That's Fun

This episode was supposed to be about kid parties. Instead, Nikki and Damaris take a detour into the weird world of getting older—and how life’s little thrills can start to fade when the big choices (like partners, careers, and routines) are all settled.

They swap stories about missing the reckless thrill of being 20, carving out tiny joys (like impromptu dinners with girlfriends or staying out way too late on a Tuesday), and why sometimes the best way to keep life exciting is to not spend every night with your partner.

It’s a funny, honest look at shaking off predictability, prioritizing what lights you up, and making sure life still feels bright—and maybe even a little wild.

“I’m so grumpy all the time. Help.”

Honestly? Same.

In this episode, Nikki and Damaris dive into the hot, cranky underworld of everyday irritability—the kind that creeps up when you’re overtired, overscheduled, overstimulated, and just generally over IT.

From the low-key chaos of muffin deliveries in 100-degree heat to the strange comfort of eating frozen grapes, they explore the many unglamorous reasons you might find yourself short-tempered with your partner, your kids, or literally everyone breathing too loudly near you.

What unfolds is part confessional, part coping strategy: a funny, honest look at what happens when the energy runs out but the expectations don’t.

Spoiler alert: the solution isn’t pretending everything’s fine. It’s reminding yourself that you don’t have to earn your worth by being cheerful, productive, or endlessly pleasant.

You’re still lovable—even when you’re a little bit of a grump.

In this episode of That’s Fun, Nikki and Damaris get into the fascinating nuances of having opposite-sex friendships while in long-term relationships—where the line is, who gets to draw it, and what happens when it blurs.

They talk about emotional intimacy outside of marriage, navigating “gut feelings” about certain friendships, and why trying to be “the cool wife” sometimes leaves you feeling anything but cool. Nikki opens up about past experiences that challenged her trust and identity, while Damaris reflects on how evolving boundaries have reshaped her own views.

This episode isn’t about being jealous or controlling—it’s about being honest. What feels safe? What feels disrespectful? And when does a friendship start to feel like something else?

It’s vulnerable, a little squirmy, and full of the kinds of conversations that don’t always happen out loud—but probably should.

In this episode of That’s Fun, Nikki and Damaris start their unofficial two-person book club with a deep dive into All Fours by Miranda July.

The book explores themes like perimenopause, creative stagnation, marriage, sexuality, and midlife restlessness—prompting the kind of honest, layered conversation Nikki and Damaris do best. From questioning the default structure of relationships to reflecting on how it feels to age out of the endless possibilities of your twenties, they unpack the ways women often renegotiate identity in their 40s and beyond.

Damaris shares how All Fours became a jumping-off point for a real-life perimenopause group, while Nikki talks about the personal shifts she’s navigating as her body, family life, and creative ambitions evolve. The two also reflect on how everyday tasks—like cleaning off a chaotic porch or restoring a thrifted painting—can feel unexpectedly powerful when viewed through the lens of before-and-after transformation.

This episode is thoughtful, a little messy, and full of the kinds of conversations we often don’t make space for—about aging, relationships, personal reinvention, and the quiet ways we start reclaiming ourselves.

Spoilers ahead for All Fours. And an open invitation to join the conversation, wherever you are in your own story.

This week, Nikki and Damaris take on the often-overlooked truth about personal style: liking fashion and liking shopping are not the same thing.

Some people love the hunt. Others love the styling. And a lot of us? We’re just trying to make getting dressed feel a little less stressful—and a little more fun.

They explore why shopping can be so overwhelming (hi, childhood pressure to pick the “perfect” outfit), how style evolves through different life phases, and what actually makes it easier to experiment, express yourself, and enjoy the process—without blowing your budget or losing your mind.

Damaris shares how thrift stores and estate sales shaped her love of vintage and her eye for detail. Nikki talks about her love of fashion and her lifelong shopping anxiety—and how renting clothes, accessorizing boldly, and organizing her closet helped make the process less panic-inducing and more playful.

