The Bed Head Chronicles

Good morning, everyone and welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about truly living life to the fullest every single day.  Often times it takes being faced with the prospect of someone you love dying or you, maybe, not having the time that you thought you did before we truly start living.  Let's not wait for the last lap of our lives to truly live life the way we dream of. 
Live life the way you dream of now. This is a gift that is meant to be lived. 

And my thoughts on that is: be fearlessly authentically you.

Say what you want to say.  Be who you want to be.  That's where your magic lies. That's where your power lies.  Love others from this place of personal freedom and authentically you.

And when it comes to loving others, love them in every moment.

If you're looking at your husband or your wife or your daughter or your friend and thinking 'my God, I love them so much,' tell them.  Share those words with them. It will mean everything to them.

And instead of just going through your lives trying to get through the day no matter how busy you are or how hard you have to work, you can look through your eyes at the gift and the grace of this beautiful life that you're living.

Appreciate every moment that you have.  Appreciate everything you get to do instead of looking at the things that you have to do in your life every day. Think about the things you get to do every day.

Live life to the fullest.  Say what you want to say.  Be who you want to be.  Dream big and create the life that you dream of. 

Don't wait until it's too late.

This life is a beautiful and Incredible gift that we all have been blessed with.  And you were put on this Earth absolutely perfect just the way that you are.

Don't try to be something that you're not to try and fit in or get a certain job or to achieve something that you think you want to achieve if you try to be something else.

The gift is you.  Step into your magic.  Be who you are.  Love with all your heart.  And appreciate every single moment of this gift of life and you will be living the life of your dreams.

So much love to all of you. Thank you for being here with me with my bed head. And live life to the fullest every single day.  Be brave and be you. I love you all. Thank you.

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Also, I mean, forgiveness is the perfect expression of self-love; but also of self-belief.  Because when we blame someone for something that they've done to us or pain that is still with us, it holds us back from being able to do certain things.

We're giving them control to a certain extent of our life experience. You're leaving yourself powerless as far as being able to change your own life.

So, when you forgive, you're basically saying 'I forgive you for having hurt me, but I'm in charge of my life and I'm going to use this in a way that empowers me and allows me to achieve everything that I dream of.

Blame makes you weak.  It makes you powerless.  You can't change your life because you're blaming someone else for it.

Release that.  Forgive them.  You free yourself.  And it's showing that I believe in me and I'm going to do everything I dream of doing it be everything I dream of being.

When I forgave my father, it completely freed me to be the woman that I dreamt of being.  And I would not be the woman I am today if it hadn't been for his rejection.

So, I didn't only forgive him, but I called him and I thanked him.  I thank him for being exactly the father I needed him to be.

Stay in charge of your own experience of life.  Remember it is all up to you. And when you're blaming you're holding yourself back. 

So, believe in yourself enough to forgive and set yourself free.

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Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about going into every relationship in your life thinking about what you can give, not what you can get.  If you want to sure-fire way to go through your day without being disappointed by anyone, the best way to do that is to truly keep your focus on what you are bringing into every single relationship -- whether it's your husband or your wife or your friendships or your family members or your co-workers or somebody that's working for you.

If you're expecting something from someone, say, for instance, you have someone that's doing work for you, think about what can you give them that's going to inspire them or make them even better or make the work that they do even more incredible. What can you give to every single person that you come in contact with today and every day?

If we're constantly thinking about what we can give to the world, you will find that you get so much more.  Not only what you hoped for, but more than you could ever imagine in return.

Tony Robbins told me years and years ago that you don't go into a relationship to get something.  That will never end up giving you what you hope for.  We go into relationships to give something -- to give our love, to give our support, to give our inspiration, to give of ourselves, to be a gift, to be a blessing.

If you think about every single person in your life, whether it's family or someone you've just met, and you think about what you can give this person to either Inspire them, to help them be better, or to make their day a little bit happier, you will find that what you receive in return is beyond anything you can imagine. 

In life, let's see how generous we can be all day every day with sharing our hearts, our souls and our spirits.

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Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Yes, I've got some pretty serious bedhead this morning and hopefully it's not offensive to anyone.  But, again, this isn't about what we look like.  It's about what we have to share and offer from the inside.

