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  • DRESS FOR THE LIFE YOU WANT
    And so, yes, how you show up in this world, your outer appearance, how you speak, your posture, everything has to do with showing people that you are intelligent, showing people that you are confident, showing people that you are bold, showing people that you are capable, showing people that you are trustworthy and reliable, showing people all of those things to create those opportunities in your life, to attract whatever it is that you're working towards, whether you're looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with. You can literally apply this same example and the same scenario that I just gave to you to going out on a date. Hey, ladies, welcome back to the Ashlee Jaine show. You are absolutely in the right place if you are looking for mindset inspiration to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. This episode is all about dress and style, which is so funny because that is virtually all that I share on my YouTube and on my Instagram and my other social platforms. I absolutely love putting together chic and elevated outfit ideas and inspiration for the ladies who follow me on those platforms, and I know that I just talked about vanity metrics and things like that back in my last podcast episode, and I firmly stand by what I said when it comes to investing in yourself. But once you have laid the groundwork and have a good, solid foundation of who you are internally, both with your health and wellbeing, and also with your mindset and your positive outlook and inspiration in regards to the way that you think and the way that you feel about yourself.
    Once you have that work underway, it is so important to start showing up that way to the world. And you can do this through honestly through so many things, everything from the way that you dress all the way to your posture and how you stand and how you sit and how you speak. Those are all factors in how you show up in the world and how. And yes, I'm going to go there and I know that people hate thinking that this is reality, but it is totally reality. That is how people receive you. That is how people. I don't want to say Judge, but that is how people categorize you. So as much as we don't like to admit that we do that with people because we most definitely do, it is a primal instinct and it is something that is still embedded in our DNA to this day. We are judged, we are categorized, we are whatever you want to call it, received based on how we show up in the world. And so we're going to be talking about how the way that you dress and the outfits that you wear. And you know, I already gave examples of the way that you speak and your posture and things like that, but how those carry weight and how those portray your inner world to the outer world.
    And I really don't know a better way to describe it other than exactly how I just did. But I want you to understand the importance of it, not only the importance of how people are going to receive you. That's not really the point that I'm trying to make here. It's how you're showing up in the world. It's how you are commanding respect. It's how you are commanding the authority and everything that you seek in this life, whether that is a career, whether that is a relationship, whether that is a role as a mother or a daughter or a sister, whatever that may be, however, it is that you're wanting to show up. You need to start dressing for the life that you want. You know, they always have that same dress for the job that you want. Well, no, I'm going to take it a step further and say, you need to dress for the life that you want, because when you start showing up internally and externally as the person that you want to be five years down the road, 10 years down the road, a week from now, that is how you bring about those things into your world. Let's use the example of dressing for the job that you love. Let's use the scenario that you're going in for a job interview.
    And let's say that job interview is for an admin position. Maybe you're doing some sort of secretarial work and you show up and you know that you want to get in with this company and you know that you're overqualified for this job and you know that you would really like a position that is maybe a little bit higher of a pay grade, a little bit more compatible with your education and your skill set. You show up for this interview and you are dressed to the nine and you show up confident you show up well spoken, you show up educated, knowledgeable. They are likely going to say if they're being honest with themselves, we think that you're overqualified. We have another position available. Would you like to take it? I think it would suit you better. Something along those lines, or we would really love to get you in right now and then help you achieve your career goals within the company. As time goes on, something like that, that's just an example. No, let's say you do have this incredible educational background and the skill set and experience for this job. But let's say you show up and you're nervous and you're hunched over and you're, you know, you kind of showed up sloppy. Maybe your hair isn't done. Maybe you have an untucked shirt or whatever it may be, and you're just kind of showing up as just not the best version of yourself, not the person that you want to be, maybe the person you were a few years ago.
    Maybe the person that you were yesterday, but you are choosing not to be anymore. Let's say you show up as that person. You are likely not even going to be offered the job because you're not showing up for the job that you want for the life that you want. And so, yes, how you show up in this world, your outer appearance, how you speak, your posture, everything has to do with showing people that you are intelligent, showing people that you are confident, showing people that you are bold, showing people that you are capable, showing people that you are trustworthy, reliable, showing people all of those things to create those opportunities in your life, to attract whatever it is that you're working towards, whether you're looking for a partner to spend the rest of your life with. You can literally apply this same example and the same scenario that I just gave to you to going out on a date like think about if you show up as as the best version of yourself versus if you show up as this nervous kind of like hunched over, scared, timid, not so great version of yourself. The date is going to be drastically different depending on how you show up. And if you show up and you're, you know, wearing sweatpants or whatever it may be versus if you show up and you are dressed, you're in your favorite outfit, you're feeling so confident, so bold, you feel like it's accurately portraying who you are as a person.
