Let’s talk tips for playing or working online and with ever-changing technology. As a lawyer, digital policy activist and community organizer, with the Electronic Frontier Foundation Paige Collings works to dismantle systems of oppression.

Visit EFF.org for more info on adapting to state surveillance and corporate restrictions stifling marginalized communities - and the most of us.

2:00 early days of online

6:00 nostalgic downloads

9:00 how she got here

11:00 dating apps and privacy concerns

19:00 IG messenger policy change April 2026

23:00 IG is reading your messages now

27:00 listening devices

32:00 PrivacyBadger - free service to block data mining

35:00 spy glasses, META glasses

39:00 password safety tips

42:00 what are you sharing?

46:00 Set up Two-factor authentication 

49:00 age verification sucks - why?

53:00 banned content

56:00 data collection 

1:02:00 resources to protect yourself and stay informed

1:07:00 how to help SWs

Additional resources for web safety and news: ssd.eff.org/

fightforthefuture.org/

glitchcharity.co.uk/

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Let’s create supportive environments where individuals feel empowered to explore complex topics and perspectives, like queer imposter syndrome or STI disclosure. Everyone needs advocacy and especially queer and disabled communities. Are you a clinician or healthcare provider? Even better to talk with Lena Peak, MSW, CSE.

2:00 teaching vs therapy for her

5:00 disabled people be fucking 

8:00 curiosity, play, community

12:00 being silly can be disarming 

18:00 group dynamics in therapy vs education 

22:00 am I gay enough? 

25:00 care for yourself + disclosure

28:00 case study: Kevin

32:00 how clinicians can be helpful

40:00 lucky in sex work

43:00 wheelchairs in clubs

47:00 stereotypes

50:00 book recs

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Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self.

Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”.

2:00 leaving the church 

4:00 leaning into the violent things

7:00 family predators and patterns

9:00 what is a “mass tort”?

13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships

16:00 humor about sexual assault

20:00 a book event in Portland?

25:00 how to deal with social isolation

30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings

34:00 opposition to her 

37:00 “Adventist Risk Management”

40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson

44:00 SDA vs Catholics

47:00 who owns the eatery?

50:00 atheism today and sex tips

FIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer

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Our guest is a male provider of touch to women clients. He has worked as a surrogate partner, coach and more. Let's talk about clients, and attachment, and our own personal relationship tips and pitfalls.

2:00 a somatic approach to sex

4:00 better sex comes from body awareness

7:00 when it sucks to be 'in your body'

11:00 requirements for working as a surrogate

15:00 go explore!

19:00 some of us are drawn to sex work

18:00 male sw profiles from hell

22:00 why pay for it?

30:00 clients attaching to him

37:00 no dating at this time

40:00 sunlight and showering is key for me

44:00 orgasm retreat-events

48:00 upcoming events

52:00 aim to diversify and inform self, how?

55:00 sex tips and breathing

FIND YOUR GUEST: JamesHumecky.com

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Miss M has worked in sex in a variety of ways, but never a brothel. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of sugaring, escorting, companion and dominatrix work - and why sex workers tend to prefer decriminalization instead of legalization models, when given the option. We’ve also got safety and pleasure tips for everyone!

1:00 SA to escorting 

5:00 she applied to Sheri’s 

8:00 brothel surveillance 

12:00 structure doesn’t equal equity

16:00 tips for safety

20:00 is this what it’s like dating?

25:00 find her Substack here: @menopausemermaid 

Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 

26:00 dating

30:00 thoughts on policing

34:00 police in portland lately

38:00 confidentiality is cool

Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com 

45:00 Unionizing in Nevada news

49:00 concerns re: ownership of image

55:00 DECRIM not legalization plz 

58:00 sex tips 

1:00:00 female condoms are cool!

FIND YOUR GUEST: Substack @ menopausemermaid

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Sinn Sage is an an Adult Video Hall of Famer, who offers reflections and advice for people who want to make their own materials and seek to understand the market. Let’s talk about how years of pornmaking has lended insight into intimacy and the politics between touch and advocacy. 

2:00 how she got started

5:00 burnout and spark

8:00 facesitting and fetish themes

11:00 AVN evolutions and COVID

15:00 Pornhubs problematic origins 

18:00 ad revenue tiers?

