The Bed Head Chronicles

Today, I want to answer a question that someone asked me on Facebook. They asked, "Siri, what tools and self reminders do you use at the moment to stay the course in telling your truth? Being fearlessly authentic and often choosing discomfort at the moment versus fast, easy and comfortable. Being fearlessly authentic often means choosing discomfort at the moment when one's truth does not line up with the expectations of others. How do you tackle that?"

What an amazing question, Karen Burkes! Basically, Fearless Authencity is a muscle that we need to work on to make that stronger. We need to keep building that muscle. That means you need to be true to you in every circumstance.

Here's the thing, guys...being fearlessly authentic means being vulnerable. It means being brave enough to say, "This is who I am. This is what I feel. This is what I believe. And I'm not going to compromise that." What I realized that the greatest gift about being fearlessly authentic is that you not only get much greater joy and internal peace, but it also leads to more deeper, trusting relationships. People know that what they see from me is what they are going to get. I am who I am. They'll know that I always say where I'm coming from. I'm going to be real and honest. People trust you when they know you are being real with them.

To me, I feel that it is so worth it to not have to struggle with the feeling that comes -- and I know this feeling well from when I was a youngster -- that feeling that you're trying to be something to "fit in" to get a certain job or have someone like you. You're having to be something that you're not. We think that we need to change to become something different to get what we want.

But no.

The easiest, simplest and most powerful, enjoyable way to achieve what we dream of is by being you. By being fearlessly, authentically YOU.

In every single moment, recognize yourself.

If you're with a group of people who have certain opinions, but your own opinion just doesn't match theirs, it's okay. It's okay to have a different opinion. If anything, know that we are all learning and growing from one another. We're seeing different perspectives from our conversations that add to our own perspective. When we have compassion, empathy, and lead with love, we can look at every single person, even if they have different beliefs to us, and love them. Love them for being human and for sharing their truths even if it differs from ours.

When we have compassion and empathy for others, that allows us to accept being different. It won't make us angry about the fact that they don't agree with our own beliefs. It will allow us to accept it and entertain that perspective and appreciate it, acknowledge it and hold on to what is true for you.

Nothing feels better than backing yourself in those moments. Nothing feels better than standing your ground for what you believe in.

Say you were standing your ground in a job interview, and you knew the answer to a question like "Do you have a husband?" -- for me, way back when, I could say "I'm gay." But what if this person asked me that question and I say "No, I'm gay." What if I don't get the job? Well, you know what? That's not the job I want anyway. That's not the job for me. Or maybe, they take a deep breath when I say, "No, I'm gay. I'm with a woman.," it gives them an opportunity to learn, grow and expand their belief system.

Whatever it is, trust in the fact that when you come home to the truth -- when you stand true with you and back yourself up and know that by presenting yourself as you are, everything about you -- fearlessly authentically you, you are giving the world the very best of you. Not a tweaked version of yourself where some of it is real and some of it is not. But you are giving the world all of who you are. All of your power, beauty and your perfection. That's what the world deserves. That's when we have the most impact. That's when we can be our best selves. Most importantly, we can achieve the most in our lives and get the most fulfillment. That fulfillment, peace, and joy inside.

So, please, aim to be fearlessly authentic.

First, you must know who you are. What do you care about? What do you believe in? What lights up your soul? What kind of impact do you want to have in the world around you?

Then don't compromise. Don't try to be something that you're not. Be you.

That is where you are your most powerful self. There will be moments where you will be challenged. But don't decide or act on fear. Act from a place of love -- and that means loving yourself first. Trust that your truth, your authenticity, is where you can be most powerful and impactful in this world, and your most loving and very best self.

Trust in you. Love yourself first. Lead with love. Accept others with love. Don't make decisions based on fear. Love yourself. Believe in you. Be fearlessly authentically you. Never compromise on that. The more you do it, the stronger you become. It's a muscle. Build it. And you will see that your capabilities become more powerful than you can imagine.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning everyone, and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about when we get sick, injured or not feeling our best. How do we support ourselves in those moments?

