The Business of Being Yourself with Tiffany Han (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)

This week, I'm talking about some signs you can look for to show you that you're on the right track and why they might be different than the ones you're currently watching for! 

Being on the right track might be creating something new, but it might also be just listening to your longings. And so it’s critical to know whether - “Should I keep going?” or “Should I quit?” – especially if the road feels so rocky.

So today, I’m giving you 6 Signs You're On the Right Track – and right track means the things that you want to say YES to... or it might also be the things that you are ready to say NO to.

Things I said: 

"Having doubts means you are changing your perception and the way you show up."

"Pay attention who you are telling your ideas to."

"If it is meant for you ,it will keep showing up."

"Rocky roads aren't roadblocks. They don't mean that you have to stop. They're just a sign that you are moving forward."

Those Timestamps

00:35 – What 'being on the right track' truly means

05:03 - #1: You have doubts

09:50 - #2: It makes you nervous

14:09 - #3: Your inner critic shows up

16:47 - #4: People around you don't get it

22:30 - #5: You're nervous to talk about it

27:33 - #6: You feel an overwhelming pull to move forward

Show Notes: 

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When was the last time you woke up feeling like you were excited to dive into your day? If you're not sure, you might be suffering from burnout. 

In this week's episode, I'm sharing the 12 phases of burnout (as developed by psychologists!) and talking about why I think—as hand raisers and yes sayers—we're especially prone to burning ourselves out. 

I'm also sharing one of my favorite super-easy-to-start-using tools for beginning to move yourself beyond burnout.

What I Said:

"The answer to moving beyond burnout is never that you need to work harder."

"If we say ‘yes’ without saying ‘no,’ then we are just saying ‘yes’ to everything, and that’s not going to work"

"We often hang out in the early stages of burnout and don’t think there is anything wrong with that."

"Moving forward does not mean we have to sacrifice ourselves.”

Those Timestamps

04:30 - The 12 phases of burnout

06:35 - Excess of ambition

08:30 - displacement of conflict

09:46 - Denial of problems

10:57 - Getting out of the early stages of burnout

12:25 - Moving forward and chill out at the same time

16:01 - Start practicing a pause

19:11 - Those (entertainment) systems are working against us.

Show Notes:

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Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

The 12 Phases of Burnout

Hurry Slowly podcast episode on burnout

Tell me this: would you avoid anything in the world to feel needy? Do you want to go deeper into your desires but feel selfish in doing so? Are you so accustomed to taking care of everyone else around you that you never have any time left for yourself?

Sweets, pull up a chair because this vintage episode with life coach and host of the Needy podcast, Mara Glatzel is going to be balm for your soul. I wanted to have Mara back on early in the Money, Sex, Freedom series so we could talk about how wanting more for yourself in those areas is totally okay and also SUPER ENCOURAGED.

And, newsflash: having needs doesn't mean you're faulty or a failure. It means you're human! (WHOA.)

Dive in. It's so good. (Mara, thank you. You are a gift.)

What She Said: 

"It is both essential and normal to have needs."

"Having your needs met makes you so much better at everything you do."

"If we can't make space for taking care of ourselves then we can't bring a full version of ourselves to anything that we do."

"When you lack trust in something, you create a lot of rules around it."

Those Timestamps: 

02:35 - Core Values Masterclass - Special Sale!!!

06:35 - The Needy podcast... and what it means being 'needy'

15:11 - Honoring and taking care of our needs

22:46 - How to reconcile your needs and your service to people

30:56 - Most loving way to cultivate trust for yourself

37:26 - The beauty of prioritizing your needs - "You're the vessel for the service"

49:32 - Knowing yourself... Knowing your needs

01:01:22 - Note to remember: Nobody is an exception. Everyone has needs.

Show Notes:

Black Friday sale on the Core Values Masterclass!

Connect with Mara: 
Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

Mara's Needy Podcast

Mara's previous RYHSY appearance

RYHSY on the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Fear

I loved talking with Natalie Lue for this week's vintage episode and we covered so much ground, including: habits (and relationships!) that aren't serving you, how to step beyond those well-worn patterns, drama and our addiction to it, and how people-pleasing is actually a manipulation (SAY WHAT?!).

We also covered identities that don't serve us, letting other people dim our light, and why having emotional baggage doesn't mean anything other than that we're human.

Natalie blew my mind in this episode and I think you'll love it!

