The Bed Head Chronicles

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about morning routines.  

I would say the most important morning routine that I do every single morning is my gratitude routine.  I've told all of you before that I do this practice called priming. I learned it from Tony Robbins. It's the most incredible process. It takes about 10 minutes long and it truly puts you in a beautiful state, which means that you're full of energy and vitality. You finish the process feeling gratitude -- being in a state of gratitude, having sent healing energy, asking for solutions, and asking for a strengthening of yourself and of others.

Then, focusing on three things that you want to achieve or accomplish -- three things that would cause you to thrive.

So, you finish this process, not only filled with energy and filled with vitality and joy but in a state of gratitude, in a state of strength and in a state of certainty, which is an incredible way to start the day.

If you want to do a shorter process, another thing that I do on days where, maybe, I am kind of rushed is the minute I opened my eyes, the first thing I do is I think about three things that I'm grateful for. They can be big things. They can be little things. They can be, you know, looking over and seeing my wife beside me and feeling so grateful for our love, for marriage.

Or it can be, you know, thinking about wow, you know, I woke up today. My heart's beating strong in my chest. But think about three things and truly be present when you think about how grateful you are for those things.

Then, what you want to do is you want to ask for healing. And as you breathe, imagine like a white light of healing coming through you and pouring into everything -- your blood, your bones, your thoughts, your feelings -- everything and anything that needs to be healed. Focus on that healing energy going through and healing whatever needs to be healed.

You can ask for solutions to help solve anything that needs to be solved, whether it's within yourself or between you and others in your business, whatever it may be.

And then asked to strengthen what is already so strong inside of you. Strengthen my love, my appreciation, my gratitude, my passion, my courage, my confidence -- whatever it is that you would like to strengthen.

Then, it's important to come outside of ourselves and send that healing energy. Ask for that healing to happen for those that you love and care about -- your family, your friends, your pets, your animals, your co-workers, your business partners, the community, the world. Ask that the healing happens for them, as well, and see it happening. Send out those same, you know, strengthening, hopes for strengthening, and solutions, and healing for them or for the world.

From there, you go to what Tony calls Three to Thrive, focusing on three things that you would like to achieve or accomplish. That could mean something big, you know, a physical feat that you want to accomplish or something you want to accomplish in your business. Or it could be wanting to be fully present with your loved ones, today and every day. Or wanting to be leading with kindness and every moment of your life. It can be big things or little things. But what I want you to do is be in it and see yourself succeeding. See it happening and feel what you're going to feel when you achieve or accomplish that. It's so super powerful.

So when you go through this -- and this can be as quick or as long as you want it to be. Tony's priming is the perfect opportunity to do this.

But as I said, you can do this just upon waking. When you open your eyes, keep your hand on your heart, and go through this process. And what it does is you will start your day in the most empowering state -- in a state of gratitude. In a state of peace. In a state of strength. In a state of promise. In a state of certainty. And with that state in mind, being in this beautiful state, you truly are setting yourself up for the most amazing day.

So, I hope this helps everyone have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles

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Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want you to think about something you have in your life, now, that you dreamed about having in the past. Something that was a goal that you had that meant everything to you that you've now achieved.

Sometimes, I think we said these goals were so excited about it. And that's what drives us for days, and weeks, and months, and years, even. and then we achieve it. And we don't stop to:

#1: appreciate and acknowledge the fact that we've achieved this huge goal that we had set for ourselves.
#2: we don't celebrate it.
#3: we don't reward ourselves.

I'm a true believer that in order to build up your confidence and build up that incredible feeling that comes from setting a goal and working so hard to achieve it, and then to take on something else, that it's so important to acknowledge and appreciate the progress that we're making along the way. And then to celebrate that. And to, in some small way, shape or form, reward ourselves for it.

Because if we're not appreciating or acknowledging our progress or our success if we're not celebrating it, and if we're not rewarding ourselves, we start actually taking it for granted. And I'm a believer that in life, we shouldn't take anything for granted.