In the past, when I would get an injury as a professional athlete, I would get angry at that body part that got injured. "I can't believe this plantar fascitis is this bad!" I would get angry or upset.

Or if we get sick at an inopportune time -- rather than beating up on ourselves in those moments, I think it is so important to be kind to that body part, our body, and our selves. Love your self. Send healing energy to that body part or yourself. Allow yourself to recover and heal.

If someone you loved was injured or sick, we go and take care of them. We bring them chicken soup or massage their injury. We love on them, support them and send healing vibes to them.

We must do the same for ourselves.

Our bodies will break down, and when they do, they are asking for something we're not giving them. Are you giving your body enough recovery? Are you sleeping enough? Are you eating the right food? Are you drinking enough water? Whatever it is, your body is crying out for help in some shape or form.

If it's an injury, your body is telling you that you're doing too much. It needs to recover more.

Honor your body. Give it what it needs to recover, get healthy, stay strong and be able to give you what you're asking of it. We can't treat our bodies like rental cars (even if you do take care of rental cars). We have to treat them the way we would treat a car that we would just wash and shine every day. Treat your body like the precious vessel that it is.

So, in those moments when you're not feeling well, have a niggle or have an injury, be kind to yourself. Love on yourself and give yourself what you need to heal, get stronger, get healthy and feel better. Your body is communicating with you. Think about what it needs and give that to your body. But, most importantly, give yourself love. The same kind of love and attention that you would give a loved one if they were hurting in the same way.

Thank you everyone, and have an amazing day.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about the standards that we set for ourselves. Our performance, whether it be in our job, in our sport, our relationships – whatever it is, it depends upon the standards that we set for ourselves. Sometimes we’ll set high standards for our work or sport, and we’ll always do our very best and do everything that we need to do to be the very best we need to be in those things. But then we drop our standards in our relationships or taking care of others, whatever that is. 

It is so important in life that we set high standards in every aspect of our life. That means your career, health, relationship, finances, time management, spirituality, and inner peace. All of these. 

When we set standards and live up to them in every aspect of our life, that is when life gets to be as brilliant and as beautiful as we dream of.  

So, what area in your life had you not held the same standard that you hold for the aspect of your life that you’re most focused on right now? For example, if your career is everything to you right now because you know that if you can do a great job at work, you can make a good living and support your family. You can do all the things you dream of doing in life. But does that mean that when you come home at night to your family, and you’re exhausted and tired for giving everything in your job, that you’re not really present for your family? If that is the case, what I ask you to do is raise your standards to the same level of your career for your family.

That doesn’t mean you have to spend many more hours together. But it means that in the time that you spend with your family, be present. Be fully present. Put your phone away or put it in the other room. Look into the eyes of your loved ones.  Be there.  Be interactive and share in their day. Set those same high standards in your relationship that you do in your career. 

If the relationship is where you set your standards are set so high and you’re not really bringing that to your job. If that’s leading to your performance not been so great, or you’re not enjoying your work, then try to set the same high standards in every aspect of your life. Career, health and body, relationships, finances, spirituality, inner peace – set those same standards.  You’ll see that life will feel more beautiful, richer and happier.  Be the best you every single day.  Thank you.  

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about how to be our very best in those most crucial moments. Whether you are racing in a World Championship and you have 200 meters to go to the finish line with just one person in front of you. If you pass them, you’re going to win that World Championship. Or, perhaps, how can hit that goal time coming under 5 hours in a half ironman and you’ve got 30-seconds to go to make it to the finish.  Or, perhaps, you’re the one that’s chosen to take the last shot in overtime that’s going to determine whether your team wins or loses that game. Or, maybe, you’re in the midst of your biggest pitch that will determine whether your company takes it to the next level or not. 

In those moments, how can we be our very best selves?

