done? podcast: http://www.whathaveidonepodcast.com/#omidandramsey

Ramsey Badawi: http://ramseybadawi.com/ & Ramsey's Twitter/Instagram: @ramsbad

Opie's Instagram: @swankyopie

Book:  Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan)

T&A talk with profesional matchmakers Adelle Gomelsky Kelleher and Karen Law from the national dating service 'Three Day Rule', (www.threedayrule.com) and get a fascinating  look into the dating world- Why aren't people finding their mate? What are the biggest mistakes men and women each make when they meet a potential partner?  PLUS, Adelle and Karen share their insights into why dating in the modern day is so difficult, and what we can all do about it.  This is a must listen for anyone out there looking for a partner- either for a night, or for your life!

Kim Kardashian took a nude bathroom selfie and everyone had something to say.  Pink even called Kim out for sending a disempowering message to young women.  Is our automatic distaste for KK's photo just another form of slut shaming? In this episode T&A have a lively round-table discussion with Mark W. Gray of youtube sensation Professor Hans Von Puppet and comedian Courtney Banks on wether or not we should all be taking a nude selfie or two.

In today's world of sexual liberation, Tinder, and hook-ups is it worth waiting before jumping in the sac with someone?    Join T&A as they dive into their personal experiences of promiscuity and share why they wait and why they don't.