Sometimes in order to receive, we must find the strength, courage, and ability let go. Some things, including some people, are only meant to be in our lives for specific lessons. The saying is true that some people are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It is imperative that regardless of the final outcome, the lessons learned and the journey have their own purposes in our final destination. We must not look at what we thought to be as failures, despite the hurt in the moment. Instead we should focus on the good and move forward.
I do understand we experience a host of emotions when we are faced with decisions that go against what we dreamed, prayed, and worked for. However, to ensure that we don’t lose it all, we must realize that the very things we try to hold on to so tightly, will end up being the very ones we lose if we are not able o pivot and make wiser choices.
Here are a few nuggets for when you are faced with the decision, or result of someone else’s decision that directly impacts you:
1. Allow yourself time, space and grace to grieve: It's important to acknowledge and process your emotions related to the loss. Give yourself permission to feel sadness, anger, or any other emotions that may arise.
2. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for emotional support. Talking about your feelings with others can help you feel less alone and provide perspective, along with strength to keep moving forward.
3. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, journaling, or hobbies.
4. Reflect on the lessons learned: Consider what you have gained from the experience, even if it was painful. Reflecting on the lessons learned can help you grow and move forward.
5. Set new goals: Redirect your focus towards new dreams, relationships, or personal growth opportunities. Setting new goals can give you a sense of purpose and direction.
6. Be patient with yourself: Healing from loss takes time, so be patient with yourself as you navigate through the process. Remember that it's okay to take small steps towards healing.
Remember we all have our unique journey through life and situations, however, we don’t have to go through them alone. While it is imperative to find coping strategies that work best for you, seek out others who may be able to help you navigate the process.
And remember, you ARE strong and able to do hard things. Once you are on the other side you will be amazed at just how strong you truly are and prepared to pour into others who will need you.
~Jada đź’ś