Also in this episode:

• The surprising power of accessories (spoiler: earrings always fit)
• Closet setup hacks that make styling easier—and way more fun
• A live birdseed experiment that rivals any backyard science project
• The underrated joy of blind ketchup taste tests
• And a deeply human moment in which Nikki dramatically panics over what turns out to be...NOT a bug

Whether you’re a fashion-lover, a shopping-avoider, or just someone trying to rework your closet without spiraling—we got you.

Nikki and Damaris are throwing it back—to the heyday of house parties. From vintage entertaining cookbooks to scruffy hosting in real life, they explore why having people over has become so rare…and how to bring it back, without the pressure of perfection.

They share real talk about what holds us back (hi, broken towel rack and kids’ clutter corner), plus simple ways to host without the stress—think soup parties, potlucks with purpose, and themes that spark conversation.

If you’ve ever said “we should really have people over” but never do…this one’s for you. It’s cozy, creative, and full of inspiration to make connection easier, one house party at a time.

Nikki and Damaris ask the eternal question: Is exercise ever actually fun—or just something we’ve all agreed to tolerate?

In this episode, they dig into the complicated, sometimes inconsistent relationship they have with working out.

But they’ve also both had moments of genuinely enjoying movement—and they’re here to talk about what made the difference. From half-marathon training to hot yoga to neighborhood walks with kids in tow, they cover:

• How accountability, community, and just a hint of competition can make workouts stick
• Why your workout doesn’t need to be extreme to be effective
• Plus: Making new friends at workout studios (or running into old ones!), and giving yourself credit even when your workout is 10 minutes of chair yoga

As always, it starts with a “fun thing of the week” that’s more heartfelt than usual—Nikki shares how donating muffins to a local charity event ended up reminding her what really fills her cup (and why giving back doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful).

If you’re trying to rediscover your love for movement—or just figure out how to fit it in without resenting it—this episode has ideas, laughter, honesty, and a gentle push in the right direction.

Nikki and Damaris answer a question from Helen in Atlanta: Are food festivals really fun—or just crowded, overpriced chaos?

They break down everything they’ve learned from years of attending (and working at) festivals like South Beach Wine & Food and NYCWFF, including:

• How to pick the right festival for your vibe (and diet)
• Why comfortable shoes matter more than cute ones
• The different types of events—walk-around tastings vs. multi-course dinners—and how to know which one’s for you
• And the #1 most important factor: going with the right person

They also swap stories about hiding heels in bushes, signing cookbooks with felt-tip pens, and the sacred art of pretending you went out when you really stayed in with takeout and mini champagne.

Whether you're a food festival first-timer or just want to be more strategic about your snacks, this episode has all the real talk, laughs, and logistics you didn’t know you needed.

Nikki and Damaris dive into the surprisingly entertaining world of personality quizzes—yes, the ones all over your Instagram feed. From love languages to attachment styles, they unpack what’s fun, what’s useful, and what might just be low-key therapy in disguise.

Along the way, they break down the Big Four:

• Love Languages
• Myers-Briggs
• Enneagram
• Attachment Styles

Which ones actually help you understand yourself (and your partner)? Which ones feel like homework? And why does one of them always lead to a little emotional unraveling?

As always, they kick things off with their “fun things of the week,” including a rainy-day baseball game and a spontaneous walk in the drizzle.

This episode is insightful, playful, and just deep enough to make you want to text your group chat your Enneagram number.

Nikki and Damaris tackle a listener-(un)favorite topic: chores. From dishes and laundry to dusty corners and chaotic closets, they share how small mindset shifts—and a few surprisingly easy (and helpful!) strategies—can make even the most dreaded tasks feel a little lighter. Think cleaning parties with friends, ten-minute timers, and books-on-tape ;) that double as motivation and reward.

As always, they kick things off with their "fun things of the week"—Nikki shares a game-changing period product discovery (yes, it involves a disc), and Damaris reveals her surprisingly effective tampon freebie system.

Plus: the power of before-and-after Instagram pics and why being messy doesn’t make you any less lovable.

It’s candid, clever, and packed with low-pressure ways to bring more joy to your everyday routines—starting with that sink full of dishes.