    The date is going to go entirely different, and I want to make that clear. I want you to really think about and imagine yourself in both of those situations and the outcomes that would happen based on how you're showing up. So while there are more ways that factor in with how to show up and how to act and present yourself for the life that you love, I firmly believe that dressing the part is one of them or the life that you want to create. I should say the life that you want. Well, I guess you are working on creating the life that you love, right? At least I hope you are. If you're here and you're listening to this podcast episode, that's what I'm assuming. I'm assuming that you're all here because you want to become the very best version of yourself. You want to reach your potential. You want to really excel in life and live your life to its fullest, to live out your purpose and to create as much impact in this world as you possibly can. That is why I put together these podcast episodes for you, because I want to help you do that because I am on this journey. I am on the journey to become the very best version of myself, and I have learned a lot of things along the way, and I want to share them with you to make your journey a little more easy to help you speed up the time gap between where you are and where you want to be.
    So that's why I'm here. Anyways, back to the message about showing up and dressing for the life that you want now. I am all about style. I hate the word fashion. If I'm being honest, I hate it because to me, fashion equals trends. It equals weird, crazy colored shirts and funky colors and designs and patterns that nobody in the real world actually wears. You only see that shit on the runway. And I just hate it. I don't like it. I don't think that it applies to us ladies who are on this journey, who are trying to show up as the best version of ourselves. You can't show up as the best version of yourself when you're literally dressed like a character out of the capital and The Hunger Games. Like, that's not realistic at all. And I also don't think that chasing trends is the best way to show up as the best version of yourself. I think that figuring out your signature style, your personal style, the types of clothes and fits that suit your body type that suit your personality, the colors that you absolutely love, and that go great with your skin tone and your hair and your eyes and all of those things.
    That's what I want you to focus on, and I'm all about timelessness, too, because again, I hate fashion and I hate trends, so I want you to really just do like a mental checklist of. The items of clothes that you have in your closet, which ones are the ones that you wear, a lot of which ones are the ones that you can pair with so many different things and wear so many different ways because those are your capsule wardrobe items. Capsule wardrobe items are the best way to build out a wardrobe that is timeless and that is suitable to your personal style. So think about those items and you can even like narrow it down to maybe thinking about jeans. Which type of fit is your favorite jean? Is it the boyfriend Jean? Is that the mom? Jean isn't the skinny jeans. Is it the flair jeans? Is it the wide leg? Think about which ones really suit you, and you feel absolutely amazing wearing at some point. I hope that you'll go through your closet and you'll just either bring all of your favorite pieces to the front so that you have those on hand. You have those outfits already pre-made and created for those date nights and those job interviews and those it can even be a birthday party or girls night out. Just make sure that you feel absolutely incredible and every single outfit that you wear.
    Have you ever noticed this and this is so funny? Have you ever noticed that when you're wearing one of your favorite outfits and you have it styled so amazingly, you have the perfect accessories and you just feel like a million dollars? It could literally take you from like, Oh my gosh, I don't really want to go to this thing too. I cannot wait to show up and really just show up and be the best version of myself. I cannot wait to go, mix and mingle. I cannot wait to meet new friends. I cannot wait to wow. These employers insert whatever applicable tagline would be suiting to whatever occasion or wherever it is that you're going. Your first day of work doesn't matter. So X, Y or Z and start any that are applicable at this time. But have you ever noticed how an outfit has the power to do that? Because it's really interesting to me. You know, I think makeup is another thing, too, that women, you know, when you get your makeup done or when you get your hair done, you go to the salon and you just leave feeling so amazing. They added that extra volume that you're not able to achieve at home or or whatever you know, you love your new highlights. It's just things like that that really just are like a confident booster, almost. It's like those things help you show up as the best version of yourself, too.
