That's Fun

This week, Nikki and Damaris stumble into a much deeper conversation than they expected about how “growing up emotionally alone” can show up in adult relationships. From being hyper-aware of everyone else’s moods to feeling uncomfortable depending on people, they unpack the habits they thought were just personality traits, and realize maybe there’s more underneath them.

And because they can’t leave themselves emotionally spiraling without a plan, Nikki and Damaris also commit to a full “weekend reset” challenge: journaling, social media audits, routines, meal planning, goal-setting, identity shifts, and the deeply intimidating concept of spending two uninterrupted hours alone with your thoughts.

Somewhere between emotional breakthroughs, muffins, and baby duck videos, the episode becomes a conversation about support, accountability, and what it actually looks like to build a life that feels a little more intentional and a little less lonely.

Nikki and Damaris kick things off with birthday stories, thoughtful gifts, and a surprisingly moving conversation about what it means to receive love gracefully. From a server who ran to Walgreens for a Tide pen to the awkward beauty of saying “you are welcome,” they unpack why accepting kindness can feel just as vulnerable as offering it.

Then they turn to Memorial Day and the unofficial start of summer. They talk about honoring the deeper meaning of the holiday, the pressure to make magical summer memories, and the very real exhaustion of trying to coordinate camps, reunions, beach trips, and family plans when you’re already running on empty.

Along the way, they make a case for lowering the bar just enough to enjoy yourself: maybe it’s a local day trip, maybe it’s a week of boredom for the kids, maybe it’s admitting you’re doing your best and that has to be enough.

Because sometimes the most fun summer plan is giving yourself permission to stop trying to do it all.

Always meaning to plan the trip, sign up for the yoga class, or finally put something fun on the calendar...and then somehow never getting around to it?

This week, Nikki and Damaris tackle a topic that may not sound exciting at first: structure.

But as they’ve both come to realize, a little more routine can actually be the thing that makes life feel lighter, calmer, and a whole lot more fun.

They unpack how growing up in big, loosely organized families shaped their relationship with planning, why spontaneity doesn’t always lead to the adventures we imagine, and how simple rituals can bring more connection and joy into everyday life.

Nikki shares how creating a more structured schedule around work, workouts, and family time has helped her feel less overwhelmed and more fulfilled, while Damaris reflects on the role of discipline, trust, and learning to follow through on the promises we make to ourselves.

And finally, they make the case for treating fun like any other priority: if it matters to you, put it on the calendar.

Nikki and Damaris catch up on the little things they’ve been trying lately in the name of feeling better, having more fun, and making life feel just a bit more manageable.

They talk hair, skin, aging, and the beauty things women don’t always say out loud—from Nikki’s Rogaine update to Damaris’s Sculptra experience, including the parts that worked, the parts that hurt, and the very real question of where “natural” ends and “I would like my face to feel less crepey” begins.

They also get into Nikki’s new life motto, and Damaris shares the latest on Midnight, her very sweet foster dog, and how even the hardest, most inconvenient things can sometimes nudge us toward tiny bits of joy. More walks. More backyard sitting. More reminders that life can be both a lot and still kind of lovely.

Nikki and Damaris talk about the solo trip: why adults don’t take them more often, why they sound both dreamy and mildly depressing, and what happens when you carve out time that is truly just for you.

They get into the difference between traveling alone for work and choosing a trip for yourself, whether solo travel is relaxing, lonely, boring, freeing—or all of the above—and why a little discomfort might be part of the point.

They also talk about the people who really know us, the ways we show up differently with partners, friends, and family, and why spending time alone might help us remember who we are when no one else is weighing in.

And finally, they imagine what their own solo trips would look like: beach days, road trips, quirky off-the-beaten path stays, long drives, phone calls, silence, snacks, and maybe a hobbit house if the timing is right.

Because maybe a solo trip is about finding out what kind of fun belongs only to you.

Starting a business from your kitchen table, turning a passion into a paycheck, or just craving something that feels a little more you…

This week, Nikki and Damaris talk about the kinds of businesses that don’t always start with investors, a five-year plan, or dreams of empire-building. Sometimes it’s just a skill you love, a creative itch you need to scratch, or a quiet feeling that you want more purpose, connection, and fun in your everyday life.