I’ll tell you one way that we won’t be our very best selves – that is if you’re focusing on “what if I fail? What if I don’t make it? What if I miss?  What if I…?  Any “what if” with a negative finish is not going to help you.  It’s going to disempower you and lead you to not be your best self.

What we want to focus on is “how can I be my best self at this moment?” Being fully present at the moment is everything.  That is where we are most powerful – when we are in the moment.  Focusing on what we can do at this moment now to be our very best selves. 

Whether that is the runner in the triathlon going for the world championship win.  Let’s focus on my form.  I’m going to pump the arms.  I’m going to keep my cadence up.  I’ve got my forward momentum.  And I am going to absolutely drive as hard as I can to catch that person in front of me and cross that line. Be in the moment.  Pull all the tools out of the toolbox.

Or, if you’re delivering that pitch for your company, come from the heart.  Come feel why this matters to you.  Be present with the emotion behind it.  Be present with your purpose and mission, then deliver it from that place.  Because if we’re in the past or future, that’s going to take away the power we can give when we are in the moment, fully present, with what we are doing that very moment. Being our best selves at the moment is when we can deliver our most powerful punch.

So, if you’re the one in overtime taking that last shot, don’t think about “what if I miss?” Don’t think about “what’s it going to be like when I make it?” Think about what you can do at this very moment to make this the best shot you’ve ever made. Then focus on your technique, form and the power that you put into it.  Focus with your heart, your soul, your spirit – that is where you will be your most powerful self. 

Even though this is kind of a different subject – at any moment, you don’t what to focus on the things that you don’t want. Focus on what you want. See it happening. See it working. Know that you have everything you need inside of you to have or create the result that you dream of. 

Everyone, have an amazing day.  Make it an amazing day. It’s in your control. 

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about “changing our shoulds in life to musts.”

There's a big difference between saying, “I really should start working out and get on a healthy eating plan,” to “I must start eating healthier and start getting fit.”

It's a big difference in what that invokes in you. A “should” won't get you moving. It won't call you to action. A “must” makes it absolutely imperative that this gets done.

What things in your life have you been calling “shoulds” that really need to be “musts”? Is there something that your health depends upon you doing that if you don't do these things down the line, you're going to experience pain because of it. We need to get leverage to get us to do the things that happen “shoulds” and to turn them into “musts”.

What is that leverage? What if it has to do with the relationship? “I really need to put some time into my marriage.” “I need to be more present.” “I should be more present.” “I should probably create a date night every week.” “I should probably try and lift them more and take more interest in my partner's life.” “I should do these things.” You're probably not going to do them if they're really a “should.”

So think about to yourself “Why does this matter?”. And you would say because my wife is the most important person in my life. I loved her more than anything in the world and our future happiness and health of our relationship depends upon me being present and fully integrating our lives. And it becomes a must because if I don't do these things I could lose her. I could lose this relationship.

This is all theoretical, by the way. I love my wife and we're doing amazing. Thank God.

But moving from a “should” to a “must” makes it absolutely imperative that you get this done. So, find your leverage.

My leverage is, that, if this person means the world to me, then my every moment in life should be focused on lighting up her soul, bringing out the best in her, filling her needs, and being everything that I can be for her. Because I know if I do that, I'll get the same in return and our relationship will be everything that it's meant to be. It's a must because of that.

Your health. If you're saying, if you have some health issues, and in order to solve them, or to move forward, and to get healthy again, you need to change your diet. Start eating healthier. Start exercising start. Strengthening your heart.

Think about it this way. If I don't do these things, I can severely damage my health. I may not be around for my husband, or wife, or my kids, or my friends, or my family. I may not be able to go to work and support my family. I may not be able to do the things that I love. I may not be able to enjoy this gift of life for as long as I hope to. That's leverage and that will change your “should” to an absolute “must.” Tony Robbins taught me this and the power of these words is incredible.

What are things that have been “shoulds” in your life that need to be “musts?” When you say “must” it will push you into action. You won't look back. So, go do that. Make it a must. Your life depends upon it. Your relationships depend upon it. Your happiness and joy. Your fulfillment depends upon it.

