That Based Dating Podcast

On this episode, I discuss the amount of courage it takes to be open about your desire for love and belonging. While many folks get stuck in same cycle as I was stuck in for much of my life - being afraid to let go of what's not serving you and attaching out of scarcity or lacking the vulnerability to attach at all- there is recovery for those of us who do want to get real and heal from our wounds. I try to be as transparent as possible with my neediness, and explain how it's actually a strength to want connection and belonging.

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On today's show, we go back through the annals of my political disposition. While my initial politics and social preferences were conservative to please my conservative Christian family, I quickly gained a tremendous amount of respect for the liberal views held by my public school teachers.

After deconstructing political ideology and many areas where I had tossed the baby out with the bath water (when it came to social values)- I ended up in a position tightly held by many evolutionary biologists which also happens to coincide with many historically Christian ideals.

Would you call me a conservative again? Say it isn't so 🫣

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On today's show, I talk about an important key to moving forward in your love life. While all of the stages of grief are usually involved in a break up, getting to the point of acceptance can be difficult but is necessary.

Many women choose to stay angry, bitter, and blaming in regards to their ex partner. It's certainly easier to place the blame on one person's behavior, but we know it takes two people to make a relationship.

It can be really helpful to see a person's character through the lens of how they speak about an ex. While most people might take the easy road, those who have healed will find responsibility in the break up, they will be able to remember what good things that relationship gave them.

as a good faith practice, I shared the things I took away from all of my serious relationships since high school. I hope you enjoy it!

In a world where women can do everything that men can do, I decided to explore whether they should...

While I have always considered myself to be an egalitarian feminist- I believe that women should have all of the same rights under the law that men do - I can't help but wonder how our western world has changed as women grew in economic staying power.

My personal goals have always been centered around the care for my family, which has now narrowed to my children, but that has clearly become a more difficult focus to have as the cards are ever stacking against the traditional family and traditional mothering.

Will more women give up their "boss babe" status in an attempt to nurture their children in the most intimate and meaningful way possible?

I sure do hope so. What do you think?

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On today's episode I talk about why many of us did not get the best start for optimal gut health and how gut health can still be accomplished. While many folks turn to fad diets, juicing, smoothies, pills, and wraps-- it's important to see how health can be achieved through knowledge and nutrition.

While I give you my 3 biggest tips for changing your gut for the better, each person should really look at their history and take a fully individualized approach.

If you need that - schedule a free consult on my website! getfoodtherapy.com

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Despite my longing for a good man and my recent break up- I've often found myself wanting. Where men know what a good woman is intuitively- many women are not set up with proper expectations for themselves.

On today's episode I dive into what the Internet, the Bible, and my anecdotal experiences are on the topic with what makes a good woman.

I am still fleshing it out and learning. Drop any feedback or pointers.

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Break-ups are hard and on today's show I tell you the inner workings of my most recent break ups.

There is always wisdom to gain and rejection is certainly redirection. Being a human is messy and it is worse if we refuse to take accountability for the things we mess up or overlook.

I hope you enjoyed my breakdown of these recent life events and can give yourself a break if you are struggling to get through a break up.

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The age old question - Do women know what they want? Can you ask a woman for a rubric on how to woo her and then follow it like a law book? The rules of attraction are complicated and there is stiff competition to win in the sexual and mating marketplace. So - what do we want?

The answer is simply NOT what we think or say we want. As wild as this may seem, and as many women as there are to deny this very obvious fact -- there's tons of evidence to support it. There is simply an unconscious drive guiding our mating behaviors. We may think we want a showering of verbal affection, we may think we want acts of servitude or to be placed on pedestals-- but the simple fact is that the men who have the most access to women ARE NOT doing that.

While the "bad boy" archetype may be a preverse of the true masculine energy needed-- women are attracted to men who have their own life and world to tend to. Being a man's sole focus and goal is biologically unattractive. Mate seeking behaviors are women's domain- men are supposed to necessarily choose to seek resources.

Are you honoring your biology in mate selection?

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On today's show I tackle a difficult topic that has a deeply personal connection to my past. 

While the porn industry soared during Covid, there's no question that there's a moral hazard around porn. It's not quite as easy as saying let everyone have their own sexual ethic-- as porn dysregulates proper sexual function. 

In this deep dive I talk about how porn has affected me and folks I know personally. 

The industry is its own beast -- but that will have to be its own episode. 

On today's episode we talk about what it means to be truly present. Although many of us think we are alive and living our lives in our bodies- it is harder than we think to not disassociate and live internally. While our minds are always trying to guide us inside for criticism and introspection, we often miss out on meaningful experiences.

I mentioned my favorite book The Untethered Soul by Micheal Singer (highly reccomend you read it asap and commit it to memory) in the episode.

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