I hope that each and every one of you wakes up and looks over at your partner or your dog or your home or, you know, the people around you and feel grateful that you have that love or that connection or that roof over your head or the job that you have or the abilities and opportunities that you have. I'm all about appreciation and gratitude,

but in order to keep setting goals and keep finding the fire in the juice, to achieve those goals, we need to celebrate the small victories along the way.

Sometimes, we have this ultimate goal, and we don't appreciate or acknowledge anything or celebrate anything until we reach the ultimate. But in order to stay on that path, and in order to overcome the difficulties or overcome failings, which we will do along the way, or overcome being disappointed, we need to celebrate the small victories along the way. We need to acknowledge how far we've come. We need to appreciate how far we've come. And we need to celebrate it within ourselves and reward ourselves in some way that allows us to acknowledge ourselves. We often will look to others to acknowledge us or to celebrate us or to reward us.

But I think it's so important that we do that for ourselves. You deserve it and you need it in order to keep going.

So, just remember everybody along the way as you set goals for yourselves, as you work hard towards achieving a certain something whether it be in a relationship or in your job or in your personal life or with your body, appreciate and acknowledge how far you've come. Celebrate the small victories or celebrate overcoming something that was truly tough and came out the other side.

I'd and reward yourself in some way, shape, or form and that will keep you super fired up and continuing on this path of becoming your best self.

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about -- I'm going to share a story when my mom, who loves her dogs as much as she loves her own children. They are beautiful little pugs. And she lost one of her pugs about 10 years ago. He went in for a routine MRI and he ended up dying because they gave him too much of medication.

Obviously, as it would any of us, it absolutely devastated her. And that's sadness she's held on to for the last 10 years.

One day I said to her, "What what did Buddha care about most as your dog?" She said "He just cared that I was happy. And that I was taken cared of. And that he was always there for me putting a smile on my face."

I said, "Okay. Well, obviously this is just tragic. Tragic what happened. Devastating. But what do you think he would want for you, in your life now? Don't you think he would want you to be happy and taken care of?

She said "Well, of course.

I said, "Well, holding on to this pain and the sadness is -- would make him so sad. Knowing that because of him you've been feeling pain and sadness for 10 years. Maybe the best way to honor his beautiful soul is to, you know, live in the joy of the memories that you have with him. And be joyful. And try to be joyful. And try to focus on the wonderful times you shared, the love that you shared, the joyous times that you had with him. And feeling joy would be the best way to honor him because that's what he cared about the most -- you being happy.

Now, I share this story because I know the same happened to me. I lost my beautiful boy, Calvin. That was my doggie soulmate, love of my life. And I was devastated over him dying of cancer. We can also relate this to losing our friends, or losing family members.

And I know this is a hard conversation to have but I think sometimes we feel that we are honoring the memory of our loved ones by being sad and being depressed over it and mourning their loss. But what if we just for a moment think about what would they want for us? Would they want us to be mourning their loss still? Would they want us to be feeling sad still? Obviously that pains never going to go away, but maybe they would prefer that we have more moments of feeling the joy of the times we shared with them, the love that we shared, the experiences that we had together. And what if honoring them in the most beautiful way was by feeling the joy of what we shared with them rather than sitting in the pain of their loss. It's just a thought, but I share that with you.

I know it helped my mom when we had that conversation. And I know that it helped me. let's honor our loved ones that we have loved and lost by feeling the joy and the gratitude of the time and the love that we shared with them. Try and sit more in those moments rather than in the moments that cause us to feel sad and cause us to feel pain because our loved ones, we know, only want us to be happy. Remember that.

I love you all. Thank you for listening to the bed head chronicles.

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Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about managing those moments when you are so overcome with an emotion like anxiety or anger or sadness and you can't get out of their own way and you literally feel like it's eating you from the inside out.

Maybe not all of you can relate to me on this, but I know I've certainly felt that way before. Now, we all exhibit discipline in our lives, whether it's waking up to go to school. Or waking up to work out and get to work. Or waking up to take care of our kids or take care of our animals. We all exhibit discipline on a daily basis.

Use that same discipline to discipline your thoughts. Okay? It's just channeling that discipline in a different direction.