What She Said: 

"Patterns happen when we're living unconsciously, and that means we’re not living who we are."

"We're so used to giving ourselves a hard time that we often chase things that deep down we don't want."

"Sometimes we want something so badly it feels like a need but it isn't."

"People pleasing masks a hidden agenda... Being honest about what our reasons are could be a real game-changer."

"Adulthood is about unlearning all of the harmful and unproductive stuff that we pick up along the way."

"We have to take the journey and go through whatever we need to experience to learn what we need to learn."

Those Timestamps: 

04:04 - Recognizing and letting go of old identities, habits, emotional baggage

13:44 - Taming your inner critic and silencing the negativity

19:19 - How to stop people-pleasing and start being/doing you

24:50 - Living with intention, Getting out of that autopilot life

31:06 - The manipulative power of people-pleasing

42:43 - Ways to halt the habit of being hard on yourself

57:45 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? (Updated You vs. Outdated You)

1:00:05 - Why the journey and the experience matters

Show Notes: 

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Baggage Reclaim Podcast

The big question we're tackling this week in this vintage episode is this: how do you proceed towards the life you want to live when your pesky brain keeps getting in the way with the fear and the doubt and those sneaky impulses?

(Related: how do you get yourself to do the things that matter most to you when, in the moment, you just don't want to!?)

(Also related: if you experience this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.) Dig into this week's episode to hear about why I want you to ignore your brain and what to focus on instead!!

What I Said: 

"We build resilience, confidence, and progress through action."

"The answer is not to have it all figured out. It's knowing enough and having the faith to willingly take the next step."

"The impulse is not the authority of your life. You are!"

Those Timestamps: 

04:05 - How to learn not to listen to your "brain"

15:27 - Shrinking the recovery time between the impulse to the fact

24:23 - A commitment to sobriety and recovery

29:31 - How to show up differently...and with integrity

32:35 - Listening to the voices that are of authority in our life

"I'm not good enough. I'm not ready. I don't belong here." These are just a few of the things the Imposter Complex would have us believe (yes! there's a name for that!) and this week I'm thrilled to have life coach and Imposter Complex expert Tanya Geisler back on the podcast to talk all about the Imposter Complex.

In this vintage episode, you'll hear what it is, how it shows up, what it means if you experience these things (it's good, I promise!) and how you can move beyond it to get all those things you want for your life (looking at you money, sex, and freedom!).

What She Said:

"Every great thing that we've ever done has been by feeling that fear and doing it anyway." 

"The ego wants to want more than it wants to get."

"We have to have areas in our life where there has to be relief—where you can just rest and not have to be the best at things."

Those Timestamps

03:27 - What is imposter complex? Who experiences it?
14:34 - Ways and behavioral traits that imposter complex shows up
24:00 - How to positively handle criticisms  
29:09 - Other behavioral traits that manifest
37:16 - The value of celebrating/resting in success 
42:58 - How to not let the imposter complex hold you back
48:23 - Strategies to overcome procrastination  
52:32 - How to know if it's imposter complex or intuition

Show Notes:

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Tanya's earlier RYHSY interview

Tanya's Imposter Complex quiz

Tanya's TEDx talk

The 12 Lies of the Imposter Complex

Money, money, money! It's uncomfortable and necessary to talk about.

This week, I'm bringing back a conversation with my former business coach Lena West to dive straight into the most-uncomfortable parts of the money conversation, including: why we show up the way we do around money, what's beyond the "charge what you're worth" mantra, how to deal with money discomfort (and why it probably won't go away!), why striving to just be nice is b******t, what happens when the people in your life aren't supportive of your endeavors, how to know what to charge, and SO MUCH MORE! 

Lena is all heart and no b******t and will shake up your beliefs around money in the best way! Enjoy, enjoy! 

What She Said:

"The amount of money is not the point. It's about what is non-negotiable for you and standing in that." 

"Getting to 5, 6, 7-figures in your business isn't a walk in the park."

"The money has to have a meaning; otherwise it's just some arbitrary nonsense."

"Don't share dreams with people who don't have any... share your dreams with dreamers and doers."  

Those Timestamps:

03:49 - Women & Money: Valuing ourselves and money discomfort
13:28 - Why you need to charge and not give it for FREE 
20:34 - How to price your worth
26:12 - Practical tips to deal with money discomfort
31:25 - About that 7-figure 'promise land'

Show Notes:

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Becoming by Michelle Obama

Y'all! I'm taking a break! Whuuuuuut? Yes! After over 6 years of producing (at least) weekly episodes for this show, I'm talking a wee break, and in this week's episode, I'm sharing why I'm pausing now, what that's going to look like for the podcast, and how you can take a break as well.