    And I find that really interesting because I am definitely a firm believer that we need to do work internally before we do work externally or before we focus on hair and makeup and nails and clothes and all of those things. Because if you're if your mind isn't right, your outfit is not going to matter. Your makeup is not going to matter, but it is really interesting to me having my personal experience and having seen it with other ladies as well. Just how much your hair or your makeup or your nails or your outfit can really transition your mindset. So just something to take into consideration, too. But the message of this podcast is really for you to take mental note of the clothes that make you feel amazing. That makes you look amazing, that makes you feel your absolute best and feel like a million dollars walking into your first day at work the date night, the birthday party, the girls night out, the job interview, the whatever x y z insert here and pull all of those clothes to the front of your closet. Make sure that you have those outfits pre styled, ready to grab and go easy to throw on and make sure that you're showing up every day and dressing for the life that you want. And again, with an internal work and I stress this in my last episode, you can go back and listen to it.
    All of my episodes are parked here on the podcast app that you are listening to this on whether it is Spotify, whether it is Apple Podcasts or Google Podcasts, or all the fun places that they have podcasts. Now, you can always go back and listen to my older episodes and really just, you know, get some more value from the things that I've shared in the past. But I would love it if you haven't already, if you would subscribe so that you get notifications for my upcoming podcasts and we can stay in touch that way. And of course, you can always find me on Instagram. And like I said, I share a ton of style and a ton of outfit ideas and things like that on my Instagram and on my YouTube, and I would love to connect with you on there as well. But all of this said, and out of the way, I just want to thank you so much for tuning in with me today and just invest. Sing the time to listen to this podcast and to help yourself glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself, and I would really, really appreciate you taking a moment to give the show a five star review. This really helps me just to get the good word out to more women, just like you who are on their glow up journey as well. I will catch you on the next podcast episode.
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  • INVEST IN YOURSELF
    You are your greatest asset in life, no matter what your capabilities, your potential. Everything about you is your greatest asset because you're the one who's generating your wealth. You're the one who's keeping your kids alive. You are the one who is helping to sustain your marriage. You are so incredibly important. Welcome back to the Ashlee Jaine show, ladies. You are absolutely in the right place if you are looking for mindset inspiration to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. And that is exactly what our topic is today. Have you ever heard of investing in yourself? Because honestly, this was a foreign concept to me up until just a few years ago. It was a concept that I definitely had grasp before kids. But then as soon as I had kids, they became my entire world, and I was very much so. I put myself on the back burner to say the least, and I know that a lot of you here can relate. And especially if you've got little ones, you know exactly what I'm talking about, but I want to share my journey of investing in myself, and I want to share with you why it's so important to invest in yourself. And really, that all comes down to the fact that you are your greatest asset in life, no matter what your capabilities, your potential. Everything about you is your greatest asset because you're the one who's generating your wealth. You're the one who's keeping your kids alive. You are the one who is helping to sustain your marriage.
    You are so incredibly important, and I want you to really understand that that was something that I think that it was just a turning point in my life when I realized the importance of investing in yourself. So I went from not buying myself anything, not doing any sort of self-care, any sort of self-love practices for years until it's almost like I just the my flame and the fire within just kind of fizzled and burnt out. And it was a really I wasn't me anymore, and I can even look back at pictures for those times in my life. And just it's really hard for me to identify with that person and to accept that that's who I was. And I know that it all happened because I had the best of intentions. You know, I wanted to be all I cared about were my children and my husband. And so I just was so focused on being the wife and being the mother that I kind of just left Ashley in the background. And so it's just so strange, just looking back and looking at those pictures and seeing who I was and just now with where I am, I'm just like, I don't think that I loved myself at that time, and I think that I sacrificed a lot to try to be what I thought was the best wife and the best mom. And I don't regret it because at the end of the day, I have my husband, I have my children and everybody is happy.
    Everybody is healthy. And I think it was one of those instances where I just had to kind of grow through what I went through. It was a learning opportunity for me because if I hadn't experienced all of that and if I hadn't have went through that that time in my life, I wouldn't be able to be here and speak to you on it. I wouldn't be able to be here and share what I learned along the way with you. So I'm grateful for it in that sense, but it definitely did take a toll on me. And it's definitely, really interesting looking back now on who that person was because that person wasn't me. Because before kids, I was always someone who, you know, loved shoes, loved getting my nails done and love doing all of those things. And then I became a mother. And then I think for the first child, I probably stayed on top of getting my hair done and doing my nails and, you know, taking baths and things like that. But then when the second kiddo came around, it was just like, you know, it was all about them, and it was all about my husband. And not to mention, you know, we were young and we had no money. We were so broke. So having the funds to do those things was nonexistent. So I guess in a way, I didn't really have much of a choice, but I definitely still could have done some self.
