The Daily Disturbance

Blessed be the ties that free! Thank God I’ve had boundaries since birth!

Without them, I’d be dead, or severely compromised.

Physical boundaries.

Relationship boundaries.

Financial boundaries.

Y.E.S. you can!

Well, I hope you still aren’t your crib my friend?

Well, I hope you still aren’t your crib my friend?

Here are 4 areas you might have to rethink and “H.O.L.D.”

Ofcourse they are, that’s exactly why they are called just that, “bound-tries”: they bind you - and others too - so people know there are limits.

Does your home have a front door?

Does your shower have partitions to keep the water in?

Is your personal handbag under your control?

Do you have secret passwords for access to your accounts?

Do I still need to convince you boundaries need to exist and to be maintained at all cost!

f you start “people displeasing” with the motive of doing what’s best for all, then you are doing the most LOVING thing someone can do for someone else.

So, do all the LOVING you can do today as you stop “people pleasing”

Nope, its not people displeasing!

(Although when doing what is right, that is a possible consequence, too!)

Here are 4 things to do instead as the approach of people-pleasing is phased out…

Just end it.

Til its a habit.

And you’ve replaced it with doing what best for people, whether they like it or not.

Here are 5 ways to just E.N.D. I.T.

Yesterday we look at Validation, Avoidance of conflict, Low self esteem, Underlying fear and External pressure…
And I sense you could relate with some, perhaps even all. Today, let's do a deep dive and check ourselves against these 5 Whys (VALUE), for a better understanding of self and how we can move forward with new learning…

Because it works.

I pleased my mom I got a candy.

I pleased my teachers and I was given another chance to make the grade.

I pleased my wife and…she gave me 5 kids, haha!

There are actually good reasons and actual benefits in people pleasing. The key is to make sure it is intentional, not habitual. THen it is deadly! Here are 5 reasons we V.A.L.U.E. people pleasing.