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  • Episode 17: The Dad Coach with Ben Killoy

    Ben Killoy is The Dad Coach. He helps dads create a lasting feeling of change, and help them grow through generational trauma by redefining the definition of living.  He helps men navigate through their lives and teaches “Scream-Free Parenting Techniques.'' He has been working in the coaching space for the last six years, and is here today to share his experiences and insights to help men grow their families into intentional, and generational success. This is a very special episode you don't want to miss. If you are looking to level up your parenting and learn some new techniques and perspectives, then this episode is a must!


    Recommended Reading:

    Scream Free Parenting 


    Ben Killoys Website: https://benkilloy.com

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ben_killoy/

    Facebook: benkilloydadcoach

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCI3OElVF8z2p2BpIN2h6Z1w

    Twitter: https://twitter.com/benkilloy

    55 min
  • Episode 16: Curiosity

    In this episode CJ and JJ discuss the power of curiosity. Oftentimes as parents we aim to fix, solve, and give our opinions in life. Reframing our conversations in the form of questions and curiosity we practice empathy and love. Tune in to see how to show up for your loved ones in an impactful way that is sure to strengthen connection and open communication. We dive into how to ask questions, how to respond, and what questions to ask when our partners or kids are in crisis mode. Learn how to have a “Yes Day” without ever telling your kids, and see the impact it has on your relationship. Curiosity is a powerful force for growth, learning, and understanding. You won’t want to miss this week’s episode. For more content and other full episodes, make sure to check out our theadhdads.com. Thanks for the support!

    Bullet Points:

    • Have a yes day without telling your kids.
    • Reframing all statements into questions.
    • “How would you…”
    • “What do you think we should do…”
    • “What ways do you think would be helpful?”
    • “What steps should we take?”
    • Give kids options, not consequences. Let them make choices based on their statements.
    • “Well remember you said, you wanted to do this, if we do that, then we wouldn’t have time to do this.”
    • “You said this, AND That, which one is more important to you?”
    • “Do you think we will be able to get to that with the other things you said you wanted to do?”

      • The more curious we are about a topic, the easier it is to remember not only information about that topic, but also other unrelated information shown at the same time.

      What’s going on in our brains when our curiosity kicks in?

      • We become better learners. And that learning can last. We call our attention to something specific when we act out of curiosity, and that leads to prolonged learning of that subject.

      • We recall more of our surroundings at the time of that learning and curiosity. More information is absorbed.

      • The hippocampus, which is associated with memory, experiences more activity.

      • Dopamine reward pathway is stimulated, resulting in motivation, which sparks a complex system of processes in our brains, one of which being the hippocampus.

        • Resources

        Never Split the Difference

        51 min
      • Episode 15: ADHD, Executive Function, and Time Management with Dr. Carey Heller

        Today we discuss ADHD evaluations, executive function, time management, lifestyle, and more.

        Dr. Carey Heller is a licensed psychologist and founding partner of Heller Psychology Group, located in Bethesda, Maryland. He specializes in the evaluation and treatment of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), executive function issues, learning disabilities, and related items including anxiety.

        This episode is incredibly valuable for anyone discovering their superpower of ADHD, and what to consider as next steps once an evaluation has been made. There's a lot of paths one can take, whether you are a parent of a child with ADHD, you yourself have recently been diagnosed, or you are simply curious about the benefits of time management and executive functioning skills.


        Important Links

        • Heller Psychology Group ADHD & Executive Functioning Coaching Services
        • chadd.org


          • Recent Articles

          • How Would a Professional Approach Treating an Adult with ADHD? Attention Magazine October 2022
          • ADHD Goes to Camp, Too: Featured in the April 2022 Edition of Washington Parent Magazine
          • Executive Function Issues and ADHD: Featured in the April 2022 Edition of Attention Magazine
          • Study Skills for Thriving with ADHD: Featured in the October 2021 Edition of Attention Magazine
          • View complete list of articles


            • Additional Articles/Blogs

            • Practical Parenting Strategies with Dr. Heller
            • Goodtherapy.org ADHD Topic Expert Blog Posts
              • 57 min
            • Episode 14: ADHD Evaluations, Part Two

              This week we continue our discussion on ADHD Evaluations for CJ and his 8 year old. Updating our listeners on where we are along our journey is important to us. Check out this episode if you are considering getting evaluated or getting your little one started in the process. This episode contains some encouragement and tools to think about as you start your own journey. We appreciate your time and support. Please check out more content and other full episodes at theadhdads.com.

              The Disruptors: https://disruptorsfilm.com

              ADD and ADHD websites and information:

              www.CHADD.org 

              https://www.brainbalancecenters.com

              https://www.additudemag.com

              57 min
            • Episode 13: Navigating Anxiety & Toxic Work Environments with Kamini Wood

              Kamini Wood is a life coach empowering her clients to take back control of their lives by helping them identify their needs, helping to set boundaries, learn communication skills and styles, and mindset shifts to uncover their full potential. She is the host of the podcast RiseUp: Live Joy Your Way, and is an author of the books Doing Your Best, and Om: Life’s Gentle Reminders. She joins the ADHDads today to discuss anxiety and how it shows up in our lives and in the lives of our kids, what tools and methods we can use as parents, and how we can help our kids. She also talks about toxic work environments and what kinds of questions we can ask to identify this dynamic and how we can plan for mindset shifts, career changes, and healthy communication in the workplace. Kamini is a wife, a mother of five, an author, and a life coach. You won’t want to miss this very special episode. If you are interested in more content, tools, resources, and parenting help, please visit our website TheADHDads.com.

              Visit Kamini Wood's website

              Kamini Wood on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram

              RiseUp: Live Joy Your Way podcast

              1 hr 2 min
            • Episode 12: Managing Expectations On Vacation

              There’s a saying that goes, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

              Do we tend to base our happiness on fulfilled expectations?