Part of how we feel in the world today, so often we let other people determine how we feel whether we're happy, sad, confident, or doubtful. When really, if you just come from inside and know yourself -- know your intention, know your love, know your heart -- and if you're going through a tough time thinking about all the times in your life that you have gone through a hard time before, and how every single time you found your way through it.

You came out the other side and most likely that led to something way better than you were even in before. We all have proven to ourselves that we have the ability to get through hard times.

Now that being said, when we think about going through something tough--okay, a lot of us, we all -- we all are going to have tough moments, tough times, tough months -- but only you, only you can get yourself out of feeling bad.  Only you.

Someone else can, maybe, come for you or listen or give you support.  But it's us --  you alone -- that can get yourself out of a spot where you are feeling horrible.

How do we do that? We talk about this all the time.  Instead of focusing on the problem and everything that's wrong, start thinking about all the possible solutions.  Instead of sitting there one place suffocated by your problem, start getting some momentum forward by engaging with all the different possibilities of solutions on how to fix your current situation.  Focus on, instead of that one horrible thing...

Another thing that we all do is we create this negative spiral where something goes wrong and it either breaks your heart or upsets you or worries you.  Then we start adding everything that we can possibly think of to make us worry even more or feel even sadder.
Don't do that.

Whatever that one thing is, that was a catalyst you feeling bad start thinking about what the possible solutions are to feeling better and getting out of this situation.  But then start focusing, discipline yourself to focus on all the good in your life.   Everything that you're grateful for.  Even if it's a simple as you're -- as beautiful as your heart, your beautiful heart, beating in your chest.  The fact that you woke up this morning.  The fact that you have somewhere to go and that you have people who love you.

Focus on the good.

What we focus on we're going to get more of.  If you want to focus on how bad you feel or how horrible things are, you're only going to find more evidence for more things that will you make you feel awful.  But if you want to focus on everything great in your life -- everything great about you  -- I mean, it's coming home to the truth and knowing who you are what your intentions are, the love you have in your heart, the love that you give.

Another thing when we are in a tough spot, or we're sad, or depressed, going through a struggle -- that is when, again, discipline yourself to get out there and give to someone else.  Be of service to someone else.  Even if it's to an animal or just a person -- help an older woman across the road.  Whatever it is, make someone smile.  Give to someone else and that will already propel you forward and give you momentum.  Get you closer to feeling good and be free of that which is causing you to suffer.

I love you all so much. Thank you for accepting me even looking like this. It's not about what we have what we look like. It's about who we are on the inside, and what we can share with the world.

Share your love.  Share your heart.  Share your spirit.   Be you.  Be authentically you.  Be brave. I love you all.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about those incredibly tough days.  Those days when, perhaps, you're in the middle of a race, whatever that may mean to you.  Whether it's a sporting event like a triathlon.  Or a big project that you're involved in.  Or just a day at work or at home.  But a day when nothing seems to be going right and you're really struggling. 

Now, I know how hard it is to finish when you're having a horrible day.  But I also know how gratifying it can be to be resilient.  To do whatever you can with what you have on that day to finish.

Being a finisher, being a completer, never giving up is so incredibly important in life because we are going to have tough days.  We're going to have tough times.  But I can tell you from personal experience that pushing through those tough times, finding a way to do the best that you can with what you have on that day, can be the most gratifying, strength-building, confidence-building thing in your life.

Here at Team Sirius, we are all finishers.  We are all relentless and resilient and we complete the task no matter how bad we feel.  Because it is through those struggles that we truly do step into our greatest strengths. 

I'm asking you to always, no matter how bad the day is going, finish gracefully, not begrudgingly.  Finish with gratitude and passion for being able to do what you love.  Or for being able to find the mental toughness in the resilience to carry on regardless of how bad you feel. 

Prove to yourself and to the world that nothing is going to get in the way of you achieving your dreams.  Nothing. 
Prove yourself that nothing will beat you -- that you're up for the challenge.  That you are resilient.  You are relentless.  And that you're a finisher.  Because there's no greater power in that.

It's not going to be easy to achieve their goals and dreams, but I tell you what -- everytime you fall down, if you can stand back up and dust yourself off and put yourself back in the game having learned something, having grown, having strengthened -- when you do achieve that ultimate goal, that ultimate victory, it will be the most satisfying and fulfilling moment of your life.  Because you will know that through the process, you became you -- the best version of you.

Stay strong.  Be resilient.  And believe in you.  You have everything you need inside of you.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to start with this: comparison is the thief of joy. 