Turn your “shoulds” into “musts” and go get it done. Change your life. Be in charge. Empower yourself. And when you do that, your impact on all those around you, all those that you care about will be enormous and beautiful. Be brave. Be you. Go get it. Be strong. Make it a must.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about certain words that we all use a lot to describe tougher moments in our lives. And sometimes when we overuse these words, we start attributing them to tough days that aren't the end of the world. But because we use that word to describe it a word like “devastated.” “I'm just devastated that my package didn't arrive today,” or “I'm devastated that that meeting didn't go the way I wanted it to.

Now, the problem with using such strong words like “devastated,” is that it's such a powerful word that brings up these feelings of just complete disaster, and sadness, and pain. And what happens is that in using that word, it’s actually bringing even more pain, even more intensity or sadness to something that really isn't the end of the world.

So, what words are you using in your life?

Whether it be, “It was a tragic day.” or “Oh, it was just a horrible day.” And think about how much worse it actually makes your experience of the day just by using that word.

I know, with me, I hear a lot from people in my life where they'll write me and say, “Oh, I'm just devastated,” and I think “My God, what happened?” Did somebody die? Did you get into an accident? What happened? And, it's never anything of the sort.

To me, it brings up these horrible emotions that bring me pain and angst. But also for them, it's as if they are taking what should be a 5 (on a scale of 1 to 10) in pain or upset and making it a 10 just by the word that they're using to describe it.

Think about the words you use in your life and let's think about using them less or using them only for things that truly are 10 out of 10 pain for you, or disappointment, or angst, or sadness.

Because if we can use gentler words, or words that are more descriptive of truly what happened. Like, “Oh, I had an upsetting meeting today,” or “A bit disappointed that my package didn't arrive today.” It takes the sting out of it. It makes it less painful. And, in the world today, we are going to have moments that are really painful and really hard. But if we're using those big, huge words for small events that really should not be giving us that much pain, it's kind of forcing us to lower our threshold of what level things need to be too upset us, if that makes sense.

So, focus on the words that you use. Try not to use those huge, exaggerated words for things that really aren't deserving of that kind of a description.  You’ll notice that your pain becomes less. Your frustration becomes less.

I truly believe that our experience of life is up to us. It really is in every way. Yes, bad things are going to happen to us or people are going to be mean to us or will be disappointed. But we are in control of how we react. We are in control of how we respond. How we do that is we decide what to focus on.

Are we going to focus on the hurt, the pain, the disappointment? Or are we going to focus on “Okay, what can I learn from this?” “What good is going to come out of this?” Or “What am I learning from this? Are we focusing on all the things that went wrong? All the problems?

Or are we focusing on everything that's right in our lives? And all the solutions and the fact that we truly can control our experience of life by what we focus on, the meaning we give things, and what we choose to do about it?

You can wake up feeling sad. You can choose to lie in bed and feel sad all day. Or you can choose to take a moment; take a deep breath, put your hand on your heart, and think about all the wonderful things in your life. And the first one being “I woke up this morning and I have this beautiful beating heart in my chest. I have a roof over my head right now, and I have a place to go. I have things to do. I have people that care.”

Then get out of bed and create your experience of life. All of this -- being able to be in charge of our own experience of life -- it's empowering. When we decide to let circumstances or other people determine our moods, our feelings, and interactions, we become helpless. That helplessness makes us feel horrible.

Choose to empower yourself. Choose to focus on things that serve you: what you have, what you love, what you want to create, and what you have all the control over -- which is your experience of life: how you react, how you respond, how you decide to take on your day with positivity, with optimism, with hope, with love, with kindness, and with strength.

Everyone have an amazing day. I love you all.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning, everyone. And welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about certain beliefs that we developed at a very young age that, to this day, could be negatively influencing us. Even sabotaging our efforts to be happy, successful, or thriving in our lives.