They get into what this really looks like in practice: side hustles born from passion, the weird pressure to “pick one thing,” and how many of us are actually built for more than one path. From watercolor portraits at parties to muffins, supper clubs, and this very podcast, they unpack what happens when your work starts reflecting who you are.

They also get honest about money, growth, and the trap of assuming every business has to get bigger to be successful. What if a business is allowed to stay small? What if success looks less like scaling fast—and more like community, creativity, flexibility, and building something that fits your life?

Mint juleps, outrageous hats, and a group text slowly spiraling into mime-themed logistics…

This week, Nikki and Damaris head to the Kentucky Derby—or more accurately, into Derby Season. They unpack what makes the whole thing so fun, from Thurby and Oaks to over-the-top outfits, themed group looks, and the very specific chaos of trying to coordinate a big event with friends.

They talk about what this kind of fun actually takes behind the scenes: balancing excitement with stress, figuring out how much is too much, and why a little extra effort—whether it’s a themed outfit, a pre-party at home, or a slow-motion photo setup—can turn an already special event into something way more memorable.

They also get honest about the vulnerable side of hosting, from worrying whether your house is “enough” to navigating work friends, personal style, and the pressure to create a perfect experience while still actually enjoying yourself.

And finally, they make the case for celebrating more in general. Not just Derby, but any excuse to gather, dress up, add a little theme, and let life feel a bit more festive.

Butterfly collages, fairy houses, a fuzzy heart sweater, and a hand-painted sand dollar necklace...

This week, Nikki and Damaris dive into the surprisingly timely case for more whimsy. From TikTok trends to thrift-store treasure hunts, they unpack why so many of us are craving a life that feels less digital, less rigid, and a whole lot more playful.

They talk about what whimsy actually looks like in real life: curating a home with odd little treasures, letting your style be a little weirder, embracing childlike delight, and making room for the objects, rituals, and moments that feel charming, personal, and just plain fun.

They also get honest about the tension underneath it all—the privilege of having time and space to be whimsical, the pressure to be productive all the time, and how hard it can be to access joy when your phone is always in your pocket and adulthood keeps trying to make everything serious.

And finally, they leave you with six small ways to bring more whimsy into your week, from touching grass and taking a walk to sending an absurd text.

Because fun doesn’t have to be grand or expensive. Maybe it just starts with letting yourself be a little less serious.

Put down the waxing strips, cancel the “age-appropriate” outfit, and maybe…let your armpit hair live a little? 😅

This week, Nikki and Damaris are questioning all the societal rules we’ve just accepted. From the idea that aging is something to dread, to the quiet pressure to “fix” our bodies, they dig into what it actually looks like to opt out—and why it might be a lot more fun.

They get real about the evolution of beauty routines and the moment you decide you’re officially done being mean to yourself. There’s also a very honest convo about plastic surgery, gray hair, and the weird double standards between men and women when it comes to…well, everything.

And then, of course, they go there: armpit hair experiments, deodorant mysteries, and the surprisingly deep question of why we shave anything at all. (Science? Society?)

They also make a strong case for wearing whatever you want—crop tops, bright colors, kids’ t-shirts, “too sexy” outfits—because who decided there was an age cutoff in the first place?

Maybe the real fun is asking: why am I doing this?

And then deciding you don’t have to.

Opening the windows, stepping over piles of stuff, wondering how it got this bad…

This week, Nikki and Damaris take on spring cleaning—the notoriously un-fun task that somehow feels urgent the second the weather shifts. Because when your space is chaotic, your brain kind of is too.

They get real about what it actually looks like: the never-ending mess with kids, the “I’ll do it later” piles, the mental load of managing a household, and why the word help can sometimes make things worse.

From there, they share what might actually work—quick 10-minute resets, rethinking how you communicate with your partner, and simple ways to make decluttering feel less overwhelming (and maybe even a little more fun).

And finally, they throw out some creative ideas to make it stick: a weekly clean-up call with a friend, turning decluttering into a game, or even hosting a group flea market to turn your clutter into a girls’ night fund.

Because a clean space isn’t about perfection—it’s about creating an environment that actually lets you relax, breathe, and enjoy your life a little more.