That means not just comparing yourself to other people and what other people have achieved or what they have -- even more importantly, comparing yourself to what you used to be -- if you're an athlete, how fast you used to be, how strong you used to be or how you used to look.

Or it could mean comparing yourself to the future self of- what you dream of being.  I'm going to be so much stronger.  I'm going to be so much smarter.  I'm going to be so much more successful. 

When you compare yourself to your past self or the person you dream of being, or the people around you, or your co-workers or your competitors (if you're an athlete), it truly does strip you of all your joy.

And it deflates you.  It takes your energy away.

Empower yourself.

Focus on you.  Focus on being the best you that you can be.  Every single day.  Focus on being better than you were the day before. 

If you keep your focus there, you will continually keep progressing.  You will continually be absolutely filled with the joy of going after your dreams, and being the best you can be, and knowing you're making progress on that path. 

Do not compare yourself to others.  Be you. 

Be the best you you can be every single day, and you will be on the road to achieving everything you dream of.   

Have an amazing day.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today I want to talk about embracing the simple moments in life.   The little moments.  Because I believe that in the end, those are the moments that you remember as filling your hearts with the most joy, the most loved, and the most happiness.

So, today, embrace every moment.  The little moments.  A smile on someone's face.  A moment with someone you love or with your pets or animals. 

Appreciate it.  Live it.  Embrace it.  Those are the most precious moments of our lives.

Have a great day!

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today I want to talk about owning our mistakes.  When things go wrong or when we don't perform to our potential or when we don't act in a way that we're proud of, it is so important to own our mistakes.  No making excuses.  Because when we make excuses, we give up our power to change our lives, to truly learn and grow from whatever just happened. 

Excuses leave us powerless.

At the root of resilience is taking responsibility for every aspect of our lives.  From when we soar and we thrive in our lives, but also for when we're not at our best and don't perform well. 

We need to own every aspect of this experience of life.  We are in the driver's seat of our own lives. 

Especially, for me, when I failed at the Olympic trials -- I wanted nothing more than to make the Olympic team in the year 2000.  And I choked.  I could have come up with a myriad of excuses, but instead, I owned it.

When the first person came up to me and asked what happened, I said I choked.  I had prepared in my mind this absolutely perfect race from start to finish.  I visualized it 365 days in a row.  On the day of the race, within the first five minutes, I got dunked under the water.  I lost the front pack.  And I hadn't experienced that in my visualization.  I wasn't prepared for that so I froze and I choked, and I could not perform.

Had I made up an excuse like I was sick or I got punched in the face or whatever, that was not going to help me grow.   By owning my mistake -- by owning what happened -- I took charge of my life.  I was able to respect myself.  I was able to believe in my capacity to learn and grow and to fall down but get back up again and to ultimately achieve that ultimate dream that I had.

So, please, no excuses in life.  Own everything that happens.  Take charge of your life and your experience of it.  You will find your capacity to learn, grow and be your best self is immeasurable. 

Have an amazing day, everybody!

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today I want to talk about when the student is ready, the teacher appears. 

When I think about that statement, and I think about so many times in my life where I was in a place, even without knowing it, I was so ready to learn something new -- something that I know was truly going to change my life. 

Back when I was 20 when I didn't even know if I could take another day, my teacher appeared.  Tony Robbins, in the form of his book "Unlimited Power".  What he taught me through that book literally saved my life and changed my life. 

It was on that night, after finishing that book, when I realized that I am the conductor of my own symphony of my life.  At that point in time, I was hating the music I was creating and even live inside my own body.  But I realized that I am the only one that has the power to change that.  That book completely empowered me and made me realize that what we focus on the meaning that we give things and what we choose to do about it changes entirely our experience of life. 

So, at that time, I was a student; my teach appeared, Tony Robbins, in the form of "Unlimited Power".

Another time, if you look up here above my left shoulder, Savannah, my rescue horse -- the first rescue horse we ever had -- and I had no intentions of having a horse -- but we were out in California, my wife and I, we're on a sabbatical, I'm writing my book, every morning I'm walking the dogs down the road about a mile and my turn around point was at a little farm where there was this gorgeous horse by the name of Giselle.

Every day, I would just pat her head and scratch her back.  Every day this bond developed.  It became deeper and deeper.  I fell in love with this horse and was struck by how she made me feel.  After I had visited her, I felt so clear.  I felt so calm.  I felt so confident. 

