That Based Dating Podcast

Dedicated to my own Best Friend

Today's episode is a reminder to all women how important it is to have female friendships.

Not only is it more satisfying to live each day full of feminine energy, love, and folks who truly relate to your lived experience -- it is an essential practice to being in balance for other relationships.

I am closer to myself than I have ever been, simply, because I have a friend to vent to and be witnessed by! I am more open to a romantic relationship that doesn't feel feminine, because I no longer have the need for a man to fill the role of a best friend for me.

I feel that attraction is often lost in relationships when we relegate our partners to solely being our best friends, our teammates, our housemates etc - we can appreciate the specialness of a romantic connection after we have the other things on lock!

I'm so thankful that I stopped competing with, stopped tearing down, and stopped ruining my female friendships. Nothing has made my life more satisfying than all of the women I know.

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On today's show I attempt to flesh through the problem with dating very young, barely legal women. My target age group is 18-20 but I suppose those are not firm numbers and there are definite exceptions to my rule. However, as a group- I feel It is best that men in their thirties avoid taking the responsibility of young women on due to their lack of maturity.

Are age gaps really the problem in relationships? Absolutely not. Many women find the love of a man who is older to feel very secure and comforting. There is an undeniable sexual attraction between a young and fertile woman to a man with the status to build a life and home. He wants to choose a wife with the best chances for reproduction and she wants the best outcomes for her kids.

That doesn't negate the fact that taking on a very young woman and leading her into commitment as an older man comes with some very serious potential consequences. Maidens will all wake up (either before or after bearing children) to the fact that their relationship experience is majorly lacking. A woman may overlook or feel careless about it, but often resentment bubbles up and divorce is primarily sought by women.

Are men miscalculating what a healthy grown woman really is? Can it be calibrated to be exactly 18? Are there other metrics like maturity that should have to exist in the contract of marriage? That'swhy being under the influence makes a contract invalid- folks are supposed to be of sound mind.

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On this episode, I address a common misconception among folks in the "red pill" community. While evolutionary biology does dictate so much of male and female behavior the generalization that only women see attention as currency is a pretty big miss.

On the whole, all humans need attention and all humans fight for attention. As babies, we cry for attention to survive. As we age we become more sophisticated. This means that women will cast a wide net for validation in hopes that one of those men will want to meaningfully invest. Men cast a similarly large net when it comes to sexual advances, hoping that some of those advances are met with affirmation.

We are so much more alike than we are different as men and women, but there's still the need for all of us to look deeply at ourselves and figure out what motivates us so that we can self-validate and be whole.

Tell me how you feel about this topic!

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On today's show, I cover a topic that's one of the most important to date. The power of saying yes, to opportunity, and the cost of saying no to growth. Many of us wrestle with feelings of inadequacy and lack. Often that lack creates a cycle in which we box ourselves out of new opportunities.

As I've grown, I realize that the only way to be my most authentic self, was to welcome change, and cling to only those things that truly represented me and aligned with my integrity. Sometimes that meant letting go of big things, and in my case, it involved letting go of a marriage.

It can be a scary place to do the brave things that other people shy away from doing. Those people don't understand the cost of saying "no", but there's always room for change.

Have you paid the cost to say no? Where in your life do you wish you would have said yes?

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On today's show, I discussed the importance of not to miss categorizing, or miss characterizing someone based on their Internet persona. While it's fun to get to know someone on the Internet that you would never have the chance to meet in real life, we all have to be careful not to confuse that with a genuine connection.

Even I am guilty of finding a super high-status hottie's Instagram, and thinking that I had a connection with him that I truly didn't have. Even when you are on the Internet has a personality, you can brush up against the dehumanizing parts of social media. We are all capable of wandering into the pitfalls, if we are not careful.

Have you ever mistaken your social media friendship for knowing someone in real life?

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On today's show I make it weird for folks who don't know me, since my back story is a wild one. I've decided to share it with as much transparency as feasible for a twenty minute show. We start at my family history, describe the abuse and poverty that gripped my past, and work forward into my major life events.

Where we come from often defines where we end up, but I am hoping to change the stars for myself and future generations.

Do you relate to my origin story?

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On today's show I discuss the deep spiritual impact yoga has had since approaching it is a holistic wellness practice.

While functional movement and exercise have always been on my radar, the deep meditative practice of yoga is new to my life post marriage.

Connecting to God in this new way and my inner consciousness (Christ consciousness) has improved my experience on earth greatly.

Have you done the DEEP yoga or just the exercise?

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On today's show I explore what is meant by some of the language around attraction. This subject has felt elusive to me for many years, but I've been looking inward at what sides of me are "feminine and soft" and what parts have generated the most attraction.

While many women project their own ideas (in regards to masculinity) and try to be the opposite - making themselves small or needy- to catch a man with what they believe are their feminine wiles, I am uncovering that this projection is a misstep.

The way a woman stays "soft" by my limited experience with masculine men is by maintaining a sense of wonder and awe for masculine energy.

What day you men? Sound off!

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On this episode, I bring my best friend on the pod to discuss a topic we both have experience in to varying degrees. Abuse is a huge problem in relationships, according to self reporting and vital statistics, but it is scary to think that people may not truly understand when they are abusing just as much as they are being abused.

Female techniques for abusing their male partners is very different than the angry male counterpart, so we discuss all types of abuse to flesh out what that even means.

Are women more empowered to leave because of their own ability to provide or are they finding themselves in a feedback loop of "everything is toxic and everyone is a narcissist" on the web?

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Welcome back to the show!

On today's episode I discuss the problems I've faced recently around my "public presence" and how I've chosen to deal with folks who criticize me.

Whether it's in real life, or it's on the Internet, it's always best to take anything. Someone is saying with a grain of salt. I have learned to not take judgment from someone who's not doing better than me or who's not coming in good faith to discuss ideas.

How do you deal with this stuff if you've got a public persona?

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