That Other Lifestyle

Host Jason marks his 100th episode by exploring "Arcadia" — the intense, fleeting feeling of freedom, connection, and sexual abandon in the lifestyle. He reflects on addiction to the high, the pain of endings, and the rewards of deep friendships that let you return again and again. Jason also shares candid advice about consent and balance, announces upcoming events (Luminous and Sultry Spirits), and invites listeners to connect via the show website and Patreon.     Check out my PatreonBuy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Steve and Rebecca experience their first hotel lifestyle takeover, navigating nerves, rules, and the pulsing chaos of the ballroom. From awkward encounters and unwanted advances to supportive friends and tense choices, the night tests their boundaries and connection.   Check out my PatreonBuy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Jason examines how identity and labels shape the lifestyle world, comparing corporate job titles to the play dynamics couples choose for themselves. He explains common dynamics—soft swap, full swap, same-room vs separate-room, and group play—offers tips for crafting a clear elevator pitch, and stresses communication, boundaries, and sexual health. The episode centers on consent, respect, and the freedom to choose or change your play dynamic without judgment.   Check out my PatreonBuy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Host Jason reflects on the moments that mark the end of a life as it was — from the Baton Rouge flood that washed away a home, to the first full swap that ended their vanilla marriage, to an unexpected layoff that upended routine. He explores how sudden change reshapes identity, relationships, and what it means to live in the lifestyle. Raw, candid, and often funny, this episode uses the idea of a "last normal day" to honor the peace before the storm and the new reality that follows, inviting listeners to consider their own turning points. Check out my PatreonBuy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Jason explores the "blank white page" metaphor as it applies to the lifestyle, how novelty, attraction, and writer 's-block-style hesitation shape first impressions, consent, vetting, and the stories we choose to write with new partners and couples. He shares candid tips on communication, safety (including STI testing), balancing desire with discernment, and deciding when to pursue or walk away, encouraging listeners to be brave, clear, and emotionally mature.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Jason uses Bigfoot and other cryptids as a playful metaphor for couples everyone knows exist but rarely meets, and explores how visibility, images, and reputation act like marketing in the lifestyle community. With personal anecdotes, allergy-fueled honesty, and event notes, he explains how to craft a compelling personal brand, change perceptions through repeated evidence, and use presence to attract the right connections—always emphasizing consent and authenticity.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Host Jason shares a short story about Sam and Brenda, a married couple navigating jealousy, alcohol, and the local lifestyle meetup scene. The episode follows their tense night at a beachside bar where flirting, misunderstandings, and old wounds surface amid a crowded community gathering. My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Jason marks the podcast's two-year anniversary with a candid episode about a recent lifestyle cruise, personal reflection, and reconnecting with what he truly wants from the lifestyle. He shares stories about community, consent, the realities of cruise culture, and the bittersweet moments of feeling both connected and alone. He also opens up about mental health, a recent OCD diagnosis, and the importance of communication, STI testing, and honest boundaries. The episode is a mix of gratitude, advice for newcomers, and a reminder that the lifestyle is a culture built on respect, curiosity, and human connection.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

This episode explores the often-overlooked practice of aftercare in the lifestyle—what it is, why it matters, and how to give and ask for it. Jason breaks down physical, emotional, and mental aftercare needs, offers practical check-ins (like simple "You good?" texts or water and hugs), and explains how aftercare differs from repair and accountability. Listeners will hear real examples—from cuddling and reclaimed sex to the dreaded "drop"—and get actionable tips: set boundaries ahead of time, schedule debriefs if needed, respect different needs for space or touch, and never use aftercare to erase bad behavior. A clear, adult-focused guide to staying compassionate and connected after play.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com

Host Jason explores how personal stories in the lifestyle—good, bad, and funny—shape community norms, communicate etiquette, and help people find compatible play styles. He reflects on the oral tradition of sharing origin stories, dating adventures, and the way narratives influence attraction and behavior. The episode also covers ethics around storytelling: avoid naming or shaming, understand the difference between gossip and warnings, practice "story consent," and respect privacy so stories build community instead of destroying reputations.   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.comhttps://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyleSingle Men's Guide to the Lifestyle CourseRisque Lifestyle PartiesSDC.comSTDHero.comHellowisp.com