    Love and some self-care practices and incorporated those in my life from time to time, and I don't know, maybe that's something that I can do like an entire episode on just throwing out some self-love and some self-care practices and ideas and things like that. Because honestly, I think a lot of women just associate that with going to get a massage or going to the spa or something that costs money, but it doesn't have to be anything that costs money. It really is just whatever makes you happy, whatever makes your soul feel good in that moment. And you know, the best things in life are free. So for me, that is bad or for me that is sitting in my car and just having a moment to myself in silence, which is free. So both of those are free, and there are two of my favorite things to do. So maybe I'll do an episode on that later on down the road. But right now, I just want to talk to you about the importance of doing those things and and why investing in yourself, whether it is time or money, why investing in yourself is so important. But going back to the old me, I've learned and I have grown so much just within the past few years, I would say, honestly, it probably started, or I kind of realized how out of touch with Ashley, I was probably about three and a half years ago. And that's a really long time that was like from my early 20s, all the way to my early 30s, where I just kind of was lost in the ether of being a wife and a mother.
    And since then, I went down this rabbit hole of just self-love and self-care and really just investing in me and investing not only in, you know, my outer appearance because that is just a fraction of the equation. There is so much more that we need to invest in in ourselves other than the way that we look. So don't take for granted what I said about the nails in the hair because those are vanity metrics for sure. And if that makes you feel good, then I strongly encourage you to do that. But I do want to emphasize that there's so much more that you need to be investing in when you're investing in yourself. Health is a huge one, so when I say investing in an example of investing in your health is making sure that you're getting adequate nutrition, making sure you're taking good supplements, making sure that you know, eating your fruits and vegetables for the day and getting enough sleep at night and exercising a few times a week or whatever that looks like for you. Whatever that looks like in your life and in your weekly routines and things like that. But those are few ways that you can invest in your health. You can go on a morning run, you can drink celery juice every morning. You can, you know, I'm just throwing out ideas here.
    You can have a smoothie for breakfast, whatever it is. Invest in your health and you'll also need to be investing in your mind set. And this one is so easy, ladies, because there are so many ways that you can do this, and virtually all of them are free. Now you can do things like coaching and mentorships and therapy or counseling and things like that. And those are all amazing. But of course, you are going to pay for something like that. But there are so many free resources out there to invest in your mind and to invest in your mind set. You can do, you know, meditations through guided meditation YouTube videos for free. You can start a gratitude journal. You can listen to podcasts just like this one to help you show up as the very best version of yourself to help you get your daily dose of positivity. To help you have those paradigm and perspective changes, there's so much that you can do, and all it takes is five to 20 minutes of your day or of a few days out of the week that you choose. So I think that's one of probably, I would say, mindset over health. Unless you're in very poor health right now, maybe you have some chronic health issues going on. Focus on mindset and then health and then focus on the outer appearance stuff you can. I know somebody like this and it breaks my heart, but she invests heavily in the way that she looks, the way that the clothes that she has, the things that she has, whether it's hair or makeup or nails or whatever.
    But internally she's struggling, and I think she's seeking confidence in the things that she's buying in the clothes that she's buying and in the hair and in the makeup. It's just so obvious that there's still a void internally. So while those things maybe she feels like make her happy to. Rarely her overall like health and happiness and just well-being in general. You can tell that there's a struggle and it's not in a good place and it just breaks my heart. But my point is is that I don't ever want you to be that person. I want you to be the person who shows up as your best self, who has a positive mindset, who knows that the world is working in your favor, who is competent internally and radiant externally. I want you to be that person. I want you to be that version of yourself and to do that and to get there because most of us are not there. It is definitely a journey, my friend. Like this is something that is lifelong that we have to commit to. But to get there, we need to focus on investing the time and the money and the energy in ourselves in those three categories. Now I shared some examples of ways that you can do that I share the importance of why you need to do that, and hopefully none of you have really gone to as dark of a place as I was with it to where you've kind of just lost touch with who you are as a human.
    Maybe you have. If you have, I can totally relate. And I just want to give you a virtual hug right now. I wish that I could wrap my arms around you and say that I understand and you will come out of this and you will find yourself again. But hopefully most of you haven't been there and hopefully you take this opportunity and this podcast episode to heart and you realize the importance of investing in yourself and you realize the importance of working on yourself each and every single day. It can be big steps, it can be small steps. I don't care what it is, as long as you are actively working on yourself to show up as the very best version of yourself, because that's what life's about. If we're not showing up as the very best version of ourselves, if we're not reaching our potential, if we're not being the wife and the mother and the Ashley or the Katie or the Britney or, you know, whatever your name is, that we can be in this world, in our relationships and in the roles that we play in this world are careers in our friendships and things like that. We are not doing what we are here to do. I firmly believe that we all have a journey, that we all have a purpose, that we all have a reason as to why we're here and we all have an impact that we need to make on the world.
