Have you ever accidentally or knowingly pushed on someone’s boundaries? We all have, so how do we communicate our needs and heal our harm? Let’s talk about queerness, flirting, sex, and accountability in trauma and relationships with writer Clementine Morrigan.

1:00 meet your guest

5:00 examples of how consent can be confused

6:00 queer imposter syndrome

10:00 verbal consent doesn’t work for everyone 

13:00 i identify a traumatized, nice to meet you

16:00 knowing your own triggers is quite helpful

20:00 crossing men’s boundaries

23:00 drinking, drugs, and consent

27:00 taking a pause is necessary and sometimes sexy

31:00 how to communicate when you’re tied up?

36:00 subs gotta use their safe words when they need ‘em

40:00 intent matters and is relevant

45:00 kids and modeled consent

50:00 penetration isn’t inherent to sex play

53:00 sex without penetration is sex

58:00 reflections of how we messed up before

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