The Business of Being Yourself with Tiffany Han (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)

This week, I'm talking about what to do when you find yourself either wanting something to change, recognizing that something's not working, or recognizing that you don't know where to go next.

Picking up a thread from my conversation last week with Rob Bell (and his new book Everything is Spiritual), I want to examine the question/prayer/mantra "Now what?" and show how we can work with it to get the clarity we're after.

If you're not sure what’s next or still figuring out the next steps in the life that you want, this episode is for you!

I share what it means to keep going, how to find clarity, why anger is okay, and what embracing curiosity and grace can bring to your life.

What I said:

"The reason that I have 336 episodes is I kept going."

"Prayer is a powerful tool."

"What we need to be aware of is what’s on the other side of anger."

"The knowing will lead you to curiosity, and curiosity will lead you to clarity."

Those Timestamps

00:35 - What it means to actually "keep going"
04:41 - Why I'm reopening applications for the Inner Circle (but only for 3 days!)
07:52 - The question/prayer of "Now, what?"
14:55 - Recognizing the anger, rage, fire... 
19:48 - Living from a place of curiosity and grace
24:46 - How to work with the mantra of "Now, what?"

Show Notes:

Applications are open for the Inner Circle until 11:59 PST on Thursday, October 1!

Everything is Spiritual by Rob Bell

RYHSY Ep. 335: Rob Bell on Everything is Spiritual and Apocalyptic Hope

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In his new book, Everything is Spiritual: Who We Are and What We're Doing Here, New York Times bestselling author Rob Bell explores the endless dynamic questions and connections that have shaped his life, providing powerful insight into understanding one's purpose and place in the world. And I am thrilled to be in conversation with him this week.

Listen in to hear me and Rob talk about his 11th book (!!), the nature of life, why "looking for" spirit is playing the wrong game, why hope needs to be apocalyptic, the problem with all those ladders we've gotten really good at climbing, and what's important to know about boredom and death.

Rob Bell has been one of my greatest teachers and I'm so excited to introduce him to you!

PS. Applications for the RYHSY Inner Circle close on Friday 9/25! Get all the details here!

What He Said:

"The elimination of obstacles, barriers, and discomfort is a recipe for boredom." 

"Spirit is often lurking in whatever you most dislike."

"I want people to experience the wonder and awe of their own existence."

"Having your palms up to let go is the only way you can receive anything."

Those Timestamps:

00:35 - Unfolding why 'Everything is Spiritual'
14:01 - Spiritual awakening in a modern world
18:30 - On apocalyptic hope
21:52 - Moving slowly and presently
27:36 - Embracing rest and rhythm and welcoming sabbath
31:19 - A different perspective of life & death 
38:56 - The wonder of your own existence
43:33 - Palms up and let go

Show Notes: 

Applications are open for the Inner Circle!

Connect with Rob:

Site | Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

Rob's new book: Everything is Spiritual

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This week, I'm in conversation with creative coach, explorer, educator, designer, and Inner Circler Anne Ditmeyer.

Listen in to hear us talk about being uncool, giving yourself permission to be ridiculous, why getting lost is a good thing, what happens when you keep saying yes to opportunity, why you're allowed to seek out joy even during a pandemic, and the power of using creativity to solve problems. We also talk about her experience in the Inner Circle (applications are now open!), so if you're curious about what's available there, have a listen!

What She Said:

"I want to be as uncool as possible."

“Nobody acknowledges how much time content takes to create”.

"What are those stories that aren't told?"

"Make it human."

“The value comes from people who are not like us.”

“Get lost on purpose; there are multiple ways to reach a destination.”

"Drawing on a banana is the new standard."

"Be ridiculous."

Those Timestamps:

09:00 - The creative process is messy
16:40 - Managing your goals
19:50 - Finding your own way to do things
24:00 - Connecting with people
27:30 - Using COVID lockdown to make new rules
31:30 - How creativity is problem solving

Show Notes: 

Applications are open for the Inner Circle!

Connect with Anne:

Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

Anne's Prêt à Voyager blog

Anne's Navigate Paris class

Anne's Happy Exploring in 2020 New Year's Card

Christine Herrin's Everyday Explorers

Book: Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry Kaufman

Book: The Journey is the Destination: The Journals of Dan Eldon

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I've got a bonus episode for you today because applications are officially open for the upcoming starting-on-October-1 round of my year-long Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle experience!   Ready to go? Get all the details and application here: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   In this episode, I walk you through my vision for this experience, why it's structured the way it is, what it will bring to your life, and what's really going on if your first question is, "how much time will it take?"   Applications are open through 9/25, but if you know you're in, don't dilly dally as I will close applications early if the program fills.   GET THE DETAILS: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com   Have a q about the course? Email me at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram (https://instagram.com/thetiffanyhan)

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I am so excited to be talking with one of my current Inner Circlers Gillian Freeman, of Pen & Thimble, this week! Gillian creates handmade, eco-friendly products for her business and is a busy mom of 2.

