They Talk Sex

Ready for some inner child work? Our guest was tired of talking about their traumatic incidents and was ready to feel better in their body and relationships again - let’s talk dealing with attachment trauma and healing methods with Mx Harris Hill.

3:00 heal your PTSD faster?

7:00 inner child work 

11:00 if you can feel you

14:00 hypersexuality and substances, PTSD

16:00 golden rules for working with people 

19:00 inherently traumatized + trans?

22:00 jealousy triggered 

25:00 stop relying on them for so much

Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

33:00 core wound therapy

36:00 dating three and power dynamics

39:00 more advice power dynamics

Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com

45:00 on dating an avoidant 

48:00 on being anxiously attached

51:00 co-dependency and materials

54:00 future plans and corporate influencing?

FIND YOUR GUEST: at MxHarrisHill.com

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

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Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.

3:00 17 and 30 years old 

8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD

10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia

13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine

15:00 pleasure after abuse

17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 

19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG

22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com

24:00 maintaining sanity while online 

27:00 more on that ^

30:00 dating after escaping that

35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 

38:00 tradwife fantasy

42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com

45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus

49:00 a poem reading

53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person

57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boys

FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

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Tara Jones is the founder and Executive Director of a small, grassroots non-profit called The Youth Sexpert Program. If you have kids or tweens or teens, there may be some tips in here for you! Let’s talk about youth and education

2:00 building her own curriculum based on needs

5:00 first tampon experience 

8:00 talking to your kids, concerns

11:00 continued –

15:00 workshops that they offer

18:00 NetherlandsWax.com

22:00 it happens earlier than you might expect

26:00 how to ask about your kid’s activity

30:00 masturbation is the healthiest 

34:00 what if your kid’s friend’s parents are transphobes?

38:00 InstituteforSexuality.com

40:00 Heartstopper is highly recommended

45:00 people mobilizing, recommendations

49:00 Arkansas and high teen birth rates

53:00 amplifying stories and connecting youth people

FIND YOUR GUEST: theyouthsexpertprogram.org/

@theyouths3xpertprogram

and theyouthsexpertprogram.org/
FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

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Kali is a longtime stripper and photographer based in California and can currently be found on IG’s @TalesfromtheStrip17.

Let’s talk strip club culture and horror stories, dressing room dogs and Juggalos. Join two “lifers” for safety tips, rants and advice for newbies and curious club-goers.

4:00 ageism and aging in the club

7:00 states and cities where she worked

11:00 PDX has different requirements for clubs

14:00 personal life things

16:00 movie recommendation The Last Showgirl

20:00 @talesfromthestrip17

25:00 security cameras - yes or no?

30:00 involving yourself with other drama

34:00 don’t flash your money

38:00 Sponsored by InstituteForSexuality.com

44:00 friends with your exes

46:00 HB 2743

55:00 asexuality and strippers

58:00 safety things

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

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and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX

Please rate and review this podcast :)

How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennesey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.

Find your guest at EversenseToys.com

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 

5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 

8:00 trans-forward toys 

11:00 toy preview

14:00 can be used by any body!

17:00 gender affirming surgery

20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 

24:00 try a butt plug for your vag

Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 

28:00 how to clean your toys?

32:00 diff uses for your toys!

37:00 how to know if a cockring fits

41:00 trial and error

Sponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 

47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo

51:00 hearing from online folks 

54:00 trans and isolated?

59:00 sober sex series in PDX

1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat app

Please rate and review this podcast :)

How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennessey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.

Find your host at ElleStanger.com

Find your guest at Eversensetoys.com

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 

5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 

8:00 trans-forward toys 

11:00 toy preview

14:00 can be used by any body!

17:00 gender affirming surgery

20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 

24:00 try a butt plug for your vag

Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 

28:00 how to clean your toys?

32:00 diff uses for your toys!

37:00 how to know if a cockring fits

41:00 trial and error

Sponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 

47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo

51:00 hearing from online folks 

54:00 trans and isolated?