I woke up thinking about money and the first 4 years of my life. My parents were still together, we lived in a small house listening to Cat Stevens on our old red velvet couch. There was so much love. We didn't have many material things. But there was so much love and connection.

Then, my parents got divorced and my mom married a really rich, famous guy. Suddenly we moved into this massive house and we had everything that we could ever dream of. But what I felt was there was less time for connection and love. They traveled a lot and were gone a lot.

So, for me, the meaning I gave money was that it steals love. Money takes away quality time. Money takes away connection. Basically, love and connection -- the things that mean the most to me -- will be taken away if money comes in.

Now, this is a crazy belief, but you can see how it developed.

When my wife and I developed Believe Ranch and Rescue, our non-profit horse rescue, we were struggling to raise any money at all. And it's still a big effort for us. We went off to Tony Robbins' Business Mastery course. It was just unbelievable because the first thing that I realized when I went to this course is that my relationship with money -- the meaning I gave money -- was completely preventing me from having the ability to become financially free.

I had to change what I saw money as doing in my life. For me, if I could achieve financial freedom, I would be able to save more horses. I would be able to give more to the people that I love and care about. I would be able to give to the causes that I care about. Basically, financial freedom would give me the ability to love more, give more, save more and create more in the world, which is what I'm all about.

It's about loving. I love these horses. I am trying to save these horses from the most dramatic, horrible, torturous fate. But in order to do that, we have to raise money. We need to ask for money and ask for help. If I was repelling the idea of money, then I was also preventing any chance of bringing it into our lives so that we could save more horses and give more.

So, think about your relationship with money. What do you think money brings you?

If you're like me, and you have a relationship that isn't a positive one, it's so important for you to change your meaning of money so that you open yourself up to be able to create and live the life that you dream of. To me, having money isn't about having the material things. It means that I have the ability to spend more time with my family, see them more often. Part of my family is on the other side of the world in Australia. So, if I achieve financial freedom, we can visit them more. That means more time together. More chance of connection.

Also, I can give more to the world around me. I can help others that need help. I can give a voice to those that don't have one. I can help create and develop things to give back to this beautiful world and this life that has given me so much.

These beliefs can also be about relationships or love or life itself. Think about what you think life is. If life is hard, you're always going to be finding that it's hard. You will find proof of that. Or if love is dangerous, you're always going to be afraid of creating a relationship.

First, you want to think back to where do these beliefs come from? Why have I had this directing my life? When you realize that we created these beliefs long ago and no longer serve us anymore -- if anything, they are holding us back. Find a more empowering meaning. Free yourself from the chains that are keeping you from living your best life.

Every day, examine your different beliefs and see if they are serving you or disempowering you. If you find that something is holding you back, change it. Form a more empowering meaning. Have a different way of looking at it. Get out there and live the life that you dream of because this life is truly such a beautiful gift. I know that all of us want to be able to experience the most love, joy, success, and fulfillment. In order to do that, we need to look at the things that may be holding us back as far as our beliefs go.

Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing day.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about how motivated we as humans are by trying to avoid pain. How many times have you said "No" when you really wanted to say "Yes" because you are afraid that it could lead somewhere painful? It could lead to either failure or rejection or pain of some sort.  How many times have we backed away from a challenge or said "No" to an incredible opportunity because we were more motivated by avoiding pain than we were to receiving pleasure or joy?
 
So often -- we need to think about this -- we make decisions based on fear and that fear is of pain.  Some sort of pain.

I made a decision many years ago, that I was going to start living my life from a place of love and not fear. My life had been ruled by fear for so many years and it sucked all the joy out of my life. All the pleasure out of my life. And it created such anxiety and frustration, and overwhelm, and fear.

And when I made this decision to live my life from a place of love and not fear, it changed everything for me. Because what I realized is that when we avoid pain; when we say no because we're afraid, we actually are creating so much more pain for ourselves in the future. When we say yes and when we take a chance on us and when we believe that whatever pain we may experience to get to that ultimate goal or to that ultimate place that we're dreaming of, it will be so worth it. For the joy that we're going to experience at the end.

