The Bets Life

There’s no denying that your wedding day is one of the most memorable and joyous days of your life, and I trusted my big day with Jessica Kuipers, a Santa Barbara-based wedding planner. I think that most brides will agree that wedding planning can be exhausting and overwhelming, so thank goodness for wedding planners (worth every penny in my opinion).

Jessica is an event planner that serves California and world-wide destinations. Her company, Onyx & Redwood, specializes in designing high-end luxury weddings and her work has been featured in Elle Japan, Martha Stewart, and Brides. When it comes to weddings, Jessica believes that luxury doesn’t need to be boring and edgy can still be elegant. Her whole business motto revolves around the simple concept that your wedding is 100% about you and your partner. Jessica’s philosophy is all about the “Permission to be Yourself.”

In today’s episode, we discuss wedding trends, staying creative in the event industry, destination weddings, mistakes brides (or grooms) make, and so much more! Plus we chat about our own weddings – what we cherished, what made it unforgettable, and what we would do differently today.

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Connect with Jessica:

Website: https://onyxandredwood.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onyxandredwood/

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Wouldn’t life be so much easier if curing a vulnerability hangover just took an Advil and a greasy meal? If you’ve ever felt shame or fear bubble up inside of you after opening up to someone, this episode is for you. Believe me, we’ve all been there.

I discuss what it means to have a vulnerability hangover, how to heal from it, why being vulnerable is so important, and some tips on moving forward with vulnerability (despite the risk of a hangover). I share quotes and advice from Dr. Brené Brown, a renowned shame and vulnerability researcher. While scary and intimidating, vulnerability allows us to build connections and show our true and honest selves.

I hope this episode will open your eyes and allow you to see all of the benefits of embracing vulnerability. It takes courage and bravery to take emotional risks!

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Resources: 

https://advice.theshineapp.com/articles/3-ways-to-cope-with-a-vulnerability-hangover/

https://happiful.com/what-is-a-vulnerability-hangover/

https://www.happiness.com/magazine/personal-growth/vulnerability-hangover/#:~:text=Coined%20by%20renowned%20storyteller%20and,to%20put%20ourselves%20out%20there.

https://www.romankrznaric.com/outrospection/2012/10/16/1729

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/vulnerability-hangover

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/16/well/mind/vulnerability-hangover-shame-spiral.html

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability/comments

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As Josette hilariously shares, there’s nothing in life that a good booty shake can’t take care of (Amen to that). Josette Tkacik is a Zumba Fitness Hero who leads weekly classes in downtown Santa Barbara at the Historic Carrillo Ballroom. She is known as the world's (!!!) most successful Zumba Instructor and leads the most well-attended Zumba class. 

Josette is the #1 author on DailyOm and an advisory board member for the Women in Leadership Program at UCSB. She has been named a Local Hero by the City of Santa Barbara and was the recipient of a Congressional Honor for Leadership in health and wellness.

Considered a medical miracle, Josette was able to self heal and reverse a severe autoimmune disease, advanced rheumatoid arthritis. In today’s episode, we discuss following your heart, overcoming extreme challenges, and the power of dance.

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TW: Body Image involving Josette’s ballet background.  

Connect with Josette:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JosetteTkacik/

Website: https://www.josettetkacik.com

DailyOm Courses: https://www.dailyom.com/courses/soul-fire-dance-party/

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I’m guessing that you’ve heard of imposter syndrome before or have even dealt with it personally. Don’t worry, you’re not alone if you are currently struggling with this or if you have previously experienced these feelings. Women (specifically women of color) are at a higher risk, and 70% of adults may experience imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.

This episode breaks down exactly what imposter syndrome is, the different types, common characteristics, ways to recognize it, and tips on how to overcome it and change your mindset.

I share my personal stories of imposter syndrome (believe me, been there, done that), and how I can occasionally still slip into that way of thinking. If you are currently in the thick of imposter syndrome, I hope that this episode can provide more information and the tools to stop this experience in its tracks. 

References:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/imposter-syndrome

https://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud

https://www.verywellmind.com/imposter-syndrome-and-social-anxiety-disorder-4156469

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQUxL4Jm1Lo

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Kelsey is a copywriting expert, marketing educator, and mental health advocate who helps entrepreneurs find their voice and write words that sell (without being “sales-y”). In this episode, Kelsey and I discuss burnout, major career and life changes, and ways to protect (and better) your mental health. Whether you love writing or absolutely despise it, she shares some incredible copywriting tips that can benefit all entrepreneurs.

Kelsey’s writing has been featured in Business Insider, Glamour, Refinery29, Boss Babe and more. An experienced public speaker, Kelsey has been invited to speak at some of the country's top marketing events like Hubspot’s "Inbound" and South by Southwest. She was recently named a ‘Rising Star’ by industry leader, Talking Influence, on their coveted “Influencer Top 50” list.

Kelsey's easy-to-understand teaching style has helped take struggling businesses to six figures and beyond, but that's not all that she’s passionate about. Kelsey's mission is to demystify the process of communicating with an online audience and to help people feel empowered and inspired every time they need to write or share about their business.