59:00 sober sex series in PDX

1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat app

Please rate and review this podcast :)

Our sex education and self-help podcast is back and talking blood! Rebel-doctor Evelin Dacker returns to give advice and info about the periods of time that we stop getting our periods. Let’s talk about pre-menopause.

4:00 2-15 year range of perimenopause!

8:00 examples of symptoms

10:00 “old lady vulva” 

13:00 a link to your mother’s history

16:00 menopause means you’ve been period-free for a year

18:00 sponsored by Intimacy Experiment Retreat - 

20:00 elle’s free consultation with the Doc

21:00 an overview of yeast infections in the vagina

23:00 silicone lube is better for your vaginal health?

25:00 Momotaro Apotheca recommended!

28:00 birth control discussion

34:00 sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com

36:00 what to ask your doctor to test for?

41:00 pumps and other holistic options

44:00 pelvic floor things

47:00 testosterone checks in people 

50:00 be a good listener

53:00 how Dr. Dacker and Elle met :)

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

FIND YOUR GUEST: WildWoman-Wellness.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

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Elle and Valentine are friends and partners in life and the adult industry! We take your questions about dating, self care, sex and work. Thank you for a great four years talking sex and season 5 will return in the spring.

1:00 Guest IG @ xValentine_vonbettieX

5:00 find her Casa Diablo now!

7:00 dating another SW has baseline perks

10:00 dating issues for SWs

14:00 the work can be “bad” for some people’s health

16:00 “Concussion” movie 

19:00 Condomania.com - - code THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order

22:00 tips on building your SW website

24:00 tips for long term pros

36:00 tips for slow seasons 

40:00 GetTheLayer.com - code ELLE for 10% off

42:00 how to balance work and life with sleep?

50:00 youthism and SW 

55:00 how to ask for STI testing/results

59:00 our sexualities are different 

1:03:00 travel is a perk

1:06:00 oral sex tips for vulvas

FIND OUR GUEST: DarlingValentine.me

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!

and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX

Please rate and review this podcast :)

How does intimacy relate to sex and self worth? Our guest has years of family and marriage therapy under her belt, and she runs the sex education program your host attended. Let’s talk intimacy, sex tips and and ideas between Elle and her mentor, Dr. Roz Dischiavo.

2:00 marriage and family therapist, sexual health program director

5:00 cell phones are messing 

7:00 broken heart syndrome? Takotsubo cardiomyopathy

11:00 is eye contact creepy?

15:00 cell phones and lower sex interactions

18:00 connection prepares you for intimacy

22:00 consultations with Gen Z

25:00 Man Vs Bear 

30:00 online dating

35:00 examples of ways to show intimacy

38:00 when they won’t make eye contact during sex

43:00 touch body before genitals 

47:00 how to practice intimacy without sex

50:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE for 10% OFF

53:00 preserve the relationship for later

56:00 intimacy workshops in Phoenix, AZ

Resource mentioned: IG @ablackfemaletherapist

FIND YOUR GUEST: instituteforsexuality.com

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

Sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

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What can hands do? Let’s talk with pleasure expert and coach Jennifer Rahner about kink and communication. Learn some basic tips and some safety practices, plus creative ideas for self pleasure and partner play.

1:00 Dr. Ruth started it

4:00 a mid-life career switch 

7:00 teaches non-monogamy, BDSM, masturbation and more

10:00 CNS vs ENM discussion

13:00 will the United States block Tryst?

16:00 PH ban from states

19:00 basic spanking tips 

22:00 more spanking tips

26:00 slapping safety tips

29:00 choking safety tips

33:00 why don’t hit or squeeze the front of the throat

36:00 OkCupid for kink dating? (not sponsored, I wish!)

40:00 if someone goes non-verbal

45:00 GETTHELAYER.com - sex blanket! Discount code ELLE

49:00 leftists tend to like kink more?

54:00 monthly CNM discussion group - peer support

57:00 #mommyknowsbest

FIND OUR GUEST JenniferRahner.com

FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com

See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows

This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com

Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!

and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX

Please rate and review this podcast :)