Have you been "in the game" for a long time? If so, it may be time to start playing a new game!

If you are tired from the constant striving & you are starting to question whether the pace of the chase is sustainable, take a look at the game you are planning. How long have you been at this game? Has the game failed to evolve as your career has advanced, your assets have grown & your needs have changed? What if you had a different definition of success -- one that has matured with you?

Identify what qualifies as winning, according to the rules of your current game. Invite yourself to play a new game, with new rules! Perhaps it is no longer, "Whoever dies with the most toys wins," but rather "Whoever has the greatest freedom with their time wins." Explore new games that value health, peace of mind, contentment & the enjoyment of what you have already accomplished & acquired.

What game is next for you? What if winning at this game could bring you a new level of satisfaction -- & give you a lifestyle that would be sustainable for many years to come?

Are you addicted to approval? Is your overwhelming need to please oppressing your expression of ideas, desires & dreams? If so, & you are feeling stuck & sorry for yourself, there is a solution.

High achievers recover from their addiction to approval by increasing their tolerance for disapproval. As hard-working & committed as you may be, it will be grueling, if not impossible, to do anything great -- or even gratifying & good for you -- if you are not willing to ruffle some feathers. For positive change to occur, there must be some discomfort, disappointment or disapproval.

Learn how to start small. Gain tips for getting into the practice of asserting your preferences, proposals & plans. See your tolerance for frowns & failures increase & begin to enjoy the rewards of living an assertive & authentic life.

Do you want to change your career? Whether you have already decided to move to a different career or you are just exploring the possibility, this episode is for you.

High achievers who are successful at shifting to new careers are astute at conveying 3 essential things. Learn to identify & implement the "3 Es" of effective career-change communication: your experience, your enthusiasm & your elephant.

Highlight the most relevant experience & share your transferrable skills. Express your genuine enthusiasm for the new work & the workplace -- articulating how your interests, superpowers & values fuel your passion. And confidently speak to the elephant in the room -- proactively addressing why what seems on the surface to be lacking is not actually a concern.

Whether you are looking to move to a similar career or endeavoring to start at something completely different, the 3 Es are your tools for communicating in a way that you can succeed in making a career switch.

Are you adrift in your career? If you want to be intentional about setting the trajectory of your career, this episode is for you.

This 4-question guide is your resource for gaining the clarity you need in order to stop drifting & start deliberately designing the direction of your career.

1) What drains you? And what do you love to do?

2) What are you known for doing? And what do you want to be known for doing?

3) Where are you drifting? Where are you likely to end up, if you do not take ownership of your course?

4) What are your dealbreakers? What is your ideal role or career -- & what aspects are your must-haves?

You cannot control many of the conditions of your career. But the direction in which you set your compass is within your command. Know where you want to be headed. Learn to consistently chart your course with consideration & calculation & you will set yourself up for a career that flows more easily & feels more satisfying.

Resilience is an extraordinary superpower. But are you using your resilience to empower your forward-moving thriving or to endure an ongoing miserable surviving? Healthy resilience supports recovery. It allows you to regain your energy & enthusiasm in order to be ready for what is next. Healthy resilience does not strengthen our coping skills to be able to return to the same harm again & again. Nor does it build defensives & barricades so that we can retreat from all new risks.

Learn to distinguish whether your resilience is bolstering you to adapt to necessary, expansive change or forcing you to contort to "fit" where your values are not aligned. Gain awareness of the ways in which you participate in the difficulties that crush you & become able to identify what you have learned from the experience. Understand where to focus your efforts to further develop a healthy resilience. Learn to tap into the productive power of resilience to build a life that you can enjoy -- not just endure.

What should you do if you do not have a vision of where you ideally want to be? How do you advance if it is impossible or impractical to move directly towards your ideal career or life at this time?

Shift your focus to doing what would make it better. Learn to ask yourself: What is best for me now?

Recognize that choosing not to brutally push yourself does not mean that you are playing small. Giving yourself what you most need right now may seem to be taking a step backwards, but it is more likely than not actually laying the foundation for your ultimate leap forward.

Learn to think in terms of a dial. What would be more? What would be less? What would be more liberating, interesting, nurturing, authentic, healthy or fun? What would be less oppressive, dysregulating, boring or draining? Consider your work, social life, community involvement, habits & hobbies. What step could you take to make things better? Strive for better -- whether a tiny bit or much. From that somewhat better place, you can then move to what would be even better. You do not have to be moving towards an ideal -- at this time or ever. Just take a step to what is better.

Do you struggle to deliver difficult messages? If so, this episodes is your guide to being a competent & confident communicator. Diamond-caliber communication will be yours when you follow the 4Cs of color, clarity, cut & carat.

See the color of what is really going on & weigh the true magnitude of the matter. Learn to speak with direct clarity & convey your point with well-cut precision. Be intentional about what you share, in order to maintain your power & support your purpose. Learn not to JADE: Do not justify, argue, defend or explain. Develop your proficiency at communicating difficult messages & gain a greater command over your career and life.

Are you being bullied by your inbox? Are you too bombarded by nonstop email messages, distracting tasks & urgent requests to focus on what really matters? If you want to stop being in a constant state of triage, this episode is for you.

High achievers who achieve next-level success in profitability, scale or innovation -- & stay sane while doing so -- have systems that protect their energy & direct their focus. Learn the straight-forward 4-part filter system that you can apply to invitations, opportunities, responsibilities & whatever else appears in your inbox -- or your doorway. Make it your practice to run everything through this filter & decide what you will: do, delay, delegate & delete.

Know your priorities. Protect what matters most. And be able to produce the results that will grant you the satisfaction, recognition & compensation you deserve. Ask yourself: Is this meant for me? Be intentional as to what you do, delay, delegate & delete -- & capture the rewards of greater success.

What does it mean to be "authentic" at work? If you are looking to strike the right balance between authenticity & professionalism, this episode is for you.

Learn practical standards that you can apply -- & you can help those you lead & guide to apply -- to be both authentic & appropriate in the workplace. Understand the difference between having to keep something about yourself secret & constantly shining a spotlight on your identity & interests -- & why both are unacceptable distractions. Explore the type & degree of connection & community that you are expecting the workplace to provide & examine whether it is reasonable. Be able to distinguish between frankness & honesty. Understand why it is so important not to conflate self-expression with self-awareness.

Be the colleague, leader & mentor who recognizes that authenticity is about knowing what you most value -- & taking action to protect those values.

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If you do not have what you want, it may be time to ask yourself: Do you really want it? Do you want to do what must be done in day-to-day life in order to actually have & hold what you say you so ardently desire?

Wanting is not only about having. True wanting is about being & doing. To receive & joyfully engage with what we want, we must be capable of handling it.

Learn to determine whether what you say you want is something you do, in fact, want. And if it is your true desire, recognize the need to shift your focus from asking to have to asking to be. Gain tips for preparing yourself to be the type of person who is ready to meet the deeply wished-for opportunities. Identify what needs to change within you, in order for vastly new experiences & far greater abundance to be yours. Begin to take brave steps to transform your identity. Be open to shedding old mindsets & habits & become willing to shift into new beliefs & behaviors -- in ways that will allow you to engage fully, enjoy thoroughly & succeed enduringly in the life you want.