In this episode, we talk about her experience in the Inner Circle, what brought her to the work, what she learned about pausing and taking breaks, and why she didn't really believe that what's happened for her was possible (but it was!).

We also talk about how things changed for her along the way, why she's taken up a new hobby, and where she's looking next.

Applications open Monday 9/14 for the next round of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle (we start October 1!) and if you're wondering if it's a good fit for you, Gillian's story will be helpful so you can see what's available!

What She Said:

"Success that's built on a foundation of burnout is not success."

"It's not just about the business but who you are as a person - what you believe and what you want."

"You don't have to put all of your ambition on hold in order to feel good in your life."

"Whatever you need to do, start now... It's a journey."

Those Timestamps:

07:18 - Not being a robot
20:46 - It's okay to hit pause
26:52 - Doing the work with bigger/deeper alignment
31:38 - How Gillian got into crocheting  
35:42 - Relaxation and reconnecting with oneself
44:09 - What's next for Gillian?
50:38 - Reopening with grace and faith
59:55 - How to do the work without the burnout

Show Notes: 

RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge

The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle

Connect with Gillian:

Site | Instagram | Pinterest | Etsy | Amazon

The Nap Ministry

RYHSY Episode on Burnout

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Yes. Raising your hand and saying yes to what you want for your life is going to require time and energy. And you might have precious little of it (hey! There's a free challenge for that!). But this week, I'm talking through all the things that not following through on what we want for our lives is costing us.   And what I know is that it's time for us to shift our standards of what's acceptable. To stop letting doubt make our decisions. To take a stand for what we want even when circumstances are less than ideal.   Overcoming inertia will always be a challenge. It will only get harder the longer you wait. And those things keeping you up at night? They aren't going anywhere. So what would happen if you started investing in yourself. (Yes. Even right now.)   In this episode, you'll hear me talk about helping you set a foundation of being yourself in your life. Showing up to everything as the single version of you. Living on the outside as who you know you're ready to be on the inside. It's bold and brave and beautiful. Let's go.   What I Said:   "Your pre-COVID life was too much. No wonder you don't know where to put yourself right now."   "Continuous improvement is not your life's purpose."   "Staying where you know you don't want to be is never going to help get you what you want."   "I'm asking you to step into simultaneously easing up on yourself and holding the entire world to a higher standard of what's okay and acceptable."   "Long-term stress is killing us."   "Extreme dissatisfaction can be an impetus for change."   "The resistance keeping you still is only going to get louder the longer you wait."   Those Timestamps:   04:57 - The unseen cost of not saying yes to yourself   13:36 - Knowing when to start looking for something else 20:04 - Extreme dissatisfaction and overcoming resistance  29:17 - The power of rest and slowing down 35:36 - Taking a step closer every day 38:35 - Are you playing the game you want to win?  43:31 - How to start making your shift   Show Notes:   RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge   Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

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This week, I'm kicking off Season 8 with Glennon Doyle!

Glennon is a New York Times Bestselling author, an activist and thought leader, and is the founder and president of Together Rising, an all-women led nonprofit organization that has revolutionized grassroots philanthropy – raising over $25 Million for women, families, and children in crisis.

In this conversation, we talk about Glennon's new book Untamed (it's ESSENTIAL READING y'all!), and cover the following: doubt, faith, what's required before you can really take care of yourself, how to consider what the most true and beautiful version of your life is, why permission to change your own mind is critical, and how you can find your own "there she is" moment.

What Glennon Said:

"May our dreams become our plans."

"Faith is a belief in the unseen order of things."

"It's impossible to take care of yourself and your family if you don't first untame."

"There is no construction of the new without destruction of the old."

"The goal of family is to create a community where everybody gets to bring their full self to the table."

"Truth is kindness even if it makes people uncomfortable."

Listen to Learn:

08:09 - Living the truest most beautiful life (and how this is available to everyone)

14:38 - Believing in the unseen order of things and how to hold onto that faith when things feel rocky

18:29 - How Glennon deals with doubt (yes! She has it too!)

22:46 - Permission to change your mind and why it's a hard thing to think about

27:50 - Living an 'untamed' life (The cheetah story) and how we're thinking of our goals all wrong

36:47 - Overcoming the fear of rocking the boat

46:39 - How Truth-Telling the truth is kindness

54:14 - Finding that 'there she is' moment (and how it might be different from what you think!)

