Did you know that violence against people in the adult industries is a common type of police misconduct? Our guest and journalist Isidoro Rodriguez uncovers what he’s learned through interviews and study of two at-odds populations: cops and sex workers. Let’s talk about how power and criminalization of prostitution makes it impossible to protect marginalized people in our America.

3:00 embedded with police academy 

5:00 sadistic, altruistic, apathetic

8:00 concepts of consent

10:00 did you have any biases?

13:00 I just want to learn

16:00 how to screen for predators?

20:00 officer-health and wellness

24:00 THEYTALKSEX for 10% off love-blanket.com/

27:00 what are Good Samaritan laws?

30:00 Rights For Girls is not overly helpful or ethical as an org.

33:00 please don’t make our clients into criminals

35:00 trauma can lead to bias

38:00 billboard ads would help 

41:00 clients don’t like talking on record either

44:00 don’t punish all the liquor buyers

47:00 safe harbor laws aren’t enough 

50:00 I hope for a nice cop 

53:00 don’t police homelessness or mental illness

56:00 Jessie Sage, Blair Hopkins, Kaytlin Bailey are experts on this 

1:01:00 more reliable news sources

1:06:00 sex tips 

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Jae Tracy grew up through severe parental abuse and trafficking and is finally able to speak about her experiences, in order to bolster other survivors and to teach the warning signs. Let’s talk about living as an adult with a family trauma history, and thriving as an individual after.

1:00 we met in the strip club

4:00 she can finally share her story of childhood

7:00 charming and abusive mother

10:00 meth and alcohol and “the wrong crowd”

13:00 Lutheran grandparents

16:00 Find her on Youtube @ Jae Tracy

19:00 a step up from home life

24:00 supporting a parent in their sobriety?

27:00 what feels good for yourself 

30:00 sex after trauma 

35:00 how to explain sex work vs trafficking

36:00 ways to spot abuse?

43:00 foster kids across state housing?

46:00 social worker problems

49:00 racism in parenting

52:00 get silly and wild in sex 

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Leanne Lawson is an amateur adult content creator living in Canada who stumbled upon an online world of pro-fascism trans women(!) Let’s talk about internalized violence and power structures in adult work, trans and queer spaces.

1:00 trans women who love Trump?

3:00 the “Tucker Carlson of trans women”

5:00 barred from the strip club

9:00 trans-on-trans violence

13:00 pick-me!

14:00 trans women with privilege?

19:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com

22:00 examples of infighting and sabotage

26:00 dating lesbians

29:00 I'd be more successful if I shut up

32:00 on roasting people

36:00 picking your battles

40:00 trans-medicalism 

46:00 outdated terms for people

49:00 what changed for you?

54:00 just one Republican with a trans kid

59:00 some people do anything for Likes

1:03:00 stop copying Sex workers if you hate us!

1:08:00 a sex tip 

Find Leanne Lawson on TikTok and IG @crashout3oh4

OnlyFans.com/crashout3oh4

Special mentions to @Liam.nissan and @mohatesmedia

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What can you learn from an online adult entertainer, YouTuber, and digital marketing professional? Misty Maven creates content for her subscription sites, sells worn clothing items, and tells us about her learning curves and ongoing practices for engaging online. Let’s talk webcam and sex work!

3:00 prior work experience

6:00 why they started sworking

9:00 selling worn garments 

12:00 twerking videos 

15:00 connecting with others

19:00 nosy and interested in others

23:00 what about the future?

26:00 talking with mom about worry

30:00 regrets in the future?

34:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com

37:00 beware of scammers

40:00 amazon scammers specifically 

43:00 creators who scam?

47:00 economics 

50:00 advertising on social media 

54:00 tips for starting out

58:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com 

1:01:00 Colombian webcam workers and coercion

1:06:00 exploitation in commercial labor overseas and here

1:10:00 what’s next for Misty?

