The Challenger Podcast

On today's episode, I will share what I've learned through my own embodiment practices and how they relate to The Enneagram, attachment styles, and self-leadership.  As a challenger on the Enneagram, I tend to lean towards more intense activities that teach me how to embody strength, confidence, humility, and direction in my life.

If you say someone embodies patience, you may see them pausing before they respond to you in ALL situations, no matter their emotional state. If you say that someone is present in the moment, you may see them joking or laughing with the group or supporting one person off to the side, speaking softly as they comfort them through a difficult time. If you say that someone is the embodiment of a quality, you may mean that that is their most noticeable characteristic or the basis of all they do. 

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On today's episode, I will walk you through how I learned that I needed to show more empathy for others and the journey I've been on since.  What is empathy?  There are three types of empathy: cognitive, emotional, and when you combine the two... compassionate.  

It took a series of tough life experiences to show me that I could communicate with empathy in a more compassionate way.  In today's episode, I dig deeper into empathy with a Maya Angelou quote to exemplify this, "Do the best you can until you know better.  Once you know better, do better."

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how have you communicated your boundaries in the past?  how would you like to communicate your boundaries today?  what will it look like to set healthy boundaries in the future?   

these questions and more will be answered on today's solo podcast episode.  there are three kinds of boundaries we will discuss today: porous, healthy, and rigid.  and I can remember using all three at different times in my life.  

we will dig deep into how the challenger personality type shows up when setting boundaries, how each attachment style feels about boundaries, and what self-leadership can do to enhance your communication when setting important boundaries. like a 2 am text, for example.  how would you handle a text message that late?  

today, I will leave you with a few different ways to approach setting that boundary depending on your attachment style. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to reach out to me on Instagram @thechallengerpodcast    

who pays on the first date? what are ways in which you can show up in a relationship to lead?  why is that so important?

these questions and more will be answered with my guest Jessica Smith; author, dating coach, and international yoga retreat leader.  Jessica joins me this week on the podcast to educate us on how the masculine core energy can show up with leadership in a relationship.

Jessica Smith @jessicasmith.love and I have been friends for years and we have a familiarity with how we each have shown up in relationships in the past.  she is a loyalist on the Enneagram and we discuss how her anxious attachment style showed up in a recent relationship for her.  that story was shared on her podcast Game of Love and that inspired our in depth conversation today to answer questions for our masculine core essence listeners.  we also hope that our feminine audience finds a lot of value in her advice today!

I’ve seen my lack of leadership show up in my past and have experienced a lot of growth in the past few years when facing those tendencies and learning more about how I can show up for myself and my partner.  in our interview today, Jessica and I focus on how men can take the lead when they meet someone on a dating app, before the first date, and share our thoughts on who texts first after the date!

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on this week's episode, GS and I discuss the depths of an intimate relationship, what shame looks like for men, and how authentic relating can expand our experiences in life.  we take the time to dig into what our mindset around fear looks like and that most fears arise and yet are left unexamined.  GS and I discuss edgy topics in this thoughtful and heartfelt conversation about the masculine in relationship today.

We don’t stop there! We dig into sexual leadership and the impact masculine leadership can have on a relationship. If you follow his blueprint for success, you will find your partner trusting your leadership more and more the deeper you go within yourself.

That Masculine in Relationship blueprint can be summed up with these three foundational principles

I have been anticipating the release of today’s episode with @gsyoungbloodmir for the past couple of weeks! His book can be found here- The Masculine in Relationship -has opened my heart to new depths of what leadership by the masculine energy means to me. Please connect with him on Instagram @gsyoungbloodmir to learn more about his work with men.

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Pedro Meyer is a Brazilian singer, musician, songwriter, and a teammate of mine at Easton Training Center who joins me on the podcast this week to discuss Muay Thai competitions, the challenger personality type, and masculinity in the modern world. 

Pedro and I agree that vulnerability is a massive challenge for men in the world today. We dig into all things martial arts and relating as the challenger as we date in the modern world. He was born in Brazil and came to the United States at the age of 23 to pursue a better life for himself and his family. Pedro shares his vulnerability as he describes a divorce and a break up that teaches us gratitude through a simulated death. 

Other topics we discussed today were toxic positivity, grieving a relationship, suppression of emotions, boundaries, and so much more! I hope you are inspired by Pedro's powerful message and if his story resonates with you today, please connect with him on Instagram @_thewarriorpoet or on his website www.musicbypedromeyer.com 

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On today's episode, I am joined by Robert Joseph @rjcoachingnyc has a mission to serve with strength, love, and humility.  he is constantly sharing his poetry, thoughts, and philosophy on the challenges men face in the world today. I’ve seen friends of mine isolate themselves when they are going through a transition or major change in their lives such as a break up or a job loss.   

why do mean shut others out by isolating themselves? why do men need the support of other men? these questions and more will be answered with my guest this week Robert Joseph, author, speaker, and mens coach.  Robert joins me to share his powerful story with us on how finding like minded men to speak to helps us grow.

that is the most common time men reach out for support and I can relate because a year ago, I lost a great job and income without having any idea where to turn. that's when I sought out my own community for support and I am grateful that I did.  what I took away from our conversation is too lengthy to list here, so tune in to the full conversation on your favorite podcast app and leave us a 5 star rating and a written review.  

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On this week's episode, Traver joins me to educate us on how the Nice Guy shows up for men in relationships. Traver Boehm @traverboehm is a former MMA fighter, a Challenger on the Enneagram like me, and the author of Man Uncivilized.  it is a ground breaking work of poetry, thoughts, and an honest portrayal of the challenges men face in the world today. I’ve seen the Nice Guy show up in my past and have experienced a lot of growth in the past few years when facing those tendencies and integrating that part back into my psyche.  

what does it mean to be a man? why do men numb out to deal with internal conflict? these questions and more will be answered by my guest Traver Boehm, author, speaker, and facilitator of the Uncivilized Nation. 

Traver and I focus on how we can solve what needs all of our attention in our modern world; that it’s ok to be a man. what I took away from our conversation is too lengthy to list here, so tune in to the full conversation on your favorite podcast app and leave us a 5 star rating and a written review.  

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From New York to Los Angeles, Ali (type 8) and Roark (type 3) have your dating questions covered!  The vibrant cohosts of the fun and informative dating podcast join me on this week's podcast to dig into dating after a year of dealing with Covid and shelter in place.  From long distance love bombs to what to say when an ex reaches out, you will not want to miss this episode or a single episode of Finding Mr. Height, available at findingmrheight.com/podcast and on Instagram or Tik Tok under the same handle.

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