That's Fun

Nikki and Damaris dive into the very real (and rarely discussed) topic of sex in long-term relationships—how it changes as we get older, why it can feel harder to talk about, and what actually helps keep intimacy alive after years together.

They unpack the awkward parts we don’t always say out loud: body confidence after babies, the pressure to perform, faking orgasms, and the way cultural messages about women and sexuality have shaped how many of us show up in the bedroom.

Along the way, they explore what can actually make things better—having honest conversations with your partner, understanding your own desires, creating anticipation (yes, even scheduling it), and why sometimes the best place to start is simply getting comfortable with yourself.

Because like most things in life, intimacy ebbs and flows. And the truth is, a great sex life isn’t about perfection—it’s about curiosity, communication, and being willing to keep trying.

Because after all, when we're talking about great sex?

That’s fun.

Winter has you feeling…fine, technically? But also weirdly unexcited about everything? Same.

This week, Nikki shows up in full-on “meh” mode—and Damaris comes prepared with a simple truth: sometimes you don’t wait to feel excited…you practice getting excited.

They test the strategy in real time by doing what they do best: planning something wildly unnecessary and deeply joyful.

Enter: Derby. Enter: themes. Enter: 1970s Elvis (big belts, bigger hair, capes, and possibly bedazzled sideburns). Then they zig into mime (black + white + performance art at the betting window). And finally, they spiral into a third theme brainstorm: Care Bears.

Along the way, they talk about why “just scrolling” makes you feel more stuck, how anticipation is basically a lost art, and why talking things out with a friend can flip your mood faster than you’d think.

Because fun isn’t always a feeling you stumble into—it’s something you build on purpose. And sometimes the fastest way out of a funk is a ridiculous plan and a group text.

This week, Nikki and Damaris talk about the sneaky way we dim our own light—with offhand comments like “I’m just a mom,” “I’m tired,” “I don’t do that anymore,” or “I already know I won’t like it.” They unpack how that little self-caption can quietly turn into a whole identity—and how fast it starts shrinking your life.

Along the way, they get into the real stuff: why women are trained to be modest (and to immediately soften confidence with a joke), why accepting a compliment can feel weirdly dangerous, and why “thank you—I do feel pretty” shouldn’t feel like a felony. Plus: the Miami outfit pics, the “are we being thirsty?” spiral, and the reminder that your future 80-year-old self would beg you to stop acting like 45 is the end of the story.

Nikki and Damaris also wrestle with the line between protecting your energy and getting stuck in your ways—like deciding a harp concert will be boring before you’ve ever actually been to one—because sometimes the thing that makes us feel “old” isn’t age. It’s refusing new experiences.

If you’ve been catching yourself playing small, downplaying your joy, or talking yourself out of fun before it even starts, this episode is your nudge: take up a little more space this week. Wear the metaphorical top hat. Try the thing. Be fabulous without apologizing.

Ever notice how one good night of sleep can make you feel like a completely different person? (And one bad night turns you into a walking group chat of complaints?)

This week, Nikki and Damaris get into the very glamorous topic of sleep—why it matters more than we want to admit, what’s sabotaging it, and the little routines that actually make mornings and evenings feel better…even if you’re not becoming a “5 a.m. meditation” person anytime soon.

They talk real-life habits: reading before bed, cutting the late-night doomscroll (in theory), using slower comfort TV to help your brain power down, and the chaos of being “tired but not tired enough” because you didn’t move your body that day. Plus: a spirited debate about face-washing, the logistics of sharing sleep with a partner (and/or cats), and why mental exhaustion can hit even when you’re technically getting enough hours.

If you’ve been feeling fried, foggy, or like your brain is running laps at bedtime—this one’s for you. Because it’s hard to have fun when you’re exhausted…even if scrolling is, unfortunately, very fun.

This week on That’s Fun, Nikki and Damaris are headed to Miami for the SoBe Wine & Food Festival, and they’re breaking down how to actually make the fun happen on a girls’ trip (instead of just hoping the destination does the work).

They get into the real stuff that can make or break a vacation: setting expectations with your travel buddy (how long do you take to get ready, are you a breakfast person, what’s your ideal bedtime?), building in intentional downtime so you don’t burn out by day two, and giving yourselves permission to split up when you want different things.

Plus: their favorite “fun catalysts,” from planning outfits and packing little comforts from home, to a genius strategy for pacing drinks, to why every trip needs one brand-new adventure—even if it’s a little weird. (Spoiler: they found a Museum of Sex.)

Pack your pillow. Pack your patience. And pack one unhinged accessory for the group chat photos. Let’s go!