Imagine watching TV. Imagine you turn the channel and on this channel, it's something really horrible -- whether it's super scary or disgusting or it's just traumatic. It upsets you. What do you do? You quickly change a channel. You change it to something that's funny, a comedy, or change into something a love story. Whatever it is, you change a channel to something that makes you feel good. Okay?

Imagine your brain and your thoughts being like a big TV. And if you are stuck in a negative emotion, whether it be anger, sadness or just extreme upset of any kind, change the channel. Change what you're focusing on. I talk about this all the time. Change what you're focusing or change what you're thinking about. Use that same discipline that you use every single day in your lives in every other area, and use it in the direction of disciplining your thoughts. change the channel in your mind. Okay?

If you're obsessing over whether or not you did a good job at work today or what your boss is going to think or did you fail or did you win? Stop thinking about it. Change the channel. Focus on I did my best job. Okay, now, I'm going to focus on what can I do now? What kind of time can I spend with my family right now? What can I do to fill myself with energy right now? change the channel in your mind. Everybody has the capability of doing this.  It takes practice. Okay?. It really does you've got to kind of build your muscle and being able to do that.

But once you acquire the ability and you become good at doing this, it's so much easier easier to snap yourself out of a really bad space. We all get super emotional. We all get stuck in moments of sadness or anger or anxiety, but let's start using what we already have, and that is the discipline and the will to behave inside of ourselves and start using that in directing our thoughts and being able to change the channel when we're not liking what we're thinking and how it's affecting us.

So, everybody, work on that today. You'll get better and better at it every day, and it truly is a very valuable skill to have and you'll experience so much more joy in your life and fewer times where you allow yourself to fall into that negative spiral of emotions.

Have a great day everyone. Thank you.

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I would say to my 16-year-old self, "Everything's going to be okay. Everything that's happening, every struggle that you feel, every fear that you have, this is life happening for you. Not to you."

Because these things are happening, these things that are challenging you, are going to be the things that help you grow, the things that you learn from, the things that you overcome.

And through overcoming these struggles, you're going to step into your strength. And that strength is going to lead you to the most beautiful places. So have faith. Trust in you. Trust in this journey, and don't be afraid.

That's what I would say. Everything's going to be okay. Everything's going to be great. And I would say, you know what? You're not alone. You're not alone in feeling anxiety. You're not alone in feeling afraid. You're not alone in not feeling enough. Everyone in the world shares this universal fear -- that we're not enough. Or that we're going to fail. Or that we're going to not be loved.

We all have that fear. You're not alone. Everyone shares those bears with you. So don't be afraid or be afraid, but do it anyway. Believe in you because what's coming, what's ahead in your life, is extraordinary.

Being afraid -- that's just the universe saying take me on. I will deliver you to your promise land and everything great in your life. So don't be afraid or be afraid, but dance with your fear because it's taking you somewhere amazing.

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I think my biggest message of all is, you know, I was a far from a perfect kid. A far from a perfect adult. I had so many insecurities, fears, anxieties. And, I think a lot of us who are successful -- and we're all successful in something, so everybody out there, you know, when we're successful, I think a lot of us hide the parts of ourselves that we are not so proud of. And what's happened to me in the last 10 years of my life is I decided, "You know what? I'm tired of hiding who I am -- and that was I'm a gay woman. Most of my career I had to be in the closet because I nearly lost a sponsor in the beginning when they found out that I was gay; and they basically said "Go grow your hair long, get a boyfriend, and we'll be all set. "

So, a part of me felt like Everything I achieve means nothing because I'm gay. That was kind of belief I was carrying around with me. And then I met my wife. She's an Australian -- Rebecca Keat -- and I tell you what, realizing that I was capable of finding the love that I always thought was a thing of fairy tales, that I was worthy of that -- it was like the greatest gift in the whole wide world. And I decided, pretty much on the day we got married, that you know what? I am just going to be all of who I am because people need to know that whoever put us on this Earth, whatever you believe in -- God, the universe, whatever -- whoever put us here, put us here exactly as we are because this is what we are intended to be.