              • If left unfulfilled, are we resentful or angry?

              • Is there a good reason for our having the expectations we have?

              • You can only control yourself, so setting expectations for others and the world can result in disappointment and self-defeat.

                • Managing expectations is never easy, but add the stress of family vacation onto expectations and you can have a pressure cooker for meltdowns. This week the Dads share their experiences after wrapping up a vacation together. See how the ADHDads navigated the theme parks and managed groups mishaps, hunger fits, dehydration, and neurodivergent kids in the “happiest place on earth.” This is a lighthearted and fun episode where we explore our roles as dads, and we’ll have you laughing and relating to the ever complex nature of this thing we call fatherhood.


                Tips for vacationing with kids with ADHD

                • Get excited, but within reason

                • Create a schedule

                • Prepare the kids mentally by talking about some of the plans

                • Create a set of rules, and stick to them

                  • Make sure the rules align with those that you would have at home

                  • Make sure you still make time for rest!

                  • What makes your child happy, special, and loved? Continue to support that during vacation.


                    • References

                    • Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
                    • Never Finished by David Goggins
                      • 1 hr 7 min
                    • Episode 11: Anger Management with Pete Beskas
                      Today we talk with certified Life Coach Pete Beskas about anger management, communication techniques, and tools to help people to work through their emotions to show up better for themselves and their loved ones. We previously discussed anger on The ADHDads, and based on your feedback, we knew diving even deeper on anger and its effects on our lives was necessary. Tune in to learn about the evolution of change within ourselves to overcome our anger.
                      A big question we discuss in this episode: Why do you have to be right? Find out how positive life disruptions create change from within to be healthier without.
                      Pete Beskas is the host of a podcast called “Tools for the Modern Man.” He has a consulting business where he coaches men and dads on how to live more meaningful and connected lives to their families, and peers. His mission is to help modern men overcome the challenges and ingrained beliefs that are preventing them from enjoying their careers, their families and their lives. He helps men take back the control and freedom that they crave by focusing on bringing men tools and information from other coaches, therapists, and leaders within communities to give men the best shot they have at living behind a legacy of greatness. He helps men deal with anger and helps them to understand our own emotions better, through intentional curriculum and methods. 
                      petebeskas.com
                      Pete Beskas on Facebook
                      “Tools for the Modern Man” on Apple Podcasts
                      Anger as discussed on Better Help
                      57 min
                    • Episode 10: Extreme Ownership

                      This week the guys talk about extreme ownership. What does it mean to practice extreme ownership? For one, it means thinking of our own contributions to a situation or conversation before anyone else’s, resulting in self-analysis before creating a story in our heads about the other participant(s) and what they might be thinking. The benefit of extreme ownership results in curiosity about ourselves as well as the people we interact with by creating pause, and calling on us to pay attention to what we did in the exchange to influence the outcome.

                      How do we show up when we’ve made mistakes, and what lessons can be learned? This is difficult as a parent, so how do we help our kids with these same lessons? Especially children who have ADHD! Tune in as the guys share stories on how taking responsibility can lead to growth, and what better way to show our kids how it’s done by showing up. Check out at theadhdads.com.

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                      1 hr 5 min
                    • Episode 9: The Crucible of Marriage with Vince Horan

                      It takes time to understand your partner’s interpretation of things because of who they are and have been throughout life. Partners can trigger trauma, but they can’t solve the historical trauma. Can we both be right because of our interpretation? What does initiating the awareness of a problem look like in a relationship, and what can a couple do? Understanding doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing. Do we have the desire to honor the concept of marriage or coupleship?

                      In this episode, Dr. Vince Horan discusses The Sacred Crucible of Marriage. What it’s capable of is only as good as the self-awareness, maturity, and confidence of each partner. Living with your partner 24/7 will bring up unresolved traumas. You can share your story as an initial step in counseling. Then, commit to go through the process. How are you communicating? Do you have the tools and the desire? Vince talks about the recycling of traumas, and how we can push past them to heal and communicate with our partner.

                      This special episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand themselves and their partner, and also serves as a great introduction to becoming your best self for your current or future partner. Be sure to check out Horan Counseling Services if you want to dive deeper and thrive in your relationships.

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                      References and Resources

                      Russell Brand’s Recovery: Freedom From Our Addictions

                      The Sacred Crucible of Marriage video on YouTube

                      Horan Counseling Services (Facebook)

                      Phone Number: 253-536-9161


                      Be curious. Be humble.

                      1 hr 12 min
                    • Episode 8: ADHD Evaluations, Part One

                      On this week’s episode, the dads dive deep into what it was like for each of them to have ADHD growing up. This is a great discussion on how ADHD presents itself in childhood and adulthood. CJ updates us on his evaluation process while JJ shares experiences from his childhood. If you have a neurodiverse child, you are definitely not going to want to miss this one. Thanks for the support and make sure to check out our homepage for other teasers and full episodes at theadhdads.com.

                      The Disruptors Film website

                      ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction - from Childhood Through Adulthood by Edward M. Hallowell (Author), John J. Ratey (Author), Fred Sanders (Narrator), Random House Audio (Publisher)

                      ADHD: What Every Parent Needs to Know by Mark L. Wolraich MD FAAP (Author), Joseph F. Hagan MD FAAP (Author), Andre Bellido (Narrator), Tantor Audio (Publisher)

                      NICHQ Vanderbilt Assessment

                      CDC Statistics

                      1 hr 13 min

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                    As loving fathers directly influenced and empowered by ADHD, we live out a mission of focus on emotional intelligence and empathy toward our families, and in our daily walk. Join us in our journey as…