Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.

3:00 17 and 30 years old 

8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD

10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia

13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine

15:00 pleasure after abuse

17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 

19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG

22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

24:00 maintaining sanity while online 

27:00 more on that ^

30:00 dating after escaping that

35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 

38:00 tradwife fantasy

42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com

45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus

49:00 a poem reading

53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person

57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boys

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