Day in and day out of life we often forget to take the time to stop and be grateful for what we are, where we are and how we are.2020 has been a year of many trials and tribulations. Now is the perfect time to reflect on the things that you have to be thankful for. The universe needs to know that you are grateful for those things that you have learned, earned and gained before you can then move on in life to learn, earn and gain even more. There is always a silver lining and it is up to you t...

We become so comfortable with the things that we do daily because of ease and routine. Without change from our daily routines we become stagnant in areas of our life. We lack or lose motivation and therefore do not push as hard as we should from where we are to where we want to be,The same thing day in an day is when you begin to go on autopilot and tune out certain pieces of the routine because of familiarity. However, when we tune out pieces of the routine could we also be tuning out pieces...

African American women struggle to find quality friends and this is coming from experience. In my opinion, I feel that any women put themselves in a box and block themselves out from forming friendships with other women. Is it because we are afraid, feel threatened? Is it because we are in competition?For one woman to be threatened by another says that she may not be comfortable in the skin that she is in. So, she creates and builds a wall which blocks her from forming relationships.Is it som...

Resentment is bitterness that is in relation to the fact that you have not been treated fairly or that others are not doing enough for you. What can cause you to feel resentment:Feeling as if people are not listening to youFeeling taken advantage ofFeeling as if you are putting more into a relationship than the other partyNot being assertive and standing up for yourself How to know you are dealing with resentment:Lingering angerRecurring thoughtsFeeling regretful Long te...

We need to revamp the way in which we see conflict. Most view it as bad or negative when indeed it can be good and positive it just depends on how you go about it. Conflict is uncomfortable but everything that is good for you is not always comfortable.Conflict is scaryWhen we avoid conflict we end up dealing with it internally“Get it off my chest” Reasons we avoid conflictUnaware or unsure of what we needAfraid of rejectionAfraid to hurt feelings When you avoid conflict you s...

When someone you love and care for cuts ties and cuts off all communication. Why ghost:Defense mechanismDifficulty understanding their feelingsDifficulty putting their feelings into wordsThey consider it a societal normEmbarrassedScared of criticismMental illness When you are ghosted:Feel taken advantage ofFeel disposableFeel disrespectedFeel rejectedLeaves you confusedMakes you feel as if you need to put up walls and be on the defense Understand when you are ghosted it...

Authenticity is a statement.Authenticity is about character. It is about how you are as a being. It is the characteristics that stand behind what you say and what you believe. Stay true to you despite what other believe.To run towards authenticity we must strip ourselves of everything.Become in tune and aware of yourself.Say what you mean and mean what you say.Avoid hiding who you are to make others feel comfortable.Take tome to reevaluate goals, interests, morals and values.Avoid negat...

Toxic FamilyWhat is the definition of family to you?What does family mean to you?You can not have a healthy relationship with someone who does not want to have a healthy relationship. Behaviors or traits that reveal you were raised in a toxic environmentLow self-worthSocial difficultyYou have a difficult time with failureYou lack self-identityYou are self-criticalYour emotions are put last How you can tell if a family member(s) is toxicYou end up feeling bad about yourself after en...

Stagnation means that you are only half living. You realize you are the SAME person in the SAME space as you were last year.Signs of stagnation:Negative self talk FearLack of consistency Comparing yourselfYour circle Doing the same expecting differentBeing stagnate is a choice. So choose to get out of it or choose to remain where you are!Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early e...

As you begin to live your life you may notice that your wins begin to feel worthless. This should not be the case because your wins show your drive, motivation, ambition and passion.Often times the feeling may come from needing external validation from others, needing their words, claps and encouragement. Early on in life it could have been your drive but now as you are older your drive has changed. Your drive is for you, self-growth, self-love, passion and walking your path. You now are movi...