There are a few memories in my mind that make me cringe or physically discomfort me. One is from our first night home with Aria. She would not stop crying and my milk had not come in yet. I didn’t realize it, but she was hungry and my body simply wasn’t giving her what she needed. Two days later we were in the hospital for an extreme case of jaundice.  I can’t change the past, but I can change how I react to that same memory that caused me to question if I was meant to be a mom.

Today we’re talking about the memories that cause us pain and what to do about them.

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more

Sources:
Letting Go of the Past - PsychCentral
Beckman Institute Study
Inner Health Studio Breathing Meditation

In this episode, Mandi Tuhro joins me for an authentic conversation on finding confidence in motherhood and making the decisions that are best for our families.

You can find Mandi on Instagram where she shares authentic thoughts on motherhood and more.

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more.

If you’ve been listening to my episodes, you’ll know that I’m really big on leaving comparisons behind and ignoring toxic positivity. If you follow me on social media, you also know that I love the holidays – every single one of them – well Thanksgiving isn’t too high up on my list, but it’s alright. Anyway, with both of these in mind, I know that the holidays can be challenging, I mean they’re challenging for me, but before we get caught up in the tinsel and sparkly lights, I want to share two words that I hope change your holiday season – let go.

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more

In today’s episode, I sit down with Rachel Lohman of Hope Again Collective Earrings. Hope Again Collective is a brand of handmade earrings sharing stories of miscarriage mamas where every pair sold provides direct support to hurting women. Join Rachel and I as we talk about our own losses and more.

Learn more about Hope Again Collective:
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Website
Facebook

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Have you ever spent time sizing yourself up to another mom? It’s okay we can be honest here. I’ll go first, once upon a time I based a lot of my goals on what other friends were doing and I even do it now. It’s not healthy and it’s a habit I want to break. As moms, we need to all end these hidden – and not so hidden – competitions between moms need to stop because we have little ones watching us and our own mental health is at risk.

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more.

 As moms, we sometimes need those reminders that it’s okay to drop the ball every now and then in order to protect our health or relationships. Curious to know what that is all about? Keep listening as Neidy Hess joins me and we discuss motherhood, boundaries and setting realistic expectations for ourselves.

Find Neidy Hess Online:
Neidyhess.com
Neidy's Instagram
Exhale Creative Instagram

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more.

Have you seen that meme that says something like, “Moms complain they need a break from their kids and then don't want to leave their kids. It's me, I'm moms.” Hands up – unless you’re driving – if you could have written this yourself. I probably have this thought once a week and even though I know I deserve a break and should take one for my own health, I struggle with it. If that’s you, take a listen to this episode.

If you’d like to know more about me, Ash, find me on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more.

Sources:
Caregiver Burnout - Cleveland Clinic
12 Stage of Burnout
Burnout Graphics - Healthline

This episode is dedicated   to the babies we’ve lost and the women who carry on without them.

This October, as stories are shared about pregnancies that ended too soon or babies that left us before enough memories were made, please know that your precious child mattered and is worthy of a space in your heart and life. If you’re a friend or family member supporting someone with a pregnancy loss, thank you for caring about them and doing what you can during this time – it will make a difference.

If you like what you heard, I would love to connect with you on social media. You can find out more about me, Ash Arinez,  on Instagram at @AshArinez or asharinez.com or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more. That’s all for now, but I’ll meet you right back here soon on Tell a Mother.

If it weren’t for the women in my life who have mentored me or extended their friendship to me, I wouldn’t be the mom I am. That is why I am excited to announce that we will be having special guests join us on a regular – or maybe not so regular basis – on episodes. Today I am excited to introduce you to Rebeca Huron. Aside from being one of my oldest and dearest friends, she is:

• A wife to her high school sweetheart (this January they will have been married 12 years) 
• A mom (to three boys ages 12, 10 and 6)
• And she currently works in her local church as a Pastor’s Administrative Assistant in a small town in the heart of Florida. 

Sit back as we talk about raising children in a challenging world while encouraging them to love

Have you ever left time with someone and felt more drained than energized? Or have you ever sat in a conversation and felt like you were simply the audience for a performer? If you can say yes to either of those you’ve probably been a part of a toxic relationship before. These are just two examples of toxic relationships and as moms, we don’t have time for them. Come along as we explore what is a toxic relationship and how you can stop them from stealing from your motherhood experience.

If you’d like to know more about Ash Arinez, find her on Instagram at @AshArinez or follow @TellAMother for sneak peeks into future episodes and more.