When we came home from that trip, I was riding my bike down a road that I had ridden nearly for years, and I looked and saw a sign that said Colorado Horse Rescue and thought 'what are you rescuing horses from?'  I went in and met Savannah, and ended up rescuing Savannah.  I ended up researching 'Why?  What are you rescuing them from?' and watching this video that was absolutely devastating to me.

It was so devastating to watch that I fell to the ground in tears, bawling, over the realization that these beautiful healers and teachers were being neglected, abused, beaten and slaughtered after a very long and painful road. 

That changed my whole life and my whole mission. 

Back to the story of when the student is ready, the teacher appears.  When Savannah came into my life, I didn't even realize that I was ready to learn and grow and reach a new level in my life.  But she made it very clear that she was there for a purpose.  What she did was she stretched me in every way.  Not just physically where I had to overcome my fear of heights, my fear of not being in control in riding this nearly 2,000-pound beast.   I had to learn to really trust.  I needed to really pay attention to my energy and how certain events or certain things would happen throughout the day -- how it would affect my energy and how that energy would repel the things that I wanted in my life. 

She became this incredible teacher that not only helped me overcome a lot of my fears, but made me super aware of my own energy, how I respond in certain situations, and how I can learn to pay attention to my own energy and use that information, that knowledge, that self-awareness to truly be the best that I can be in every situation.  She stretched me to become a better leader.  She stretched me to recognized the power we all have within ourselves. 

So, she came at a time where I could have very easily settled into this great life that I had.  But what I realized is I have so much more to give this world.  I had so much more to share.  So much more to teach.  So much more to offer that could make a difference in this world.    And I have her to thank.

My other teacher, up here, Calvin, he really taught me the power of unconditional love and truly accepting ourselves and one another and accepting the beauty in every aspect in who we are and who the people around us are, and loving them for exactly that.  He taught me a love that I have never experienced before. 

So, these teachers, they're around us everywhere.  Sometimes, you won't know that you're ready for the teacher to arrive.  But when you suddenly start feeling your life change, your awareness about yourself or about your life truly taking on a new level, you'll know that your teacher is nearby. 

We are all teachers, as well, so keep that in mind.  We can learn from everyone around us, whether it's our animals, our family, our friends, or a perfect stranger.  There are teachers everywhere, and it truly is such an incredible gift, such a blessing, to realize that every single day, every single moment, we have the ability to learn something that can truly enhance our lives and the lives of others. 

So, students, be ready.  Your teachers are everywhere.  See the gift.  Take on the lesson.  Truly be willing, be excited, and be grateful to know that we are continuously evolving, growing and becoming better versions of ourselves.

Shine on everybody.  Thank you!

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about the beauty of these magical souls.  This little guy, here, his name is Wonder.  He's got one blind eye.

Horses are so beautiful.  We let them out on our property yesterday.  We let them run free, but there is always that one horse that stayed back with Wonder to make sure he knew where to go, that he knew where the heard was, and to keep him from running into anything he couldn't see.

This one, Promise, here, with the white stripe down her nose -- she couldn't figure out how to get out the fence onto the main property.  All the horses came back to try and show her to move up to the gate and go through the gate.  They were trying to show her how to get through.  She still didn't get it.

So, they ran off and ate some grass for a few minutes.  Separately, two or three horses kept coming back to try and show her the way out.  She finally figured it out. 

Eventually, the whole entire herd here of eight -- these are the eight that I saved on my birthday from slaughter -- the whole group of eight were able to go enjoy running free on our land together.

But they were all there for each other.  Thinking about one another, first.  They would have never thought about leaving without protecting this guy.  They would have never thought about leaving this one without being able to join the herd.

Imagine if, as humans, we thought about one another in that way every single day.  Thinking about others before we think about ourselves.  Thinking about how we can help one another.  How we can bring out the best in one another.  How we can support one another.  And how we can truly embrace this beautiful gift of life together.

Because life shared with others is a beautiful life, and so fulfilling.  And when we think about others and act with others in mind, that's truly living a fulfilling life. 

So, how can you, today, and this week, and always, find a way to think about others first?  Share with others? Support others?

By bringing out the best in all those around you, you're bringing out the best in yourself and creating energy and a life that truly is magical.

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/