22:00 learned boundaries in SW

25:00 theater nerd overlap 

Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

29:00 having a favorite 

35:00 relationship advice for SWs

38:00 advice for using apps 

42:00 advice for newbies in the industry

47:00 thots on coaching?

52:00 she wants all SWs to earn more

54:00 Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com

58:00 clips4sale and platform rules

1:01:00 manyvids drama and changes

1:05:00 custom video guidelines

1:09:00 helping guide people to intimacy 

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This is a pleasure-centric episode! Learn some tips for pleasing people with vulvas, and get an insider’s idea of different ways to play. Allison Moon talks sex geek stuff like lesbianism, theater, disability, and sexual skills.

2:00 GIRLSEX 101 is about queer sex

5:00 straight men like this book too

8:00 Guide to Getting It/On

11:00 college professor in the PNW

14:00 Sex Geek Summer Camp

18:00 listening will make you better

21:00 more tips for sex with women 

Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com 

26:00 beware scammers selling stuff

30:00 oral sex tips

33:00 don’t kick me off online plz 

36:00 more oral sex tips

39:00 transphobes hate her! 

Sponsored by Lovecrave.com

45:00 SWOON - a short rom/com film about sex work and disability

47:00 leftist movements can leave people behind

51:00 sex can be silly and bizarre 

54:00 @DirtyLola and Reid Mihalko shoutouts

57:00 a renaissance around sex positive media is possible 

FIND YOUR GUEST: AlliedMoon.com

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Kaytlin Bailey is a comedian and former escort who founded a nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to advocate for human rights. She produces conferences and podcasts episodes and is touring The Oldest Profession Live Show now! Let’s talk about 10,000 years of sex work in history.

3:00 feminism succeeds with inclusion of sw

7:00 sw in history 

10:00 feedback from audiences

13:00 internalized shame

15:00 the Honest Courtesan - maggiemcneil.com

18:00 sugaring and escort background

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25:00 Veronica Franco - fascinating historical figure

29:00 reminder to save your money if you can

33:00 fundraising and sugaring 

37:00 differences in activism

40:00 what is “bad” money?

43:00 attitude is everything 

47:00 flagging or signaling 

50:00 it’s expensive to look “naturally pretty”

54:00 how to gauge compassion about sw?

57:00 how to be an ally 

1:00:00 danger vs opportunity 

1:02:00 sex tips from a married person jk

FIND YOUR GUEST: kaytlinbailey.com/, 

AND AT theoldestprofession.org/

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Suzannah Weiss is an American sexologist and author of “Eve’s Blessing”, which discusses how people with vulvas can lead pleasurable lives in a world that normalizes their pain, specifically related to sex, childbirth and menstruation.

This book is for gender diverse people, and is not a critique of the Bible, but a more sex-positive re-imagining of it.

3:00 chronic lyme disease, pain or no-gasm 

7:00 stories from others

10:00 what is “the female experience”

13:00 medical forms and language can make it confusing

15:00 gaslighting example

18:00 PAXIL may mess up your vag

21:00 hormonal birth control side effects

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28:00 the Bible’s pain of child-raising?

32:00 wine is not the answer in this case

36:00 side effects of sexual violence

40:00 OF Bible Passages 

43:00 advocate for yourself during doctor visits

45:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com

46:00 about 5% of people have endometriosis?

50:00 should periods be so painful?

53:00 reminder, she’s a sex therapist in CA

56:00 sex tips!

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Your questions on STIs, dating, and pleasure, answered by Mariah Caudillo of @SexedFiles of IG. She's worked in schools for a decade and is an online program creator for a major health care clinic. Let's talk health and fun sex stuff.

3:00 day and night jobs!

7:00 teaching in schools for a decade 

10:00 bacterial vs virtual STIs

14:00 M.Gen is a new STI! Fun!

16:00 Qs for a new partner?

22:00 HPV info 

25:00 THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order Condomania.com

27:00 Bacterial Vaginosis is an STI?

34:00 the vagina is like a sleeping bag

37:00 how much is too much masturbation?

43:00 Sponsored by LoveBlanket.com - get 10% off via theytalksex.com

45:00 cock ring questions 

48:00 hallucinations while orgasming?

51:00 what to do about a chronic UTI?

54:00 how to stay motivated as a teacher 

57:00 NY Post is trash

1:01:00 more on online harassment

1:03:00 sex tips!

FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @sexedfiles

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Please rate and review this podcast :)