And if you are hiding parts of yourself and going out in life and try to be great in your career, great your family, great at this, but you're operating at half strength, which I was doing -- I was operating with half of me out there, you know, getting on with the other half sitting on the bench because I'm like, 'stay home. Stay home. You're not going to be accepted.' You know, you're operating at half strength.

So on that day when I married my wife, I said this is it. I'm just being me. I don't care anymore because I have your love, and that's all I need. And, I tell you what, once I just started coming out talking about not just be gay -- I mean really that comes up really late, but just talking about things that I used to be ashamed about like my anxiety and how fearful I was and the mistakes I've made in my life.

But when you come out we speak about these things, people understand that they're not alone. We're all human. When we can express all of who we are and be fearlessly authentic -- Holy smokes! My world, my life, opened up. and I can't even express to you what it feels like to be operating full force. What's happening is that when you're either talking to someone in business or trying to develop a relationship with someone or your friends -- if there are parts of you that you're hiding away whatever that is -- there's this sense of resistance there, you know, you can almost, like, you don't know what it is. This kind of like, I don't know, you know, we're not that close or I don't know them that well.

But once you rip off all the masks -- and again, that can refer to anything, you know, anything, you know, maybe being in a job where on your resume you said you had all this experience, but you really didn't. So you're kind of not as experienced as they think -- like ripping that off because hey I'm doing a great job, but I have to tell you I was really scared when I sent my resume and because I really wasn't as great as I sounded there, but I think I'm doing a great job now. But oh my God now the scary, you know, even that kind of honesty and ripping off the masks -- it just it makes your relationships deeper, your experiences richer, people trust you more right away because they know that you're just being you.

And I truly believe that we weren't put here on Earth with huge faults or limits, you know? We were put here exactly the way we were meant to be. So my belief is that everyone should just be out there operating at full force, being all of who they are. And if you can be courageous enough or brave enough to do that, you will see your life change and most extraordinary ways. It really is incredibly powerful. Scary in the beginning but so powerful.

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Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about that moment -- and I'm going to use this in an example of an athlete, okay? But this totally relates to life itself or any situation that you're faced with in life. The athletes in the middle of the race and they feel like oh my God, I just have nothing left.

It's at that moment when you feel like you want to give up. You want to give in. You want to back off because you feel like you have nothing left. It is so important at that moment to ask yourself the question, "Is this really true? Do I really have nothing left or is it that I'm just tired of being uncomfortable? What will this mean if I break through this discomfort and keep pushing on?"

Perhaps that will take me to a whole new level. I going to expand my pain threshold. I'm going to expand my ability to be relentless, to be resilient, and to find more even when I think there's nothing left.

In those moments when you feel like giving up, whatever story it is that you're telling yourself, whether it's I have nothing left -- that is the time to ask yourself a very quality important question: "Is this true?"

Because as if you investigate this thought, this belief you, will find that you can find a much better, more empowering solution; and that is: "No. I'm just tired of being uncomfortable."

But this is what it takes. This is what it takes to break through to the other side. And to have the performance I dream of. Or to have the relationship I dream of. Or to get the result that I'm looking for.

No matter what we're talking about in life, ask yourself better questions in those moments when you want to give up. Because if you can find a more empowering answer, it will fuel you and take you to all-new levels of performance. Whether you're in a race or doing something athletic or trying to take your relationship to the next level.

We can always find a way out, but the important lesson is always to find a way through. Not around it, not under it, not backing away. But find your way through, and you will break through to a whole new level of strength, confidence, resilience, and relentlessness. And that is what will take you to achieve your goals.

Empower yourself. The thoughts that you think, the beliefs that you have are what will determine your entire state. And your state determines everything. So choose to empower yourself. Find the empowering meaning. Find a way to break through to the other side. You got this.

Have an amazing day.

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Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want you to think about the ultimate goal that you hope to achieve or that dream that you have.

I want you to be able to visualize and see yourself down the road, whether it be six months or a year or five years down the road, having achieved that ultimate goal.  Having achieved that ultimate dream.