    So with that said, I will wrap up this podcast episode, but I really just want to hone in on the importance of you working on yourself and investing in yourself and doing everything that you can to show up as the best version of yourself, both with your health, with your mindset and of course, with your outer appearance. And I've talked about this before. I hate the vanity metrics of it that your outer appearance is actually very relevant when it comes to reflecting your inner world, so you can't show up outwardly as a confident, bold and beautiful woman without having that feeling inward. I'm just throwing that out there, so it is kind of all tied together. But anyways, I'll wrap this up, and I just want to take one last moment to thank you for tuning in with me today and investing the time and investing. There we go with that word investing, investing your time and joining me on this journey to help glow up and show up as the very best version of you. I would really, really appreciate you taking a moment to give this show a five star review. This really helps me get the good word out to other ladies just like you who are on the journey to becoming the best version of themselves. Thank you so much again, ladies, and I will see you on the next episode.
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  • LESS TALKING, MORE SPEAKING
    Hi, ladies, and welcome back to the Ashlee Jaine show. You are absolutely in the right place if you are looking for mindset inspiration to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. In today's episode, we are going to be discussing, talking and speaking, which is funny because I literally am doing nothing but talking and speaking for this entire podcast episode, but I really hope that what you get from this episode, you can take and apply into your own life and help better yourself all around because of it. So when I say less talking and more speaking, I want to take a moment to explain the difference because there is a difference in my mind. So talking is just saying words. It's saying things that don't really carry weight, that don't really necessarily have an impact. But when you speak, on the other hand, you are speaking with emphasis. You are sharing value. You are saying something that does carry weight and that does have an impact. And that's really what I want your focus to be on. I think that there's a lot of people in this world, myself included, who are just really uncomfortable with silence in general, especially US ladies, right? We love to talk and we can banter and chit chat back and forth for hours.
    We are notorious at doing this and it's a great way for us to connect. But there are definitely times when sometimes we need to embrace that awkward silence and we need to really just figure out or help cipher through what we're saying to make sure that when we do speak, we are speaking and we are providing value and we are providing some sort of impact with what we are saying. We don't just want to say words because what happens when we just say a bunch of things without carrying any weight or value? People start to not take us seriously. It almost actually blows up in our face. While you know a lot of people, I think when they are talking, they tend to talk on topics that they know about. Sometimes they just may go overboard with an explanation. Or maybe it's just a habit to just talk and talk and talk. But when you're doing this, you're taking away from the message that you're really trying to relay and the importance of what you're actually trying to say. By filling it with words, you need to make sure that when you are speaking, you have a crystal clear message. You are concise with your words. You are saying it with emphasis and you are providing it in a way that the person who is listening can receive it and obtain the value or the emphasis that it has.
    So in conversation, there's nothing wrong with going back and forth on whatever it may be current events or, you know, talking about family or relationships or whatever it is that you're having this conversation about with your friend or your family member or whoever it is, definitely take the time to speak your mind and to share what you have to say on the matter, but filter through what you want to say versus what you should say and ask yourself if I say this, is it going to provide value? Is it going to carry weight? Will there be emphasis on this message? Don't let your message or your response, or whatever it may be that you are putting out there get smothered essentially by all of these other things that you're saying. You want to show up in a way that people are going to respect and people are truly going to listen to you. And that's another aspect of this. When you're talking, you're not giving anybody the opportunity to communicate back with you. You're just filling space. Your words are just filling air. And it gives no opportunity for you to listen, which is one of the most important things that we can do when communicating. Not only does it help others who we are communicating with, feel received and feel heard and feel understood and help overall connect us as human beings. But also it gives us. The opportunity to learn to learn more about the situation, to learn more about the person and to learn more about what is being said, what their message is.
