Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.

2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 

4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?

9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic

12:00 - double standard of working 

15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 

20:00 - what makes a good shift?

23:00 - negative impact of stigma

28:00 - use cheap makeup

33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas

36:00 - nice partners do exist

41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old

47:00 - social media suppression

51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd

55:00 - owner favoritism

59:00 - sex tip!

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