The Bearded Gents Podcast

Today we talk to Thommo about military service, what it was like to get out, where he was left when his career goals were left in tatters and why being cold helps with that.

When we have someone tell us that we are wrong to feel a certain way, what does that really mean? Where does that come from? What happens within us that we believe them? Maybe we've been taught to invalidate our own feelings and experiences. Or worse, don't know how to change that, let alone other people "allowing" us to.

Why are red flags red flags? What makes a behaviour a reg flag, and how different are those from person to person? Or better yet, what can be done about them?
We only know they are red flags until we've experienced them before and have the opportunity to reflect on them, but maybe we can pay attention to ourselves and what we know we deserve BEFORE we find out the hard way.

When empathy is of such high value, can it be used in a practical way? Or is that cheapening its value? Or is empathy just empathy, its only the ends its use is aimed at that changes how we feel about and use it.

We get to talk Skye, a personal change worker, a survivor and a thriver, about healing and the paths that are open to us when we choose healing.

Why do we follow who we do, and what exactly is it that leads us to follow and believe one persons version of reality over another's? What do they reach within us that attracts us to them or repels us?

If we cane accept that the person isn't their behaviour, and the behaviour isn't the person, then maybe acceptance of ourselves and others isn't far behind. So maybe the reasons we do certain things, like cheating, can be seen for what they are before the behaviours become a thing.

If what we like and are drawn to tells us something about ourselves, does that also give us some hints about why our relationship with food is what it is? Or better yet, our relationship with ourselves?

We talk about navy life, how a system can really feel when you're trying to change it for the better from the inside, and where that conflict can lead a headspace in the long run.

When your family member is struggling with depression, what could you say to help? If you partner is buried in anxiety, how do you not say the "wrong" thing? If not quite as simple as right or wrong, but the maybe the intention towards the person struggling can help the wrong thing still make a difference.