    So when we're filling the time and air with a bunch of words with a bunch of nonsense that really doesn't even need to be said, we're taking away from all of that. We're taking away from ourselves and the impact that we're trying to make by what we say. And we're taking away the human connection element by not listening to what the other person is saying, and we're taking away the opportunity to learn by listening. So really, this is a multifaceted topic, and I want you to understand that there is such a thing as talking too much and there is such a thing as discrediting or devaluing your words, your statement, your message, whatever that may be, and the chances are that you probably do it on a fairly regular basis. Now, I'm not saying this to shame anybody because Lord knows I am a talker. I always have been. I can remember getting in trouble in school when I was a little girl for talking because I love to talk, I love to talk to people, I love to connect with people. It is just a part of who I am, and I have been that person who can't stand the awkward silence and who really tries to fill that void or that space with words and just honestly saying things that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
    I would have the small talk conversation about the weather or whatever it may be, because I didn't want that awkward silence, and I felt like that awkward silence would be a missed moment to communicate or miss a moment to talk. And so I would fill it with something completely irrelevant. And I think that we all can relate to that because I think that we have all done the same thing. Now there's nothing wrong with small talk. Don't get me wrong, especially if it's an opportunity to lead into a more impactful conversation. But you shouldn't spend an hour talking about Excuse my French, but bullshit. Like, you really have better things to do with your time. Then have those conversations and have that banter back and forth. You want to have impactful and meaningful conversations with people, and when you speak, you want to be heard and when they speak, they want to be listened to. So reevaluate your conversations in what you're saying and what you're doing with the people around you and what the people that you talk to on a regular basis and ask yourself, try to come up with some sort of filter where you can filter out what is relevant, what is not relevant, what will provide value, what will not provide value, what will make an impact and what will not make an impact. The analogy that I really like to use in this is giving advice to your girlfriend about a relationship. We all do it, even though we probably shouldn't, because the only person they should be listening to is their intuition.
    But when we give advice about a relationship, if we say too much, what we say is going to be lost on deaf ears. And if we really try to craft our message and speak intentionally and share our true feelings and our true thoughts in is minimal amount of words as possible. That's what they're going to take back. That's what they're going to remember. So if you've got a girlfriend and she's going through some shit with her boyfriend or her husband and you want to be the person to be there for them and to help guide them through this, maybe it's a situation very similar to one that you've been through. You want to make sure that what you leave her with is so impactful it will help jog her brain and help get her thinking in a different perspective other than her own to reevaluate the relationship in the situation that she's in. So think about that sort of scenario and how you would normally respond to her complaints or her asking for your help or your guidance, and think about how you could best create an impact and provide value and emphasis in what you respond to her. Those are two very different answers. Those are two very different conversations. And honestly, I cannot stress this enough. I have been there. I have done this a million times up until very recently. If I'm being completely honest, I think I've realized that the weight of what we say is more important.
    It's almost like the quality over quantity. Of what we say. I was notorious for saying too much, and now I'm at a point in my life where it's almost like, I say too little. I think some people would prefer if I spoke more, but it's given me the opportunity to make sure that when I do speak and that when I do share something, whether it's information or perspective or whatever it may be, it carries weight. It has an impact and it provides value. We live in a day and age where there is so much chatter in the world, there's so much going on around us. We can literally open our phones and go to our text messages, go to our social media apps, go somewhere and get people's opinions, people's perspectives. Seeing what they're saying. Hearing what they're saying. Maybe if you're on Clubhouse, I don't know. I can't figure that social media out for the life of me, but whatever. So whatever it is, you can always pull information of what people are saying from anywhere. And I think that it's a blessing and a curse because it lets all of us share, you know, our inner lives with each other, share our perspectives, our ideas, our value with others. But at the same time, if we're not selective and if we're not filtering out the noise and the nonsense, then we're all just drowning each other out.
    It literally just becomes white noise at that point. Nobody's paying attention. Nobody cares. Because why? Because we're talking too much and we need to focus more on speaking. We need to focus more on having a clear and concise message that provides value that carries weight. And most importantly, that will have an impact. So your homework from this podcast, if you have made it this far, I applaud you and thank you for being here. I know your time is valuable, and I also know that you want to show up as the very best version of yourself, which is why you are listening to this episode right now, and your homework is the next conversation that you have. Try to turn on that filter, try to turn the talking knob down to low and the speaking knob up to high. Make sure that you are having constructive and productive conversations and you're not drowning out your message with a bunch of words. And with that, I would just like to say thank you again, ladies, for tuning in with me today and spending your time and investing your time on you and on this episode to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. I would really appreciate it if you would take a moment to give this show a five star review. This really helps me get the good word out to more women just like you who are on their glow up journey too. I'll see you, ladies on the next episode.
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  • THERE'S ALWAYS ROOM FOR SELF IMPROVEMENT

