Clinician and author Silva Neves explains common misconceptions about so-called “sex addiction” and gives help to folks navigating distressing concerns about their own sexualities.

4:00 Lack of sexuality training with sex workers 

7:30 sex addiction type treatment is shaming of people 

9:40 why “sex addiction” is not an accurate term

11:00 your body doesn’t withdraw from lack of sex, and can’t OD on sex

19:00 trauma and attachment 

20:00 non-monogamy 

25:00 sex positivity includes body positivity 

Fetishes, poly, kinky, sex workers, disability, queer, asexual all need to be included in sex therapy

27:00 what sex-positive really means

29:00 asexuality is real 

31:00 conversion “therapy”

36:00 How to share a trauma story with partners

40:00 porn doesn't make people violent

47:00 relational trauma is common 

51:00 what is digisesxuality?

53:00 what is chemsex?

59:00 how to surf your emotions

1:11:00 monogamy is a christian concept

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