Listen this week to find out the practical things I'll be doing during my break (because I have to make it as useful as possible, don't I? lol.) as well as the ways I'm holding space for myself. Aaaaaand you'll get to hear a little bit about what might be coming down the track for RYHSY. A new podcast name?! Maybe, just maybe. WHO EVEN KNOWS ANYTHING ANYMORE???

Oh! If you're already wondering when new episodes will be coming, don't fret! I've got a bunch of my faves queued up for your ears while I'm away!!

What I said:

"Just because you can keep going doesn't mean you should."

"Your break doesn't have to be all or nothing." 

"Let 'I don’t know' be normal. Accept it for where you are right now instead of working harder and pushing more."

Those Timestamps:

01:55 - Importance of breaks... and why I'm taking one 
11:07 - Step #1: Know what you want
20:54 - Step #2: Give yourself permission to do so
23:03 - Step #3: Identify what stays
24:37 - Step #4: Create some structure/tracking 
25:29 - Step #5: Stay so curious and be willing to be surprised 
29:50 - Step #6: Let yourself be guided

Show Notes:

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Hey everyone! I’m so excited to have Ann Shen on the show again! She is an illustrator, hand letterer, and bestselling author of three books and today, we're talking about Ann's new book ‘Nevertheless, She Wore It’ which is all about how fashion is a tool for resistance and empowerment.

In this episode, we talk about finding your own power and voice, looking for ways to relax, recover, express your best self in this firehose of a time that we’re in right now. And baking! We talk all about baking! Enjoy, enjoy!

What She Said:

"I can conquer anything when I put on the costume of my best self." 

"We are in control of how we portray ourselves."

"Your worth does not come from external validations or numbers that can be quantified."

Those Timestamps:

00:44 - Where we are now... Firehose of a time 
06:55 - Overview of 'Nevertheless, She Wore It' - fashion, resistance, self-love
18:50 - 'The Red Lipstick' - historical issues on lipstick/makeup
21:26 - Using fashion to feel good about yourself 
34:32 - Ann's love for baking... and raising chickens
48:42 - Expressing your best self, Paying attention to self-worth
58:59 - Finding ways to relax, recover, and show up amidst the pandemic

Show Notes:

Connect with Ann:

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Ann's Books:

Bad Girls Throughout History

Legendary Ladies

Nevertheless, She Wore It

Ann's Previous RYHSY Episodes:

Ep. 114: Ann Shen on Reinvention

Ep. 115: Ann Shen on Security

Ep. 188: Ann Shen on Finding (and Managing) (and Seeking) Success

Ep. 234: Ann Shen on Rest, Routines, and Resetting

For The Love of Men by Liz Plank

Molly J. Wilkerson (virtual pastry classes!)

The Michelle Obama Podcast

Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's Getting Ready Routine via Vogue

Have you found yourself down the rabbit hole of social media lately? This week, I'm tackling doomscrolling and looking at how you can take strides towards less social media consumption and why it's important to do so.

I’ll be giving things to keep in mind about what social media is giving us these days, practical things that you can do to stop ‘doomscrolling’, why it doesn’t mean that you are bad person spending time in these apps, and the power of setting hard limits and letting go of the ‘all or nothing’ mindset as you regain power over your time.  

What I said:

"Things start to change when we are willing to tell ourselves the truth."

"Setting the boundary is the easy part. Maintaining the boundary is the hard part." 

"Be willing to set hard limits for yourself to break the habits."

Those Timestamps:

00:48 - Doomscrolling... and social media consumption dilemma
09:05 - Acknowledge what it gives you and pay attention to what it costs you
16:51 - Set a boundary for yourself
19:58 - Commit your time to the things aligned with your values 
22:31 - Change your muscle memories (moving/deleting apps)
31:43 - Turn off email or push notifications
33:53 - Buy an alarm clock, set hard limits for yourself
37:32 - Give yourself grace... think beyond 'all or nothing'
40:12 - Remember that being on social media all the time means you're behaving as expected

Show Notes:

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Hidden Brain podcast: Passion Isn't Enough: The Rise Of 'Political Hobbyism' in the United States

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