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    Welcome back to The Ashlee Jaine Show, ladies. I am your host and guide, Ashlee Jaine, sharing all the advice, tips, tricks and actionable takeaways on basically your entire life, how to become the very best version of yourself. I share a lot of mindset. I share a lot of motivation, positivity, self-love, self growth and pretty much everything else in between. So if you are new to my podcast channel, I hope that you will hit that subscribe button and hang out with me for my upcoming episodes. I would love to welcome you to the family and have you here and be your guide, if you will, to help you on becoming the very best version of yourself.

    That's kind of what we are going to be talking about in this episode here today, which is something that I am super passionate about. This is probably one of my internal like desires or my internal passions. Like I am screaming with joy right now to be talking to you about this, because it is something that I live my life by. And I don't know how I got to this point. I can't really explain why or how I feel this way. But I do know that I love working on myself. I love personal development. I love growing, and I love becoming the very best version of myself.

    A- WORKING TOWARDS A+

    I think that we were all put here for a reason, and it is our job to reach our fullest potential. And that takes work and that takes time and that takes growth. And so today, my friends, we are going to be talking about how there is always room for improvement in your life. I like to think of myself as an A minus. If I had to give myself a grade, I would be an A minus. I am always striving towards that A plus status. But I know that there's always going to be room for growth, there is always going to be room for improvement. And so it may be my last breath, my dying day that I am that A plus, But for today and my future days, I live life as an A minus, striving to be that A plus. If any of that makes sense to you, if not, just sit tight. I promise I will elaborate and explain a little bit more.

    Now, I want to give you just some basic categories of where you can work on improving or expanding or growing in your life. And these are probably the most common, but they are definitely not limited or restricted by any means. So if there is something else or some other area of your life where you feel like you really want to see some improvement, then you can take everything that I'm about to share with you here and you can apply it there as well.

    EDUCATION

    I would say the most common are going to be your education, your intelligence. What do you know, what do you know how to do? Those are things and those are skills that you always want to be growing and expanding on. If you stop learning, you stop living pretty much. You should make it your daily effort to learn something new, learn how to do something better, et cetera, et cetera.

    HEALTH

    Another category of life that you really want to focus on, always improving on is your health. And this is so important I don't even need to go into why it's important. Hopefully you understand the relevance that your health plays in this game that we are playing called life. But you should always strive to do better, be better in regards to your personal health.

    RELATIONSHIPS

    Now, of course, we can't talk about improving if we don't mention love and relationships. And these are romantic relationships. These are friendships. These are, you know, relationships with your relatives. And so any relationship in your life, even if it's with your boss or if it's with your third cousin, it doesn't matter. There's always ways that you can grow and develop and improve in your relationships.

    SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST

    Think about yourself as evolving. Think about yourself as ever, evolving. Now we have mixed information, if you will, on evolution. But there's one thing that's undeniable, and that is the survival of the fittest. Survival of the fittest really just comes down to who was able to evolve or change to adapt to their environments, to adapt to the skills that they need to know to survive. It really just comes down to like those important key factors that helped them continue on where others failed and fell off.

    Are you going to be a survivor? Are you going to be one of those people who would fall under the category of survival of the fittest? Or are you going to be one of those people who stopped and who didn't continue to improve on or adapt or change to to meet the needs of your environment, to know the skills that you needed to survive? I would hope that it's definitely not the latter. And the fact that you're here listening to this podcast with me tells me that you are definitely going to be one of those people who fall under the category of the survival of the fittest. Now, with all of this said, let's go ahead and just dive right into working towards becoming the best version of yourself.

    EXAMPLES OF HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

    Like I said, there are those key categories, but don't limit yourself to just what I shared here on this podcast episode. I really would challenge you to find other areas of your life that you really want to grow and expand on. And I'm going to give you some examples. So let's say you want to improve on your health. So maybe you go from choosing a salad over a cheeseburger when you're out to eat with your friends. Or maybe you go to the gym two days instead of one day a week or figure out how you can push yourself further or do better in that aspect of your life.

    This is going to look differently for everyone because we are all so unique. We all have different priorities, different values, different things that we're already implementing versus things that we could be implementing. So like I said, these are just examples. But I really want you to kind of rack your brain and figure out how you can grow and develop and become the best version of yourself in all regards of life, not just maybe the few categories that I've listed here.

    Another way that you could maybe expand on or improve your education or increase your intelligence is to read two more pages of a nonfiction book each night. Or maybe you sign up for a training course. Maybe you decide to go back to college, maybe you watch YouTube videos that show you how to do an oil change. These are just examples because I most definitely would never learn how to do an oil change. That is not anything that I'm interested and learning how to do. But like I said, the opportunities and the options are truly limitless when it comes to you.