So think about this; the decisions you make in your life, if they're based on fear, please take a moment, breathe deep, come into your heart, and ask yourself, "Is this the right decision?"

Give yourself a second chance to say "yes", and to be courageous enough to know that you can withstand any discomfort or any pain knowing that what's on the other side -- that joy, that fulfillment, that happiness, whatever it is, will be so worth it.  Because when we don't act because we're afraid, I truly believe it can lead to so much more inevitable pain in the future.

I'll give you a small example. I completely trashed my body as an athlete. I probably did way more than I was actually capable of doing. I took on way more than my body could withstand. And now I feel young and energetic and amazing except I have a hip that just doesn't work anymore. It keeps me from wanting to run fast and run hard and climb mountains and ride bikes all over the place. And it's causing me a lot of pain and I've been avoiding having a hip replacement, which is what they tell me; and I think at my age I'm not going to have a hip replacement at my young age. There's no way.

But what I'm actually doing is because I'm afraid. I'm afraid of how that's going to make me feel. Is that hip replacement going to make me feel old? Well, only if I allow it to. Is that hip replacement going to prevent me from doing all the things that I love? Isn't that happening already? Already, I can't run hard, and run fast, and climb mountains, and ride bikes because I'm afraid of what it's going to take to fix it.

So I said, "yes" because I came back and that I need to practice what I preach. And I thought I'm saying no because I'm afraid. When really all this is going to lead to is more pain in the future when I can do less, and less, and less because the hip deteriorates even more.

So I decided yesterday to say yes. I'm going to have this hip replacement by the best doctor in Colorado. I'm going to get this done so that I can be back running hard, running fast, climbing mountains, riding my bike all over the place. Because I decided to have faith that going through a little bit of pain now is going to allow me to have great pleasure in great joy in the future.

Live your life from a place of love and not fear. That means saying yes to a relationship that brings you such joy, even though it scares you to have to commit. Or saying yes to entering that race that you've always wanted to do but you're afraid that you don't have enough to get from start to finish. Well, you do. Take a chance on you. When you say yes, you will step up to the challenge. I guarantee you.

My wife and I bought this ranch for Believe Ranch and Rescue, so we could have a place to save these horses and give them a wonderful home where they could live out their lives or be trained to have new homes. Forever homes in the future. We had no business buying this house. It was way over our heads, but we said yes because we knew in our hearts this was the right thing to do for us and for these horses. We found a way. We stepped up to the challenge. We made it so that we demanded more of ourselves so that we could follow through and make this happen, not only buy this place but keep it and be able to continue saving horses.

Don't let your fear stop you from living the life you are destined to live. Take a chance on you. Follow your heart, live your life from a place of love, and not fear. Have an amazing day.

Thank you, everyone.  Have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles.

 For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about those things in your life that you may think are constant thorns in your side.  Whether it be a situation or relationship or whatever it is.  But it's something that causes you constant suffering.

I know we all have those things at different points in our lives.  But what I want to talk about this morning is that these things that stick around, these thorns in our side -- we get what we tolerate.   For as long as we're willing to accept the situation or behavior, it's going to stick around.  It's not going to magically go away.

We all have to find the strength, find the reason why we must change the way things are.

Life is meant to live and meant to be something that gives us great joy.  And it can.  But it depends on what we're focusing on.  Are we focusing on what's missing, or what we have?  Are we focusing on what is good, or what is wrong?  Are we focusing on what we want, or what we don't want to happen?  Are we focusing on what we have control over, or what we don't have control over?

The direction of our focus is directly related to our experience of life. 

I know in my sad and really tough times, I was focusing on what was missing, what I didn't have, what I had no control over and what I feared and didn't want to happen.  It was no wonder why I was miserable.  But when I changed what I was focusing on all the right things -- abundance, love, what I wanted to create and what I did have control over -- my experience of life changed everything for me. 