Who are you in that space?  What do you look like?  What's your energy? Like?  What's your attitude like?  What is your what are you focusing on most of the time?  What kind of an impact are you having on the world and on all those around you? How do you feel inside?  The joy, the love, the passion, whatever, it is. 

As you visualize that -- If you think about everything life, we have role models.  We have people we look up to and admire.  People that we model.  People that we hope to be like when we get older, further down the road.

I want you to see your future self having achieved everything you dream of.   Know what you're going to be feeling, what you're focusing on, what your life looks like, who you are, and start becoming that person today.

Start embodying all those qualities that you see in your future self and start working towards becoming that version of you.

It's all about being better than we were the day before and taking one step closer to creating the lives and experience of life that we all dream of.  So just like we may have someone that we model or someone that we look up to you or somebody that's a hero to us.

See your future self is as that hero --  that superhero that you're looking up to.   And every single day, take one step closer to becoming that version of you. 

You're perfect just the way that you are and you have everything you need inside of you, but we all want to continue to grow and to evolve and to achieve our goals and our dreams.  Who do we need to become to achieve those ultimate goals and dreams that we have?  Take one step closer to being that version of you today.

Have an amazing day everybody.

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Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about the power of vulnerability.

There is such great power in being real and speaking from your heart and letting all those around you know the truth of what your experience of life is like.

Starting with relationships -- imagine when you are developing a bond with someone. The more real you can be with them -- the more you can tell them about your dreams and what lights up your soul and your fears and your anxieties... that invites them to truly know you. And it makes it feel special that you're sharing a part of you that not everyone else in the world gets to see.

Vulnerability allows you to deepen your relationship, to deepen your understanding of one another and what it's going to take to love that other person with all your heart and in a way that lights up there soul.

Being vulnerable in your job, whether it be as a manager has a CEO or, for me, has as a coach. I think it's so important that my athletes know that I got to where I am not because I had this perfect road of successes and I had everything I needed to to make it to the top.

I let them know that I've been afraid I've been stifled by my anxiety. I have failed over and over and over again. I've been disappointed over and over again, but that's how I learned. That's how I grew. That's how I how I built up my confidence and my resilience and my relentlessness.

We all need to know that success is not a perfect road. That they should expect to be afraid because it means that they care. They should expect to be anxious. It means they're excited.

In being vulnerable, we're allowing all those around us to be the same. We're allowing all those around us to know the truth of what it is to be human, what it is to shoot for the stars, and to be afraid and to know that it's going to be a bumpy road where you fell often and you're disappointed often.

But that's how you learn. That's how you grow. That's how we make progress.

We're more vulnerable., we are opening up such room for a greater depth in every relationship that we have, and that is what makes life so incredible. Be vulnerable.

You don't want your kids to think that life is easy because the minute that it starts getting hard, they think they're the only one that is struggling. And that's just not true. Let them know the reality of what life is like. The reality of what it's like to be under pressure, to go through a hard time so that they feel safe and they know that what they're experiencing is normal and then they won't make it out the other side stronger than ever before.

So today, everybody, be vulnerable. Be real with all those around you and understand that you are truly helping others by giving them courage and faith in the strength knowing that they are on the right path and that they will get to where they dream of going. Because you have. And you're the example and you're being real with them and sharing everything about what it takes to be the best that you can be in your life.

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about habits and rituals the change your life for the better.

I woke up this morning from going out traveling.  I got the amazing Jess King from Peloton.

I start my day every morning by, first of all, I opened my eyes and I think about three things that I'm grateful for.   Starting your day in a state of gratitude is an incredible way to truly manifest a beautiful day where you look at everything that you have, not everything that you don't have.  I look at my beautiful wife and I feel so grateful.

Then we do our priming -- the Tony Robbins priming. You can find it on YouTube. It's absolutely incredible.

Then I work out. This is all after, of course, feeding the horses.

So, everybody, have habits and rituals.  The more you do that every single day -- you wake up and do the same things. It will give you consistency, strength and lay the foundation for setting yourself up to live in a beautiful state every single day.

Have a great day everybody.

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