The Bloomera Podcast | Personal Growth, Breaking Cycles, & Healing Trauma (your BLOOM ERA)

The transition into parenthood is challenging for both parents - and the relationship they share. But that doesn't mean that relationship has to suffer! Protect your marriage or relationship in the early stages of parenthood using these tips from relationship coach, Chelsea Skaggs. 

We will discuss:

• Navigating resentment
• Resentment in motherhood
• Resentment for your spouse
• Being the default parent
• Loss of identity in motherhood
• Challenges of motherhood
• Struggles of motherhood
• Identifying your Unmet needs as a mother
• Unrealistic expectations in motherhood
• Feeling like an overwhelmed mom
• Better relationship after baby
• Communication in relationships after having a baby
• Early motherhood challenges
• Supporting your partner during postpartum
• Harms of social media for moms
• Unrealistic expections for moms on social media
• The idea of the perfect mom
• Trying to be the perfect mom
• Comparison in motherhood
• Comparing yourself as a mother
• Letting go of control in motherhood
• Coping with postpartum anxiety
• Empowering fathers in parenting
• Getting help from your husband
• Feeling like you should do it all in motherhood
• Standards of motherhood
• How to be more like a team as parents
• Having more fun in motherhood
• Internal vs external processors
• Healthy communication in relationships
  
  

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In this episode, we are gifted with so much wisdom from the amazing Cynthia Ngoy - a cycle-breaking mother of two, transformational business and mindset coach, who specializes in helping mompreneurs unlock their authentic expression in their life and on their socials. 

The focus of our conversation today was breaking cycles of generational trauma and healing your inner child - but chatting with her was so much fun that we also covered so many other important topics in motherhood, such as…

We will discuss:

• Identity shift and identity loss in motherhood
• Losing yourself in motherhood
• Matresence
• How to know when it’s time to shift careers?
• Motherhood brings up parts of you that need to be healed
• Choosing to walk away from the career you thought you wanted
• When what you want in life changes
• How motherhood changes you
• Generational trauma and generational healing
• Healing your inner child
• Exercise for inner child healing and inner child work
• Breaking cycles
• Having compassion for your parents
• Forgiving your parents for their generational trauma
• How to handle triggers in motherhood
• How to regulate your emotions with toddlers
• Helping toddlers learn how to cope with their emotions
• Speaking your truth and taking back your power
• Empowering yourself
• Healing yourself
• Feeling confident and capable within yourself
• Finding your purpose
• Following your joy
• Turning your passion into your purpose
• Reframing negative thinking
• How limiting beliefs are holding you back
• How to overcome limiting beliefs
• Leaving the corporate world to care for children
• Leaving the corporate world to start your own business
• Starting a business at home

Related Articles and Episodes:

• How to Reparent Yourself
• 40+ Inner Child Journal Prompts for Reparenting Yourself
• Healing the Mother Wound
• Journal Prompts for Healing the Mother Wound
• Intergenerational Trauma

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Stop making the same mistakes while dating! These datings tips for new relationships are hard-learned lessons that someone should benefit from. Lessons learned by someone who has used all of the dating apps, experienced all of the bad dates, and found a way to more efficiently find out who is actually compatible. They say that you should always take dating and relationship advice from someone in a healthy, long-term relationship and you are in luck - I am a happily married woman sharing all of the tips and tricks that helped me get into a safe, healthy, and loving relationship.

We will discuss:

• Red flags to look for while dating
• Learning from bad dates
• Overcoming heartbreak and breakups
• Spotting red flags in relationships
• Manifesting relationships that are healthy for you
• Figuring out what you need in a partner
• Dating checklist for compatibility
• Breaking codependent behaviors and mindsets
• Manifesting the love of your life
• How to not lose yourself in a relationship or while dating
• Focusing on your needs in a relationship
• How to stop people pleasing while dating
• How to stop worrying about other people's opinions of you while dating
• Stating your wants in a relationship
• How to have the "what are we" conversation about commitment
• How to tell if they are right for you
• Therapy and dating
• Attachment styles and dating
• How to know if you are compatible with them
• Questions to ask to learn compatibility in new relationships

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• Red Flags in Relationships
• Daily Gratitude Practice
• Intergenerational Trauma
• The Mother Wound
• Planning a Marriage

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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We are going to talk about what reparenting yourself is, what reparenting looks like, and how to identify the areas that need your attention. These areas are often referred to as your inner child - which we will dive deep into understanding. I share the top lessons I have learned through years of therapy and reparenting myself. And what it looks like to reparent yourself while parenting your children.