Our guest can be found on YouTube @Mistymistymisty and all links can be found at mistythemaven.com

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Ready for some inner child work? Our guest was tired of talking about their traumatic incidents and was ready to feel better in their body and relationships again - let’s talk dealing with attachment trauma and healing methods with Mx Harris Hill.

3:00 heal your PTSD faster?

7:00 inner child work 

11:00 if you can feel you

14:00 hypersexuality and substances, PTSD

16:00 golden rules for working with people 

19:00 inherently traumatized + trans?

22:00 jealousy triggered 

25:00 stop relying on them for so much

Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

33:00 core wound therapy

36:00 dating three and power dynamics

39:00 more advice power dynamics

Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com

45:00 on dating an avoidant 

48:00 on being anxiously attached

51:00 co-dependency and materials

54:00 future plans and corporate influencing?

Find our guest at MxHarrisHill.com

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Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.

3:00 17 and 30 years old 

8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD

10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia

13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine

15:00 pleasure after abuse

17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 

19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG

22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

24:00 maintaining sanity while online 

27:00 more on that ^

30:00 dating after escaping that

35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 

38:00 tradwife fantasy

42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com

45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus

49:00 a poem reading

53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person

57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boys

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Tara Jones is the founder and Executive Director of a small, grassroots non-profit called The Youth Sexpert Program. If you have kids or tweens or teens, there may be some tips in here for you! Let’s talk about youth and education

Find your guest at theyouthsexpertprogram.org/

@theyouths3xpertprogram

and theyouthsexpertprogram.org/

2:00 building her own curriculum based on needs

5:00 first tampon experience 

8:00 talking to your kids, concerns

11:00 continued –

15:00 workshops that they offer

18:00 NetherlandsWax.com 

22:00 it happens earlier than you might expect

26:00 how to ask about your kid’s activity

30:00 masturbation is the healthiest 

34:00 what if your kid’s friend’s parents are transphobes?

38:00 InstituteforSexuality.com 

40:00 Heartstopper is highly recommended

45:00 people mobilizing, recommendations

49:00 Arkansas and high teen birth rates

53:00 amplifying stories and connecting youth people

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

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Kali is a longtime stripper and photographer based in California and can currently be found on IG’s @TalesfromtheStrip17.

Let’s talk strip club culture and horror stories, dressing room dogs and Juggalos. Join two “lifers” for safety tips, rants and advice for newbies and curious club-goers.

Find your guest at @TalesfromtheStrip17 on IG

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.com

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4:00 ageism and aging in the club

7:00 states and cities where she worked

11:00 PDX has different requirements for clubs

14:00 personal life things

16:00 movie recommendation The Last Showgirl

20:00 @talesfromthestrip17

25:00 security cameras - yes or no?

30:00 involving yourself with other drama

34:00 don’t flash your money

38:00 Sponsored by InstituteForSexuality.com

44:00 friends with your exes

46:00 HB 2743

55:00 asexuality and strippers

58:00 safety things

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How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennesey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.

Find your guest at EversenseToys.com

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 

5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 

8:00 trans-forward toys 

11:00 toy preview

14:00 can be used by any body!

17:00 gender affirming surgery

20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 

24:00 try a butt plug for your vag

Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 

28:00 how to clean your toys?

32:00 diff uses for your toys!

37:00 how to know if a cockring fits

41:00 trial and error

Sponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 

47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo

51:00 hearing from online folks 

54:00 trans and isolated?

59:00 sober sex series in PDX

1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat app

Please rate and review this podcast :)

How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennessey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

Find your guest at Eversensetoys.com

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 

5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 

8:00 trans-forward toys 

11:00 toy preview

14:00 can be used by any body!

17:00 gender affirming surgery

20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 

24:00 try a butt plug for your vag

Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 

28:00 how to clean your toys?

32:00 diff uses for your toys!

37:00 how to know if a cockring fits

41:00 trial and error

Sponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 

47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo

51:00 hearing from online folks 

54:00 trans and isolated?

59:00 sober sex series in PDX

1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat app

Please rate and review this podcast :)