I'm a true believer that we can be happy no matter what's going on in our lives.  We can be at peace and be happy if we choose to focus on what's good every moment.  But with that being said, even if you do that most of the time in your life -- if there's something that you can see causes you pain or suffering or seems to be a problem that you've had forever,  then look at the problem.  Why is it still there?  Why hasn't it changed?

Now, if it's another person that we're waiting for them to change, that's never going to happen.  And we can't change them.  But what you can do is change your reaction.  Change the way you see their behavior.  Change the way you have it affect you.  Because what we tolerate is what we get.

If there's a certain behavior at work or the way we're being treated by our bosses, and we stay and still work there without changing anything, that's going to stick around because you're not doing anything to change it. 

Now, a few things can happen.  You can change the way you're looking at the behavior of your boss, and somehow, find a way to have it positively influence you, rather than negatively.  Or, you can get a new job and find something that is better suited for you.  But we get what we tolerate in life. 

If you are unhappy in any area of your life, you are in control.  You have the power to change it.  Whether that be by acting or breaking a certain power and deciding to never go back.  Or reframing the situation or circumstance in a way that will serve you rather than disserve you.

But whatever it is, anything that we believe is a thorn in our side, we have the ability to pull it out.  Change is often really hard.  Sometimes we give in to certain behaviors because we feel powerless to change them.  But I'm telling you right now that we all have the power within us to change any situation.  Whether it be by what we choose to focus on or the meaning that we give it or what we choose to do about it.

So, take action today.  Decide not to suffer anymore.  Give yourself permission to find joy and peace in every aspect of your life.  You can.  It's in your control.  Just practice the discipline to find a way out of the suffering and into the joy.

Thank you, everyone.  Have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles.

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How did I stay motivated?  I was ready to actually retire on that day because I found what I was looking for. But we all know, and you'll find this as you get older, that we are our own harshest critics.  The biggest judges of ourselves.   I knew that few months down the road, I would start thinking maybe that was a fluke.  Did I just get lucky?  Was that really me?

I didn't want to have to deal with that question. I wanted to prove to me -- I wanted to go out and put together one more year where I proved to myself that I'm the real deal.  That I am a winner and I am someone that can set a high goal and high standards and I can step up and be afraid but do it anyway.  That's courage.  I can go after these dreams and I can hold on to this number one in the world ranking and I can prove this to me, most importantly.

So that's what I did.  That's what kept me motivated the next year was wanting to back myself and believe enough in me that even after achieving the ultimate success -- this ultimate goal that I had set for myself -- that I wouldn't be afraid to hope for even more.  To believe that there was even more inside of me.  Because your potential is limitless. You may achieve your ultimate dream, your ultimate goal, but instead of having that make you think "Ooh, that's it. I did it. I got to stop now because that's it for me."  I want you to know, I want you to believe that that is just the beginning of what you're capable of.  That is just the beginning of you realizing the magic inside of you.

So, that's what's kept me motivated.  After that, I retired at number one in the world a year later. And because this has been such an incredible road of discovery. And it took me from a place of being If someone had no confidence.  Somebody that was riddled with self-doubt.  She's someone now and felt safe in my own skin, happy with who I was, and having achieved something that seemed impossible.  All I wanted now was to be able to help someone else that was like me when I started.  Help them find their magic, step into their power, and help them achieve their dreams and goals.

That's what motivated me.  Because when we discover something that changes our lives and makes us happier human, a better human, I believe that it becomes our responsibility -- becomes a privilege and a responsibility to help someone else do the same. Nothing feels better than giving back to this world that gives us so much.  Nothing feels better than giving back to those people that believed in us.  That without those people, we wouldn't be able to live the lives that we live.  Or achieved the goals that we achieved.  Giving thanks, being grateful and showing appreciation to the people that made it possible and have been on your team is so important.  And it's also important to pay it forward -- do that same kindness and give that same thing to someone else.

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