    Let's say you went to work on becoming a morning person, and this is probably something that I should really implement in my life a little bit better than I do. But maybe you start with waking up ten minutes earlier and then you gradually increase that time, maybe ten minutes, one week and twenty minutes the next week. And you figure out some really incredible ways as to how to be productive and maximize that time. Or maybe it's you know, you're taking that ten to twenty minutes to meditate. Or maybe it is you taking that ten to twenty minutes to exercise, whatever that looks like for you. That is an example of how you can improve on an area of your life. If that is where you choose to improve on.

    Maybe you want to be more organized. Maybe you're wanting to increase your organization skills. So maybe you lay out your outfits for the week. Maybe you go buy closet systems and cabinet systems and storage bins and you alphabetize all of the food in your pantry and you color code all of the clothes in your closet. These are just examples I'm throwing out if you want to increase your organization, which I definitely encourage you to do, because let me tell you what organization and systems in place like that and, you know, storage organization, stuff like that creates so much clarity in your life. Clutter equals basically just chaos pretty much in your life. So definitely do that if you haven't already figure out how you can improve on organization because it's going to be life changing for you.

    OK, sidetracked there. Sorry if you know me, if you listen to any of my podcast in the past, you know that I can get off topic from time to time, but I try to keep my bullet point notes so that I can get right back on. And that is what we are going to do right now.

    Let's say you want to improve on your relationships, your friendships, for example, maybe you take a few minutes out of your morning every day to text a friend while you are thankful for them, how they have impacted your life, or maybe even just a simple compliment. Or maybe you want to. Expand on your friendship, so maybe you make an effort to meet 10 new people a week, everybody can meet 10 new people a week, you go to the grocery store and you meet people in the checkout line, you go to the post office. There's so many ways that you can meet people. And those are just examples of how you can improve on or expand on or grow in the department of relationships, whatever you do.

    The moral of the story is you should always be doing something that is going to be moving the needle forward. You should always be asking yourself, how can I grow here? How can I develop further here? What can I do to become the best version of myself in this category, whether it's, you know, like I said, education, whether it's relationships or X or Y or Z, if there is anything that I want you to take away from this podcast episode, it is that you have not reached your fullest potential in any aspect of your life. And there is still so much more room for growth, regardless of the topic, regardless of the situation, the relationship, the scenario, whatever, whatever, you absolutely can still grow as a human being. And it is your job, in my opinion, to do so. While you are here. You have to make the most of this lifetime. You have to be constantly working towards reaching that potential, impacting all of the lives that you can, all of the things.


    Otherwise, if you're stagnant and you're just the same old you from the time that you turn, let's say early adulthood, maybe 22 to the time that youn see your grave at the age of, I don't know, 86, then what did you do with all of those years in between those years were wasted because you were doing the same thing and you weren't moving forward. You weren't improving, you weren't expanding, you weren't doing all of the things that you were here to do and you likely weren't living out your purpose because you're definitely not searching for or reaching or reaching towards your potential. S

    o think about all of those things. Think about the way that this plays in your life and how it can truly change your future around. You have the opportunity to really become such an incredible human being. And I hope that you don't sleep on that. I hope you don't let that pass you by. Like I said, this is something that I'm very passionate about. You can probably hear it in my voice right now as I'm speaking. And I really hope that this episode doesn't fall on deaf ears. I hope that you take this time to internally reflect and to ask yourself what areas you want to focus on, what areas can you grow, what areas can you improve on and figure out that actionable steps and things that you can do to make that happen.


    Anyways, I want to end this episode on that note, and thank you so much for taking the time to tune in and listen with me today. Thank you so much for if you are here. If you are listening, this tells me that you are definitely someone who is on a journey to becoming the best version of yourself already. And I just want to take a moment to honor you for that, because not everybody is at that point in their life. Not everybody realizes the importance of that in life. So you are special for even being here, for even showing up right now, today, listening to this podcast episode, because this is you working on becoming the best version of yourself. And if you haven't already, I hope that you will hit that subscribe button. I hope that you will hang out with me on my upcoming episodes. And I look forward to connecting with you more. If you want some day to day interaction with me, you can come hang out with me on Instagram or I also share some YouTube videos, lifestyle, blogs, beauty and fashion and all of those fun things on there. Thank you so much for listening in today, ladies, and I will catch you on the next episode.

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