Show Notes: 

Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle

Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Connect with Glennon:

Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

Glennon's books:

Untamed | Love Warrior | Carry on, Warrior

Together Rising

We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen

Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Finding your Bigger Yes

Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Telling the Truth. Out loud.

Nat Lue on RYHSY: Boundaries, Emotions, and the Dark Side (!) of People Pleasing

Nat Lue on RYHSY: Relationships, Bandwidth, Anxiety, and Respect

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Do you need rest or to work harder? Should you focus on your end goal or stay present to what you need right now? Is what you're doing too much or not enough?

This week, I'm diving into how learning to live within contradictions instead of either/or thinking can help us both more forward towards our goals and feel better within our days.

What I said:

"Step into the breadth of everything that is in the IN-BETWEEN instead of thinking about things as EITHER-OR."

"The point of having goals is to help you decide your very first step of action, not put you on a forever-path."

"Building relationships with people does not mean that you have to sacrifice who you are."

"Maybe it's the all-or-nothing thinking and not your failing as a human that's keeping you stuck."

Those Timestamps:

00:28 - Living in the contradictions
08:06 - Hurry up or slow down?
13:31 - Have goals or detach from outcomes?
21:15 - Live your values or build relationships?
24:16 - Know where you want to go or live in the now?
30:21 - Take care of yourself or stay flexible
37:10 - Too fast...Too much or Too slow...Not enough aka How to proceed if you feel like there's SO MUCH you can't control.

Show Notes: 

Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle

Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

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This week, I'm releasing the audio of my recent How to Have the Life You Want training (click here to get the video replay and catch the slides!).   You're just 10 quick and easy steps away from the life you want!! That's how this works, right? Instead of promising formulas and rules, in this training, I cover 10 different guidelines, perspectives, and tips to help you figure out your own next steps towards the life you want, not the one the rest of the world thinks you should have.   Freedom. Connection. Ease. Faith. Grace. I want all of those for you every single day. Let's get going.   Things I Said:   "The small things count just as much as the big things."   "You've got to be willing and able to let yourself be human. You're not a ROBOT."   "It is not your life's purpose to deny your humanity in honor of your ambition."   "We don't have to overperform our way through our days to have the lives that we want."   "Grace is that ability to get it wrong, learn, and keep going."   Those Timestamps:   05:14 - Overview of How to Have The Life You Want 08:45 - A little bit about me... (life & mission)  12:42 - The BIG/SMALL things I've done to live the life I want 23:50 - Why it's critical to live under an umbrella of grace 25:55 - #1: Forgive yourself for being human 28:56 - #2: The What and Why of H.A.L.T. 30:40 - #3: Be a farmer...and how to trust the seeds you plant 34:41 - #4: You are not lazy 36:55 - #5: Commit to the relentless pursuit of figuring out what you want 41:30 - #6: Practice questioning everything 44:12 - #7: Let it be YOUR life 47:48 - #8: Accept the annoying and inconvenient parts 50:23 - #9: Expect backsliding  54:00 - #10: Faith. And patience. Again and again and again. 56:14 - Significance of grace and self-agency   01:00:48 - What's next???   Show Notes:   Inner Circle Early-Application Notice List   Submit a Q to be answered on a future podcast   Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz   Get the How to Have the Life You Want Replay video

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This week, I'm answering a listener question (hi Susan!) about how to embody and live into one's values, but I'm also taking this question deeper to talk about how to get started in bridging the divide between where you are now and where you want to be, even if (and especially when!) that divide feels overwhelming and insurmountable!   I also share how you might be treating those seeds you're planting so unfairly and what to do instead as well as give some personal-for-your-agency-archetype advice for each type. (I feel like I took myself to church on this one; thank you for your question, Susan! It inspired so much!)   What I said:   "When it comes to embodying values, our job is to stay really fluid, nimble, and open."   "If we keep taking steps, those steps might take us somewhere surprising."   "If you are not embodying your own values, you're embodying somebody else's."   "Commit to using your values as your compass even if everyone else seems to be loving some totally-jacked-but-socially-acceptable-enough compass to guide their lives."   "The answer to getting to where you want to be is not to stay where you don't want to be."   Those Timestamps:   06:11 - How to get started with a values list 08:16 - Commit to imperfect and uncomfortable action 12:47 - How small steps can be a game-changer for you 18:17 - Values as a compass 24:20 - Crossing the divide between where you are and where you want to be AND how to approach this considering your Agency Archetype 30:08 - Destruction as an unbuilding   Show Notes:

Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle

Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

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