Elle and Valentine are friends and partners in life and the adult industry! We take your questions about dating, self care, sex and work. Thank you for a great four years talking sex and season 5 will return in the spring.

1:00 Guest IG @ xValentine_vonbettieX

5:00 find her Casa Diablo now!

7:00 dating another SW has baseline perks

10:00 dating issues for SWs

14:00 the work can be “bad” for some people’s health

16:00 “Concussion” movie 

19:00 Condomania.com - - code THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order

22:00 tips on building your SW website

24:00 tips for long term pros

36:00 tips for slow seasons 

40:00 GetTheLayer.com - code ELLE for 10% off

42:00 how to balance work and life with sleep?

50:00 youthism and SW 

55:00 how to ask for STI testing/results

59:00 our sexualities are different 

1:03:00 travel is a perk

1:06:00 oral sex tips for vulvas

Our guest can be found at DarlingValentine.me 

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How does intimacy relate to sex and self worth? Our guest has years of family and marriage therapy under her belt, and she runs the sex education program your host attended. Let’s talk intimacy, sex tips and and ideas between Elle and her mentor, Dr. Roz Dischiavo.

2:00 marriage and family therapist, sexual health program director

5:00 cell phones are messing 

7:00 broken heart syndrome? Takotsubo cardiomyopathy

11:00 is eye contact creepy?

15:00 cell phones and lower sex interactions

18:00 connection prepares you for intimacy

22:00 consultations with Gen Z

25:00 Man Vs Bear 

30:00 online dating

35:00 examples of ways to show intimacy

38:00 when they won’t make eye contact during sex

43:00 touch body before genitals 

47:00 how to practice intimacy without sex

50:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE for 10% OFF

53:00 preserve the relationship for later

56:00 intimacy workshops in Phoenix, AZ

Resource mentioned: IG @ablackfemaletherapist

Our guest’s website is instituteforsexuality.com

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What can hands do? Let’s talk with pleasure expert and coach Jennifer Rahner about kink and communication. Learn some basic tips and some safety practices, plus creative ideas for self pleasure and partner play.

1:00 Dr. Ruth started it

4:00 a mid-life career switch 

7:00 teaches non-monogamy, BDSM, masturbation and more

10:00 CNS vs ENM discussion

13:00 will the United States block Tryst?

16:00 PH ban from states

19:00 basic spanking tips 

22:00 more spanking tips

26:00 slapping safety tips

29:00 choking safety tips

33:00 why don’t hit or squeeze the front of the throat

36:00 OkCupid for kink dating? (not sponsored, I wish!)

40:00 if someone goes non-verbal

45:00 GETTHELAYER.com - sex blanket! Discount code ELLE

49:00 leftists tend to like kink more?

54:00 monthly CNM discussion group - peer support

57:00 #mommyknowsbest

Find our guest JenniferRahner.com and our host ElleStanger.com

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Let’s talk with a European brothel manager: Catherine de Noire works the overnight shift in one of the biggest venues in her part of the world, and hear the pros and cons of a legal system and how the workers navigate it.

2:00 working the night shift

6:00 how the club operates for the workers

9:00 no middle-management

12:00 no violent incidents in years

15:00 crossing borders to work

18:00 radical feminists and conservative christians

23:00 no charge for first timers

26:00 how Domestic violence relates to sex work

29:00 be wary of being an ATM to the people in ur life

32:00 taxes and police 

36:00 condoms and testing

40:00 “I’m clean”

43:00 quantity vs quality?

47:00 Nevada brothels compared to European

50:00 American stigma 

54:00 sexuality is playful 

58:00 just enjoy the sex

Find our guest Catherine De Noire on Threads

and on IG @ Catherine_de_noire

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What's it like being a dominatrix to the devout AND to the de-constructing Mormons? Mx Novatrix serves and teaches in the SLC area of Utah, which is arguably the most sex-negative region in the United States. Let’s talk to them!

2:00 episode begin

5:00 Utah/Idaho mormons more intense than outside states

10:00 mass exodus from Church in some ways

15:00 Joseph Smith was a known con man

18:00 yes these are problematic terms “indian” and “savages”

22:00 return with honor ewwww

26:00 what are Bishop’s interviews?

30:00 confession or worship sessions

33:00 Sisters and sissification

36:00 be gay in quiet

39:00 the magic underwear

43:00 what are Blue Laws?

46:00 trans masculine people in drag?

50:00 No confession needed

54:00 film - Touch of the Master’s Hand

58:00 BDSM fear in therapists

Your host is ElleStanger.com

Your guest is ExMormonDomme.com

and also at MadazonCanCan.com

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Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.

2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 

4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?

9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic

12:00 - double standard of working 

15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 

20:00 - what makes a good shift?

23:00 - negative impact of stigma

28:00 - use cheap makeup

33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas

36:00 - nice partners do exist

41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old

47:00 - social media suppression

51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd

55:00 - owner favoritism

59:00 - sex tip!

Your host is ElleStanger.com

Your guest is www.alexavan.com

@thebadalexavan IG

@alexavanauthor tiktok

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Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.

3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC

7:00 sex and shame

10:00 rich people were unexpected

13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege 

18:00 where my Evangelicals at?

20:00 abuse dismissed as sin

25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death

29:00 further reading for hip Christians

34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”

37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex

41:00 disordered eating mention

44:00 on spirituality now

49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie 

52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo

55:00 red flags

57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy

1:01:00 progress and pushing forward

1:06:00 have sex with people who respect you

Your host is ElleStanger.com

Your guest is MattieJoCowsert.com

See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

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What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.

3:00 - this episode can save lives

8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse 

12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes

16:00 - go to the Genital Gym

19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”

22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?

25:00 - pleasure mapping

29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie 

33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?

37:00 - what else can you learn?

42:00 - what to eat?

46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat

49:00 - trouble with orgasm

52:00 - “is gooning bad?” 

54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis

59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems

1:03:00 - am i normal? 

VISIT and JOIN https://www.softcockweek.com/

Your guest can be found at https://www.softcockweek.com/soft-cock-blog/welcome-from-your-new-2024-hostess

Your host is ElleStanger.com

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Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.

2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents

5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors

7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!

10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best

14:00 - risk assessment 

18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”

23:00 - her current work

25:00 - Private investigator things

28:00 - women producers and empathy

31:00 - British production companies doing it better

34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting

38:00 - how to help people open up?

41:00 - disclosure tips

45:00 - being judged on appearance 

51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview

56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?

58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :) 

Your guest can be found at lenoraclairellc.com

Your host is ElleStanger.com

See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

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Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries.

3:00 sex work before 18, before public

7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT

10:00 not enough options for advertising or undies

14:00 how to transition without them knowing?

17:00 any port in a storm

23:00 my favorite part is strange bookings

26:00 nightmare coworkers can make it hard

28:00 enjoyable client sex

32:00 age gaps with clients

36:00 clients objectifying us, their own insecurities

41:00 where to find the book!

45:00 how to find trans masc providers

50:00 targeting for homosexuality

54:00 criticisms of jack’s work

57:00 resources for more reading

Find your guest on JackViolet.com and @mxjackparker on all socials.

Your host is ElleStanger.com

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