The goal of this episode is to guide you toward generational healing. 

We will discuss:

• What is reparenting and how to begin
• Reparenting your inner child
• How to find your inner child
• Exercise for finding your inner child
• Identifying your inner child
• Healing your inner child
• Speaking to your inner child
• How to reparent yourself and your wounded inner child
• Reparenting yourself techniques
• What is reparenting therapy
• Does reparenting work
• Learning to reparent yourself
• Steps to reparent yourself
• Resources for reparenting yourself
• Reparenting yourself while parenting your children
• Coping with triggers as a parent
• When your child is triggering you
• Cycle breakers
• Self healer
• Generational trauma cycles

Products Mentioned:

• Feelings and Needs Cards
• Free 40+ Inner Child Journal Prompts

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• Free 40+ Inner Child Journal Prompts
• Intergenerational Trauma
• The Mother Wound: How it Impacts Us and How to Begin Healing
• How to Deal with Triggers
• Self-Care Ideas  
• Journal Prompts
• Journal Prompts for Triggers

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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If you are dating, you NEED to keep an eye out for these relationship red flags. They can save you a lot of precious time, energy, money, and most importantly - HEARTACHE. You deserve to be with someone who is worthy of these parts of you - and who treats you well. Learn from my (many, many) dating mistakes and stop ignoring these relationship red flags.

Content warning: Discussion of abuse in romantic relationships

We will discuss:

• Exceptions to the rules in dating and relationships
• What are relationship red flags?
• How to identify dating red flags
• Important safety tips for the first date, dating, and relationships
• How to spot controlling partners
• When your partner is trying to change you
• How not to lose yourself in relationships
• Early signs of abuse
• Abuse red flags
• Different types of abuse
• What to do when you can't trust your partner
• Jealous and possessive partners
• How to tell if they are actually over their ex
• How to spot gaslighting in a relationship
• When your partner doesn't get along with your friends or family (or when your friends and family don't like your partner)
• Name-calling in arguments
• Finding out if you are compatible on a date
• Dating emotionally unavailable men
• Dating men with a fear of commitment 
• What is "love bombing"?
• How to tell if you are being love-bombed
• When your date or partner doesn't respect your boundaries
• Healthy boundaries in relationships
• When you feel like you are "too much" or not good enough for someone
• Unsupportive partners
• Relationship and dating deal-breakers
• Dating advice and first date tips
• Plus more red flags to watch out for while dating!

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• How to Stop Playing Small (And Start Living Authentically)
• How to Deal with Triggers

If you believe you might be in an abusive relationship, I urge you to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can call 1-800-799-SAFE or (7233) or text START to 88788

And if any of this is triggering to you, go check out my episode on How to Deal with Triggers.

Resources:

• https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/ 
• https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/types-of-abuse/ 
• https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse#control-and-shame
  
  

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Frustrated while trying to handle your toddler's tantrums and meltdowns during the toddler's hitting phase? You are not alone. I'm sharing all of my tips and tricks for how to deal with your toddler hitting, smacking, or hurting others when they are upset.

Techniques using:
Gentle Parenting
Authoritative Parenting
Respectful Parenting

We will discuss:

• Managing your emotions and reactions to your toddler's meltdown
• Surviving toddler temper tantrums
• Not taking the blame for your child's normal phases
• Toddler communication tips
• Toddler discipline tricks
• Redirecting a toddler
• Communication with your toddler
• Staying consistent in your parenting
• Mini parent pep-talk
• Respectful communication with your toddler
• Validating your toddler's feelings and emotions
• Toddler behavior tips
• Toddler mom problems

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• The Challenges and Struggles of Motherhood
• Self-Care Ideas and Activities
• Taking Days Off as a Mother

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog.

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Let's talk about how to start turning your dream into your reality. Today's episode is inspired by a question submitted to my Instagram from a very sweet friend, Savannah. So consider something you want to start on and let's dive into how you can get started chasing your dream (and following your heart). You are deserving and worthy of being successful in whatever is calling to your soul.

