How should we talk to our teenage children so that they listen to us, understand us and accept us? How can we build strong relation through effective communication?
Today's topic is “Communication With Teenagers”.
First of all let us know why communication matters? Why is it necessary to talk?
We talk to someone when we want to share our emotions or we need something from the other person.
During the teenage years, children spend the most time with their friends and like to spend as much time as possible with them.
Dr. John Coleman (Clinical Psychologist) created the framework for Teens and Parents Relationship, called S.T.A.G.E.
S - SIGNIFICANCE OF PARENTS
Parents' support and motivation are necessary for children. Being with the child is essential for their performance. But it is not necessary to put pressure on the child,
Parents feel that the child is no longer spending time with them and is paying less attention to them, but it is not so.
At this age the child searches for his own values and beliefs and one can say that he is making self discovery. And perhaps these values and beliefs are different from those of the parents. Accept your child's age and use support according to his age.
T - TWO WAY COMMUNICATION
Communication does not mean that the parents always guide or give instructions and explain and the child always listens.
Communication is a skill. Teens are unable to understand what they say or express their expressions. Therefore, when they are unable to explain themselves, they become silent or frustrated or do not work.
Communication also include tone, body language, and not only words. it is combination of verbal and non-verbal.
Parents should not tag to child or don't put labels like stupid, idiot, dumb, you can't do it etc on them. If parents start listening to teen then teen will also do the same.
A - AUTHORITY
Always create rule along with your teen, it will help teen to follow them. Don't make lots of rule, but also add consequence for each rule. So that if the teen will not follow the rule than he/she will be ready for consequence. Parents always listen to every problem of their child and give importance to them. Let them (teen) take some decision or do some work on their own.
G - GENERATION GAP
As a parents you should always ask to your child about their life or anything new happen? Or you can discuss your problems with them so that they will know that they are important person in family and their decision matter.
E - EMOTIONS
Teenager are very emotional and suddenly their mode will change. Teenager are experiencing changes in their physical and mental level. Sometimes they feel difficult to handle them.
TIPS FOR PARENTS WHICH HELP THEM TO COMMUNICATE WITH TEEN
- Remember your role as parent.
- Pause the communicate if it getting worse. Take some time and again talk on that topic when both parent and teen are calm.
- Empathy - Use it to understand your teenager child. Try to understand their perspective, be active listener and than respond.
I will see you again with new topic. Till then Take care, bye bye
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