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Connect with Kelsey:

Website: https://kelseyformost.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelsey.writes/

Find Your Magic Podcast: https://kelseyformost.com/podcast

Kelsy’s Betterhelp discount: FindYourMagic

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I recently read that a woman’s prime years are supposedly between 30 and 39. I’m 33, so I can’t fully attest to this belief yet, but it's made me take a stroll down memory lane to reflect on my 20s vs. 30s (thus far). I believe that every decade has its pros and cons, but I like to think that life only continues to get better with age. 

In this episode, I discuss the highs and lows of my 20s and how I’ve changed in my 30s (more confident, less insecure, more established in my career, and less concerned with other’s opinions). I also unpack what I consider to be the key word of the 30s: change. I chat about the seasons of life and why it’s okay that everyone is on their own path and moving at their own pace.

Even in these alleged best years, it’s also normal to feel sadness along with elation, fear accompanied with comfort, and loneliness mixed with community. Life’s complicated and change can be wonderful but also challenging. Listen to hear why I think an ice cream sundae is a wonderful (and delicious) metaphor for life too.  

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References:

https://repeller.com/30s-best-years-for-women/

https://coveteur.com/2019/03/10/successful-women-hardest-age-stories/

Olive book: https://amzn.to/41ljqmL

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In this episode, I speak with Mastery Method Certified Life, Leadership, and Business Coach, China Jones. For over a decade, China was a personal trainer and fitness instructor and previous co-owner of a health and fitness gym. Today, China helps women become more vibrant and aligned through her coaching. She believes in helping clients master their energy and mindset so that they’re capable of accomplishing big goals. China combines creative strategy with deeper inner work to get to the root to help clients make changes from the inside-out. She is passionate about helping high achievers create success without burnout so that they can maintain the energy to do the things they actually enjoy. China is also co-founder of the local empowerment brand, Women Who Warrior.

China is available for corporate coaching and workshops, speaking events, and 1:1 coaching. Currently, China splits her time between sunny Santa Barbara and Lake Tahoe with her husband, their toddler, and two baby cheetahs (aka ocicats). We discuss changing careers, creating harmony vs. balance, and acknowledging and breaking patterns that may be holding us back. 

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Connect with China:

Upcoming Mastermind: https://hello.dubsado.com/public/form/view/63b8c6dd67e5e15e51f05e13

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachchinajones/

Email: [email protected]

Women Who Warrior: https://www.womenwhowarrior.com

Women Who Warrior Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/women_who_warrior/

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Welcome to Season 2 of The Bets Life Podcast! I’m so excited to be back for this next season! I can’t wait for you to listen to all of the incredible guest interviews and solo topics to come.

To kick off this new season, I wanted to discuss a complicated and important topic: body image. This episode was inspired by the holiday season and my recent travels. I spent the holidays and my long vacation indulging and enjoying every second. I don’t have any regrets, but when I purchased new pants while on our trip, I had some shame creep up about the size that I was buying. This experience made me think about one of my favorite movie scenes from Eat, Pray, Love – I explain more in the episode.

This vacation moment led me to lots of reflection on body image and our ever-changing relationship with our own bodies and self love. While there is a lot of noise about (very) unrealistic or impossible body/beauty standards, most of the time we are our own harshest critic. At the end of this episode, I challenge you to switch the script and focus on ways to love your body.

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References:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bObjXY24Ei4

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Can you believe 2022 is almost over? Are you ready for 2023? I can’t wait to inevitably miswrite “2022” instead of “2023” in the new year. It always takes me a couple of months to get it right.

I discuss a popular topic in today’s episode: New Year’s resolutions. There have been years where I successfully completed my resolution, times that I didn't even attempt to make one, and instances where I threw in the towel almost immediately. I’m sure that many of you can relate. 

With this episode, I’m excited to break down some resolution stats and research, share how you can actually accomplish your goal, and explore a variety of ideas to help you choose your 2023 resolution.

This is also the final episode of season one of The Bets Life Podcast. Sending a big thank you to all of my guests and listeners – thanks for making this first season so fun! Looking forward to season two and all of the conversations, laughs, and topics to come! 

Happy holidays and Happy New Year!

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References:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/tracybrower/2021/12/31/4-reasons-to-make-new-years-resolutions-even-if-you-dont-keep-them/?sh=6358bceb66a1

https://www.goskills.com/Soft-Skills/Resources/Top-10-new-years-resolutions

https://today.yougov.com/topics/society/articles-reports/2020/12/23/2021-new-years-resolutions-poll

https://parade.com/969195/megangrant/new-years-resolutions-ideas/

https://collegelifemadeeasy.com/new-years-resolution-ideas/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/wellness/advice/g985/achievable-new-year-resolutions/?slide=60

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Today I welcome Tiffany Frey, a social media strategist with 10+ years of experience in advertising and marketing, to the podcast. In 2021, Tiffany moved from Texas to Los Angeles, California, and in 2022, she created her own boutique marketing agency, Toven Social. From one-on-one coaching to content creation to Instagram audits, Tiffany and her team can help you build and define your social media presence.

We chat about branding and marketing advice, starting your own business, empowering other women, embracing goofiness, celebrating small successes, and so much more. 

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Connect with Tiffany:

Website: https://tovensocial.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiffanyfrey/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tovensocial/?hl=en

Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diaryoftiff/

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