We will discuss:

• Following your dreams
• Overcoming limiting beliefs
• Common limiting beliefs holding you back
• When you don't feel good enough
• How to quit playing small
• Struggling with imposter syndrome
• Tackling feelings of imposter syndrome
• Overcoming a fear of failure
• Learning from mistakes
• Growth opportunities in mistakes and failures
• Gratitude practice for growth
• Taking the first step towards your dream
• Setting goals and actionable steps towards those goals
• How to start gaining experience and knowledge
• Being a beginner
• Understanding perfectionism
• Constantly trying to be perfect
• A pep talk for confidence
• Taking action

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• Following Your Dreams
• How to Stop Playing Small and Start Living Authentically
• Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
• Why You Need a Daily Gratitude Practice to Improve Your Mental Health
• Continued Personal Growth in New Year's Resolutions
• How to Overcome Perfectionism

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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Understanding & healing the mother wound is crucial for your personal growth. It impacts your mental health, your relationships, your friendships, & your parenting.  It's time to start healing yourself FOR yourself.

We will discuss:

• What is a mother wound?
• Resources for healing a mother wound
• Mother wound meaning
• Types of mother wounds
• Generational Trauma Cycles
• Difficult, challenging, and painful mother-daughter relationships
• Ending a mother-daughter relationship
• How the mother wound impacts us
• How the mother wound impacts relationships
• Mother wound and romantic relationships
• Attachment disorders from mother wounds and generational traumas
• Mother wound and friendships and relationships with other women
• How mother wounds impact our parenting
• The circle of security and mother wounds
• How to end generational trauma
• Breaking generational cycles
• Finding your inner child
• Reparenting yourself
• Generational healing
• Forgiving your mother and finding forgiveness with mother wounds
• Ho'oponopono
• Understanding your mother
• Resources for healing the mother wound

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• Journal Prompts for Healing the Mother Wound
• Intergenerational Trauma
• How to Stop Playing Small and Start Living Authentically
• Overcoming Perfectionism
• Empowering Other Women (And Yourself!)
• Friendship Breakups
• Self-Care Ideas
• Journal Prompts
• Why You Need a Daily Gratitude Practice
• Resources for Healing the Mother Wound

Resources mentioned:

• Unmothered and Unbothered Podcast
• Unmothered and Unbothered Podcast Instagram
• Mother Wound Project Instagram
• Resources for Healing the Mother Wound

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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Let's talk about overwhelm in motherhood and resentment in marriage - because it is SUPER common. This episode is inspired by a question from a listener - head over to my Instagram or Website to ask a question of your own. It might even be featured in an episode, like today's episode!

Here are all of my tips to help this (and every other) overwhelmed mom who is starting to build resentment in a relationship with their spouse and partner. I have one simple solution that will benefit you, your partner, and your children. You can thank me later.

In this episode, we will discuss:

• Overwhelmed in Motherhood
• Resentment in Marriage
• Stay-at-home moms and depression
• Why being a stay-at-home mom is so hard
• How being a work-from-home mom and work-out-of-home mom is also hard
• Needing a break as a mother
• Asking for help in motherhood
• Self-care in motherhood
• Burnt-out mom (aka "mommy burnout")
• Scheduling time-off
• The importance of hobbies in motherhood
• Discussing resentment in marriage and relationships
• Making requests from your partner
• Healthy Communication in Marriage as Parents
• Navigating marriage and parenthood
• Teaching your children how to care for themselves
• Self-care for moms

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• The Challenges and Struggles of Motherhood
• Solo-Parenting Tips and Tricks
• Self-Care Ideas and Activities
• Postpartum Self-Care

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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Let's talk about why some women struggle to empower other women, how we can fix it & how we can start to empower other women (and ourselves!) Because the real change comes from within. Yes, spoiler alert, it takes an empowered woman to empower other women - so we will be learning how to empower ourselves!

We will discuss:

• How to empower yourself
• Why empowering yourself is so important
• Journal prompts for empowerment
• Empowerment in the workplace
• How to empower other women
• Why some women cannot empower others
• Real-life mean girls
• Scarcity mindset in women
• Self-care routines
• Self-love for women
• Celebrating yourself and other women
• Generational trauma from mothers, grandmothers, strong female role models
• Breaking generational trauma & generational healing

Episodes and Articles Mentioned:

• Intergenerational Trauma
• Self-Care Ideas and Activities
• How to Deal with Triggers
• Journal Prompts for Triggers
• 30+ Journal Prompts for Empowerment
• Body Acceptance During Pregnancy
• Daily Gratitude Practice for Mental Health
• Continued Personal Growth in New Year's
• Journal Prompts for Self-Discovery
• Follow Your Dreams

You can find today's show notes on Root and Rise Blog or by clicking here.

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