This week on That’s Fun, Nikki and Damaris talk about how to make the fun happen when life (and the world) does not feel fun—when everything feels loud, tense, cold, dark, and just…a lot. Instead of stuffing the feelings into a tiny emotional ball and pretending they're fine, Nikki and Damaris dig into what it actually looks like to regulate your emotions.

They start with the basics: figuring out your stress response—fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—and why knowing yours can change how you move through conflict, anxiety, and overload. Then they share simple, practical “get back in your body” resets that don’t require a retreat or a perfect morning routine: a drink of cold water, changing your environment, humming or singing, five-finger breathing, the deeply calming magic of cats purring on you, and more...

The bottom line is that you don’t need to bloom during these first cold months of the year. You just need a few tools, a little kindness, and a steady mantra to come back to when everything feels like too much: we’ll figure it out.

Nikki and Damaris tackle a surprisingly big question: what happens when your real life collides with the internet version of life—throwbacks, opinions, comment sections, and all?

It starts with the 2016 flashback trend and the feelings it kicks up: nostalgia, vanity, cringe, and that sneaky sense of “Wait…am I doing enough?” They talk body image and clothes, how style and confidence shift over a decade, and why it’s worth clearing the closet of anything that turns your day into a shame spiral.

Then it widens into something deeper: redefining success when your life changes—especially when kids, capacity, and real priorities take up more space. They make a case for counting the unglamorous wins (like showing up, being present, and getting the right shoes for the chorus concert) as actual accomplishments.

Finally, they dig into speaking up online. Damaris shares why she’s gotten more public about her views, why she focuses on actionable ways to help instead of debating in circles, and how she handles the inevitable DMs and comments. Nikki admits the “Do I know enough?” hesitation—and they land on the same point: you don’t have to do it perfectly to do it honestly.

Because the goal isn’t to be impressive on the internet. It’s to build a life that still feels like yours—even when the feed gets loud.

Nikki and Damaris get wildly honest about all the things we do (and consider doing) in the name of “feeling fresh”—from the stuff that costs dollars to the stuff that costs...thousands.

They talk prescription retinol vs. pricey skincare, dermaplaning, Botox realities, microneedling, and what it actually feels like to do bigger treatments like Fraxel and “baby Fraxel” (Clear + Brilliant)—downtime, expectations, and the difference between a good treatment and a good doctor.

They also unpack the not-so-fun parts: the mental gymnastics, the pressure to “age gracefully” while still wanting a little pep in your step, and why none of this stops actual aging (you’re still going to look your age, just maybe a little fresher). Plus: CoolSculpting facts, oral Rogaine for hair thinning, and a truly unhinged detour into...extra nipples.

As always, Nikki and Damaris remind us they're not doctors, just two friends sharing what they've tried, what they've learned, and what they'd do differently—so you can make decisions that feel good for you.

Snowy season + girlfriends + “fun plans” all over your feed…but is it actually fun—or just something to post?

This week, Nikki and Damaris play a game of Will This Be Fun? as they break down the winter friend-date trends we keep seeing (paint + sip, puzzle nights, “make a candle,” perfume workshops, quirky workout classes, ice skating, sledding…).

They get into what makes an activity genuinely joyful vs. quietly stressful: the pressure to perform, the awkward “we’re supposed to stay for three hours” energy, and the universal truth that most of us don’t need another ugly painting in the closet.

Along the way, they land on the winter wins: do something a little active, tap out when you want, then go cozy up at the bar—plus ideas like arcade nights with silly stakes, mixology at home, coffee shop crawls, customizing something you’ll actually wear--and Damaris’ newest obsession: mahjong (pronunciation TBD).

Because winter doesn’t have to be the season you “get through.” It can be the season you make weird, warm, low-pressure memories on a random Wednesday night. That’s fun.

Life has a funny way of making big promises in January and then quietly testing them by February. In this episode, Nikki and Damaris check in on their New Year’s resolutions and get real about what’s still going strong, what’s wobbling, and what might need a little grace instead of guilt.

From finding ways to sneak veggies into breakfast to lacing up for more walks and moving our bodies with kindness, they talk about the small, everyday habits that actually make us feel better. It’s not about perfection or rigid rules. It’s about learning how to show up for yourself in ways that feel doable, nourishing, and kind.

Of course, it wouldn’t be Nikki and Damaris without laughter, honesty, and a few gentle truths along the way. They share stories, reflections, and a reminder that beating yourself up has never made anyone healthier or happier.

If you’re trying to build better habits without losing your mind, this episode is a warm hug and a pep talk rolled into one. Progress counts, veggies count, and rest counts too. Come hang out, get inspired, and remember that taking care of yourself can still be fun. 🥕🚶‍♀️✨